Point F, or frenulum
F (frenulum) - this is in the Western style, we simply say “bridle”. From an anatomical point of view, the frenulum is a part of the body that limits the movement of any organ (there are three of them in the mouth - the frenulum of the tongue, the upper and lower lips, there is also the frenulum of the clitoris and labia, so if you come across the question “what do women have” on the quiz? five, and men have four,” you now know).
The frenulum of the foreskin - a longitudinal fold of skin connecting the foreskin to the head of the penis (on the lower side) - can be comparable in concentration of nerve endings to the female clitoris. If you practice uncontrollable hard sex, the frenulum may tear - and then a surgeon is needed. Surgery also helps in cases of congenital short frenulum.
How to touch: this is a sensitive and delicate area, you need to treat it carefully. Be sure to pay more attention to it during oral sex (movements from the less sensitive base of the penis to the frenulum and back increase excitement), it is very convenient to lightly massage this area with your thumb when you hold the penis in your hand (do not forget about lubrication).
What is the erogenous zone and where to look for it?
Erogenous zone is a term that is used, as a rule, in scientific circles, namely in the field of sexology. In everyday life, this term is familiar to us from the press, journalism and media, which promote it to the fullest and inspire us with stereotypes that are not always true.
In fact, the concept of erogenous zone refers to a special area of the body, touching which provokes a wave of fairly strong tactile sensations, sexual arousal, as well as increased erection and direct pleasure from orgasm. All this is very easy to explain, because in the area where the erogenous zone is located there is usually an accumulation of a large number of nerve endings that sensitively detect the slightest impact, be it thermal or tactile, and provoke all of the above sensations.
As you can see, in words everything sounds quite simple, but in practice it is possible to detect erogenous zones on the male body only with some effort. The reason, first of all, is that all men are different, and each body is structured differently. Very often, bodily perception is influenced by the mind, feelings, emotional state, as well as health status and simply fatigue.
It is depending on the combination of these factors that the sensitivity of the area of erogenous zones can change - subside or intensify at certain periods of time. Some areas of the body may lose their sensitivity, while others, on the contrary, may acquire it, becoming an erogenous zone.
Without going into anatomy, it’s worth noting right away that a man has several erogenous zones, each of which has its own unique characteristics, so in no case should you deprive any of them of your attention. The primary erogenous zones are the same in men and women. In other words, what feels good to you has an 80 percent chance that it will also feel good to your partner. Well, the remaining 20 percent are secondary erogenous zones, and each person has their own.
Thumbs
In porn, of course, not everything is true, but a guy’s thumb in a girl’s mouth is not taken from heaven: there are people who are very turned on by this (at least visually). However, not everyone, so you should try it and see if you like it. Perhaps it will work for those whose neck is a very sensitive area: from the point of view of reflexology and acupuncture, the base of the thumb corresponds exactly to parts of the neck.
If licking your fingers doesn’t really surprise anyone, then with your feet the situation is very complex and confusing. Magazines suggest foreplay with a foot massage: for example, drying and warming your partner's feet with a warm, damp towel, paying more attention to the big toe and the area around it.
Mark Michaels , one of the authors of Partners in Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy, and Lasting Love, writes that "men have a higher concentration of nerve endings in the soles of their feet than women" - the acupuncture point is located under the arch in the center feet. This point is called "di-chun", or "bubbling spring", it is actually responsible for the kidneys, but massaging it increases blood flow throughout the body - the idea is to warm up and excite your partner. If anything, the points on the heels lead to the genitals.
However, with modern people, not everything is so simple - we are under constant stress, so many points of pleasure turn into compressed bundles of nerves, and touches can cause a variety of reactions: from hysterical laughter to voluntary muscle contractions. You definitely don't want to get kicked in the head, so discuss access to the feet in advance.
There is still a certain amount of shame associated with feet - there is a study where respondents (both men and women) put the feet and toes in last place among all erogenous zones. But in general, a foot massage is very intimate and pleasant.
How to touch: any massage begins with warming up - leave pressing with the pads of your fingers for the finale, start with general movements, press with your palms or the entire surface of your fingers (see the video below on foot massage for beginners).
The main groups of erogenous zones in men
First, we will tell you about the large erogenous zones of men that need attention in general. And don’t forget that everyone has different sensitivities, so areas that work for some may not resonate with others. Don't be discouraged if something doesn't work, and keep trying new things and exploring your partner's body until you discover all the intimate areas.
Face neck and chest
Most often, sex begins with kissing, hugging and stroking, especially with a familiar, regular partner. With immediate or gradual undressing, gently or passionately, slowly or quickly - all this excites your man. Everything is clear with lips: we all know how to handle them, but besides them, the ears and the delicate skin behind them, the neck in the back of the head and its chest have strong sensitivity.
By the way, a gentle whisper also has a very strong effect on many men. And don’t forget about your eyes - a man loves with his eyes first of all, so your seductive appearance is also included in the list of arousing factors.
Belly, back and buttocks
The abdomen is an area where almost every part of it is sensitive. Kiss, lick and gently bite the area of skin between the navel and pubic area, especially if more daring caresses follow. Such attention to a man before a blowjob will significantly speed up his erection.
The back loves stroking and gentle erotic massage. Relax your man by stroking his back, cover this area with kisses, caress his back with a strand of your hair. All this works flawlessly and sets the man in the right mood with a rich continuation.
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The buttocks and sacrum are special places where stroking, clapping, and biting are appropriate, but do not do this too persistently.
Arms and legs
There are areas of increased sensitivity on a man’s arms and legs—the inner surface of the forearm and thighs. Gentle stroking, kneading, casual touching and kissing of these erogenous zones can easily turn a man on.
Genitals
The most obvious option does not mean that we all know what and how to do in order to bring maximum pleasure to our loved one. The penis, testicles and scrotum are the main focus of foreplay for the highest point of arousal in a man. In this area you can massage, stroke, kiss and give oral pleasure. When paying attention to the penis, do not forget to stroke the inner thighs and caress its entire body with your hands, so that arousal passes through all its parts, like an electric current.
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Use all available means for caresses that excite a man: arms, legs, chest, buttocks, tongue and teeth. And add to this list piquant additions in the form of oils, feathers or sex toys - variety and experimentation in bed make sex much more impressive. This way you can excite the nerve endings throughout the body and turn your partner’s body into a continuous erogenous zone.
Head
Some may never get a haircut, but there is one incredible pleasure in going to the hairdresser: a scalp massage while washing your hair. Massage is most pleasant where there is a lot of tension - you must admit, everyone’s head is tense now. Massage your partner's scalp and he will never forget it.
The acupuncture story continues with the ears (the area where the earlobe connects to the head looks especially promising) - and move lower, to the neck. Just don't stick your tongue in your ear without invitation; for most people, this is not just anti-sexual, but even very disgusting.
What actions should I take?
Erogenous zones, in principle, can be stimulated in different ways - by touching the lips, hands (fingers, nails, palms), chest, tongue, pinching and stroking. You can blow cold and hot air on them alternately. You can put chocolate, cream, honey, etc. on them and then lick it all off.
You can also experiment with desire-stimulating oils such as ylang-ylang, a feather, or a piece of ice. It is important to remember one rule - the thicker the fat layer in the place you want to caress, the more intense your efforts should be.
It is necessary to select and regulate the strength, type and degree of impact individually, and this process will be extremely pleasant, especially if you carefully monitor your partner’s reaction.
Even if all your actions failed to ignite the fire of passion in a man that you expected, you should not be upset. You always have secondary erogenous zones in stock, which you can find on your own, or you can form them yourself.
If, for example, every time after orgasm you repeat the same thing (kissing his neck or, for example, stroking his shoulder), a relationship will form between these sensations after some time. That is, every time you repeat this action, thoughts about sex will immediately arise in the man’s head.
Nipples
Not all women have sensitive nipples, and not all men have insensitive nipples - they may even be more sensitive. In 2011, there was a study where scientists found that nipple stimulation affects the same areas in the brain as genital stimulation, and it works the same for women and men.
In addition, if a woman's nipples are stimulated often (especially if intensely), then sensitivity will decrease (and after breastfeeding too) - and your boyfriend's nipples, most likely, are not touched by anyone at all. By the way, orgasm from nipple stimulation is also possible for men! In general, try with caution.
How to touch: start with light kisses, circle the areola with your finger, you can lick and blow, maybe even twist it a little.
From head to toe
Head and neck
You can kiss a man not only on the lips, but also in the area behind the ear, on the earlobe. You can also cover the entire face with light, short kisses, including the eyelids, forehead and eyebrows, then focus on the lips and repeat everything again. You can even bite your earlobe, tickle it with your tongue, catch it with your lips and immediately release it. The back of the neck is especially sensitive to stroking and touching. Men relax from such caresses, becoming soft like plasticine. And if you whisper something pleasant in his ear, he will completely melt. Legs and arms
Particular attention should be paid to the areas between the fingers. They need to be stimulated not at full strength and it is advisable to do this with light touches of the tongue. You can warm up the sexual temperature by sucking your toes, as well as stroking the inner thighs and popliteal dimples. You can also massage your feet. But your main enemy in this case is tickling, and to avoid it, you need to press quite firmly on the skin with warm hands and confident movements. Breast
You shouldn’t ignore the nipples, which, of course, are less sensitive than women’s, but it’s still worth a try. Pull them in one by one with your lips, circle them with your tongue - first slowly, then quickly, and then slowly again. Finish the caresses by blowing cool or warm air onto your nipples. Stomach
Eastern women are confident that they can tie a man to themselves if they constantly stroke his stomach. This is best done in a circular motion and quite firmly. If you lower your hand lower, get to the navel, and then continue to move down, somewhere in the middle of the way to the pubis (a little lower or a little higher) there will definitely be a sensitive spot. Some men simply love it when a woman caresses her navel with her tongue, while simulating sexual intercourse. Back
In this case, the center of your attention should be the place between the shoulder blades and the spine. We need to move from top to bottom. At the same time, it is not at all necessary to touch with your lips or fingers, because touching a naked female breast is no less pleasant - press harder (you can even press with your whole body). Buttocks
Here you can already do without calf tenderness - you can clap, squeeze, stroke, spank and squeeze harder, and it is better to do this rhythmically, but periodically the rhythm needs to be changed.
Perineum and scrotum
The scrotum is super sensitive, and for some even touching with the tongue will be too much, but for everyone else it’s a super high. Everything around is beautiful and sensitive. The perineum is located between the scrotum and the anus - there is a small seal there that cannot be missed: almost like a woman's G-spot.
How to touch: gently run your tongue along the seam on the scrotum; if you touch with your hands, don’t be overzealous either. The option for the perineum is similar to G-spot stimulation: for example, first circular movements with slight pressure, closer to orgasm - pulsating, accelerated.
Treasured places
- Face, head and neck.
It's not just women who love to kiss. It’s just that men consider it unmanly to admit that they also get great pleasure from light and gentle or passionate and even a little rough kisses. The most sensitive areas (and, accordingly, susceptible to kissing) are the lips, ears, and neck (especially the small area behind the earlobe). Men, as a rule, really love it when their hair is pulled and their head massaged.
Men's breasts, of course, are not as sensitive as women's, but they also deserve attention. Moreover, touching her can cause both physical and psychological pleasure. Physical - by touching the receptive area of the nipples. Psychological - through the touch of a fragile female palm to a strong male torso, especially accompanied by admiring words (this allows the guy to feel even stronger). The most sensitive area of the abdomen is the area from the navel to the pubis.
Men like touching toned arms, as well as touching a strong torso, because they receive a signal that a woman appreciates their strength and good physical condition. In addition to the muscles, it is worth paying attention to the fingers - the intertwining of the partners’ hands not only has a psychological symbol of unity, but also allows you to touch the reflex points on the palms and between the fingers. Erogenous zones on men's legs are hidden on the feet, popliteal fossa and shins.
It’s not for nothing that women experienced in love techniques know that digging their claws into a man’s back can turn their partner’s head. This erogenous zone in men is not very sensitive to gentle touches, but almost all men like more intense actions. The most erogenous part of the back is the area between the shoulder blades and the lower back.
This is where we will not discover America: intimate organs are the most receptive erogenous zones in men. Most of the nerve endings are concentrated in the scrotum, head of the penis and in the area from the scrotum to the anus. You need to be especially gentle with them. But sexologists advise not to stand on ceremony with the buttocks - many people like intense touching of this part of the male body.
Prostate
Plus one analogue of the G-spot, suitable for the most daring. Prostate massage is a rather intimate topic, but it is believed to have health benefits. The prostate is located at the depth of the second digital phalanx from the anus.
How to touch: it’s really not easy to decide on this story, but you can go through the game - dress up as a nurse, and let’s go. We spent a long time looking for some non-humiliating video on the topic and found a lecture from a male sexologist.
