Rules and deviations
There is one rule: if a girl and a young man have been dating for some time, she reciprocates, and he is in love, the proposal to register the marriage must supposedly arrive within 4 months after meeting. . . Realizing that he is ready for life in marriage and is responsible for his actions, he proposes to the girl.
This rule also applies to relationships in which the guy is not yet ready to get married. Didn't get to his feet. . If the girl reciprocates, the marriage will take place later. For example, when she gets pregnant. In the modern world, getting married is “in position”.
There are exceptions to all rules. A certain number of men, according to statistics, propose almost within a week after meeting. - his soulmate, and she reciprocates his feelings; in most cases, the relationship results in marriage. Not all such alliances are strong. Why? The answer to this question lies in one more thing: ? Despite any arguments about love, early pregnancy and so on, it is very simple to answer even to yourself. When to get married? When I got to my feet:
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- Completed education, preferably higher education;
- An apartment, albeit a small one, or the opportunity to rent one.
Most men receive the rest while they are married. Gradually, a car, a summer house, and household goods are acquired. . . There are exceptions when mom and dad helped. Then the age of “fullness” is 20-25 years. .
Many, refusing to get married, ask the question, including to themselves: why is it so difficult with girls? “princes on a white horse”, and whether there are such, there are few and probably not enough for everyone. Marriage is a joint effort to build a nest, maintain love and fidelity. .
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72-year-old Evgeny Petrosyan and 29-year-old Tatyana Brukhunova. Image: Personal archive
As a practical girl, I was always worried about one question. Why do older men marry women much younger than themselves, support them, bring them into society? Please do not offer the answer “because they can.” I am interested in the motives, and specifically on the part of the man. From a woman’s perspective, everything is clear - money, connections, and sometimes just a roof over her head. But why should a man?
A young body at your side? But, have mercy, there is enough such goodness in every sauna, especially since it only needs to be done once a month. You can pay one-time instead of purchasing a subscription. It's cheaper than maintaining a young wife. So, we are not talking about pleasures. This version does not stand up to criticism simply for reasons of economy.
Should he go out into society with a spectacular woman? So there is an escort service. That is, precisely accompaniment, and not what is called this word today. He paid and went out with a premium woman. Again cheaper than raising a whole cow for a glass of milk.
One can, of course, assume another cynical version. That, they say, a man requires the services of a nurse and nurse. But this, again, is a very flimsy excuse - after all, you can hire a specialist so that your children do not later share the inheritance with the young widow. Again, both benefits and savings.
69-year-old Boris Grachevsky and 33-year-old Ekaterina Belotserkovskaya
The only thing you cannot get from a prostitute, nurse or escort is confirmation that you are still oh-so-ho. And one that everyone would know about. Well, don’t go to a brothel with a hidden camera, really. It's funny and they can beat you up.
With an escort, everything is clear to everyone, too. She may already be making her 300th lap around Moscow with various gentlemen. Her red curls have already become familiar.
And you can’t present the nurse to anyone. Just think, an elderly person needs care.
But a wife, especially a pregnant one, or a secret wedding that the whole world will talk about is a completely different matter. Immediately rumors, gossip, discussions.
Like, maybe it’s still a male! Look at him, he's hanging out with young girls! This is what the man gave! WOO!
You know, you don’t mind spending any money on this!
Important points
When should a guy get married? Only if he is ready to get married, is ready to live together with the woman he loves, and she reciprocates his feelings. When a girl, in response to a proposal, says: “Isn’t it too early?”, “Wow, are you sure?”, “Do you really need this?”, “Do you need marriage?”, “Don’t you feel sorry for yourself?”, “Do you Are you tired of making borscht yourself?”, “?”, “Tell yourself the truth, you’re just tired of going to cafes.” You can immediately draw conclusions that the lady does not love, she has someone else, or the girl is pursuing other goals in life. The reasons for this are simple - she does not want to live together.
Giving an answer to the question of when to get married, many psychologists argue about the presence of a stable social status. Others remember the age range, talking about years in the range of 27-30. . 30 was considered too late. .
. In most cases, every girl strives to get an education, get on her feet, and be independent from anyone, even if she gets married. It turns out that the lion's share of women are in no hurry to get married. . And here, even if the guy is ready and wants to register the marriage, it will be impossible to force her.
At what age is it better for a man to get married?
Men don't dream about marriage as much as girls. Believe me, many guys don’t care how their wedding goes, the main thing for them is the result and their future married life. Men don't run to the registry office with the first girl they come across. They carefully think through their decisions, down to the smallest detail, unlike many women. A man will always find someone who can cook borscht and wash his socks, even without a fancy wedding. A man will be able to get married at the age of 40, but a woman at 40 and 50 years old will be too old for a wedding, so girls want to quickly get married before the age of 30, because they understand that no one will need them, because there are so many young and young ladies.
It’s easier for men, women will say. But no, it is much more difficult for the male sex, because a man must be protection and support, and he must also be the head of the family, provide for his family and earn good money. This is why many men do not strive to get married, because they understand that this is a great responsibility that falls on them after the wedding. As statistics show, men mostly get married at the age of 25-30; by this time they have already graduated from university, joined the army and got a well-paid job. And only when a man is truly wealthy will he offer his hand and heart to his beloved.
Of course, there are cases when very young guys at 18-20 years old get married. Well, what do they have behind them? Finished school, college? And what can he give to his family? After all, the guys themselves are still practically children.
But as statistics show, early marriages at the age of 18-20 quickly break up, since young people are not yet ready for this. And the guys are not ready and do not want to take on greater responsibility to their family.
The most suitable age for marriage is 30 years old; by this age a man is already ripe for starting a family. At the age of 30, he will be able to provide for his family and give a lot to his wife and children. He will become a support and protection for the whole family. Of course, a wedding and all its ceremonies are not as important for men as they are for a woman who worries about everything. The main thing for men is their future life with a woman whom he will call his wife and who will become the mother of his children. He is looking for the one who will sit at home and cook borscht. Any man loves coziness and comfort in his home, which will be made by his beloved woman. Men do not rush to the registry office, because they understand that this is a great responsibility that will rest on his male shoulders.
And what about love?
Whatever conclusions psychologists make regarding married life and marriageable age, this is not the logic of men. A family is born only when a girl and a guy love each other, and deeply. Only love is the guarantee of a happy life together. She encourages men to do noble deeds, and women to reciprocate. The reasons for happy unions lie only in mutual understanding, trust, and respect. .
. When a guy says to himself: “You’re already over 30, and you’re not married,” “It was time for you to get married a couple of years ago,” these are already the first steps towards a conscious perception of reality. But it’s impossible to force him to propose or even say the word “I love you” if the guy doesn’t really want to get married. Many people think that they can force it by pregnancy or by reporting it. . In rare cases, especially if the guy is not responsible for his actions, the union “overnight” becomes strong and the husband wants to save the family and falls in love with his passion again. .
So, the reasons why a guy wants to get married, telling himself and his lady about love, fidelity, endless respect, are simple. Love and happiness have arrived. It is impossible to make a person fall in love. When a lady reciprocates, hopes for a long and strong union, everything will be fine. There is no single established age for starting a family for a man. .
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Keeping a family together without love is a very common phenomenon. But it’s a completely different thing to create a family without love, because there, from the very beginning, the person is a complete stranger. That is, in general.
You can’t live without love at all! Well, or you have to be some kind of completely calculating and insensitive log, so that you can CREATE a family without love. KEEPING a family without love - yes, this is a very common phenomenon. After all, even not the smartest, if they don’t understand, then at least feel: it’s difficult to just pick up and leave a person with whom you’ve lived for several years. Especially if she didn’t do anything bad to you, but the feelings just ended.
What can I say - even if it was bad, it’s still not easy to leave. Not a stranger after all. But it’s a completely different thing to create a family without love, because there, from the very beginning, the person is a complete stranger. That is, in general. Now, if we have love, passion and fire, then this stranger instantly becomes dearest and closest to us. It seems to us that we have always known each other, and at the same time it is difficult to understand why we did not meet earlier. However, it doesn’t matter now that the stars have aligned, we are in love, and the world belongs to us. We have an explosion of passion that replaces reason for us! Although even in such a state of euphoria, even a very much in love man does not always dream of starting a family, much less having children with his beloved. They have love - why ruin everything right away?
However, there are several situations when a man can actually agree to marriage without feelings corresponding to this event. Something like this, the further the further, the more cynical:
1. At first there was passion. Then she went somewhere with him, but she could no longer live without him. And he is so soft and he feels sorry for her. And she uses it skillfully. Or she doesn’t use it skillfully and doesn’t use it, but I still feel sorry for her and how can I leave her now, especially if she’s pregnant. Maybe the feeling will return later, who knows? And then, she’s good - how can I leave her?
2. It took me a long time to fall in love. Here, of course, it’s not crazy passion either, but it seems good together. Calmly. Better than alone. Maybe this is real happiness?
3. We are both no longer young. It's becoming more and more difficult for us to let anyone near us. And in general, we have a lot in common with her, and sex is no longer so important.
4. Yes, there is no love. But she is so caring! Such a hostess! And how he cooks! And as the poet said, “love comes and goes, but you always want to eat.”
5. What does love have to do with it when she has such a business and such a dad? Yes, not a beauty, but basically nothing. And then I’ll get someone for love.
6. What kind of love is it if we are both gay? We're just friends. But in our tolerant country, of course, it’s easier for us to seem like a married couple.
Of course, you can talk to your friends and add fifty more reasons. But in my humble but deep conviction there is no need to create a family without love. Even if you have wanted to get married for a very long time, such a marriage is unlikely to add happiness to you. You will always feel that he does not love you, suffer and continue to dream of someone who will love you. Then it’s better to search further, more actively, and eventually find the one. Happy hunting and mutual love!
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