How to make people listen to you? Woman speaker.
It is very important to be able to get people to listen to you and listen to what you say. This is especially important for a woman who wants to achieve excellent success in her career. So, there are a few simple ways to get people to listen to you.
The first thing that matters is clothing. You should be dressed appropriately, so that it is formal and at the same time attractive, but not provocative. According to statistics, 60% of the impact on listeners depends on the appearance of the speaker.
The voice is the second way to influence the audience, it should be attractive, not harsh and repulsive, so try not to shout or hit too high notes. Scientists have found that the chest voice is more convincing. And this can be achieved by lowering the tone at the end of individual sentences. Don't raise your voice like when asking a question at the end of a sentence. This will only indicate that you are undecided and unsure.
Another weapon is laughter. The main thing is that it sounds appropriate and natural. It is worth refraining from giggling and rough horse laughter. Women tend to laugh too much (men laugh too little), so it wouldn't hurt to control this process.
You should also take breaks. It is especially advised not to neglect these tips for those women who speak too quickly. Pauses must be present, and they must be meaningful. But don't overdo them either, count to three and continue your speech.
If you need to highlight something, you don’t need to shout it. By raising your voice, you will not highlight the words you need. And having pronounced the words clearly, everything will work out for you, and you will be able to highlight what you need. And if your speech is slurred, then you need to work hard on it.
Well, if you need to stop someone who is too loose, what should you do? It is enough not to nod in agreement, defiantly look at the clock, and you can also start communicating with neighbors, go out, knock, drop, etc., and do everything that could make the speaker think that he has gone too far.
In the event that you are late for work, and you are shouted at and scolded for being late. It is enough to simply say in a calm voice: “You seem not happy with my tardiness?” Show that you are an individual and don’t make excuses, and most importantly, don’t mumble.
Before an important conversation, it is very important to relax well. But what is needed for this? Raise your shoulders high, then lower them and ask your inner voice: “So?” You will relieve stress and communicate more naturally.
Do not allow yourself to use words that speak only of apparent agreement, such as: “yes, but”, “either yes or no”. And what is important is how you end your speech. A real speaker will say something at the end that everyone will remember, understand the idea of this speech and draw all the conclusions. Say everything important at the end, because that’s when they listen to you very carefully. Well, if you couldn’t complete the question because someone or something interfered with you, then you can then come to the logical end again and repeat everything.
She is a woman speaker and she is you! Just a few tips and you can speak in front of any audience. Good luck!
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Part 1
Chapter 1 Thinking about Speaking
Oral speech and the ability to communicate using it are amazing achievements of communication culture that distinguish people from animals. However, often we talk and people don't listen to us, so in this chapter we will outline the obstacles that get in the way of communication, as well as the principles of successful communication.
How often do you talk during the day?
Hundreds, a thousand times?
And every time you hope that people will pay attention to you, that they will hear you. Because you want to convince, influence, convey your point or tell something. But nothing will work if people don't hear you.
The ability to speak so that people will listen is a vital business skill at all stages of your career. In addition, this skill will be useful at home, in communicating with friends, in social life. Communication is probably the most important part of human life. Without communication, we become sad, angry or depressed. However, we typically take communication for granted. I speak and people listen.
But often, when you share what you think are interesting ideas at meetings, you see that no one is paying attention to what you say. And so you sit and think: “Why didn’t anyone hear me?” You know that your idea is really important and smart, but it was not perceived.
Or, for example, you need to give a presentation. You were well prepared, covered all the topics and questions, but a few minutes into your speech you realized that the audience was distracted. In the middle of the presentation, you are desperately trying to grab their attention, but you don’t know how, and so by the end of the presentation you are so exhausted that you are glad that the horror is finally over. This is followed by limp clapping - not even applause, and no questions.
And at a meeting with a potential client in the sales department, it can be even worse - as if not a single word you say makes any sense to him. He stubbornly returns to the same question, and by the end of the meeting you have no doubt that he will buy an inferior product at an inflated price from your competitor.
What's the matter?
Most likely, the idea is not yours and the topic of the presentation is not yours, and the product offered to the buyer is not at all interesting to you. You probably spoke and people just didn't listen to you.
That's what my book is all about—to show you how to speak so people will listen, whether it's speaking to a large audience at a conference or having a casual conversation with a colleague. My goal is to help you articulate your thoughts in an effective, compelling, and engaging manner.
In this book, I give a lot of advice and offer many methods, strategies and techniques, plans and tips that will help you speak in a way that people will pay attention to you and actually hear what you have to say.
And that's not all: if you follow my advice, people will not only listen - they will understand you, you will be able to convince them and motivate them to action.
Impact of speech
Spoken speech has a huge impact on human development: it can inspire great deeds and encourage horrific atrocities. Spoken language can strengthen a nation's identity, change the way an entire generation views life, and embed indelible images.
On a physical level, losing the ability to speak effectively—that is, losing your voice—can cause feelings of helplessness and worthlessness in a world where we constantly need to communicate. Anyone who has lost the ability to communicate effectively, either temporarily or permanently, is familiar with the frustration that comes with trying to reach a world built around the principle of effective oral communication.
What interferes with communication
The physical inability to speak is only one of the barriers to effective communication; there are many others.
Do you have anything to say?
• Ideas
First, to generate interest, your ideas must be new, or you must offer a new way of thinking about ideas or a more effective way of formulating them.
• Doubts
If you doubt what you want to say, in all your words people will hear only one thing - uncertainty. When considering a complex issue, you need to talk about its subtleties and pitfalls; but if you show lack of conviction in your speech, this will sharply reduce the effectiveness of your words.
How to get people's attention
• Perception
What do people hear? Do they pay attention to you and listen to your words? If so, do they hear exactly what you have to say, do they get the message, and are they willing to think about it and take action?
How to effectively formulate a thought
• Culture
Each of us brings something from our subculture into our speech. Sometimes some elements of this subculture are foreign to our listeners and can create additional barriers to communication.
• Language
Even people who speak the same language have linguistic differences, such as regional accents or dialects. Different sections of society express themselves differently, men and women also use different words and figures of speech, ethnic groups try to preserve their dialects, and young people make their own rules. In addition, each of us has our own personal communication style.
• Meaning
The meaning we extract from what we hear rarely corresponds exactly to what the person intended to say. We filter what we hear according to our experiences, prejudices, beliefs, values and cliches and create our own interpretation. So even when we hear everything a person says exactly as he says it, we cannot understand everything he meant to say exactly as it was meant.
How to get the impact and results you want
• Emotions
Your emotions influence your speech, and if you know how to control them, then they have the desired effect on the listeners, but otherwise, by revealing your moral state - fear, hostility, prejudice or inappropriate sentimentality, they destroy trust in you.
• Technologies
When speech is transmitted using communication technologies, its potential impact (both positive and negative) increases enormously. Much of modern oral culture is disseminated through audio recording and broadcast, suggesting that technology has become an important part of many performances.
• Psychology
To become a successful speaker, you need to understand the psychology of people - how they listen and perceive what you say. This knowledge can significantly improve your ability to influence and persuade, to make you remember what you say, and to motivate you to take action. Without this knowledge, your words will simply drown in emptiness.
It is surprising that we are able to communicate at all, since each person, when communicating, reveals his own habits and characteristics... Many of them blur or distort the meaning of what is said. Unfortunately, bad habits aren't easy to break, so this book is all about learning new habits so you can change old ones.
