Useful tips
Wedding
- This is one of the happiest events in the life of a couple. But with a husband, every woman “gets” his family. Many people feel horror at the thought of having to contact their mother-in-law. But all people are different, and it is important to understand that you can find an approach to any person without using aggressive methods.
Let's find out what kind of mother-in-law you have and get closer to solving your communication problem.
1. Mother-in-law is a dictator
Such a mother-in-law lives by the motto: “Rule, dominate, humiliate.” She is used to everything always going according to her rules, which only she sets. Therefore, immediately after the wedding, she begins to establish her own rules in your home.
Such mothers-in-law are very fond of and know how to create intrigue, and also skillfully “put people in their place.”
Distinctive features of a mother-in-law dictator:
- her own authority is above all, does not recognize anyone else;
— each of her phrases begins with the words: “as much as I told you...”;
- does not consider it necessary to knock when coming to you, and also does not say goodbye when he leaves.
How to get along with such a mother-in-law:
1) This is very difficult, but vital. Get rid of the negativity that has accumulated in your soul, because the calmer you feel, the easier it will be to communicate with your husband’s mother.
Types of mother-in-law
2. Mother-in-law is a spy
As a rule, this is a divorced woman. She doesn’t want to give her little blood into your hands, so she will even engage in eavesdropping and spying, and she may spy on you in order to convict her daughter-in-law of something shameful. Anything that will cause jealousy and mistrust in your couple is her weapon.
Distinctive features of a mother-in-law who is a spy:
- keeps an eye on you and tells your son where, when and with whom you met;
— loves to make various setups and traps for his “beloved” daughter-in-law.
How to get along with such a mother-in-law:
1) In this case, you need to act in two directions: convince your husband of your devotion and help your mother-in-law love you.
2) Such women, as a rule, experience a deep sense of loneliness; they do not have the large family that they always wanted to have. They don't feel understood, they feel left out. Give her the attention she needs.
3) If you see that her main goal is to divorce you from your husband, then tell your spouse about all the intrigues that she is plotting for you, provide evidence. If you manage to prove this to your husband, he will come over to your side and begin to treat your mother’s actions with more caution.
3. Mother-in-law - “jam”
This is the most dangerous type of mother-in-law. Such a mother-in-law thinks: “I fed him, I raised him, I didn’t sleep at night, I treated his snot, but she came prepared with everything and wants to deprive me of everything!”
Distinctive features of the mother-in-law - “jam”:
- likes to say that mother and son are forever connected by an umbilical cord, and a daughter-in-law is so...;
- she raised the child alone, without the help of her father, fed, washed, watered, and then you appeared. For what?
How to get along with such a mother-in-law:
1) Remember that for such a mother-in-law you will always be bad, and everything connected with you will also be bad. She will check your closets, see how you washed things, look for dust on the shelves. She will find something to complain about, even if you are an ideal housewife.
Hello! I want to ask about ENEshek. How do you get along with your mother husband...
— @akerke.nurzhanova, and so am I. My husband scolds me for this
— I’m trying to stay away from my mother-in-law) I know that I’m too open and say everything, and then everything I said comes back against me (((
— @forever21, these are still flowers, she can rummage around in the refrigerator in the cabinets in the kitchen. No, she’s not bad, but I just can’t understand why she’s rummaging around everywhere? She can come when my daughter and I are not at home. To visit my son. I can't say that I like it.
— @aidikosha never understood how a normal adult could rummage through other people’s closets. My mother-in-law knows this; when she comes to visit, she’s even afraid to look in the kitchen cabinets)))
- But Alhamdulillah he is fair to me. Sometimes it happens the other way around: I stand up for his mother. Now we live with his grandfather. Everything is fine. But grandfather is not mother. I have a good one. I think everything will be fine.
— I’ve only been married for 4 months. We live with our mother-in-law and older daughter-in-law. My eldest daughter-in-law is much older than me, and the two of them don’t let me do anything at home. Even cooking and it annoys me because my husband says I don’t do anything. In general, my Mommy is good ☺️
— @karak0o0z, enjoy life while you live separately. And as often as possible, instill in your husband that your own family comes first, and then everything else. That his mother and wife are different women in his life, but his wife is no less significant than his mother. So that by the time you live with your parents, your husband has the right guideline
