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Bullying at school can be both physical and emotional. Of course, the moral state of the victim leaves much to be desired, but this is not a reason to give up trying to change the situation. We sympathize if you regularly feel negative and receive a dose of aggression from your classmates. Being an outcast is very difficult and unpleasant, but nothing is impossible in this life, and there are a number of activities that will help you get back on your feet and shut the mouths of your peers.
- Don't give in to provocations
Your classmates do all the ridicule and poking with only one goal: to see your reaction and laugh at it. Apparently, their lives lack bright emotions and impressions. Your peers are so bored that they don’t know what to do other than pester you. Usually in a flock of such vultures there is a leader who is the first to attack the victim, and everyone else happily follows him.
Have pity on your classmates, because their head is so empty that if you hit it, there will be a long echo (don’t put it into practice). They have not learned to read books, watch films, develop themselves in other ways and discuss this during breaks. Instead of activities that are useful and normal for every intelligent person, they behave like monkeys during the mating season, swaggering in front of each other and in front of representatives of the opposite sex. With their behavior, it’s as if my peers are shouting: “Look how cool I am, I can offend a person and laugh at him, but he won’t do anything to me! The sea is knee-deep to me, fear me and respect me everyone!”
Look at the situation philosophically. Fate will definitely punish your offenders and change your places. Very often, victims of school bullying become successful in life, rich and happy, while their offenders, on the contrary, suffer complete failures.
When the offenders once again begin to tease you and provoke you into emotions, do not give in. Imagine that there is armored thick glass around you, through which sound does not pass. If you can’t hear your classmates, just try not to pay attention, be taller than these macaques. Constantly ignore their antics, and, once again not receiving the desired reaction from you, they will begin to look for another victim. Anyone who does not participate in the show is eliminated from it.
- Don't be afraid to tell adults about the problem
“What should I do if I am being bullied at school?” - Believe me, you are not the only one who is tormented by this question. In any difficult situation, know that sooner or later it will be resolved, and you will breathe deeply. But it is important not to sit and wait for help to fall from heaven, but to be able to ask for it.
If you feel that you cannot cope with the pressure of your classmates, tell your parents or teachers about the problem. It is clear that you are afraid of an even greater explosion of ridicule towards you and therefore are trying to fight back on your own. But think about it, if you are attacked by a group of classmates with aggressive behavior, then remaining silent can be simply dangerous.
Try to start by discussing the problem with your mom and dad. They can talk to the parents of your enemies and find out why their children are so poorly brought up and bully those who are weaker. Your parents can also directly influence the offenders by catching them after school for a personal and unpleasant conversation.
If for some reason you don’t want to involve mom and dad here, go to your class teacher or teacher with whom you have a friendly relationship. Talk about your bullying problem and listen to your mentor. Most likely, they will help you, the offenders will be punished, and your classmates will stop pestering you.
- Learn to stand up for yourself
There is a possibility that you are not clearly expressing your antipathy towards your classmates who are trying to bully you. Maybe you show uncertainty, fear and confusion, and your peers subconsciously sense this. Or you are afraid to fight back in response to physical violence.
In fact, no matter how intelligent and social a person is, he is still subject to instincts. And school bullying is a prime example of this. Your classmates are struggling to appear strong and independent and to take a leadership position among their peers. They chose you as a tool to bring their aspirations to life, but you simply must resist.
Strength and agility are acquired skills, and nothing prevents you from learning a couple of hand-to-hand combat techniques on the Internet or enrolling in self-defense courses. It’s good, of course, if you don’t need it, but the ability to stand up for yourself is not superfluous at all. You never know what happens in life?
The ability to fend off insults and mockery can also be trained. Speak out possible witty answers to yourself and next time you’ll be sure to tell me how you’ll cut it. Take the whole current situation as a life lesson, which, having learned, you can become stronger and more confident in yourself. Such preparation will help you to more easily endure other trials of fate in adult life.
- Work on yourself
Remember that you are not to blame for aggression from your classmates. But bullying at school can significantly undermine your self-esteem and self-confidence, and this in turn will prevent you from standing up to bullies. It turns out to be a kind of vicious circle, from which some work on yourself will help you get out.
“Why am I being bullied at school?” – ask yourself this question and try to answer it as honestly as possible. The reason may not depend on you, for example, the financial condition of your parents or high growth. In this case, your classmates are just pathetic people, clinging to anything to annoy their victim. But if your classmates bully you for being overweight or not doing well, then by changing first of all for yourself, you can rub their nose in the face.
Try to do physical exercise, because it will always help you stay in shape and reduce nervousness. In addition, athletes always command respect and attract like-minded people. Extra friends won't hurt you at all right now. You can always improve your studies too. Sign up for additional classes or devote time to studying subjects on your own.
Distract yourself from your hobby, develop your existing abilities and talents. If you like to sing or play a musical instrument, then achieve perfection in this matter and perform, for example, at a school party. Offenders will be amazed and discouraged by your courage and talent. Most likely, none of them would have the courage to speak in front of an audience and show off their creative abilities. If you like writing, become the editor of the school wall newspaper. Journalistic activity will distract you from sad thoughts, and your classmates will respect and fear you. What if you write a frank article about them, smashing their reputation to smithereens?
Self-development will help you become more confident in yourself and eliminate complexes. A new appearance and manner of communication, as well as other successes, will make your classmates understand how wrong they were when they bullied you.
- Spend more time with friends
It is more difficult to cope with adversity alone. If you have friends at school, try to spend breaks and after-school time with them. When you are in company, it will be more difficult for enemies to attack you. After all, friends will definitely stand up for you and will not give you offense.
The support and support of your friends will help you perk up and not be sad. In life, you can’t please everyone, so negativity from people is inevitable. And the sooner you get to know him, the easier it will be for you to adapt to different teams in the future. Try to attach importance to the fact that you have friends, and think less about enemies.
This advice is relevant in any situation, but if you are being bullied not only mentally but also physically at school, being alone is simply dangerous. Go to the dining room, outside and to the toilet only with one of your associates. Don't be brave, cruel offenders can lie in wait for you anywhere. Until the situation is resolved, ask your friends to accompany you to and from school.
Requests for help Write your story It’s very difficult for me to live because I was bullied at home, my mother always yells at me, I almost died twice, the first time was when I was six years old, I cut myself with glass shards, the second time I tried to kill myself<ed .mod.>, but they saved me. Now I’m in the seventh grade, but since the 5th-7th grade I climbed out the window of the third floor of the school. They hated me and I felt that it was hard for me to live. They took me to a psycheator, but it didn’t help me, now because I’m going crazy, I can even kill. What should I do to become normal? Help!! Support the site:
Sona, age: 13/02/06/2018
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Hello. Please, don’t play with life and death! Don't put yourself in danger! Learn to be a calm, responsible, kind girl. Nobody hates you! They hate criminals, murderers, rapists, you have nothing to do with them. Keep going to a psychologist, because one visit is not enough. When attacks occur, close your eyes for a second, or take a deep breath, you can sit down or, on the contrary, stand up, listen to yourself, what helps you calm down. I highly recommend the pool, or at least a contrast shower. Take up sports. Good health to you!
Irina, age: 30 / 02/06/2018
Hello, honey. There is a good way: when you feel bad, pray short prayers to yourself: “Lord have mercy” or “Lord help” until you calm down. If you are not baptized, be baptized. Make an effort, fight. The soul is eternal and at the death of the body the soul does not die but passes into eternity in the state in which it is, therefore the fate of suicides is very difficult. God help you!
Elena, age: 40 / 02/06/2018
Hold on, I ask you, Sonya. Everything will be fine. You need to calm down and hold on. Everything will be fine for you. Try not to pay attention to whoever says what. And if they bully you and harm you, then turn for help to the teacher, to the person who you trust. Hold on, dear. I ask you. Suicide is not a solution. There are unsuccessful suicide attempts and you can remain disabled. Therefore, do not take the sin on your soul. Hold on, dear, I ask you.
Ice, age: 26 / 02/06/2018
Hello, little one. It is dangerous to show your protest in this way - causing yourself pain. Let's do it differently. They are being bullied in class - tell the teacher, this is normal, the teacher is not just there to teach. Mom won’t scream if she understands how hard it is for you, tell her about yourself. Go to the doctor, you need to relieve nervous overexcitability, you won’t react too strongly to other people’s nagging, learn to just brush them off. Take care of yourself: improve your studies, sign up for clubs, you’ll find friends there too. This is how life returns to normal.
Olesya, age: 38 / 02/07/2018
Hello! I really sympathize with you. Just don't despair. https://www.pobedish.ru/main/roditeli Try to sincerely talk with your mother about everything that worries you, because she still loves you) Honey, just don’t worry and don’t pay attention to all sorts of ridicule. At least when you leave school, this should no longer happen) In the meantime, be patient, since you climbed out of the third floor window, it’s clear how they will treat you. Are you sure that the psychologist is not helping you? Maybe you can try to communicate with a psychologist online? https://www.pobedish.ru/main/samopoznanie read here. I don’t think you’re going crazy, but you may be trying to attract attention... Try to understand yourself. And remember that you’re not alone and there are always people ready to support you. And you can also ask the Lord for help) God created you as a wonderful person, He loves you very much and will never leave you) Ask Him for help more often and it will become easier for you) God wants you lived) I wish you finding the meaning of life, more patience and strength, good relationships in the family, success in studies, good health, always a good mood, happiness, more love, joy and peace in life and all the best! Hold on, God will help you !Guardian Angel to you!
Anastasia, age: 19 / 02/07/2018
Hello Sona! I also had problems in the 7th grade, and I was transferred to another class. And in the 9th grade, I was assigned to an international lyceum class. I strongly advise you to work on your mistakes and understand why you were bullied? Maybe You somehow didn’t behave correctly. Transfer to another class, and put yourself in the right place in it. As a last resort, change schools. Something tells me that you didn’t always behave well either. Why did you climb out the third floor window!? !You can’t imagine what the consequences could be, and what kind of suffering you would condemn your mother to. Still, she scolds you on the matter. It’s better to choose a convenient time, and over a cup of tea, have a confidential conversation with your mother, and try on. After all, she is your dearest person .In general, it would be beneficial for you to enroll in a sports school, and preferably for a team sport; basketball or volleyball. This way you will make friends and learn to interact with them in a team, according to your role, and of course this It will be good for your health. And perhaps you will achieve sporting success. You will self-discipline, and you will begin to live according to the school-sports schedule. school. I was bored in class. Please behave well. Please your mother with good behavior and diligent study, and you will see how her attitude towards you will change for the better. And I really ask you, give your word of honor that you will never again You will harm yourself. May everything be fine with you!
Shokh-Iskandar, age: 26 / 02/08/2018
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When things get serious: radical methods to combat bullying at school
If none of the above helps, or you are confident that all attempts to stop the bullying will fail, contact your parents. Sometimes only they know what to do if a child is being bullied at school.
Bullying among children can indeed be so unbearable that it is better to take drastic measures to solve the unpleasant problem. Before you talk to your parents, listen to yourself and consider which of the following ways will help you avoid future bullying from your peers:
- Working with a child psychologist. What should you do if you are constantly being bullied at school? You are in despair and don’t understand what was the starting point for such a negative attitude from your classmates. Often the problem lies in your subconscious. Most likely, you take the position of a victim, so other stronger peers sense this and begin to peck at you. A child psychologist will help you understand what exactly is going on in your soul. He will identify the cause of negativity in relationships with classmates and give a lot of advice and psychological tricks that will help you become a more confident person.
- Change of school. Continuous mental and physical violence is a reason to change schools. You probably already realize the scale of the problem. Of course, running out of class after a couple of stupid jokes is wrong. If bullying really turns into violence, then nothing can be changed and staying in this educational institution is simply dangerous for you. Don't be afraid to show your cowardice by leaving school. Don’t give a damn about the opinions of the offenders, now you only need to think about your own health. Neuroses and beatings that increase in intensity are what await the brave souls who did not sense the danger in time and did not come to their senses.
Decide for yourself which course of action is most suitable and discuss your decision with your parents. Dad and mom should understand you like no one else and try to help. Remember that hiding information about bullying from your family is dangerous and stupid.
