A kiss, unlike sex, is an act of love that is not determined by the quality of its execution. Its essence is risk. This is the moment when, for the first time alone with a girl, I felt vulnerable and embarrassed. Because it is with a kiss that all boundaries disappear.
I remember my first kiss - are there others who don’t remember it? Her name was Natasha, she lived next door. A day or two before my 13th birthday, she rang my doorbell to wish me Happy Birthday. After an awkward silence, she invited me to the cinema. I don't know what I liked about her or what made her show up on my doorstep, but now I kept thinking about how we would go to the movies with her.
The day came, we sat down next to each other, I offered her popcorn. She refused and continued to look forward at the blank screen, without turning her head towards me. We sat next to each other, not looking at each other. As soon as the movie started, she grabbed my head in her hands and kissed me.
Not all men talk out loud about their feelings. Some feelings can only be expressed through touch.
It was my first kiss, so I didn't know what to do. But I liked her, so I let her lead. This kiss was not so wonderful - our inexperience and her braces took their toll, I felt the taste of blood in my mouth and ran into the bathroom.
The first kiss is unforgettable. This fear of the unknown and the desire to experience it. Feel a connection with another person closer than you can imagine.
There are different kisses...
First kiss.
The purest manifestation of curiosity and interest. It starts out as a joke, like a game, and at the same time it is a little scared. The boundaries are not yet completely clear. Therefore, the first kiss is an attempt to understand where I begin and where I end and you begin. There is a feeling of mystery, and at the same time with it comes a feeling of calm and security.
A kiss of pure passion.
This is the kiss that demands, insists and cannot wait. Aggressive and teasing. This is a kiss from which all feelings soar to the maximum. And this is the same kiss that we see in films and which leaves us with the feeling that we have missed something in our life if there are no such kisses in it.
Because we want it.
When a man kisses a woman, it can be described as a violent blow on impact
Kiss "I missed you so much"
. I think it is the most important of all the kisses a man can give a woman. Not all men talk out loud about their feelings. Some feelings can only be expressed through touch.
When a man kisses you because he missed you, it is a hug that embraces you completely. You can get lost, dissolve in each other. And all that remains is a multitude of thoughts, outbursts of various feelings, courage, hope, acceptance of each other, trust and confidence. Whose they are, you cannot say with certainty.
When a man kisses a woman, it can be described as a violent blow on impact. Two opposing energies collide to produce a flash. And in this flash, in this explosion, the man is absolutely truthful in what he feels towards this woman and what place she occupies in his life.
Many people, without noticing it themselves, give their kisses a lot of times a day. For example, we often kiss mom, dad on the cheek, brother, sister, send air kisses to friends, kiss our beloved pet on the nose, or even ourselves through the reflection in the mirror. But, of course, all of these are incomparable with those that we are used to calling “adults” and which are addressed to a loved one. After all, both the guy and the girl expect from each other a gentle, romantic, passionate and at the same time exciting fusion of lips together in a dance called a kiss. But few people know at least something about what they mean from a psychological point of view.
So, we all remember our first kiss. Many of us have pleasant and fond memories of this event. Now let's try to remember exactly how the very guy to whom you gave this kiss kissed. What kind of person was he: passionate, gentle or brutal and very defiant? No one could have thought that the origins of psychology touched even this intimate foreplay. Therefore, according to psychologists, you can determine his inner world by the way a guy kisses.
Psychology of a kiss
If the relationship starts
A common way to request sex is to kiss on the lips. A touch on the shoulder indicates the absence of banal reasons for dating. Deeper, closer to the present. There is no indifference, there is care, tenderness, recognition of a person as one of your own, close.
That is why such a kiss does not occur often, has nothing to do with the usual rituals and traditions, and is important for every couple. It indicates that more than flirting, a casual romance is emerging.
With a kiss on the shoulder, both the girl and the guy can fully immerse themselves in the natural scent of their partner. This is a fairly intimate level, and if it is accepted with pleasure by both parties, we can talk about a couple that has worked out or for which it makes sense to work out, even if there are certain difficulties.
The meaning of kissing different parts of the body
By what part of the body a guy likes to kiss, you can also determine his attitude.
To the top of my head
A kiss on the top of the head, in particular on the hair, according to popular belief, means treason. However, you should not immediately rush to the young man with interrogations, because you cannot consider a banal sign of attention as a reliable source. After all, our parents kiss us in the same way; a light peck on the top of the head symbolizes pride, the dignity of your actions and unspoken praise for them.
To the temple
A kiss on the temple symbolizes understanding and can be given as support and as a sign of trust. Very rarely, touching the hair, forehead or temple can be seen in couples who have recently started dating; their relationship has not yet acquired such a level of trust; they simply cannot provide such strong spiritual support.
Head-on
Usually parents kiss their children on the forehead when sending them to school or for a walk. Such a kiss means trust, tender affection, care. A guy who kisses a woman on the forehead treats her a little like his own child, he wants to take care of and protect her, he wants to become her patron.
Into closed eyes
Eyes are one of the most vulnerable parts of the human body, so you should be especially careful when touching them. Therefore, when a guy kisses a girl with her eyes closed, it shows affection, fear of harming you, and concern.
Into the nose
A playful peck on the nose conveys all the tenderness of the attitude towards you, the slight effect of being treated like a child. But this does not mean the absence of serious feelings, on the contrary, it demonstrates them from different sides and shows sincere, sweet and truthful affection for you. Many people wonder why a man does not kiss on the lips, but prefers the nose of his chosen one - the answer is simple: people who kiss their lovers this way have in their relationships not only childish playfulness, but also absolutely adult affection and, roughly speaking, a spiritual connection.
When a girl kisses a guy on the nose, this is also a very good sign for a long-term relationship.
Light touch on lips
Usually husbands kiss their wives goodbye this way, unspokenly promising their former devotion. A brief kiss on the lips, indicated only by a light touch, seems to say: “I will come back soon and kiss you for real, I still love you, dear.”
Here you don’t need to try to excite a man, show “skills” or actively play with your tongue; on the contrary, he is calm and gentle. Also, couples often kiss like this when meeting or in public places that do not allow something more frank
In ear
A light kiss on the ear means hidden passion, slight awkwardness in connection with the desire that has arisen. At the same time, this may also show a man’s desire to become a support for you, to begin a new stage in the relationship, more serious and meaningful.
However, ardent sucking of the earlobe openly speaks of such thoughts and the desire to excite a woman.
In the shoulder
It’s a fairly open place, but it’s rare for any man to kiss his beloved on the shoulder. This is not traditional, but in no way reprehensible, it is a manifestation of unprecedented tenderness, passionate love and at the same time care.
Most often, a man will be able to seize the moment and kiss his woman on the shoulder when she has just woken up or is still sleeping, when she is sitting with her back to him and is very passionate about something, or is busy with some things that cannot be distracted to say goodbye, then the man will capture his sign of attention.
Kiss on the back
The touch of a man's lips to your back symbolizes his admiration for both your body and mind. You became for him a kind of Monica Bellucci, seductive, desirable, but at the same time wise and respected. Often, starting from the back, a man smoothly moves his lips to caresses the neck, chest, and, at the final stage, lips.
In the neck
When a man kisses a woman on the neck, it can only mean one thing - crazy passion. Such a touch is usually foreplay, because it is not without reason that the neck is the constant carrier of hickeys, witnesses to a stormy night. Perhaps a kiss on the neck is one of the most erotic touches, but it does not at all speak of intimacy or love, unlike a gentle kiss on the back or shoulder.
In the chest
\Affectionate touching of the breast, including touching with lips and tongue, implies not only physical attraction, but also a degree of intimacy in a relationship that allows such actions. Of course, such actions speak of a man’s strong lust, but also of his desire to please you and please you in bed, to make you feel good.
In the stomach
A kiss on the stomach is associated with pregnancy, because it is during pregnancy that a man most often kisses the mother of his unborn child there. Therefore, in some way, this subconsciously means a man’s readiness to become a father. A passionate kiss on the stomach is a natural prelude for a very frank continuation; you have already let your partner get quite close to the so-called “cherished fruit”.
If a man kisses your hand
For several centuries, the gesture of a man taking a lady's hand and kissing her meant a pleasant acquaintance and immense respect coming from a true gentleman.
Even in our time, following this tradition has left its mark on this gesture; today young people usually do this on several occasions. The first option is simple: the desire to flatter the lady and show yourself as extraordinary and “different from everyone else.” The second is appropriate at pompous social events, when you cannot afford another gesture of attention to a girl or woman other than a modest kiss on the hand.
It was he who wanted those moments of intimacy.
At the same time, it is a gesture of trust. After all, at such moments the soul opens, and if the gesture is met with misunderstanding, painful disappointment awaits. You can’t kiss everyone like that, only your own family.
You don't always have the time or desire to make love. There are not always words to tell your partner that he (she) is the joy of your life, that you are grateful to see you around, that you are always ready to support. And why would they, if a kiss on the shoulder will do it?
Tender feelings
The stomach is a special zone of the human body. It can even be called intimate, since not everyone will allow you to kiss you in such a place, but only those closest to you, your soulmate. The lower part of the body contains many nerve endings, which is why it has great sensitivity. A kiss on the stomach signifies a high degree of trust between partners.
Tender touches to this place can express tender feelings that beg to be expressed. Often such caresses are followed by an immediate declaration of love. Explaining your feelings builds trust and understanding between two people.
Multiple meanings depending on touch method
- Smack - a joyful, playful mood that you want to share with your partner;
- A light, short touch with the lips - uncertainty in reciprocity, hope, tenderness, care;
- A light, calm touch with your lips, perhaps with leisurely stroking with your hands - depends on the moment. This is usually a nice invitation to go to bed. At the beginning of an intimate moment there is tender care, a desire to extend intimacy, to enjoy company longer. At the end of it, there is also gratitude. If a partner has a problem, this gesture expresses an attempt to help, support, protect, and reassure. In any case, and on both sides, trust;
- A decisive, strong touch is a statement of rights, like a sign with the inscription: “You are mine.”
Psychology of a kiss
Touching your lips to your skin always feels pleasant. And for both participants in the process. The psychology of a kiss is such that the opponent has a response. If a person is not indifferent to you, he will definitely respond in kind, and will not simply gratefully accept the gift sent. In most cases, mutual touching awakens sexual desire in partners. In addition, kissing strengthens the nervous system and forms an emotional connection between people. themselves are very useful. It has been noticed that people deprived of affection and attention live shorter lives and suffer more.
Types of kisses
Kisses can differ in their technique and carry different meanings, which the partner unconsciously expresses:
The meaning of belly kisses
You can kiss with different moods, desires and subtext. Both women and representatives of the stronger sex can do this
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Thus, by observing the actions and expressions of emotions, the bodily manifestations of a partner, you can guess what meaning he puts into his caresses.
Meanings of other kisses
Excitement and sexual desire in girls are caused by kissing the neck, which is an erogenous zone. Such caresses indicate the desire of the kisser to possess the one whom he caresses.
The cheeks are an ambiguous place, in the sense that both friends and loved ones, as well as loving people, can kiss in this area.
An angel's kiss is a touch of the lips to the eyes. This act is considered the highest expression of love and intimacy in a couple.
As a rule, little children are kissed on the forehead
, but girls also often suffer such a pleasant fate. With such a gesture, a man shows his fatherly attitude towards his partner, his desire to take care of her like a little girl.
Kissing the hand in Europe is considered a sign of greeting and respect for a young lady. But in Russia the attitude towards it is twofold: older women take it for granted, while young women are skeptical. Alone in an intimate setting, a man can kiss a girl's fingers and wrists, thus showing a strong desire for intimacy.
Kisses on the nose are more of a humorous nature, with the goal of cheering up the partner.
Kissing the auricle and lobe indicates the passion of the kisser.
The shoulder is where a man kisses, restraining his secret thoughts and desires.
Kissing the chest usually starts from the neck area and goes down: by kissing the stomach and below, the partner is already clearly in the mood for physical pleasures.
Lips, despite their small area, have many places for caressing. For example, touching the corners symbolizes the kisser’s uncertainty: he seems to be testing his partner’s reaction. Biting expresses barely restrained excitement. A hickey is a desire to possess.
Knees are kissed by guys who want to express all the tender feelings, care and guardianship.
If a man kisses you on the forehead
If we talk about Russia, then kisses on the forehead are especially not welcomed here, since they are more ritualistic. This is how they kiss the dead. But it can also mean patronage over you. In a relationship between a man and a woman, such a kiss has a different meaning. If you met a man, and after a date he kissed you on the forehead when saying goodbye, then don’t expect him to call you back soon and invite you on a new date. If he calls back at all.
And if you have been in a relationship for a long time, and a man kisses you on the forehead, then most likely for him you are a little girl who needs to be protected.
Desire for intimacy
When a guy kisses a girl on the stomach, it almost always indicates that he wants to have sex with her. The lower part of the torso refers to the part that people just don’t touch. If there is a desire for intimacy with a specific representative of the fair sex, then the young man, as a rule, will behave persistently and boldly. Such touches can be a provocative action aimed at arousing the partner.
The desire for intimacy is sometimes so strong that a person is overcome by real passion. Very gentle and reverent young men can kiss the neat belly of their beloved girl. In a fit of passion, a young man often loses control of his actions. In any case, only a very close, beloved person can kiss the belly. If this is non-binding sex and nothing more, then the girl is unlikely to allow herself to be touched in this way.
Parental instinct
Oddly enough, a kiss on the stomach can demonstrate maternal or paternal feelings. It looks very reverent and touching. This is how parents kiss their baby. They gently touch his soft belly with their lips. The child usually laughs and rejoices from such actions.
Both women and men have parental instinct. Mom and dad fully want to protect their baby from external negative influences. From the point of view of psychological science, a kiss on the stomach acts in this case as a kind of protective element that helps the child maintain positivity and joy in life.
Desire to have a child
A kiss on the stomach can express a conscious or hidden intention to have a baby. During their relationship, a loving couple gains invaluable experience of interaction; people learn to understand each other perfectly. If a man kisses a woman's belly, this may indicate not only sexual desire, but also a possible intention to father her child. Perhaps this is the most gentle touch that can be. Such subtext means gentle and Not every couple feels and understands each other so well.
The desire to have a child is one of the most powerful desires in a person. After all, even under unfavorable conditions, no one can cancel the possibility of the birth of a baby. There is such a sign among the people: if a husband kisses his wife’s belly for a long time, then the long-awaited pregnancy will soon come. This practice is suitable for those couples who have been unable to conceive a baby for months or years.
