How often can one observe a picture when a nondescript “gray mouse”, who has neither a model appearance, nor a sharp mind, nor supernatural talents, is chased by a man, from whom many women simply “drool.” How does she do it? One can, of course, suspect her of witchcraft, but magical abilities have nothing to do with it. According to psychologists, any woman can become the object of adoration of a worthy man. Among the proven methods there is no advice on correcting appearance, grooming or a healthy lifestyle. A woman should be beautiful a priori, and it’s not about a pretty face, long legs or big breasts. Regardless of appearance, every self-respecting woman is obliged to take care of her figure, be stylish, neat and well-groomed. We will talk about ways that will help you be beautiful from the inside. And such beauty will make the most unapproachable man run on his heels.
Method 1: Be a little inaccessible and unpredictable
After meeting an interesting man, it’s difficult to resist the desire to fill his whole life with yourself, to be always nearby or at least in the online access zone. But total availability is one of the main mistakes of women in love. They don't run after people like that. There is no point - they run on their own. Stop looking for meetings with the man you like, immediately answer his messages, phone calls, or call first and often. Create in a man a need to figure you out and achieve you. Go on the first date, and refuse the second one with a good excuse. Disappear for a while, and then suddenly appear and invite him to a meeting, but cut it off at the most interesting point. Let him know that you are unpredictable and will not be available whenever he wants.
Why are men disgusted by these sticky women?
Have you ever felt uncomfortable with the intrusiveness of some boyfriend? But he, like a man, conquered you, driven by instinct. He deserves it. Another thing is that the result was disastrous for him.
A girl, when she runs after a man, shows all her inferiority and worthlessness and in no way resembles an Amazon hunter. Like teenage fans who hang out under the windows of their famous idol. They are more like annoying flies in the heat.
If he abstains for a long time, it will be easier for him to order a prostitute. There are no problems with it - there are specific requirements and no consequences after that. Even with a night butterfly there is some excitement: availability only after payment and some services may be unacceptable.
And the worst thing is that getting rid of such a woman is very problematic: kicking her in her soft spot is dangerous, insulting her in public is also dangerous, she will still be judged, she is the weaker sex. So you have to run from her claims.
A woman and a man cannot change roles just because she feels like it. All this female arrogance and assertiveness is unnatural! And it’s probably unpleasant for a man to be an unwitting victim in the hands of a maniac.
Method 2. Become an individual
Men run only after those women who, in addition to their appearance, can captivate with their strength of character and rich inner world. Fill yourself with interesting hobbies, work on your habits, habits and emotions, love your job and do what you love, explore the world around you and your own world, analyze, share knowledge and develop in your chosen direction. This way you will become a person with whom it is always interesting; you want to explore its depths and find the truth in them. Don't be fooled by the myth that men only chase beauties. Beauty is packaging. Don’t disappoint a man with your content, become an interesting woman in every sense, and he will want to reveal you again and again, like the most long-awaited gift.
Summarizing
Well, now the best part. Let's summarize our conversation: “How to make a man run after you?” As you know, each person is an individual, and naturally there is no generally accepted approach to all representatives of the stronger sex.
We have tried to outline only a few points. Improvise, and your chosen one will certainly pay attention to you!
Method 3. Improve yourself and develop yourself
Like a magnet, men are attracted to those women who do not stop in their development, conquer new heights, break stereotypes and know what they want from life. If you consider yourself an already formed personality and an ideal woman, great. But remember, if a person stops developing, he steadily begins to degrade. There is no stable state here. If you have already achieved excellence in your profession, hobbies or any other areas available to you, look for new ones. But you don’t have to look far for ideas for improvement. Deal with your fears, complexes, and bad character traits. Here is the widest field for self-improvement and development of positive qualities. But in general, do whatever you want - the main thing is not to stop developing and honing your skills, no matter what.
How to become loved and desired?
In this article I will give a man’s point of view on how a woman can become loved and desired. It is foolish to deny that the opportunity to become loved depends not only on a woman’s behavior. A significant role here is also played by character compatibility, appearance, woman’s voice, etc. some image inherent in a man by nature, with which he may or may not fall in love in principle, as well as some amount of luck.
However, very, very much depends on the behavior of the woman herself. Some women fall in love much more often, and the main thing is that they can keep a man’s love and desire for many years. Some women fall in love much less often, and they cannot keep their love even for a few weeks.
What are the fundamental differences between this behavior? I will write briefly about this below.
First, respect your life, your hobbies, etc.
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On average, men's world is more competitive than women's. One can even say that competition (struggle) is in many ways the thinking of most men. It’s not for nothing that they love sports competitions, hunting, action films, etc. many times more. Men tend to periodically push through their decisions, try to compete when it is not necessary, are aggressive, are rude, etc. (read why this happens in the article “Why is success so important for a man? The most important difference between a man and a woman”).
In this world, if someone gives up or refuses to fight, then all respect for him instantly disappears. A weakling, a coward or something like that.
With women, of course, not everything is so straightforward and men have slightly different rules in relationships with them, but, nevertheless, there are similarities. In my video film “How to Keep a Man” (I recommend purchasing and watching, information here) I spoke in great detail about the fact that if a woman gave up her hobbies, her personal space for the sake of “serving” a man (gave up without a fight), then the man instantly stops respecting her. After all, only equals or stronger people are respected. (We are, of course, talking about a female manifestation of strength).
And the consequences of this are quite predictable. Try to find a person in your environment whom you do not respect (don’t hate, but don’t respect). A person who is not respected is not listened to. His wishes and interests are ignored. Men don't marry women they don't respect. Such women are much more likely to be rude, cheated on, and God knows what else they do. It is clear that there can be no talk of any love or attraction.
The recipe for getting out of this situation is quite simple and obvious. You just need to find the strength and courage within yourself to take such steps. Courage will appear when you realize that this is, first of all, extremely beneficial for you.
What do you need to do to remain loved and desired?
First. Mind your own business, no matter the cost
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It is clear that most men will prevent you from going about your business, because this reduces his importance to you, and you also become unavailable to him at any time when he wants to meet or see you.
Therefore, be prepared for some kind of resistance on his part (except for cases when you are so tired of each other that any separation is a joy).
I don't know what kind of business you might have. Maybe it’s work (without excessiveness, of course), maybe it’s some kind of hobby, sports, meeting with friends, etc. Take care of yourself and stand up for your activities.
If there were no classes, then you definitely need to find them. Go dance, learn English, draw, sing, take professional courses, even if they don’t give you anything particularly useful, etc.
Remember that this is extremely useful for you and in order to remain loved and desired. Your man needs an elusive woman. Be like that.
In addition to the fact that you will become an “elusive” woman for a man, you will have some interesting information that is inaccessible and interesting to him. You will meet with someone, discuss something, do something.
The same information becomes boring. If nothing new happens in a woman’s life every day, especially if she sits at home alone, then gradually communication with her becomes less interesting. Reading books and watching TV can only to a very small extent replace communication with new people.
It just so happened instinctively that people are much more interested in other people than in some thoughts, books, etc. Therefore, if you communicate with other people who are inaccessible to a man, then interest in you will increase. This is not even discussed.
Of course, a lot depends on what you will be doing. Some activities will arouse more interest in your partner, some - noticeably less. But the result will still be there.
Another big plus is that it will be much easier for you to follow the following advice about not being too involved in a man’s business.
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How much time can and should you devote to your hobbies in order to, on the one hand, be interesting enough for a man and for yourself, of course, and, on the other hand, not to become so immersed in a hobby that it will harm your relationship?
It seems to me that the ideal is somewhere around 2-3 times a week for 2 hours. In your youth, when you have a lot of time and you rarely meet, this can be much longer. Later, when you live together and there are a lot of other obligations, it is advisable not to go beyond the specified limits. The desire for excessive careerism, working 12 hours a day without days off, constant business trips, canceled dates, talking only about a hobby (career) can easily destroy any relationship.
In summary, in order to easily maintain a man’s love and desire, it is important that you have some kind of life of your own, besides your husband. Ideally, this life will be just as interesting to a man (not necessarily the hobby or work itself, but let’s say the people with whom you communicate). However, there is no need for extremes. Your “other” life should not destroy family relationships.
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Don't be too busy with a man's business
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Your beloved man, your only and beloved one, should always feel that he is just one of many important things that are vying for your attention.
In essence, this is a repetition of the previous rule, but in a different variation. Don't pay too much attention to your partner's affairs. There is no need to go to extremes, of course, when you know nothing about what he does and how things are going with him.
However, don't go into too much detail. You don’t need to make decisions for him, write a dissertation with him, constantly push him to do something, just listen to him.
Ideally, this is when a man takes 20 percent of your attention. Less is most likely not very good. Does he occupy more of your attention? Drive him away from your thoughts, otherwise the love will evaporate in a couple of months or even faster.
Example.
When communicating with her boyfriend, a girl talks only about him. How is he doing? What projects does he have? She delves very deeply into his life. She looks up information for him on the Internet. She runs around as a courier, helping his project. She writes some reports, diplomas, etc. for him. She cooks for him and washes him.
They don't talk about her at all. He doesn’t really know her, nor her desires, nor her life (and she doesn’t have much of a life, except for the interests of the young man). She begins to go with him where her man goes. Engaged in the same sports, hobbies, etc.
She cares about him. Is it because he’s dressed and won’t catch a cold? Did her beloved eat it, and won’t he die of hunger? Have his socks and underpants been ironed?
The result of such dissolution in a man’s life is usually natural. He finds himself another woman.
Again, I'm not trying to tell you that you should never do anything on the list above. It's great if you listen to a man. It's great if you are aware of his affairs. It's great if you sometimes help him or cook delicious food.
The only question is how much of your attention does it take and in what form does the care take place? If a man absorbs 10-30 percent of your attention (30% is not in the first year of family life), if you take care of him as a strong man, and not a child, then everything is fine. If you confuse a man and a small child, then I feel sorry for you. I wrote in detail about what attention and care are for men, and how to behave correctly in order to constantly arouse interest in a partner in the first book, “How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You for Life? or Never run after a man, let Him run after you!”
So, don’t completely immerse yourself in a man’s life. Here, as usual, there are two extremes. The first is when a woman practically does not know the life of her loved one from the inside. The second extreme, which is what I'm talking about, is when a woman is completely immersed in the life of her companion. This is an analogue of a mother caring for a small child who cannot do anything without his mother. But I’ll repeat a thought that I’ve said more than once. “Moms” are rarely married, and if they are married, they are often abandoned. (Although anything can happen).
Third. Respect yourself
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A man cannot be in love with a woman he does not respect. I hope you already understand this. And even if he was in love before the wedding, then as respect is lost, love and desire are lost.
Therefore, you need to respect yourself. If you don’t want to respect yourself for yourself, then respect yourself in order to keep a man in love. If you don't know how to respect yourself, develop confidence in yourself, which will help you value yourself more. I described in great detail how to develop confidence in the book “How to become confident in yourself in 3 months.”
In this article I will describe the necessary actions that will allow you to respect yourself more.
— Never run after a man
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Never run after a man, even if you are wrong (I'm not saying don't ask for forgiveness, I'm saying don't run after a man). And in general, is a woman sometimes wrong? The woman is always right, the man is always wrong. Therefore, there is no need to run under any circumstances.
Let's assume that you are actually wrong. You can call after some time and apologize, or send an SMS message (short, not 2 pages). Enough. This is already something of an overload. Running after a man with apologies - this should not happen.
— There is no need to write a man one after another loving letters.
, as in the movie “Office Romance” or in “Eugene Onegin”, nothing good will come of this. In general, you need to be careful with declarations of love. If a man gets over it without confessing, let him admit it himself. Then you can think about a return confession if the mood is good. But that comes later.
— You don’t need to call a man often.
Don't be the first to call immediately after meeting. Do not call more often than a man calls you, but it is better to call on your own initiative 2-3 times less often. Read about who should take the initiative and when in the article on the Sunny Hands website “How to keep a man? Or the initiative is punishable.”
There is no need to come up with all sorts of nonsense that the “little boy” is sick or his car has broken down or there are big troubles at work, so you need to call him yourself.
There are no exceptions (or rather, the bar is very high) to this rule. A man is a man. If you are sick, let him get treatment. There are troubles at work, the path solves the troubles. At this moment, calling him is obviously going to lead to rudeness. If he gets bored, he’ll call him.
If a man calls and then stops calling, then he doesn’t respect you. Send him to hell. Maybe this will somehow correct his behavior. If not, then send him even further, and even further, that you are embarrassed. It won't do any good anyway.
Fourth. Respect the woman in you
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Somehow, recently it has become fashionable to be more and more feminist. And this, in essence, is trying to behave in a way that deeply contradicts a woman’s instincts, invested over millions of years.
But male instincts tell a man that he needs to fall in love and love women, and not feminist women who behave like men. And if a woman behaves like a woman, then it is much easier for a man to fall in love with her for life than with something feminist.
What exactly do I mean?
— Instinct tells a woman not to sleep with the first man she comes across in the first few meetings.
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I'm not talking about morality, etc. now. things. Let's talk about instincts, which largely control our behavior. For many, many centuries in a row, sex for women carried much more risks than for men. Pregnancy, the need to feed a child, etc., all this led to the fact that a woman takes a lot longer to evaluate a man before having sex with him. This is not morality - it is instinct.
Men also respect much more, marry much more often and remain in love with those women who do not sleep with men on the first date. There are exceptions, but they are either rare and there is no need to take them as a basis.
Refusing intimate relationships in the very first meetings with males is natural behavior for a woman. But lately it has become fashionable to reject it and even be ashamed. But remember that instincts govern our behavior. Instincts tell a man that women who are unavailable at first meetings should be valued more. It is the instincts that prompt further behavior, such as marriage, falling in love for life and preserving the family.
Don't try to think that defenses have made all this instinctive behavior irrelevant. Everything works the same as it did thousands of years ago. After all, on the average man, instincts work stronger than brains. And your task is to use this, and not complain that men are “stupid, imperfect, wrong” and that the situation with their brains is so bad.
— Instinct tells a woman that she needs to be weaker than a man.
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Femininity is when a woman is weaker than her man. This is an axiom. Women who are weaker than their men attract them for many years and can easily maintain a man's love and attraction.
This point often causes misunderstandings or disputes. Therefore, the statement will be a paragraph long, and the comments will be several paragraphs long.
A weak woman does not mean at all that you need to indulge a man in everything, always give in to him, completely immerse yourself in his life, not have your own interests and hobbies, etc. The last thing I would like is for you to understand this point as something like that.
On the contrary, in almost every point of this article I talk about the fact that you should not allow a man to do this and that, not allow him to do this, not immerse himself in a man’s life, you need to respect yourself, etc.
To be weaker than a man means only to allow a man to decide for himself and achieve success for the most part in external life and partly in the internal life of a family or just a couple.
Love the state of weakness. Love it when decisions are made for you (not always, partly even those decisions that men have made for centuries). Love the state when a man is stronger than you. Don't scold this instinct, but use it for your life. Load the man with heavy packages. Load him with responsibility for the family. Load him with the desire to promote something outside. You don’t need to become a complete child for this, just relieve yourself of responsibility. You can act as a spectator, sometimes as an adviser, but not the person who carries the burden. The best way to learn how to do this is in Anastasia Gai’s book “How to Make a Man Get Off the Sofa? Book 2 Or Secrets of Happy Women."
This is too broad a topic. I can only suggest a criterion for whether you are behaving correctly in this area. If you are consciously trying to be weaker than a man, and because of this he takes on more and more responsibility and decides more in life, then you are doing everything right.
If you become weaker, and nothing happens to the man, then most likely you are doing something wrong. And don't tell me that men don't want to do anything. It is not true. Young men want to do a lot, but they don’t know how to do anything. Men in their prime can do a lot, but no longer want anything. But men, under the right guidance of women, still do so much and almost with the belief that they themselves wanted it
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So, don’t try to be stronger than your man in men’s issues and at the same time be strong in women’s issues. That is, recognize the woman in you and defend your true women's rights.
— Instinct tells a woman that a man should treat her well, but a woman may not always treat a man well
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Endure and fall in love - this saying is more about women whose husbands treated them well, and then the women fell in love with them.
A man should always treat a woman well - this is an axiom of being in love for life. A woman can treat a man sometimes well, sometimes moderately well, sometimes even quite moderately well, and everything can go more or less normally.
How to get a man to treat you well?
The answer to this question is more likely to be a series of articles than a few paragraphs, but I’ll write it briefly.
First, don't date men who know to treat you badly.
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This would seem to be an obvious rule. But, nevertheless, girls often try to date young men who, no matter what the reasons, treat a particular girl with disrespect.
A couple of examples of what it means to be disrespectful and respectful.
— A man who respects his woman is sincerely glad to see her, i.e. smiles, greets you, hugs you when you meet, helps you take off your coat, etc. A man who does not respect his woman makes a face when she appears.
— A man who respects his woman, tries to meet her, takes the initiative to schedule the next meeting, calls, writes, etc. A man who does not respect his woman does not make dates himself, rarely calls, etc.
— A man who respects his woman, tries to make her laugh, help her (for example, when not needed, he gives his advice), tries to do something else pleasant for her (to the extent of his understanding and upbringing). A man who does not respect a woman expects something nice to be done to him, but does nothing himself.
If even at the stage of first meetings, falling in love, etc., a man treats you badly, then it is unlikely that in the future it will be possible to radically change his relationship. This is understandable. It is much easier to adjust something than to radically change it.
Therefore, if a man treats a woman with disrespect even at the first meetings, then nothing will work out for them. The exceptions are women who skillfully master the secrets of influencing men and usually relatively young men, whose behavior is better amenable to correction.
Secondly, if you start dating, don’t allow yourself to be treated with disrespect.
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What it is? Stop any rudeness towards you. Do not allow rude jokes to be made towards you, do not allow swearing or swearing at you in your presence. Also do not allow any other manifestations of disrespect. This could be being late for a date, constant failure to fulfill basic promises, failure to comply with basic rules of politeness for his circle (opening the door for you, etc.).
Here I cannot give clear recommendations. What is absolutely normal for one circle of people (swearing, for example, when communicating with a woman), for another circle it is a clear manifestation of disrespect for the woman, after which you need to immediately break up.
How to stop rudeness? There aren't many options.
You can say that some of his behavior is unpleasant to you. The man himself won’t guess, don’t even hope. Of course, you need to say it not on the fly, but allocate at least 10 minutes for the conversation. Try to give analogies that a man can understand. For example, this is just as unpleasant for you as this and that would be unpleasant for him.
The second option is that you can leave. To leave, of course, in the most general sense of the word. Say that such behavior is unacceptable for you and hang up the phone. We can go home. And so on.
There, depending on the situation, you need to look at whether reconciliation is possible and necessary at all. Did the man understand something? Is he ready to do something to prevent this behavior from happening again in the future?
The third option is gradual education, outside the context of specific situations in your relationship.
In the first case, I talked about your reaction to some specific, boorish behavior of a man. Such conversations are usually quite conflicting, because men do not like criticism.
However, if in the process of communicating, watching movies, etc. tell your man what it is
behavior is rude to you, but
this
is unpleasant, but
this is
pleasant, then this is gradual learning.
Although it is longer, it does not carry criticism for the man, and therefore is non-conflict. After some time, a man will notice the mistakes in the behavior of other men, and then his own behavior will gradually begin to change. Read about how to talk to a man so that he understands you at the link https://www.sun-hands.ru/5kak_razgovarivat_s_muzhchinoi.html.
Third, do not provoke rude behavior
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In the presence of some women, the vast majority of men are transformed and begin to behave as correctly as possible. In the presence of other women, the same men often turn into the likeness of animals.
Develop in yourself those qualities of a woman that stimulate correct behavior and do not provoke rudeness. A few examples to make it clear what we are talking about.
- Don't get drunk, especially if you lose control of your behavior,
- Do not flirt or cheat with other males,
- Don't spend a man's money without his explicit consent. Be independent with money, at least until family is involved.
- Do not tell others what was intended only for you,
— Don’t be intrusive, don’t call first, don’t agree to sex on the first date, etc.
Compliance with these and other rules set out in this article will definitely lead to much greater respect for you, falling in love, etc.
Fifth. Instinct tells a woman that it is very desirable for a man to be monogamous or, in other words, not cheat
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What to do to reduce the likelihood of cheating is a long conversation. However, the simplest thing you can do is say that monogamy with your partner is important to you.
If a man respects you and has at least minimal maturity, then he will try not to cheat on you, since he will also know that he will lose you if he cheats. For more information on how to prevent infidelity, read the article “How to save a family and keep your husband from cheating?”
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Maintain the qualities that the man admired when you met
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As far as I've noticed, men's tastes change very slowly. Usually, those character qualities and appearance features that he liked when you met, he may like after 20-40 years without any special changes.
Remember what your loved one liked when you met. Try to restore these character qualities, appearance features, etc. If you met recently, then just remember or better write down what your man likes, and try to save it in later life.
I don't know what exactly your partner likes, because men have slightly different tastes in women. For example it could be:
- your laughter, i.e. the ability to laugh for any reason, maybe even tease and make fun of your loved one not very harshly,
- your sincerity. This is when you speak without fear, what you need, what doesn’t suit you, what delights you. And at the same time, you do this despite the risk of dissatisfaction, without any thoughts of manipulation or anything else. Quite a rare quality.
- the ability to understand your partner instantly. Also quite rare quality. It is lost if the couple does not have time for full communication, i.e. communication is not in short pieces of 10-15 minutes, but long-term for 1-2 hours a day. Besides this, of course, you need some kind of right combination of characters, a desire to listen to each other, etc. Read the article “Talk the talk, don’t cook the cabbage soup.”
- your appearance. It is clear that appearance changes with age. But this process can be quite delayed and even reversed up to a certain age. Changes in appearance can be partially compensated for by sports, diet, good clothing, cosmetic procedures, etc. (We are not talking about lipsticks, varnishes, etc. things)
Seventh. Don't do things unilaterally
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An important rule, especially for poorly educated men. Forget about the advice “Bring your loved one coffee in bed”, “Give your phone, slippers, socks”
or something else for him if he is poorly brought up or selfish by nature.
You will never receive similar actions in your address. It is more likely that in a couple of years all you will do is bring a phone, slippers, coffee and do a dozen more similar things, and in return you will receive nothing, only dissatisfaction and swearing. If you stop doing something, you will receive sincere indignation in response.
There can be no talk of any kind of falling in love in response to your such “exploits.” Forget about this crazy idea, throw away the magazine where you read it and erase your bookmark on the site where there are similar articles.
Therefore, for poorly educated men, there is only one answer from the very beginning: “you have to carry it”
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If a man is of average or well mannered, then you can do things a little differently. In this case, he is not a complete egoist, but is also ready to do something for you, more or less, depending on the circumstances.
Then, of course, you can do something for him, or even do a lot. But don’t hope too much that such actions can preserve love or strengthen it. Such actions should be natural when both partners are moderately selfish and want to give each other some pleasure.
Don't be afraid to demand reciprocal action from your loved one. They don't have to be similar to yours. It is not necessary to calculate with ugly pettiness who did what to whom.
Nevertheless, some kind of balance must be maintained according to the rough rule: “You give me, and I give you.” Don't be shy about it. In the life together of a man and a woman, some kind of exchange also takes place. It is clear that it can be very thin, uneven at some period of time and not always equivalent, etc.
However, if a woman does more for a man than he does for her, then the man has a well-founded opinion that he is a real “Star” and that his meager efforts in your direction are simply so valuable that they exceed your numerous, but valueless services .
Do you want to raise a “Star” out of your loved one? Forward is not very difficult. Do you want a man to love and respect you? Then there is no need to grow a Star from it. (As well as from myself).
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Praise a man, but do not underestimate your merits
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Praising a man is useful and necessary, although not so easy. I wrote in detail about how to praise a man in the first part of the book “How to make a man fall in love with you for life, or never run after a man, let him run after you.” If you remember a little, you need to praise specific things, and not general ones (not “you’re smart,” but “you solved this difficult problem well”), praise for specific actions, and not in advance, don’t over-praise, etc.
But if in relation to the topic of this article, then you need to praise the man, without belittling your own merits.
Praise: “You are a smart man for being able to do...” is quite possible. Praise in the form: “You are a smart man, and I am a stupid woman...” is absolutely not suitable. If you periodically talk about yourself like this, he will believe it after some time. (Men are very gullible) Soon he will think that he is dating a stupid woman and he needs to look somewhere for a smart one who would truly appreciate his genius, because a stupid woman is not capable of this.
So, the first rule of this point: Forget about the man’s praise against the background of contrasting with himself in a derogatory form
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The second rule is probably already clear to you. Don't forget to praise yourself in front of your partner. If you do not periodically praise yourself to your beloved, then the man will also praise you either rarely or very rarely. The exception is the wise men, whom everyone has heard of, but no one has personally seen.
That is, praise yourself more often. Praise yourself for various reasons. Look for things to praise yourself for. Even what you say about yourself in praise is not entirely true, the man will still get used to it after some time and will assume that you are what you say about yourself. After all, I repeat, men are very trusting of the words of their beloved woman.
So, keeping a man in love, his desire and respect are interdependent tasks. It is clear that if there has never been love, then no techniques may help (or they may help). But if you were in love, then use these tips and the man will be yours.
And a short afterword. Putting these tips into practice requires, first, knowing what to do. This knowledge is presented in this article and my books on the psychology of men on the Sunny Hands website. Secondly, they require minimal self-confidence. If you lack self-confidence, you may not be able to implement the advice. I wrote a book about developing confidence, “How to Develop Self-Confidence in 3 Months.” For those who are interested, purchase on the Sunny Hands website, study and develop confidence.
Method 4. Live a full life
Men stop running after women who make them the meaning of their lives. A man becomes bored if a woman focuses all her interests on him, dissolves in him and turns into his shadow. A man already has a shadow, he needs a woman to live up to, who sets the bar high and loves herself in her life. Even for the sake of the most enviable man, you shouldn’t categorically break ties with friends, sharply limit communication with relatives, or sacrifice your favorite job. A man will not appreciate a sacrifice, and sooner or later you will hate him for it. Set the right priorities in your life. Give your man an important place, but not the main one. Don't let him become more important to you than yourself. Men are not capable of loving and running after those women who renounce themselves and their lives in their name.
Some tips on how to get a girl to follow you
First, you will have to gain experience communicating with the opposite sex, and therefore learn how to get acquainted, go on dates more often and try to seduce girls.
And after a while you will behave more confidently, even when communicating with very beautiful young ladies. In fact, almost every girl perfectly senses a guy’s mood. She can clearly see when you are nervous and feel out of place. She also notices very well if a man is not shy, does not feel timid and behaves confidently. This is generally a sign of a real man in their subconscious. But many guys have already managed to earn themselves a bunch of complexes, and therefore they not only constantly mess up on dates, but also demonstrate their insecurities.
There is another way to make a woman run after you, without which even extensive experience in communicating with the fair sex may not help. And this again has to do with female psychology. Most girls and women are much more emotional creatures than men. This is their essence. And therefore, as a rule, they are attracted to young people who are able to evoke strong emotions in them, and not always only positive, but also negative. The girl simply lives by feelings, and therefore they need to be regularly warmed up.
An excellent example of such “work” is the “closer-further” seduction tactic, which I already wrote about in my articles. In short, when communicating with a girl, a guy must simultaneously stir up interest in himself and show that she is not that interesting to him. However, from time to time you still pay attention to her, and then the relationship is a little like a swing.
You seem to move away and then get closer to her, hence the name. But, firstly, the main thing here is not to overdo it. And, secondly, you need to behave this way with a person who has known you for a long time and well. Otherwise, too rapid changes in you will seem suspicious to her. By the way, one of the options for what to do to get a girl to run after you within the framework of this tactic is to actively flirt with other friends, but, of course, do not bring matters to the point of cheating.
None of this is easy, and again you will need experience communicating with women. Therefore, it is better to start with something simple - find yourself a new hobby and friends in it.
. For example, take up some kind of sport and start spending a lot of time with like-minded people.
A man doesn’t have to be handsome, but being neat, dressing well, having a good haircut and a beautiful smile goes without saying. By the way, many ladies say that appearance is not the main thing, but they often look at athletic or fit guys. So in any case, these people have more chances. Think about it and read my article
Method 5. Be sexy
A woman's strength is in her sexuality. This instinct is very developed in a person, and it would be stupid not to use it when seeking the sincere attention of the man you like. Being sexy absolutely does not mean being a beautiful woman with curvaceous figures, and does not at all mean changing your wardrobe to more revealing clothes. The sexuality of a woman is in her eyes, the curve of her neck, the exciting sway of her hips, even if she is dressed in a monastic outfit and has a veil on her face. This is a special energy! Develop your sexuality through the knowledge of your femininity, go to sensual dancing classes, attend trainings that reveal female sexuality, do yoga, discover your body’s capabilities for pleasure, love it and take care of its health and beauty. No man can resist a woman who understands and knows how to use the power of her sexuality.
Method 6. Learn the art of flirting
Skillful flirting can turn any man from an indifferent macho into a “predator” following the trail. A cunning, but most natural manipulation encourages a man to take the initiative, call, look for meetings, and perform feats. However, it is impossible to learn skillful flirting from instructions or a textbook. Every woman has her own mechanisms of temptation. Listen to your nature, let it control you when you communicate with a man. Your intuition will tell you where to add flirtatious notes to your voice, where to make a well-aimed “shot” with your eyes, and where to straighten your hair with your hands or “accidentally” touch a man’s shoulder. We, women, were given these seduction programs at birth, and if we do not learn to use them competently, then what happened to mammoths will happen to humanity.
Author: brainum.ru
