What happens to a child when he starts going to kindergarten? The child's life changes dramatically. A new life-forming factor appears in it, new adults who are responsible for him and have the right to raise him, his social circle expands sharply, he leaves his family for a long time (a whole day is a long time for a baby). Naturally, the child is stressed.
Of course, different children experience change differently. Some people are happy to jump on the new train towards adventure, while others are very homesick and don’t want to spend so much time around so many children.
Just in case, parents should be prepared for the worst - hysterics, refusals to go to kindergarten, aggression from the child and other things that a person can do under stress. If the child’s adaptation goes smoothly, you’ll just be happy.
What does it mean to be ready?
Being prepared means being patient and caring for your baby.
A child, when he has a hysteria or when he refuses to go to kindergarten, is not “behaving badly”, he simply has not yet adapted, is not accustomed to the new life and it is difficult for him. The child is not “cranky”, he is confused or overexcited (tired). The child does not “stick to his mother’s skirt” - he is bored or does not feel safe.
What can the child’s experiences result in?
Hysterical. Tantrums during the period of adaptation to kindergarten are normal. This is an outlet for worries. The child will grow up, the psyche will mature, and other ways to cope with experiences will come. In the meantime, he is a baby - he screams, sobs and throws everything around. By the way, children who can throw out accumulated tension are less likely to develop neuroses.
Tantrums can be difficult to tolerate. I really want to stop them right away. Sometimes you feel ashamed for a screaming child in front of teachers or in front of passers-by on the street. Sometimes it's scary to look children's tears in the eyes.
If you don’t find the strength to sympathize with your child, just calmly tell yourself: “This is not bad behavior, it’s fatigue, fear, anxiety, worry,” and hug the child, tell him that yes, you understand, he misses you. Or hug silently. Look deeply - at the child’s feelings, and not at their violent manifestation.
Into aggression. The child may start fighting, breaking and throwing toys. Gently take his hands, caress him, hug him, feel sorry for him...
In refusal to go to kindergarten. What to do? The best and easiest way is to sympathetically agree: “You don’t want to go to kindergarten, I understand you...” And continue to dress the child.
In illness.
In infancy - babbling, the words “I’m little”, asking to be held, fed with a spoon, rocked before bed... What to do? Pick it up, spoon feed it, rock it before bed. This will pass.
Unnatural laughter, hypermobility. What to do? Relax the child. More about relaxation practices below. Plus tactile contact.
Problems with falling asleep, with appetite. Talking about how the child feels, talking about kindergarten, and relaxing practices help.
Legal basis
The Constitution of the Russian Federation, declaring the Russian Federation a social state whose policy is aimed at creating conditions ensuring a decent life and free development of a person, establishes the right of everyone to education and guarantees universal access and free preschool education in state or municipal educational institutions (Articles 7 and 43).
Social relations arising in the field of education in connection with the implementation of the right to education, ensuring state guarantees of human rights and freedoms in the field of education and creating conditions for the realization of the right to education are regulated by Federal Law of December 29, 2012 No. 273-FZ “On Education in Russian Federation" (hereinafter referred to as Federal Law No. 273-FZ), also guaranteeing the right to education in the Russian Federation regardless of gender, race, nationality, language, origin, property, social and official status, place of residence, attitude to religion, beliefs, membership in public associations, as well as other circumstances, accessibility and free of charge in accordance with federal state educational standards, including preschool education (Article 5).
Federal Law No. 273-FZ assigns the organization of the provision of public and free preschool education in municipal educational organizations to the powers of local governments of municipal districts and city districts (Article 9), establishes the right to receive preschool education in educational organizations when children reach the age of two months, determines that the rules for admission to basic general education programs must ensure the admission of all citizens who have the right to receive general education at the appropriate level (parts 1 and 2 of Article 67 of the same law).
The rules for admission to state and municipal educational organizations for training in basic general education programs, as prescribed by parts 3 and 4 of Article 67 of the said law, must also ensure the admission to the educational organization of citizens who have the right to receive general education at the appropriate level and who live in the territory beyond which the specified educational organization is assigned, admission to which can be refused only due to the lack of free places in it. In this case, the parents (legal representatives) of the child, in order to decide on his placement in another general education organization, have the right to contact the local government body that manages the field of education.
The organization of the provision of public and free preschool education according to basic general education programs in municipal educational organizations, the creation of conditions for the supervision and care of children, the maintenance of children in municipal educational organizations are issues of local importance of the urban district (clause 13 of part 1 of article 16 of the Federal Law dated 6 October 2003 No. 131-FZ “On the general principles of organizing local self-government in the Russian Federation”).
From the analysis of the above legal provisions in their systemic unity, it follows that, by securing the right to publicly accessible and free preschool education in state or municipal institutions, the federal legislator establishes the obligation, including municipalities, to ensure enrollment in basic general education programs of all citizens entitled to receive education at the appropriate level.
By the provisions of paragraphs 4 and 5 of part 1 of Article 9 of Federal Law No. 273-FZ, local governments are obliged to create and reorganize municipal educational institutions, as well as ensure the maintenance of buildings and structures of municipal educational institutions, and the development of adjacent territories.
The Constitutional Court of the Russian Federation, in Resolution No. 5-P of May 15, 2006, stated that the state and municipalities, based on the constitutional requirement of universal accessibility of preschool education regardless of place of residence, are obliged to maintain a sufficient number of existing preschool educational institutions and, if necessary, expand their network . The insufficiency of their own revenue sources at the level of the constituent entities of the Russian Federation or municipalities is ensured by providing financial assistance from the federal budget to the budgets of the constituent entities of the Russian Federation in order to properly fulfill their expenditure obligations established by federal legislation.
Thus, the local government body must anticipate the corresponding need for places in preschool educational institutions, take timely measures to increase the number or capacity of existing educational institutions and their financing to create all the necessary sanitary and other conditions for the implementation of their educational activities.
The Convention on the Rights of the Child (approved by the UN General Assembly on November 20, 1989, entered into force for the USSR on September 15, 1990) requires that the best interests of the child be a primary consideration in all actions concerning children, whether taken by public or private institutions involved in social security matters, courts, administrative or legislative authorities, establishes the obligation of States Parties to provide the child with such protection and care as is necessary for his well-being, taking into account the rights and obligations of his parents, guardians or other persons responsible for him under the law, and to this end take all appropriate legislative and administrative measures (Article 3).
Three tips for parents on how to adapt their child to kindergarten
First. It will be easier for the child if the parents agree in advance who will take the child to kindergarten and who will pick up from kindergarten. Tell your child who exactly - mom or dad - will come to pick him up and what time. For a child, time is abstract, so measure time by moments of the routine that are understandable to the baby - after an afternoon snack, after an evening walk, after dinner.
Second. It’s good if, when saying goodbye in the morning at home and then in the garden, mom or dad will talk not about how good it is in the garden (concentrating the child’s attention on the kindergarten and on parting), but on how you will meet and what you will do together in the evening.
And the child, bored, will “cling” to this very thing - for the ice cream that you promised to buy, or for the cupcake that you will bake together, or for permission to press buttons in the car and sit in mom and dad’s arms while driving (of course, in the parking lot).
Please, if you leave for work when your child is going to kindergarten, or stay at home when your child leaves, do not forget to say a warm goodbye to your child!
Third. In kindergarten, ideally hand the child over to the teacher. Unfortunately, not all educators go for this. But you can call: “Maryivanna, can you come to us? Thank you! Hello, Marivanna! Masha, take Marivanna by the hand, see you in the evening! Mom will come pick you up after afternoon tea and you'll go buy ice cream! And you and I will build a house from Lego in the evening. Have a nice day, Marivanna!”
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DESCRIPTION OF ADDITIONAL COURSE MATERIALS:
- A book for reading together with a child “I’m going to kindergarten” by Karina Ovselyan. In this wonderful book you will find a detailed description of various situations that happen to a child in kindergarten. This book will help your child better understand what daily life in kindergarten consists of. During one lesson, read and discuss with your child no more than one or two spreads. Ask your child questions based on the pictures. Maintain a joyful, upbeat tone as you show your child how much you like the children in kindergarten and what they do there.
- Webinar “A simple approach to a complex problem. How to strengthen your child’s protection from diseases” Do you have a frequently ill child, repeated runny noses, or a prolonged course? At the webinar we will look at: * Causes and methods of disease prevention. * Adenoids - why are they needed and when are they removed? * How to clean your ears and is it necessary to do it? * What to do to prevent the development of otitis media and sinusitis in a child? * Hygiene of the nasal cavity as the prevention of morbidity in childhood. Webinar presenter: Artur Evgenievich Kondratyev , otorhinolaryngologist, ENT surgeon. Graduated from the St. Petersburg Pediatric Medical Academy. Completed clinical residency at the ENT Research Institute. ENT doctor, ENT department at Children's Clinical City Hospital No. 5, St. Petersburg
- Webinar “Answers to frequently asked questions on child neurology” Webinar presenter: Natalya Sergeevna Kashtanova – assistant at the Department of Pediatric Neuropathology and Neurosurgery, North-Western State Medical University named after. I.I. Mechnikov Ministry of Health of the SR RF"; neurologist at MEDEM International Clinic LLC; neurologist of St. Petersburg State Healthcare Institution Children's City Hospital No. 19 named after. K.A. Rauchfus. General medical and neurological experience - 16 years.
- A package of summer gaming activities from the Galka-Igralka project. When your baby starts kindergarten, it is very important for you to continue to spend quality time with him outside of kindergarten. Now, more than ever, parental attention and joint games are important to him. The “Galka-Igralka” project has prepared for you a package of 26 exciting game activities for children from 1.5 to 4 years old. The games were developed by the famous St. Petersburg psychologist, early childhood development teacher with 38 years of experience, mother of 8 children Olga Nikolaevna Teplyakova. Children really like such activities, and for mothers they are easy to carry out and do not require special training or knowledge. The games take no more than 5-10 minutes, but they strengthen the relationship between mother and baby and have a huge developmental impact on the child’s personality.
- “How to turn any child’s whim into fun?” [Recorded webinar] At the webinar you will learn how any dissatisfaction and whim of a child can be turned into a joke :) After the webinar you will be able to: - Distract the child and redirect his attention; — Establish emotional contact with him; - Cheer up both of you; — Defuse the tense situation; - Avoid a quarrel or conflict “out of the blue”; - Encourage the child to meet you halfway.
- “6 ways to talk to your child so that he is confident” - [Recorded webinar] Do you want your child to be a confident person and believe in his own abilities? So that he is not afraid to take on new things, so that he is not afraid to make mistakes? To make him more independent and organized? Ekaterina Kes, in clear and accessible language, will tell you about simple things that in daily communication with your child will help strengthen his “I” and your relationship with him. If your child will soon go to kindergarten, these six ways will help him feel more confident and do on his own what the child previously did only with your help.
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What will help a child adapt to kindergarten?
Of course, maximum attention, warmth and participation of parents. And patience...
And also the following practices.
Morning and evening rituals that bring the child and parents closer together (breakfast together, mother’s presence when waking up, some kind of pampering, for example, ice cream for breakfast on Monday)
Rituals that bring the child and the kindergarten closer together (for example, saying hello and goodbye to the kindergarten, telling fairy tales about the friendship between the kindergarten and the child).
Something that helps your child get closer to you and home when he gets bored in the garden (your photo in the locker, his favorite toy, his favorite home pajamas during quiet time or a soft toy during quiet time).
In the evening, talk about the kindergarten (what are the children’s names, did you draw or sculpt, what kind of toys do you have there), joint quiet games and activities.
Sensory exercises to help the child relax and come to his senses - hiding in a house, wrapping the child in a cocoon, as well as warm baths.
Tactile contact, hugging .
Free creativity - drawing, coloring, playing with sand, modeling.
