Separation is a nasty thing. During a long separation, all thoughts and feelings follow the loved one. It is impossible to concentrate on anything - neither at work nor at study, evenings and holidays become dull and tiring, and there is only one desire - he would soon return to be with him. You count down the days: there is a month, a week, a day left. An involuntary “jitter” begins: how to meet your man after everything you both have experienced? Let's figure out what he was really missing.
In the modern world, long separations are not felt as much as they used to be. Previously, there were only letters with a huge delay or expensive long-distance conversations for about three minutes, when you are trying to say something, but your thoughts are confused. Meeting after such a separation was a huge stress: there was not enough to see, not enough to talk about—everyone was excited.
It’s easier now: with the advent of mobile phones, the Internet and, most importantly, Skype, even during a long separation there is no acute feeling of missing a loved one. Conversations last for hours, and when we meet, there seems to be nothing to say: in daily conversations everything is clear. But there are, of course, exceptional cases: for example, if your man was in places not so remote, or served in the army. And now everything is possible.
So, what will your loved one miss when they meet? Absolutely what you want - touch and body smell. That is why, when meeting, they hug and kiss for a long time. So, when going to the train station or the airport, be sure to put on his favorite perfume, even if you “change perfume like gloves.” From the first moment of meeting, your loved one should catch the native aroma - this excites and at the same time calms. If you suddenly have tears of happiness, don’t be shy about it - many men are even touched by such manifestations of feelings.
Hugs and long kisses. At the station, of course, it is impossible to express all desires: there is a crush, and not everyone can suppress the embarrassment of showing tenderness in public. Some confusion and bustle at the station is followed by a trip home (usually by car). There, of course, you can also find it difficult to relax, but tactile sensations can continue: hugs, touching hands. This is how you can express to each other all the hardships of the past separation. As you can see, you don’t need much in the first minutes of a meeting. Even if your man came to you without flowers, it doesn’t matter to a truly loving heart whether he gave them or not. And did he have the opportunity to buy them somewhere along the way?
Your scent and touch are what your lover has been missing for a long time.
The meeting does not end with just the station. It generally lasts the whole day and the first evening. And if during the day you are caught up in the everyday routine (work, study), then the evening should definitely be just for the two of you. Again, the exception is the “resting place” after forced separations - the same army or “zone”. There is no way to get rid of the guy's friends and family. Well, what can you do - just be next to him.
Many people advise preparing dinner by candlelight, making something delicious and then gradually moving on to bed. But who will withstand this sequence if intimacy comes first for lovers, and when left alone they want to fall into bed from the doorway? It is for this case that you need to prepare differently:
- cold cuts, fruits, snacks, salads and champagne are already in the refrigerator, and for hot items you can order pizza.
- It is advisable to place a table for a feast by the bed - there will be no time for ceremonies.
A letter to your beloved man, boyfriend, when you are apart
And you write a letter! Something that would help him get back to you faster. Even in love affairs you need incentive. Create it yourself. With your creativity, with your own hands, with your imagination. In short - everything, and herself. Will you try? Look, what a sample there is! Looking at him, you will definitely be able to come up with something. It is, of course, not difficult, but it’s hard to think when your thoughts are occupied with your beloved man.
Sample letter
“Only a few days have passed since you left, but they seemed like an eternity to me. I hate eternity. And probably myself, because I let you go. There was no need to do this. I didn’t even bother using a calculator to calculate the number of kilometers separating us. And I wanted it that way. I even dreamed of coming to you as a surprise, but you didn’t tell me the exact address. I love you, honey, I love you more than life itself. And you feel it even when you are very far from me. I wrote a sea of poems about separation, which I dedicated to you. I'll give them to you when you come to me. I will give you all my warmth, all my affection, all my soul... I'll give you everything you want. I write and know that my heart is with you. Forever! It still won't fight without you. It is emptiness if you are not with me. Please come as soon as possible. I know how to wait, but time drags on so much that I want to stop it altogether. But it won’t stop just because it’s beneficial or really necessary for me. Please come so I don’t hate the wait.”
This is an excerpt from a letter. Complete it as you see fit. There are many words and phrases. And any “set” will be pleasant for you and for the person to whom it is addressed. If your boyfriend is nearby, but you just want to surprise him with letters? - Surprise!
You can start a letter to your loved one like this
“Hello, my dear and beloved angel! It is summer now. And there is winter in my soul. It's just that I haven't seen you for four whole hours. It seems like years. I would like to see you every minute, second. Even more often. I will never have enough time to fully enjoy you. I want some kind of eternal eternity. Maybe she won't be enough for me either. I want to always be with you alone. And you see it. You notice all my desires, dreams, frankness and secrecy.... Guess me to the end. Until you realize that you have learned everything you wanted about me. I won't mind. We haven't seen each other for several hours. I don’t want to remember or think about those moments in which you were not there. I can cross them out, of course. Like chalk, marker, or pencil. But this doesn’t change anything: the moments in which you are absent will still remain between us. Life works like this. Darling, just a little more and we will be together again. I hope that the moments in which we are without each other will be halved or tripled. I want to believe it! Come, come, fly. I'm waiting for you, kitten!
Did you have an argument? Well, what can I say... Happens! Lives are not only made up of positive things and moments. But it’s possible to brighten up really bad moments with words.
“Who knows everything about each other?”
Three stories as one
One couple (he and she) met in a deserted alley. This meeting happened completely by chance. The guy and the girl were incredibly happy with each other. They kissed passionately, hugged tenderly, chatted tirelessly (about everything under the sun). Then they exchanged phone numbers and parted ways, promising that they would definitely call each other. They knew nothing at all about each other...
The second couple met in a warm and cozy small pizzeria. They had not seen each other for a very long time, so the words were reflected in their eyes: “Do you remember...”. They talked, talked, talked... And they were not at all embarrassed by the pauses that sometimes “slipped” in their sweet conversation. Pauses were a wonderful decoration for conversation. It seemed that the happiness of being with each other would last forever. But the light rain involuntarily reminded them of upcoming and unfinished business. They cried when they parted, but consoled themselves that they would meet again when the “right” time came. But in their hearts they knew that this would never happen again. They knew a lot about each other...
And the third couple collided in the elevator (completely unexpectedly). They instantly recognized each other, despite the fact that they had not seen each other for more than eight years. They stood silent and looked at each other intently. They noticed absolutely no one! The girl and the guy treated the “visitors” of the elevator with great indifference. They were very busy "glaring" at each other. The couple did not utter a single word, but these people knew everything about each other...
See how it's done
“I was wrong. But I love it. Would you forgive me? I admit that I am not a gift. Actually, I admit a lot of things. And I tell you this sincerely. Don't you believe me? I love you very, very, very much. Always and for a long time. And my love will not fade away. You are the first person who has sunk so deeply into the depths of my soul. I do not want to lose you. No quarrel should separate us from you. I can’t live without such a wonderful guy like you! Forgive me, please forgive me... I would beg on my knees for forgiveness, honestly. If you allow me, I will do so. I am ready to do everything for the sake of your forgiveness. I'm sorry, even if it's not my fault. Oh, how important your forgiveness is to me! I'm picking up the phone now. I’m thinking… showering you with messages, but I don’t want to seem intrusive. I'm like this when I'm bored, I remember. But I urgently want to get rid of this very bad quality. I love you. Forgive me, please, my love.”...
How to meet a man after separation
From: Russia, Moscow. region, Korolev
Write your life down to scratch! No time to rewrite!
And you can bake pies—in fact, you can bake pies.
From: Russia, Moscow. region, Korolev
Write your life down to scratch! No time to rewrite!
At the airport he met me as if nothing had happened - no flowers and the like. But when I went home, or rather into our bedroom, I was simply stunned - it was twilight, the whole bedroom was furnished with lit candles, the whole bed was sprinkled with roses, and there was champagne and two glasses on the table next to it. And he came up to me and quietly said: welcome home, I’ve been waiting for you. I remember it took my breath away.
This is one of my best memories of our life before marriage, one of the most romantic things that anyone has ever done for me.
I hope it can help you somehow.
From: Russia, Moscow. region, Korolev
So I want to do something very pleasant and memorable. Moreover, now we are going through a difficult period in our relationship and a lot may depend on this meeting. I hope so.
Write your life down to scratch! No time to rewrite!
I fell out the window when my husband drove up to the house and hid in the back room. To be honest, I spied on his reaction from there. He came in and was stunned from the threshold and began looking for me in the rooms, looking into each one. And there were candles, gifts, music, a table with dinner. I suddenly left the room and stood up without approaching him right away so that he could look at me. In general, the rest is all clear what happened.
Live as if you are living the last day of your life. Learn everything and always, as if you are going to live forever.
From: Russia, Moscow. region, Korolev
Write your life down to scratch! No time to rewrite!
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Correct everything with words so that later you can turn them into reality.
“I don’t show up on time for a date because I want to be the most beautiful for you. Sorry I'm not so punctual. No matter how much I study this quality, it doesn’t help. Yes, you probably can’t learn something like that. Forgive me, dear, I will try very hard not to keep you waiting, because I myself don’t like all these expectations. They tire you just as much as any idleness. Love you. For the sake of feelings, my kitten, I am ready to overcome myself. And I’m already doing it little by little. You'll notice it very soon, I promise. I promise that I won’t upset you, I won’t argue with you persistently…. How many promises is your forgiveness worth? I will do everything you ask me to do. And I say again: “I promise.” Do you believe it? Believe me please. This is very important to me.”…
A love letter to the man I love... When you talk about this, so much romance enters your soul. There is so much I want to say. Well, then why give up such simple pleasures? Speak, write... Let him know how much you love, how you wait. He will be so pleased that he will ask you to marry you soon. If he calls, will you go? Well, think about it while you still have time. No one is rushing you, and no one will rush you.
One request
Be careful with every word! Don't write anything unnecessary. The fact is that you can reproach yourself for just one letter. Why torment yourself over unnecessary or far-fetched reasons if you can avoid them? Do just that: think about every word and what it consists of.
All that will help you is faith in yourself, love for yourself (and for him), courage, stubbornness, and the desire to achieve goals. Everything is not so difficult. The most difficult step is the very, very first step. You've already done it! Continue to act without regretting or justifying yourself. A letter cannot be written independently, by itself...
Most often, parting with a lover not only seriously affects a man’s self-esteem, but can also inflict deep emotional wounds. Very few young people are calm about such twists of fate, and if you are not one of them, then there is nothing surprising in the fact that you want to return your beloved girl. What effective ways are there to get your soul mate back? It all depends on the current situation, and on whether the chosen one still has at least some feelings for you.
How to get your girlfriend back and restore your relationship
Make her fall in love again if she has fallen out of love
Often girls break off relationships, honestly admitting that they simply fell out of love. It is worth noting that in this case, not all is lost, and you are quite capable of trying to return old feelings or rekindle new positive emotions in your beloved. It is also important to mention that you have some advantage over possible competitors. During the period of your relationship, you probably managed to study the girl’s preferences, and you are well aware of her tastes and expectations on this or that matter. If you use the available information wisely, it will definitely work to your advantage.
Make you bored and arouse interest in yourself
It also happens that girls simply get “fed up” with relationships and get tired of them. However, such a situation can happen to any of the partners. Perhaps a similar thing happened to your beloved, and she decided to break up with you, although the situation could well have been corrected by an ordinary pause in the relationship. If such assumptions are true, then after some period the chosen one will certainly miss you and want to come back. You are quite capable of speeding up this process. Many guys make a mistake, and in this situation they start calling their ex, trying to make her feel sorry, begging for some kind of chance, and the like. You need to do something completely different - completely disappear from her field of vision. At first, to your chagrin, she is unlikely to be sad - if she is tired of the relationship, then at first she will enjoy freedom. However, some period will pass, and she will begin to wonder where you disappeared to, and how your life is shaping up after breaking up with her. You must be prepared for this moment: let the girl see not a suffering guy, but a completely successful young man with new interesting hobbies and plans.
I want to get my ex and her love back
Get your ex back after a long breakup
It is worth noting that after a long breakup, in most cases it is easier to get your girlfriend back than after a recent breakup. However, there is a certain condition - during this period your life should have changed for the better. Do not hope that after a while you will return the girl by pressing pity. This is more relevant immediately after saying goodbye, but not months or even years later. If she sees that you have made some progress in some areas, then your chances of winning her back will increase significantly. Time has passed, emotions have subsided, and now you both can soberly assess your mistakes and discuss them. Most likely, you understand that your beloved was not happy with you before. You've had time to correct these shortcomings, and now you have every chance to show it to the girl. If it's currently available, then you'll probably get a chance to make things right. But we repeat that you must show your best side.
If she fell out of love or found someone else
If your chosen one has another man in her life, then, most likely, only time or some serious “compromising evidence” on her opponent will help you. However, you should understand that if the relationship was bad, or categorically did not suit your chosen one, then your chances are low or will appear only after some drastic changes. Now the girl is probably going through a candy-bouquet period, and is unlikely to want to return to a relationship that brought her grief. You can only hope that over time your opponent will relax and begin to pay less attention to the girl, and then you will try to win her again with renewed vigor.
Which I abandoned myself
If you recently abandoned your significant other, then most likely it will not be difficult for you to return your beloved girl. Surely, now she is worried about what happened, and hopes that you will come to your senses and be together again. However, if you have already severed all ties a long time ago, then it is possible that the period of suffering is behind you, emotions and feelings have cooled down, and now you are not of particular importance to her. Moreover, it may be that because of the unpleasant moments she experienced, she now feels hostility towards you. In this situation, you need to apologize, say that you made a mistake and regret your action. Ask for a chance. In this case, it would be appropriate to organize some kind of romantic surprise for the chosen one.
Advice from a psychologist will help you renew your feelings
One of the most obvious tips for rekindling your feelings is to remember how it all started for you. What events and actions on your part caused special awe and delight on the part of your chosen one. Often the problem can be solved by resuming the candy-bouquet period.
Most often, problems arise from a lack of attention from one of the partners. If you understand that this is about you, then you have the power to correct the situation if the girl is really dear to you.
How to regain the trust and affection of the girl you love
Lost trust is more difficult to regain than to gain it in the initial stages of dating. However, since it has already happened that trust on the part of the chosen one has been lost, then in order to resume a harmonious relationship you will have to try a lot. Let her know that the situation that caused her to lose her affection will not be repeated in the future. It would also be a good idea to ask the girl what specific actions on your part will help restore trust. And yet, be prepared for the fact that if you ask such a question, you will still have to fulfill the requirements or wishes of your beloved.
How to appease your beloved after a long separation or quarrel
Perhaps you were separated from your girlfriend for some period due to a quarrel or for some other reason. In this case, it is worth renewing communication with a pleasant surprise or event. You are quite capable of organizing any of the following.
Give a bouquet of gorgeous flowers to make her come back
Many men simply underestimate the power that flowers have over women's hearts. You can often hear a young man talk about how impractical such a gift is, and often hear words of approval from the girl in response. Moreover, in fact, it is quite difficult to meet a girl who would not be pleased with such a surprise. Yes, perhaps we can say that a bouquet of gorgeous flowers is impractical. But how beautiful it is! Every time a girl's gaze falls on a vase with your flowers, a smile will appear on her face and she will think about you in a positive way. Of course, the chosen one understands that the flowers will wither in a few days, and at the same time a lot of money was spent on them. However, girls see this as a significant advantage: you spared no expense in making her happy. Plus, women love flowers!
Spell for a gift or book
Thinking about how to appease a girl after a long breakup, young people are ready to resort to various tricks. Often it comes to magical rituals. If you are completely desperate and are sure that this is the only way to achieve what you want, then choose one of the most suitable rituals on the Internet. There are many portals about white magic, with the help of which you can charm any gift. According to information on the same portals, after such a conspiracy, the owner of the gift will experience only the most positive feelings towards you.
Arrange a romantic evening to forgive
A very effective method that will be appreciated by many representatives of the fair sex. This is true both at the initial stage of a relationship and if we are talking about living together. Perhaps, in the second option, this is even more appropriate - when living together, cooking mainly falls on the women’s shoulders and, for sure, the girl will be glad if one of the dinners is completely organized by you. You can arrange this right at home by cooking or ordering delicious food and decorating the room with candles and flowers. You can also invite your beloved to a cozy restaurant. It is advisable to make sure that the matter is not limited to dinner. Give her flowers, invite her to a romantic movie, take her for a walk through the city at night, or provide her with her own massage session, having prepared in advance everything she needs for a relaxing procedure.
Meeting after a long separation
Sometimes life situations force you to part with your loved ones for a long time. But every separation must end. Far from each other, you had to go through a lot, and now that cherished day of meeting has come. Various feelings begin to overcome you: fear, joy, excitement, anxiety. My head is spinning with thoughts of what the relationship will be like after a long separation.
First of all, immerse yourself in the most unpleasant chores. Do some spring cleaning and prepare an unforgettable dinner. And most importantly, don't forget to get yourself in order.
Meeting after a long separation is a big and joyful holiday. You should be in a beautiful outfit, with perfect makeup and a dazzling smile. Your loved one must be amazed by your beauty. Worries carry one important detail: time will fly by, and before you know it, you’ll be in the arms of your chosen one. Without doing anything, just looking at the clock, time will last forever. Unnecessary worries will only spoil the joy of the meeting.
It is possible that a long separation can lead to primary alienation. You are unaccustomed to touching, from living together. There is nothing wrong with this, after a certain period of time everything will return to its place. Surely each of you has changed in some way and alienation sometimes only brings benefits.
You will begin to get to know each other again and your relationship will only become stronger and more interesting.
Let the man know that you love him and have been waiting for him. Make your time together gentle and warm. Every man unconsciously experiences fear of a new meeting, so your every gesture, kisses, smile on your face, hugs - all of this is of great importance.
To make the relationship strong and passionate after a long and lengthy separation, you must put all your imagination into organizing a meeting. Decorate the house with various decorations, inflate balloons. Do everything that makes a man feel important in your life. You can be at home waiting for your chosen one or meet him on the platform or airport. The main thing is that he feels happy and desired.
You can make some unexpected surprise. In the eyes of women, men try to appear serious, but despite this, everyone has their own weakness, which can be revealed during a romantic situation. Give your loved one a surprise that will surprise him and remember him for a lifetime.
Meeting a loved one after a long and very long separation must necessarily be accompanied by a delicious dinner. The table should be amazing, and the dinner truly festive.
After you meet, as a rule, nothing around you interests you except yourself and your attraction to each other. Only feelings and emotions remain, focusing all attention only on the partner. Appearance is one of the most important elements in anticipation of a meeting.
It is important that your loved one understands that separation has made you even more desirable and beautiful. After a long break, the attraction to each other and excitement will be very strong. The bed should be prepared in advance in a romantic style. The bedroom contains erotic toys, various goodies and drinks, everything that contributes to a comfortable pastime.
During further communication, ask how he lived without you, what he did, how he spent his time. Be sure to pay attention to his trip. With all your appearance and actions, you must show that his return home is the great happiness that you have dreamed of for so long.
The man you love needs to be happy. Your cheerful mood is the first sign of love. Rejoice at your man and be happy!
How to make peace with a girl if she doesn't want to
Of course, the hardest thing is to make peace with a person who absolutely does not want to reconcile, but if you are patient and make every effort, then it is likely that you will be able to achieve the desired goal.
What to write in SMS if she ignores
The girl avoids meetings and does not answer phone calls? Write her an SMS - at least out of curiosity, she will probably read your message. Write to her that you are very sorry that you do not have the courage to talk in person. Make sure you understand her offense and that you think she’s absolutely right. It should also be added that you do not want to repeat past mistakes and believe that the two of you can have a happy and harmonious future. Conclude that you are willing to put in all the effort necessary to achieve this.
What to say in person or on the phone
If you still have the opportunity to talk with your chosen one on the phone or in person, then the main thing in this case is not to make serious mistakes. What are we talking about first? Since your goal is to make peace with the lady of your heart, and not to worsen your situation, do not forget about the basic nuances. There should be no aggression or dissatisfaction in your voice and gestures - your beloved will involuntarily wish to end such a conversation as soon as possible. Undoubtedly, having decided to dialogue with you, she hopes that it will be constructive and balanced. Excessive emotions can only do harm. Since you are now faced with a difficult situation, show your chosen one that in such cases you prefer not to panic, but to take a reasonable and thoughtful approach to solving difficulties.
How to behave after forgiveness or rejection
Having achieved forgiveness from your chosen one, show her that it was not in vain. First of all, try to avoid repeating those mistakes that previously harmed your love. Try to support your beloved, pay attention to her, and return to the delights of the candy-bouquet period. However, it is also important not to overdo it in this situation - not to fawn too much, for example. Behave naturally, but do not return to past mistakes - the main rule.
Having heard a firm refusal from your beloved, have the courage to accept it. Talk to her, ask if she is sure that there is nothing you can do to change her mind. If your chosen one answers you that reconciliation is still impossible, you should retreat. Say that you are very sorry that everything happened this way, and for some time you will still hope that her decision will change, but you see no point in continuing to annoy her with your requests for reconciliation, since she is so categorical. Say goodbye on a positive note, this can give you “bonuses” later - for example, when you say goodbye, give a bouquet of flowers.
Meeting after a long separation
The daughter asked her mother what she was thinking about. The mother, freezing in place and looking out the window, replied that her thoughts were completely absorbed in memories of the distant and wonderful past.
The woman recalled how fate separated her from the young man she loved. There were a lot of tears and suffering. It seemed to her that life had stopped. The woman stopped being interested in everything. She withdrew into herself and distanced herself from the world around her. Many thought that she was seriously ill and was trying to hide her illness.
The romantic lovers broke up because her parents were against such a relationship. Mom and dad took the unfortunate girl to the village, away from the city. And they locked it with a huge padlock so that she could not escape to her beloved. Mary was waiting for parental softening and blessing. She waited a long time, but the best moment in her life never came.
They wanted, as in ancient times, to marry her to a man whom they themselves chose. And they managed to achieve this. Her parents hoped that family life would help her forget what should not be in her life.
The daughter learned from her mother that she still cannot get her past love out of her head. And she respects and loves her father with a completely different love, similar to strong affection. My daughter was surprised and asked a question: “Mommy, where do you keep your memories so that they don’t hurt you?” “I keep them deep in my heart!” - answered the woman, tears already appearing on her cheeks.
Lisa learned from her mother (Maria) that she believed in the “power” of the heart. She always believed that only this organ would “lead” her to a long-awaited date with her beloved. My daughter, having learned about such a difficult situation, also sincerely wished that her mother would meet this “person of yesteryear.”
Kindred spirits (mother and daughter) talked about everything and went to bed. In the morning, the daughter told her mother: “You will see him very soon, because our desires are woven together!” Lisa's mom smiled back and went about her business.
After half an hour, my heart began to beat somehow strangely and especially. The woman knew that it was worth waiting for changes. And half an hour later she saw the man she had so dreamed of seeing. Her eyes sparkled with joy, she wanted to run to meet him. But the man took the first step. And from that moment everything went differently. The husband understood, forgave, and left. And the woman who wanted to enjoy real female happiness finally found it. She was helped by the “heart” strength in which she believed so much. She was also “saved” by her daughter’s faith. Take care of your family and friends so that miracles happen more often!
One couple (he and she) met in a deserted alley. This meeting happened completely by chance. The guy and the girl were incredibly happy with each other. They kissed passionately, hugged tenderly, chatted tirelessly (about everything under the sun). Then they exchanged phone numbers and parted ways, promising that they would definitely call each other. They knew nothing at all about each other...
The second couple met in a warm and cozy small pizzeria. They had not seen each other for a very long time, so the words were reflected in their eyes: “Do you remember...”. They talked, talked, talked... And they were not at all embarrassed by the pauses that sometimes “slipped” in their sweet conversation. Pauses were a wonderful decoration for conversation. It seemed that the happiness of being with each other would last forever. But the light rain involuntarily reminded them of upcoming and unfinished business. They cried when they parted, but consoled themselves that they would meet again when the “right” time came. But in their hearts they knew that this would never happen again. They knew a lot about each other...
And the third couple collided in the elevator (completely unexpectedly). They instantly recognized each other, despite the fact that they had not seen each other for more than eight years. They stood silent and looked at each other intently. They noticed absolutely no one! The girl and the guy treated the “visitors” of the elevator with great indifference. They were very busy "glaring" at each other. The couple did not utter a single word, but these people knew everything about each other...
And they promised the tree that they would definitely return to it to talk, to tell about what was happening in the world... The oak tree joyfully rustled its leaves and wished good people a happy journey.
Three friends traveled for a long time across the land, warmed by the gentle sun. We saw a lot, heard a lot. And they remembered the miracle - the tree, which was also looking forward to meeting them.
The tree greeted its new acquaintances. They talked for a long time. People didn’t even notice how they fell asleep right under the tree. They were awakened by the sun's rays so that the friends would once again make a choice (where to go on their way).
I broke up with my girlfriend after cheating, how to get her back quickly
Renewing feelings after betrayal is not easy, but if you set yourself such a goal, then, of course, you will be able to do it. However, some nuances should be taken into account.
She left for someone else
This situation is one of the most difficult. If the girl has already decided to leave for another man, then, apparently, she really was not at all happy with your relationship. Usually, it is difficult for women to decide on serious changes in their personal lives, and they think carefully about this step. You can correct the situation if the girl has not yet really started a relationship with your rival (they only recently met, they had a single affair) or if this relationship has lasted quite a long time. Your chances of “taking away” your beloved from your opponent are lowest during the period when their candy-bouquet period is in full swing. If it has already come to this, then it is better for you to temporarily step aside and wait for the mistake of her new chosen one. And yet, we repeat that it is better not to lead to a serious relationship with another man. In this case, you have to do a lot of work on yourself. If she left you for someone else, it means that someone like you doesn’t suit her, and you need to change in some directions (new job, clothing style, hobbies, etc.).
I cheated with another woman
If the betrayal occurred recently, then, in general, you have considerable chances that the girl will still return to you. She has not yet gotten used to the idea that you have broken up, and, most likely, she wants everything to be as before, no matter what. However, it may also be that now the girl is very angry with you and is experiencing a whole range of negative emotions. Be that as it may, as long as emotions are running high, your chances are high. Write a letter to your beloved in which she should see lines of repentance. Apologize to the person dear to your heart, say that you made a big mistake, and never repeat it again. Ask her to give you a chance to prove that you don't need anyone else. It is better to attach the letter to a luxurious bouquet. Leave flowers near her door at the most appropriate moment or send them by courier. A few hours later or the next day, meet the girl. You don't have to make an appointment - arrange a spontaneous meeting. During this time, your chosen one will have the opportunity to think carefully about your words and make a decision.
Loyalty issues
What pitfalls can there be when meeting after a long breakup? Even if you and your loved one communicated a lot via Skype or phone, issues of jealousy and fidelity may still be raised. If you had sins “on the left front” and you regret it, then try to keep this secret for him, so that the first happy day does not turn out to be the last. If there is nothing to hide, then happiness to you and your beloved, and may separation never affect you again.
How to meet your loved one after a long separation?
As a rule, girls always think in advance about the moment when they need to meet their loved one after a long breakup. In the first few minutes of meeting, it is important for a man to understand that his girlfriend was really waiting, so the conversation should be started gently, without worry, with interest, accompanied by gentle kisses.
It is important to express all those feelings that have been sitting inside for a long time. To make the meeting unforgettable, you can meet your loved one with something unusual, for example, stand out from the crowd with a lot of bright ribbons, balloons, bouquets of flowers, you can also write his name on a poster, let him know that he is the best and long-awaited. The house also needs to be decorated in an unusual style so that the guy can see how they were waiting for him and taking care of every little thing. You can place candles in the rooms, add wine, fruits, intimate accessories and much more unusual things that will simply delight a man.
You can also organize a surprise for him, order a special event, arrange a show, and so on. The man will obviously be very happy, as a result of which the intimacy will be unforgettable. He will feel like a newborn, young, beautiful, full of strength, hope and joy. Another important part when meeting after a long separation is the intimate bed of lovers; it needs to be made unique.
Is it worth getting back together after a breakup - advice
Immediately after breaking up with their beloved, many guys strive to renew the broken connection. It is painful and difficult for them to get used to their new status, and it seems that it is better to return to how it was (even if it was not very good) than to suffer now. Also, some understand that relationships are impossible for a number of reasons, but still try to renew them in order to delay the separation a little more, to “prepare themselves.” Of course, you must understand that all this is futile and is a common waste of time. Although, of course, there are exceptions.
When to return feelings
In general, everything was fine with you in many areas - there were no problems in your intimate life, you had similar views on spending time together, you always tried to find a compromise, understood and supported each other. The separation occurred due to some incident that, in general, could have been avoided. If not for this situation, then you could say that your relationship was almost ideal, and it would not be easy for you to achieve such harmony again with another person.
When is the best time to stop?
Dissatisfaction with each other accumulated over a long period. You did not see eye to eye on any issues, and neither of you expressed any particular desire to make concessions. In general, you understood that such a union did not suit you, and you could not call yourself a happy person when you were next to this woman. After breaking up, you begin to think that perhaps you could still fix something, that you should have given up some principles or beliefs, even if you categorically did not want to. In this situation, it is really better to endure it now, in order to later give yourself a chance to find harmony with a person who will have more similar views with you than your ex. Most likely, now your attachments are talking, but over time you will only be glad that everything turned out this way and not in any other way. Try to give yourself time and move on to something else or someone else. If you only think about the past, then you will not give yourself a chance to change your life for the better. Some period will pass, and perhaps fate will really bring you together again, but for a harmonious relationship, you both will have to go through serious changes, which time will tell. But, most likely, you will simply finally realize that this person is not a match for you, and your separation was natural and natural.
How to meet your loved one after a long separation
Let him know that you were waiting for him and still adore him, despite the breakup. What matters is not what you say to a man, but how you behave when you meet him. Open arms, a smile on the face, tight hugs, passionate kisses, beloved eyes at close range, the smell of hair - everything matters. Show your man tender feelings and warmth.
Inflate a huge number of heart balloons to meet him at the airport or on the platform. Let your loved one from afar see you in the crowd. Ask your friends to organize a flash mob with posters with a greeting and his name written on it. This way the man will feel his importance.
Decorate your home with festive decorations and flowers. The chosen one will definitely like such attention, he will feel welcome and happy.
When preparing for a meeting, pay attention to your appearance. Get a pedicure, manicure, hairstyle, waxing, put on beautiful lingerie. Your loved one must understand that during the separation you have not changed, except that you have become prettier. In front of him is still the same beautiful and gentle woman whom he remembers.
A couple's sexual appetite is usually high after a long separation. Stock your bedroom with drinks and goodies, your favorite erotic toys. Set up a romantic bed for a comfortable time so you can enjoy each other.
How to behave after separation?
When talking about the first meeting, I mean not only physical contact, but communication - by phone or correspondence. The last option is actually not the best, since you can’t express everything in a very short message. Besides, she may not answer you, and you won’t know her reaction, so it’s best to just call. And if everything goes as it should, then it will be possible to prepare the first meeting after the breakup. So, let’s look at where to start, point by point:
- first of all, it is better if there is really a reason for calling, for example, some common business of your friends. But when there is no reason to postpone the call for a long time, it is also not worth it. But you shouldn’t come up with virtual reasons for it. And if she suddenly asks why you called, you must honestly admit that you just wanted to;
- but before the call, be sure to prepare, because you will have to demonstrate in a short conversation how you have changed. And your call is a kind of bait to interest her
. And therefore, what you will talk about needs to be calculated in advance as much as possible. Remember what interesting things happened to you during the time she wasn’t with you, or just remember cool stories that should interest her. It's good to have the opportunity to practice how you speak to other girls. Notice for yourself where they laugh, ask leading questions and show interest in you, and where they begin to turn away, change the subject, or even yawn demonstratively. If your story causes a similar effect, then you shouldn’t tell it to your ex. How to conduct a conversation? Start with routine questions, but then immediately move on to one of the stories. And if she laughs and starts asking questions, then everything will go as it should; - It’s important to be on time and demonstrate changes for the better, but mere words won’t help here. First, you must clearly understand why you broke up. And there may be one or several reasons for this, for example, her needs were not met, the balance of importance was skewed in her direction, interest was lost, or you simply did not live up to her expectations.
Meeting after a breakup: how to behave
Next, we will go over these points in more detail, because correcting mistakes and learning to prevent them from happening again is much more important than the ability to beautifully tell stories and anecdotes over the phone.
- So, you really want her back, and you are very worried about your breakup. Whatever the official reason for your separation, an undeniable factor is the balance of significance skewed in its direction. And this means that you need to slightly tip the scales in your direction, that is, show your importance and self-sufficiency, as well as independence from whether she is in your life or not. But she will have to not only tell it, but eventually prove it. And it would be good for you to really start a new hobby, for example, or learn to ride a wakeboard, start traveling, or simply find a new interesting or meaningful job that you can be proud of. The main thing is to show that you are really interested in this, that you like doing it and being your new self. And then she will want to become part of this new life for you.
- Loss of interest is a little different, but it is “treated” in the same way. As a rule, the girl leaves, so you stop being as cool and interesting as when you met
. It’s just that this is no longer so important for you, you thought that you had won her and you could calmly spend time on the couch in front of the TV, but for her it turns out that this still matters. This means we need to make sure that this interest returns. Do something nice for your girlfriend. - It is much worse if we are talking about unjustified expectations. In this case, you will really have to invest in the relationship, because you definitely won’t get away with empty conversations. You already managed to promise her mountains of gold, but you delivered little. Therefore, you will have to start taking real actions. But first, in a conversation, demonstrate your interest in her problems, remember specific details, show that you remember everything perfectly. And if you really managed to fix something, for example, you fixed a faucet in your apartment that had been dripping for a year, found a job, or gave up a bad habit, casually hint to her about it in a conversation. In fact, this problem is so commonplace in relationships that few guys even notice it. And it all starts with the fact that you simply start paying less attention to her. She asks you to do something, but you consider it insignificant and often put it off until later. Everything comes to the point that she is already expressing complaints against you, but you brush it off even more, because you consider this to be a woman’s brainwashing. And such ignoring of you sooner or later ends with them getting into their heads the idea that you no longer value or love her, and your relationship is over. It’s even worse if at the same time you really mess up.
Before you meet a girl after a long separation, you need to think through everything carefully.
The same telephone conversation, for example, should not be delayed. So, the first conversation should not last more than ten minutes - it is important for you to have time to interest the girl in you, and not go to the stage of snot and long stories like “how I missed you” and “remember how we had with you.” She must constantly miss you in the conversation. Therefore, next time call only after a week, and continue the conversation for another five minutes, and so on. But don’t delay calling - two or three weeks and you can already offer to meet. Nothing official: no flowers and expensive restaurants with fanfare. In the summer it will be just a walk in the park, and in the cold season and gatherings in a cozy cafe. The first meeting should also not be long - an hour at most. But how to leave if she obviously shows interest and wants communication? Just arrange with a friend to call you at a certain time and urgently summon the guy to work.
It is also important to behave correctly at the first meeting: to show that you are coping well without her, but you are still interested in her. But, under no circumstances, do not show that you are very sad, otherwise you will immediately lose significance for her and a promising date will turn into a meeting with a friend after a long separation.
Much depends on how you behaved during the breakup, what you said and did. However, most often everything happens on emotions, and therefore not many even think about how to behave when breaking up with a girl. But the answer is simple: you must always respect yourself and her, and remain human. And then there are always prospects to fix everything.
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Separation is a nasty thing. During a long separation, all thoughts and feelings follow the loved one. It is impossible to concentrate on anything - neither at work nor at study, evenings and holidays become dull and tiring, and there is only one desire - he would soon return to be with him. You count down the days: there is a month, a week, a day left. An involuntary “jitter” begins: how to meet your man after everything you both have experienced? Let's figure out what he was really missing.
In the modern world, long separations are not felt as much as they used to be. Previously, there were only letters with a huge delay or expensive long-distance conversations for about three minutes, when you are trying to say something, but your thoughts are confused. Meeting after such a separation was a huge stress: there was not enough to see, not enough to talk about—everyone was excited.
It’s easier now: with the advent of mobile phones, the Internet and, most importantly, Skype, even during a long separation there is no acute feeling of missing a loved one. Conversations last for hours, and when we meet, there seems to be nothing to say: in daily conversations everything is clear. But there are, of course, exceptional cases: for example, if your man was in places not so remote, or served in the army. And now everything is possible.
So, what will your loved one miss when they meet? Absolutely what you want - touch and body smell. That is why, when meeting, they hug and kiss for a long time. So, when going to the train station or the airport, be sure to put on his favorite perfume, even if you “change perfume like gloves.” From the first moment of meeting, your loved one should catch the native aroma - this excites and at the same time calms. If you suddenly have tears of happiness, don’t be shy about it - many men are even touched by such manifestations of feelings.
Hugs and long kisses. At the station, of course, it is impossible to express all desires: there is a crush, and not everyone can suppress the embarrassment of showing tenderness in public. Some confusion and bustle at the station is followed by a trip home (usually by car). There, of course, you can also find it difficult to relax, but tactile sensations can continue: hugs, touching hands. This is how you can express to each other all the hardships of the past separation. As you can see, you don’t need much in the first minutes of a meeting. Even if your man came to you without flowers, it doesn’t matter to a truly loving heart whether he gave them or not. And did he have the opportunity to buy them somewhere along the way?
Your scent and touch are what your lover has been missing for a long time.
The meeting does not end with just the station. It generally lasts the whole day and the first evening. And if during the day you are caught up in the everyday routine (work, study), then the evening should definitely be just for the two of you. Again, the exception is the “resting place” after forced separations - the same army or “zone”. There is no way to get rid of the guy's friends and family. Well, what can you do - just be next to him.
Many people advise preparing dinner by candlelight, making something delicious and then gradually moving on to bed. But who will withstand this sequence if intimacy comes first for lovers, and when left alone they want to fall into bed from the doorway? It is for this case that you need to prepare differently:
- cold cuts, fruits, snacks, salads and champagne are already in the refrigerator, and for hot items you can order pizza.
- It is advisable to place a table for a feast by the bed - there will be no time for ceremonies.
