Alien Husband Why someone else's Husband will NOT bring you happiness.
"Let's talk about it. Let us touch upon, raise, stir up this eternal topic. Him, his wife, whom he does not love, and me, with whom he is crazy. Bright, juicy, sweet and sour poisoned apple. We'll talk about it because we both want it. Because I have something to say, and you need to hear it. Because I followed the path of greatest resistance that you lathered your skis on. Put them on the stove and listen to what the old, wise kaa tells you.
I have repeatedly fallen into this triangle. The balance of power was different, and so was the development of the plot. They came to me to settle forever, to live happily ever after, but they didn’t come to me, and I ran away on my own. But it always ended badly. Oh well, it would just be over. This has always been bad, no matter how much I deceive myself. And I deceived myself in different ways. This is what you and I will talk about. About the myths and legends of an adult girl who has inserted her sharp heel into the belly of someone else’s family, but tries to maintain the most innocent expression on her face. Because the case is exceptional. Newest in history. Unique. There's love here, guys. I'm not some kind of predator. I am honorable. And it’s not my fault, he came himself! In short, let's go!
Myth number 1: having a relationship with a married man is immoral, but in our case it is love.
Nope. It's still immoral. Theft remains theft, even if it is stolen in the name of someone else's good. Maybe they’ll lose their sentence, but they’ll still put you in jail. And if I steal for my own benefit, they will also charge me. Don't fool yourself, you are acting immorally. Against human laws. And no amount of love is an excuse. Love is a different story. I won't even talk about it here. But if you feel pain all the time and sometimes feel good, this is not a sign of love.
Myth number 2: if I don’t see my wife, it means she doesn’t exist.
She exists. In every morning, day and - sorry - night too. She lives in his phone and doesn’t always write nasty things to him. Sometimes she writes that she misses you and asks for candy. And he smiles and writes something that would make your and I’s ears turn red. They have their own evening rituals, half-hints, jokes that only they understand. They have a whole life in which you are not and have not been. And damn, she has value to him. That is why he lies to you goodbye with his sad eyes and runs headlong there. Home. To my wife. Believe me, it exists. Very much exists. And she does this every day. I had the good fortune to be friends with the wife of my man - Santa - Barbara of my psyche did strange somersaults. I was unpleasantly surprised by how similar they were. These are very close people, with a huge common backpack behind them. True, she was more honest and kinder than him. And she loved me very much, even me, because at that time I was in his habitat.
Myth number 3. He doesn’t love her, he has nothing to talk about with her.
Stop right there. Let's go in order. It was to her that he proposed to spend life together or simply agreed to it. He knelt down or chose a special place, he made up words or listened to her inertly. But he took this step, you won’t believe it. He did with her what he has not yet, it seems, dared to do with you. Living together every fucking day. Seeing her in curlers, eating her signature scrambled eggs, choosing perfume for March 8th, going to stupid stores to buy a warm jacket for yourself and a new hat for her. And so all my life, guess what? Wife is not a dirty word. This is a measure of a man's determination. And, apparently, the measure of his real feelings. And it seems that there was a strategic reserve of this feeling and this determination. Where did they take it? That's their question, baby. Only them. Not ours.
Myth number 4. he loves me.
We stop again. Let's re-read the previous paragraph. And we try to repeat this mantra again. Thus, if it doesn’t roll, we feel the ears. We remove the stuck noodles from them and stop loving them. Ears are not for love, no. They are there to listen to music, birdsong, your child’s breathing. And we learn to judge a man’s love by his deeds. So what did he do out of love for you? Just give me some garlic. He, joyfully rejoicing, presented you to the world? He took you to his damn mother at their infinitely distant summer cottage (just don’t lie that this doesn’t matter to you? Did he care about the question of your values and included them in his plans of action? Is he honest in his intentions and open to real, behind-the-scenes relationships? To him has anything to offer you besides scanty words and password-protected appearances? He bought a damn ring, chose a damn romantic place and chose the damn right words? What matters to him is what you sweat about at night, when you suddenly wonder if he has sex with his wife? What if! I don’t want to upset you, but most likely there is - they are married. And the worst thing is that it won’t be cheating on you, no. You’re not his wife. He’s cheating on her with you. In short, he’s at least something... did he do it in confirmation of his endless SMS and tear-jerking revelations? Or did he hang on your ears and nobly pester you about his lost life and responsibility for those he tamed? In a word, take a closer look at your ears. And use them for their intended purpose. Or better yet, at least for time to fill them with wax, like the old wizard from Cinderella, so that evil people do not use them for their “Love”.
Myth number 5. I am completely satisfied with everything, I am a person of broad modern views.
“...The Russian man is broad, too broad, I would narrow it down! “You and I are not touching on the topic of professional transactions now, it’s not interesting. We are not talking about a business where a man gets his bullish thrill and a woman gets her due bonus. We are about love, ears, modernity and geometry. We're talking about the soul. Let's rewind and try to find that moment in your life in which you castrated yourself for the sake of something. In which you began to talk smartly about freedom, equality and brotherhood. In which you decided that a full-fledged diet is unnecessary, a sandwich on the run is enough. When you closed children's fairy tales with pictures about a knight and a princess in a tower, about victories over dragons and Koshchei, about “The Only Woman and the Only Man” and chose Samantha Jones as your ideal. Listen, do you need it? Are you really like that? There is one more organ in the human body. It's called "heart". Try to listen to it, is it not whining about anything? Are you really okay with a quickie in a hotel? Or do you want radiant, open, fabulous, damn knightly devotion? Be honest with this body. Because he was created for love. And believe me, in our faint modernity, love still exists. And she is still the same - honest, open, ready for anything. She doesn't change anymore. She is alone at all times.
Myth number 6. He will “ripen”, come to me, and everything will be different for us. We will be happy.
We know, we swam, we tell you. He “ripened”, came, and we had the same crap for four years - with complications. Only I found myself in the wife’s place in this geometric equation. Because this is not about her, his hateful wife. And in him, who doesn’t know how to work in a relationship and is used to running around for quick doping. He is simply unable to take responsibility for his choices. Be honest and loyal. To be in sorrow and in joy. He needs someone third, fourth, tenth to take away the “Soul” and loins. Perhaps someday it will change, this cannot be ruled out. But it’s not “Your Love” that will change him, baby. Your love is not able to form someone else's moral framework. This is everyone’s personal work, alone with themselves. Therefore, get ready for a dizzying flight under the circus dome - to the place of his former wife. When he and his suitcase knock on your door.
Myth number 7. Their relationship hasn’t been going well for a long time, and I have nothing to do with it. Our love simply became a catalyst in this half-life reaction blah - blah - blah.
Yeah, and there was a piano in the bushes by chance. Let's start with the main thing. What should fall apart will fall apart without our participation. And if it doesn’t fall apart, it means it’s holding together. And there is no need to put a charge of dynamite under something that is crooked - askew, but stands. We do not have title to this building. It's alien. And is it holding up so poorly that all our tears, reproaches, mental anguish, delicious dinners and fishnet stockings are not able to destroy it? One friend, decorating my auditory organs with noodles, called his marriage a “Business Project” in the name of a child. It took me a while to understand that not every business can survive 10 years. In the process, their project is not so bad, alas for me.
Myth number 8. these are my feelings, and I love him - no matter who he is with.
This is where it gets tricky. Here is the myth of selfless love. And it’s really difficult to get through it. Here you will have to deal with love with a capital L, and this is a slippery topic, a lot of people have broken their legs on it... but let’s talk about love, come on. Let's try to understand who you love? His? Or the “Light Image”, which is not necessarily related to the original. Most likely, it does not, because the producer of this image is you. Someone else produced this real guy. And the chance that your drawings coincide is minimal. Do you know him, the real one? How does he argue that his wife doesn’t need such expensive creams, how does he whine when he is sent to buy vegetables, how does he not want to play with his son, but wants to watch football? Love is a daily joint action, weaving, creativity. And his habitat is reality. And only her. Everything else may not be bad, but it’s fantasy. It is critically important not to confuse these two poles.
Myth number 9. They are not married. Officially.
Do not care. He is not free. Run, Forest, before you get into trouble. And the most paradox is this: most likely, she is good. His wife. And perhaps you are alike in many ways, and if you met in the canteen, pool or training, you would like each other. And they became friends. She's not bad just because he's standing between you. Try making an adult decision not to do shit to her. Out of principle. Out of women's solidarity. Out of the simple conviction that you can’t make candy out of it. Components are not i.e.
I created all these myths myself and destroyed them myself, in the delirium of asymmetrical relationships, trying to find my own stable happiness. At the cost of broken foreheads, broken foreheads and broken foreheads. I had big problems with love and geometry. And finally, I will allow myself a small but practical piece of advice (even though you didn’t ask for it. In the event that you don’t like the married dude who approached you, raise your hands to the sky and thank Jesus, Allah, the universe or someone someone in whom you believe. And quietly crawl away, without entering into dialogues. Only if he turned out to be nice, run without looking back, pray along the way. But if suddenly he seemed mysterious to you, unhappy in his own way and somehow there are like-minded people - here the question of speed becomes decisive. Maximum speed and distance to which you will have time to escape. Only then, having caught your breath and feeling the proximity of the Canadian border, whisper to some guardian who is responsible for your safety: urgently - urgently, help me ! Save me from this! Well, when you meet someone who is ready to be 100% with you, to be old-fashioned, loyal, always - remember the wise old kaa with a kind word. He will be pleased. That he too, so to speak, noted that another moth does not burn on this candle.” Author: Irina Plyotchikova. Article? Subscribe subscribe to psychology about life.
About a relationship with someone else's husband. My alien man
I have never understood women who forgive infidelity and are still proud of it, saying that a mistress is a toilet where they relieve themselves. He still loves his wife.
Let's look at betrayal from the very beginning. There is no clear concept of treason. For some, intimacy with another person is not such a thing; there are people who can break off a relationship even for a kiss.
But let's take intimacy with another woman as cheating.
Off we go. It takes three people for betrayal to happen: a man, a woman and someone else’s woman.
A man lives with his woman and everything seems to be fine with them. But suddenly, out of nowhere, a man meets a strange woman.
Usually such a strange woman is younger, prettier, with a much better figure, and so on. Yes, the very fact that she is a stranger makes her attractive. In general, he and the stranger got hooked.
He begins to think about her constantly, imagines her naked, imagines intimacy with her. Do you understand?
While you think that your man is busy thinking about work, while you are preparing him your signature dish and waiting for his praise, your man is thinking about how, when and where he will fuck someone else’s woman.
He thinks about it until it actually happens. To have sex with her, a man uses various tricks.
He cares, calls, writes, behaves like a gentleman or, on the contrary, like an alpha male. Do you understand? The money and attention that could have gone to you will go to someone else’s woman.
Finally, the tricks work. At such moments, a man will say anything. Starting from the fact that he has not loved his woman for a long time and lives for the sake of his children, ending with the fact that she will soon die.
Do you feel it? You are humiliated for the sake of someone else's woman. And finally, intimacy happens. This is what this long journey was for.
He kisses someone else's woman as well as his own woman. He has sex in the same way as with his woman. Caresses, hugs, says vulgarities.
Do you understand? This is not relieving oneself. This is the satisfaction of the lowest needs. The most disgusting values. This is what destroys centuries of evolution.
This is what brings down all the achievements of people and destroys the difference between people and animals.
Then he will return to his woman. Whether she finds out or not makes no difference. She will still forgive and understand.
But perhaps today another woman, having read this entry, will stop treating betrayal as something normal.
Perhaps today she will get up and leave. And she will become the Woman who taught the traitor a lesson and left him. And she will not remain a woman who swallows this humiliation again and again.
From myself I will say this: during my two marriages I had many opportunities to change. But I never used them, because I am a Human, which means I can suppress my carnal instincts.
The boomerang always returns at the moment when you least expect it. Moreover, he strikes from any side and it is very painful, which involuntarily bursts out: “Damn! I’d rather stand on a rake.”
It’s interesting to remember how you met a person, how you first saw him and what you felt, what you thought about him, you were somehow indifferent to him at first, and then... and then he became the meaning of your life.
I gave you $10, he gave you $20. You thought he was better simply because he gave you more. But he had $200, and I had $10.
Don't accept any negativity. Until you accept it, it belongs to the one who brought it.
When I told him that I didn’t want to see him, he turned off the light. And you would just get offended and leave, that’s why I’m with him.
It’s stupid to say that I forgot about everything... I’m just tired of waiting and don’t see the point. Only if they ask: “Did you love him?” I will answer quietly: “He was my life.”
He is a stranger and is a stranger. What's good about it? And yours is warm. His eyes are different too. His own - he’s a little like yourself...
Do not judge another because he sins differently than you...
I will try not to call again, not to rave about you in the arms of the night. And don’t tell anyone else that I really, really need you, dear.
I will try not to write anymore, And not to shed tears, thinking that the other is ready to kiss just as greedily, Drowning in my beloved arms.
I will try not to dream anymore, After all, you are not mine, but I always wanted, So that every day and again and again Your smile would warm my soul.
I'll try not to love anymore. There really are a lot of people like you. But you know... I’ll never forget You... so dear...
In preparation for writing this article, I asked my friends and looked through a bunch of heartbreaking stories on the Internet, which show different people’s attitudes towards the fact of a woman’s relationship with a married man. Some justify themselves, some blame themselves, some suffer, suffer and don’t know what to do about it. It’s not surprising, because there are so many people, so many opinions.
All stories cannot be summed up under one line, but the pattern of behavior in most cases is almost always the same. After all, if you experienced this yourself, didn’t you first feel a strong attraction to the object of your adoration, then a feeling of complete flight (at times with a feeling of a steep dive, from which you feel either hot or cold). Then a period of hope, when you think that your love is something special that only you and him can experience. You hoped that this was what you had been striving for all your life before, which means that something would definitely come out of all this. After a certain time and as a result of analyzing a number of facts, you finally (better early than late, but better late than never) realized that nothing will come of this - this man is not yours and is not going to be so, so how he’s not going to change anything in his personal life. He is quite happy with the current situation. He is a hero, a real commander, since he has a “whole army” of women at his disposal (after all, there are cases when, in addition to his wife, a man fools not one, but several ladies). And, despite all your hopes, he is not going to leave his wife for you.
You begin to suffer, suffer, ask yourself: “How could I contact this person? What to do? What should I do? But the questions are still rhetorical, and you must give the answers to them yourself, after analyzing your situation.
Most women cannot come to terms with this “style” of life, because in this situation they feel humiliated. How else can you evaluate the fact that your destiny is somewhat similar to the oldest profession: a man remembers you only when he’s “hot”, and all YOUR desires are secondary. Therefore, after a certain period of self-torture, many women put an end to this story.
It is known that a woman is by nature more emotional than a man. Therefore, having met a fantasy man (not a dream), feelings quickly and completely take over her consciousness. This is by no means a primitive misconception can lead a woman to a number of reckless actions. The norms of ethics and morality in this area (intimate relationships) cease to apply for a while. And she no longer cares about his social status and marital status. She accepts only one rule: to be with him, always and everywhere, at any cost.
And such stories occur very often. After all, who among the lovely ladies does not dream of that wonderful fairy tale that our parents and grandparents told us every day in childhood, on a subconscious level driving into our heads information about a sweet handsome prince who is simply obliged in this life to come for us and take us away to an unknown direction on a white horse. And it happens that some women chase a dream inspired in childhood all their lives, instead of spending their energy on self-realization in society. I foresee how some young ladies will immediately call me callous, but, unfortunately, this is a cruel reality.
Here is a typical life situation that underlines my words. One of my friends, having a wonderful businessman husband who is very devoted to the family, and a child, has been chasing a ghost called “LOVE” in the person of a fantasy man for the nth number of years. The tragedy lies in the fact that she always succumbs to temptation: as soon as a man tells her about love and does some “lofty” actions for her sake, which from the outside look petty and primitive, she throws herself into the pool headfirst. But, after some time, when the passion of the hero-lover passes, she becomes disappointed and again rushes into search. Do we condemn? Yes. Moreover, almost everything. But this is the desire for that dream that mothers instill in girls from early childhood.
Another story from the life of a friend. A young woman who also has a family (both a promising husband and a child), but has been disappointed a lot in life. In addition, she is a little feminist-minded, or rather emancipated. She treated such a mysterious feeling as “love” with great irony. Moreover, I have repeatedly heard her repeat that human emotions are completely controlled by the brain, and everything else is due to the inability to control oneself. “For me to ever fall in love, and even with a married man... never!!! “All this is far-fetched,” she often said when it came to fleeting romances on the side. And what? As a result, this person, who completely denied her feelings, in a fit of light flirting, met a man who completely turned her head. And all her reasoning about self-control faded into the background. And he suffers and suffers, justifying it with love, which came suddenly. Meanwhile we condemn. After all, she has a husband, and the man she fell in love with is married. How is this possible?
And how many typical cases are there when unmarried young girls naively wait for years for their “older” lovers to divorce and marry them? It’s good if after a couple of years such a woman comes to her senses and arranges her personal life, and does not chase eternal illusions! But quite often in these situations, girls try to give birth to a child from their “beloved” in order to somehow tie him to themselves. The tragedy of the situation is clear without comment: both the young mother and her child remain unsettled in life.
The characters are different, the stories are different, but the result is one thing - pain and suffering. And who knows, maybe tomorrow you will find yourself in the place of these women? You can rest assured that the result will be the same.
Let's, after all, try to protect ourselves from mistakes if we find ourselves in such a situation. After all, knowledge is power, and ignorance is darkness (by no means a pleasant twilight)!
Of course, there are women for whom the very process of removing a man from the family (I can’t call it otherwise) and using him for his intended purpose is important. In such a relationship, they are only interested in passion and sex. They take possession of the man, and after that, with a light heart, they release him on all four sides. But, as sociological studies show, such cases are rare (although there is a tendency for them to increase).
The rest of the ladies (we have already decided on the man - he is definitely “busy”) who date married men can be either single or married. But the symptoms of the “course of the disease” are the same for them. Only single women, despite the fact that they have a fantasy man, still remain lonely, and married women in difficult moments seek support from their husbands. It is difficult to determine who is worse and who is better, but in both cases it is better to flee from this situation.
Let's consider several main theses that women put forward to justify their relationship with someone else's husband.
"I love him"
Falling in love is the best feeling a person can experience. But the feeling of constant flight cannot last forever. Psychologists say that love is the same stress for the body. And if it lasts forever, then our body simply cannot withstand such a load. Therefore, after a while it will begin to produce “antibodies”. That is, draw conclusions - this is not forever.
Yes, it's great that he pays you a lot of attention. He is gentle, caring, tolerant. Gives flowers, sometimes gifts (on major holidays). Sex with him is simply the height of pleasure. But think about it, why does he do this? For the sake of love for you or for your own pleasure? Or maybe you think that an adult man doesn’t know what to do to make a woman melt in his arms?
Think about who in your “tandem” is in complete control of the situation: manages other people’s time, calls when he wants. Doesn’t it offend you that your bed is “still warm”, and he is already carefully examining his body and clothes - did his mistress (that is, you) deliberately leave evidence of his “sinful” affair there?
When you realize this, you will feel pain from this reality, but even in this case, your chosen one will not support you: he does not need a “whining” woman. He already has one of these at home. And you should always be cheerful and carefree. It doesn’t matter to him that you are a living person and you may also be in a bad mood from time to time. It doesn't matter that in such cases your smile looks like Quasimodo's. It is important that you always smile and give him a good mood.
“I want a child from him”
“I want to live with him! I want to have a child with him” - did these thoughts also occur to you? I want to reassure you, they visit many thousands of other women. It’s hard to say what guides you at this stage.
It is known that in a man, a woman, first of all, looks for a suitable father for her future children. But if you are not interested in him, but are only interested in the birth of a child, then it is not necessary to advertise your desire. You are a woman. You decide when and from whom to give birth. If you want to raise a child yourself, go for it. But at the same time, you should know that for this you will need at least the consent of a man (potential father) and the maximum (if you don’t want to ask for consent, but want a child) - health and strength in order to give birth and raise him yourself, without imposing himself and his biological father. You are an adult woman and should be able to be responsible for your desires and actions.
Another question is, do you want to raise your child yourself? If not, then quickly abandon your object of adoration, and run in search of a man who will be a real support for you and your child in life.
And if this is just a trick to win over someone else’s husband... then I really don’t recommend it. Come to your senses. The chances of it happening your way are minimal. You are dooming both yourself and your baby to long-term suffering. You and your child will have to pay for your mistakes.
"He loves me". And if not?
Do you want your love to be in demand? Naturally. At first, you don’t seem to doubt his feelings, but over time, doubts, like worms, begin to eat away at you from the inside. You try to find out his attitude towards you, but he is reserved, cold, dry. What to do? You call, look for meetings, but he avoids you. You want to talk to him to find out if he loves you, but the conversation doesn’t work out. You're unhappy. It's hard for you to live in this ignorance. You are ready for him to at least tell you that he doesn’t love you. But he is silent.
Try to look at it from the other side. This is a great chance to put an end to this whole story. Sit down, analyze the situation and make a decision. The decision must be unambiguous.
“He will leave his family for me”
Statistics show that few husbands rush around the world for their mistresses. It’s not a fact that your chosen one is an exception. And most married women, knowing about their husband’s infidelity, try not to “notice” it. There can be many reasons for this: fear of loneliness, loss of a source of income, stability.
Look at the problem from the other side (the first is the hope that he will leave his family). He is married and is just having a nice time with you. Therefore, do not use “heavy artillery”. I mean all sorts of tricks: lipstick on the collar of a shirt, unexpected calls in the middle of the night, confessing to your wife about your existence, etc. Believe me, this will lead to nothing. My wife wasn’t born yesterday either. And if she is a smart woman, she will find a way to resist your attacks.
For example, one of my good friends, who “sinned” on the side, received an SMS just when he was at home. His son took the phone to look at it. Result: there was a scandal in the family (the woman-lover partly counted on this, although she expected more), but after the storm, peace reigned in the family again, and she was still alone.
Think about how slim your chances are. You risk wasting the best years of your life and being left alone. Don't kid yourself that you are not alone in this situation. You're lonely. Because sooner or later the unfaithful husband will come to his senses and return to the family.
But if, after all, you achieved that he left the family for you, then how are you going to live with such a man? Don’t you think that tomorrow your prototype will be found, and you will again be left with nothing?
"I claim"
Whatever the details of the story (and they are different for everyone, people are different, places are different), but the sequence of actions is similar: she saw, realized that it was him, and is ready to be content with the minimum. But some time has passed, and you realize that this is not enough for you. You start to think that there is woman No. 1 on the list, with whom “your” man spends much more time than with you. Of course you don't like it! You love him, you want to be with him all day and night, go on vacation together. You begin to think about how to make him only yours. Have you ever had such thoughts? So you are laying claim to this man. But you knew what you were getting into!
You start the game. "What game?" - you ask. Here's what it is. At this stage, aren't you trying your best to please your man? Don't you do all sorts of cosmetic procedures for him? Don't you change your hairstyle? Aren't you going to go on a date with him for two hours? Don't buy expensive underwear for meetings? Are you planning a romantic candlelit dinner for him? And despite the storm in your soul, don’t you behave calmly and confidently with him, as if everything suits you? Yes Yes Yes. You play! And if you are also younger than your lover, then you will do everything in order to show yourself as just a chaste beauty against the background of his “bored” and battered wife.
You pretend to be a married man and try to take him away from the family. What for? Was this part of your plans? Maybe it's time to stop?
“So what should we do?”
Remember that love fuels love. That is, if he stopped calling, writing, coming, try not to add fuel to the fire, but take control of the situation.
If you are not married, then run away from this situation as best you can. Don't waste your energy in vain, but arrange your personal life. Think for yourself, because men are more cold-blooded (more resistant to emotions). Do you think he doesn’t realize that your life is unsettled? Perfectly aware! But he shouldn’t go to a sex shop for an inflatable doll! He is perfectly aware, understands everything, and this situation suits him (don’t forget about male egoism).
If you are looking for sex and justify your action only by this, then you can take advantage of the situation if your moral principles allow you to do so. But remember that feelings have no place here.
If you care about yourself, then quickly reel in the fishing rods! And if you are an altruist, then don’t focus only on his feelings. Think about the woman you and her husband are hurting. Do you really want to be in her place? Although, if you are with her husband, then you probably want to.
How to break this connection?
Since such a question arises, the following is clear: if you started to think about it, then a number of motives led to this. There may be several exits. You can advise just to pull yourself together, but in such a situation it will be very difficult to do. You can sit down at the table, throw out on a blank sheet of paper all the grievances that you have in connection with the situation (take a blank sheet of paper, divide it in half: in one part write why this relationship should continue, and in the other - everything “against” "). But be honest with yourself. Then you will see for yourself how much you are losing.
No depression! Look for the good in everything that happens! Don’t try to punish a man, but try to get out of the web in which you yourself are wrapped. Admit to yourself that he is really good (otherwise you wouldn’t pay attention to him), but he is a stranger. You experienced many wonderful moments with him. Thanks to him, you experienced that high feeling that you have dreamed of all your life. But the verbs in your “last word” are still in the past tense, which means that everything WAS. And it's time for you to move on with your life.
Love yourself. This phrase has been very popular in the last decade, and very aptly. After all, if you are not married, but waste your time on a married man, then most likely you think badly of yourself.
Engage in self-realization. Don't focus your attention only on him. The epicenter is not he, but you. A self-sufficient woman is always more in demand, although there are men who are simply afraid of strong ladies. But such “weaklings” will definitely not offer themselves to you. Don’t wait for this “elusive prince on a white horse” to arrive at your entrance, but go and take it with your own hands. But not someone else's.
Love yourself! Don't be afraid of loneliness. You will definitely find a man worthy of you and your love. After all, it is humiliating to waste such high feelings on a person who does not appreciate it and does not deserve it.
Forget that he is a man, which means he is in charge. You are a person! Want to find your own happiness, and don’t wait for someone to bring it to you on a silver platter. Just first determine for yourself what happiness is.
“You’d better starve than eat anything, and it’s better to be alone than with just anyone” - let the golden words of Omar Khayyam become your life credo. Good luck! According to materials.
Karma for someone else's husband. What to do if you find a karmic married husband
Sometimes it happens that a karmically destined man turns out to be unfree. As a rule, this happens because this partner turned out to be fateful for another woman. Such an epithet cannot be equated with a “man of destiny”, because in the first case it only means that the husband is a catalyst for some external changes for the lady. At the same time, he is not karmically connected with his wife, since fate initially intended that a spiritually given man would change precisely the woman who has to be content with the role of a mistress.
Karmic punishment from such a turn in life is unlikely to occur unless you deliberately destroy someone else’s family and actively interfere in your partner’s relationship with his wife (or, even worse, with his children). Usually fate corrects its own mistakes, so either the marriage of your loved one will end and he will go to you, or you will still receive from him the same wise experience and the life lesson you need, but in the position of a mistress. In the second case, the woman herself at some point realizes that the union has exhausted itself and decides to end the relationship.
The karmic connection with a married man in this situation will, rather, be healing, so the breakup will be natural and painless.
In such conditions, you can and should fight for your happiness if you can tell yourself with confidence that you trust your partner, believe him, that you love each other mutually. If you even for a minute admit the idea that he is indifferent to your feelings about this situation or may even leave you, you must definitely break off the relationship. Don't be afraid to take the initiative, talk to the person.
