Family values and traditions. What are family traditions, what are they for, what kinds of traditions are there and how to create them - our article is about all this.
Every woman, becoming a mother, wishes only the best for her family. She strives to pay attention to her husband and children, strengthen family relationships and build a harmonious and happy family life. At the same time, she wants to do a lot. Get everything done: how planning can help mom
How can a mother manage to devote time to her family? Family traditions and rituals help a lot in this endeavor.
Open the calendar
The modern way of life, when everyone is busy with their own business, strong family ties have become a rare occurrence. But this did not make the need for each other any less. And we still need our loved ones just as much, if not more. So why not try to cross out the dullness of everyday work and have a holiday? Do you think there is no reason? Well, let's open the calendar. Almost every day is marked by some event.
Fisherman's Day, Builder's Day, Chemist's Day, First Phone Call Day. The list could take a long time. There are 365 days in a year, and there may be more holidays. Each day can be made a family holiday.
Among your family and friends there will probably be those who love to go fishing. And, most likely, there will be a cheerful company of avid fishermen. You can take fishing rods, a basket of supplies and the whole family - adults and children - go for a picnic at the nearest pond. And the main treat is to make a signature fish soup from what you managed to catch. In the process, you can learn a lot of new things about each other, starting from the front-line exploits of your beloved grandfather and ending with your son’s story about saving a cat, which he brought home from school just today. Such a family holiday strengthens friendship within the family and promotes better mutual understanding.
On the builder's day, you can call all your relatives in advance and agree to go together to the dacha to your beloved uncle, who is building a dacha house with his own hands. You may ask, where is the holiday if you have to work? Do you remember the statement of the cat Matroskin that joint work unites? And the holiday will be precisely the fact that you are all busy doing the same thing together, and the opportunity to relax under the roof of a house you built with your own hands is also a good bonus. You can also barbecue and relax together.
Family traditions and holidays
A strong family always has its own small and large common holidays, which are usually celebrated in a special way. The traditional New Year tree is overgrown with handmade toys, surprises in small boxes, and candies with wishes on the wrapper.
The usual salads or dumplings, prepared for the festive table not by the mother of the family, who was overwhelmed with preparations, but by the father and children who came to her aid, become unusually tasty.
A cleanly cleaned apartment decorated with flowers will delight your mother and sister on March 8th in the morning. You never know what you can come up with.
Young parents can be advised to use their imagination, creativity, and good mood.
Mom is the main word
How long have you told your mother, grandmother, or mother-in-law about how dear they are to you? How you sometimes need their advice, how knitted scarves and hats keep you warm, how nice it is to wake up to the ringing of the alarm clock given by your mother-in-law. Think there's only one Mother's Day for that? But no. It turns out that Mother's Day is celebrated at different times around the world. Of course, you don’t have to wait for the next November 25th. Choose: May 6 - Mother's Day in Lithuania, August 15 - in Costa Rica, December 8 - in Panama. On any of these days, you can gather the whole family around a set table and once again say how dear your mothers are to you. Perhaps the tradition of celebrating Mother's Day not once, but 5 times a year, will become a family tradition. After all, the date is just a reason to thank, hug and share your tenderness with those who are closest to you.
But Father's Day is not among the official holidays in our country. Just like Grandparents' Day. For them, they even came up with a kind of Day of Older People; The name of the holiday alone smells of mothballs. But if you look through the calendar more carefully, you can choose the day when your family will celebrate Father's Day. For example, let it be June 17, as in Japan. And Grandparents' Day is September 9, as in Canada.
Get rid of depression, create a holiday for yourself
There are days when some kind of premonition of a miracle reigns in the soul. And you arrive at work on time, and your bosses accept all your ideas with a bang. This sentiment needs to be shared. Perhaps for your loved one everything is exactly the opposite, and the child is upset and gloomy about something. You have the power to change everything. Just share your good mood and celebrate at home. Only yours, which is not and will never be in any of the world’s calendars. Day of Surprises – why not a family holiday? Organizing such a holiday is not at all difficult. In itself it will be the first surprise, a beautifully set table will be the second. And small, but very necessary gifts can quite cheer up both your son and your loved one. You need to choose gifts that are not abstract, but that correspond to the tastes and preferences of those to whom you will give them. There may be several such small gifts; they can be hidden in different places: under towels in the bathroom, on the computer system unit, under the pillow. The places can be the most unexpected, the main thing is to pack the surprises beautifully, so that it is immediately clear that there is something interesting inside. You can wrap this surprise gift in several layers of paper, adding extra anticipation to unwrapping it. And if you ask to guess what is in the gift, then such packaging can be misleading due to the discrepancy between form and content, which will add intrigue and fun.
Winter is a wonderful time of year. Although it seems that there are more than enough winter holidays, one more, believe me, will not be superfluous. But it can be another reason to spend time with your loved ones and relax in the fresh air. Just have a Snowman Party.
Pack your skis and sleds, dress warmly, don’t forget carrots and a small bucket (the main elements of a snowman!), stock up on sandwiches and a thermos of hot tea. If you are planning to make a small fire, then grab dry logs, call your relatives - and go to the bosom of nature, where the frost stings your cheeks, the snow crunches cheerfully under your feet, and the steep hills beckon you to slide down. But the most important thing is to build a snowman! Have a competition to see whose snowman is better (taller, bigger, prettier). Or even not just one snowman, but a whole family of snowmen. Still, we are talking about a family holiday, and competitions can be organized either within the family or between families. During such impromptu competitions, adults sometimes fight and compete more passionately than children.
Favorite holiday: birthday
If you are celebrating a family birthday, then the birthday person should be the center of attention from the moment he wakes up. Especially if it's a child's birthday. Decorate the hero of the occasion's room with congratulatory posters and balloons. If it is the birthday of your beloved wife, grandmother or daughter, flowers would be appropriate.
Take the decoration of your apartment especially seriously if one of your household members is celebrating an anniversary. Take the time to prepare a large wall newspaper; you can make it in a solemn or humorous tone. It will definitely attract the attention of guests and relieve you of the need to entertain those who come to the party first. For this purpose, you can leave a little free space on the wall newspaper, which the guests themselves will have to fill. Let it be a page of congratulations or a humorous note on the topic “But he (she) is what (what) ...”, in which guests should list 3 - 5 qualities of the hero of the day.
The birthday boy should be at the center of the festive program. As a first entertainment, you can ask the guests, while the table is being set, to cut out paper silhouettes of gifts and wishes (house, car, heart, dress, shoes, etc.), later you can tie them to a thread and ask the birthday person, blindfolded, to cut something for himself. something from the “congratulations rope”. Writing a humorous congratulatory telegram will also be interesting. At the same time, its text is compiled in advance, and then all qualitative (denoting one or another quality of an object or person) adjectives are removed from it. After which, all participants in the celebration take turns calling out adjectives, which the presenter inserts into the missing places and reads out the resulting text.
How to make a holiday interesting for everyone?
If you are closer to outdoor holidays, with fun competitions and contests, you may need to prepare for such a holiday in advance. Come up with competitions, make or buy prizes, prepare treats. You can team up with your friends’ family to make it easier to prepare and not waste all your energy and energy on this process. If you plan to gather several married couples, even better! With or without children, it doesn’t matter at all; adults love holidays no less than children. You can share responsibilities. And expenses, which is also important.
To ensure that no one gets bored, include in your improvised scenario special sports games for family holidays held in the fresh air. They will depend on the time of year.
In winter, these can be fun starts: a real ski relay race, in which the whole family can take part, or a sleigh race. Sled dogs are a rarity in our latitudes, so dads can easily replace them. You can arrange snow fights and turn a regular snowball fight into a battle for heights or a snow fortress. Bright scarves tied to ski poles could well become banners. Just make sure that the fight is on equal terms. The number of players must be the same. And from those who are left out of work, you can assemble a separate team. If there is only one person left out of work, make him a judge.
A summer occasion for a family holiday can be berry picking. A seemingly boring activity can be turned into a real bright event. The main thing is to find the correct interpretation, which will help not only to pick berries, but also to have fun.
Games can be not only sports, but also intellectual. Arrange a quiz of flowers, medicinal plants, insects, birds. Such a holiday does not have to end upon returning home. It can be continued: after weighing the berries, determine the winner and make him a personalized jar of jam. If you use your imagination and slightly change the recipe for a sweet treat by adding cinnamon or vanilla, you can name a new variety of jam after the winner. It is possible that you will like the recipe so much that your personalized jam will become the main winter treat!
How to organize a family holiday
A holiday is a great way to become even closer to your child. Joint chores, bright emotions, colorful paraphernalia, fun competitions - all this will remain a pleasant memory for the baby. How to organize the perfect family holiday? Family psychologist Anna Kudryavtseva tells.
“Holidays strengthen family ties and improve family relationships. The celebration is especially important for the child. Think back to your childhood: most likely, warm memories of some family celebration will come to mind. In the process of preparation, children learn many important things: planning, responsibility, improvisation, creativity, taking into account the interests of all family members, and so on.”
, notes Anna.
There are three simple rules in organizing a holiday:
— Interesting scenario. It must correspond to the age and hobbies of the child.
- Beautiful design. This includes not only decor, but also music, costumes, and necessary equipment.
- Delicious treats. These can be traditional sweets in the form of cake and candies or any other ones that are accepted in your family.
It is imperative to involve children in the organization. Of course, there should be surprises too. But if you organize a celebration together with your children, this will become a new good family tradition and will leave more emotional memories.
If it’s a child’s birthday, let him invite friends, choose treats, and come up with games and competitions. All this will captivate the child and develop his organizational skills.
When a child is still very small, he will be more of an observer during the holiday. In this case, you can organize a fairy tale scene with recognizable favorite characters. If you are doing competitions, then you need to come up with tasks that the child can accomplish.
How to keep your nerves and not forget anything while organizing a children's party?
— Reduce your perfectionism and do not try to achieve the ideal in organizing the holiday. If something goes wrong, there is always the possibility of improvisation.
— Make a list of necessary actions in advance and stick to it. Make a guest list.
— Invite friends to help organize the celebration.
- Don’t worry and don’t get too tired, because the most important thing for children is your good mood.
Reference:
If you don’t have time and place, come to “My Family (tel.). They will be happy to organize a family holiday for you, taking into account the wishes and age of the child.
Press service of the Department of Labor and Social Protection of the Population of Moscow
