What is petting

Modern society is in a phase when representatives of humanity begin to be aroused not so much by physical intimacy itself, but by emotional contact. This is precisely what determines the growing popularity of such a form of sexual activity as petting - the art of achieving a euphoric state without actual penetration. Modern society is in a phase when representatives of humanity begin to be aroused not so much by physical intimacy itself, but by emotional contact. This is precisely the reason for the growing popularity of such a form of sexual activity as petting - the art of achieving a euphoric state without actual penetration.

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What is petting?

Petting is a special type of sex that culminates in a deliberate orgasm. The “finish line” is achieved by partners through artificial stimulation of erogenous zones in the process of mutual contact.

The term “petting” is borrowed from English and literally translates as “tender caresses.” It is logical to assume that the course of bilateral contact in this case excludes direct contact of the genitals.

What experts in the field of sexology now call petting was widely practiced in the ancient period. For example, the skill of the priestesses working in the temples of love was judged by their ability to bring their lover and themselves to ecstasy without copulating or stimulating the genitals. Courtesans brought a man to the finish line with just one touch. Such a result could only be demonstrated by those who skillfully mastered the so-called evocation, that is, they knew which areas of the body were worth paying attention to. However, it was not enough just to know what to touch; the main thing was the technique of touching itself. In other words, petting in ancient times was a kind of energy massage.

Petting has always been closest to countries in which the female representative was required to remain a virgin until marriage. In this way, the girls satisfied their natural desire while remaining chaste.

Types of petting

If several centuries earlier lovers were limited to touching and kissing, modern petting has significantly expanded its boundaries in terms of the methods of arousal used. The technique of this type of sex is very diverse and is represented at several levels.

Deep petting

We are talking about the most intimate form of intimacy between partners. This type of petting is similar to traditional sexual intercourse. The lovers are completely naked, caressing each other's bodies, also touching the genitals. Partners do not ignore such forms of affection as blowjob and cunnilingus. However, most often in deep petting, alternative methods of delivering pleasure are used. Among them:

1. Breast caresses. According to statistics, almost 63% of representatives of the stronger half of society are in favor of breast stimulation during petting.
2. Moving your hips. During the manipulation, the man's penis rubs against the inner thighs, touching the woman's perineum.
3. Hand masturbation.

During deep petting, it is difficult for partners to restrain their passion and not turn to banal sex. You should caress each other progressively, slowly increasing the pace and increasing excitement.

Superficial petting

The main task of superficial petting is to bring your lover to orgasm without getting rid of his clothes. In this case, it is due to the fabric that the partner’s caress is perceived more vividly. Therefore, you should not be careless when choosing an outfit for a sexual meeting. Take into account:

• irreplaceable attributes of erotic images of partners - satin and silk;
• woolen fabrics are useful for enhancing the sensation of friction during deep petting;
• linen will come in handy in the heat - a sweaty body will look even more seductive.

The technique involved in superficial petting is not difficult. Preference is given to massage circular movements, imitation of sexual intercourse, close contact of the female buttocks with the male pubis. A very intimate “trick” is rubbing your cheek against your lover’s underwear.

Necking

This type of petting involves mutual caress of lovers in areas above the waist. Hands, lips, chest, neck, hair... and even eyelashes are used. In this case, it is especially important to pay attention to the partner’s erogenous zones.

Not everyone can feel the ecstasy at the end of caresses under such circumstances. Necking is more to the liking of the hypersexual part of society. However, this does not at all indicate the impossibility of achieving orgasm during this type of sex. It is only worth mentioning that necking “demonstrates results” if the partners have a pronounced attraction to each other and well-developed erogenous zones.

Kamasutra and petting

As mentioned earlier, representatives of humanity, even in ancient times, intended to find an unusual way of satisfaction in pastels. This fact is confirmed by many sexual treatises. One of the most recognizable is the Kama Sutra, which demonstrates a large number of sex positions. In the case of petting, you can use the light Kama Sutra technique, which eliminates direct penetration.

Sankha

For example, the Sankha technique is recognized as the most unusual. It involves the sexual union of lovers through hair. This type of sex is most acceptable if the partner has long, soft hair, which can be styled in a braid and imitate a woman’s vagina. According to statistics, Sankha in more than 70% of cases turned out to be a traumatic technique of intercourse (due to the inconvenience of positions and the possibility of injury to the penis by the partner’s hair).

Devabandha

An alternative and even more unusual technique, loved by both genders. According to her, a man directs his caresses to the ear of his chosen one. The partner’s main weapon in this case is his penis. Such actions bring mutual pleasure. This is not surprising: one of the most striking female erogenous zones is the ear.

If we look again at the statistics, we can conclude that the majority of women prefer petting (in its various forms), leaving traditional sex in the background. This choice of women is obvious. After all, it is the fair sex who often lack affection, foreplay and bodily pleasure during sexual intercourse. 51% of women are for receiving pleasure in the process of intimacy, and only 1% of women surveyed like to relieve stress through sex.

Why you should do petting

Can be practiced anywhere

Unlike penetrative caresses, petting is easy to try anywhere. In a cafe, cinema, dark corner of the park or fitting room booth.

It can be argued that people also have sex in public places for the thrill. But if you are seen during sexual intercourse, it will be at least unpleasant, and at maximum, you will be charged with the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation for indecent acts. Resolution of the Plenum of the Supreme Court of the Russian Federation of December 4, 2014 No. 16 “On judicial practice in cases of crimes against sexual integrity and sexual freedom of the individual”, for example, if children notice you. But kisses and hugs are unlikely to confuse anyone as much.

Petting is very diverse

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You can try a lot of options:

• light strokes on the back, arms, hips, buttocks;
• flip flops;
• pinching nipples, arms, thighs;
• bites (just don’t overdo it);
• passionate hugs and kisses;
• kisses of the neck, face, chest;
• sucking on the earlobe;
• partial undressing of the partner;
• heating erogenous zones with breathing and soft touching them;
• scratching the skin;
• licking;
• massage.

There may be other caresses, it all depends on the imagination of the partners.

Petting is safer than sex

Without penetration, the chance of contracting an STI or becoming pregnant is much lower. Only those who engage in deep petting and touch their partner’s genitals in the process are at risk. Microbes that cause sexually transmitted diseases are hidden Understanding Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) in semen, blood and vaginal secretions, and very rarely in saliva.

To make sure you are fully equipped, here are some simple recommendations:

• Wash your hands before petting.
• If you touch your partner's genitals, do not then touch yours and do not lick your fingers. After petting, wash your hands with soap.
• It is better to caress the penis with a condom, and the vagina through a latex napkin or a cut condom.
• When petting deeply, use lubricant to avoid chafing and microcracks.

This helps to recognize your partner's erogenous zones

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Many people don’t even think about the fact that caressing their fingers, earlobes, belly or inner thighs can bring unreal pleasure.

Everyone's erogenous zones are different. To really please your partner, you need to know them. It is possible to find them only in a practical way, because sometimes even their owner himself is not aware of some of them.

Please note that the same area of ​​the body responds differently to stimulation. For example, biting your nipples can cause discomfort, but lightly touching them with your lips and warming them with your breath does the opposite.

Suitable for those who are not yet ready for sex

If you are not sure about your partner or for some reason do not want to have sex with him yet, give preference to petting. This is an independent practice of Petting: what is it and what does it involve, and it does not have to end with penetration.

In addition, petting will allow you to get to know the person better. If, in response to affection, he immediately puts his hands in your pants, and you don’t want this, think about whether you need to continue such a relationship.

How to do petting correctly

The first task that faces people who decide to try themselves and their lover in non-contact sex is a thorough study of their own and their partner’s body. The essence of petting is similar to the concept of masturbation, although it is not equal to it, since both participate in sexual play. Therefore, it is very advisable to know the so-called erogenous girth of your lover’s body and to monitor your partner’s constantly changing erogenous points.

The main principle that should guide people when becoming interested in non-contact sex is mastery of techniques for stimulating erogenous zones and a continuous search for something new to diversify their sex life.

Female erogenous zones

Erogenous areas on a woman’s body are divided into two groups: upper and “below the waist.” With the latter, everything is more or less clear - they are grouped in one zone. But the first ones are individual for each representative of the fair sex. For example, one woman is delighted with stroking the ear, another will like kisses on the neck more. It is important to be observant here.

Almost all girls (and men too) like kissing on the lips, which results in a strong surge of excitement. Therefore, lips and tongue can be safely included in the group of the main sensitive areas of the lover’s upper body.

External erogenous zones below the waist in women are the labia minora, clitoris, inner thighs, butt, feet. The rest of the arsenal (G-spot, urethral area, etc.) are hidden, so they are not discussed in the case of contactless sex.

Male erogenous zones

A man is not much different from his chosen one in terms of erogenous zones. The same neck, lips, chest, nipple area, scalp, inner thigh, buttocks are on the list of “red” points.

The most sensitive areas of the male body undoubtedly include the penis, scrotum, and testicles. However, if we are talking about petting, it is better for the partner to hold off on actively caressing these areas in order to prolong the pleasure.

It’s very easy to navigate a man’s body - the closer the area is to the penis, scrotum and testicles, the more sensitive it is. Consequently, a woman’s attention, concentrated on the male body in the area below the belt, will provide her chosen one with vivid impressions.

The image above shows the results of a social survey for both genders. The respondents noted the areas of their body that were most sensitive to caresses.

Is it possible to get pregnant from petting?

Experts say that petting is the most reliable method of contraception. This statement is true for necking and light (superficial) petting, since it is physically impossible to get pregnant while caressing the upper body, as well as through clothing. For the fertilization process, it is necessary that the ejaculate reaches the cervix.

However, during deep petting, unwanted pregnancy is quite possible. Let's look at some options for unplanned fertilization and ways to protect against it.

• Ejaculate getting on the labia. In this case, you need to take a shower, but it is not recommended to point the watering can at the vagina, as sperm can get inside along with the water pressure.
• Sperm got on the man's hands. After this, you should not insert your fingers into the vagina, otherwise an unwanted pregnancy may become a reality. It is recommended to keep disinfectant wipes on your bedside table or table, which you can use to clean your hands and continue making love.
• If partners want to continue to please each other after orgasm, then the genitals should be treated with disinfectant wipes or take a shower.
• During anal sex, there is a chance that sperm will enter the vagina. Experts recommend using contraception.

Practical advice

If you want to do non-contact sex correctly, then you must know how to keep passion at a certain level, how to combine different actions in sex and how to show your lover his importance to you at this very time. Below are tips that both long-term partners and newly met lovers should heed:

1. If your plans include simply petting, never start caressing your lover after drinking a large amount of alcohol, as this can lead to traditional sex.
2. If you really don’t want to have contactless sex with a person, don’t try to force it – the process will not lead to a favorable result.
3. Kissing is an integral part of any type of petting technique. Therefore, if you do not like the kisses of your current partner, consider whether you should hope for an orgasm during mutual caresses without penetration. Perhaps you should give preference to traditional sex.
4. Try to always be gentle and tactful when talking with your chosen one. Carefully tell your lover about your preferences and what you don’t like about him. If you do this abruptly, the person may feel inferior and will never go on a “sexual adventure” with you again.

Eye contact

Catch your lover's gaze, you can barely smile at him (her) to demonstrate your readiness for joint caresses. Try leaning slightly towards your lover, running your hand through his hair or face and lightly kissing him on the lips. Such actions will provide a smooth establishment of contact and will predispose the young man or girl to further affection.

If you start showing attention to your partner suddenly and assertively, focusing on passion, everything can end in traditional sex. Eye contact should be as minimal as possible: just look at your lover for a few seconds.

Use your hands

Keeping your hands busy does not mean that you will tirelessly touch your chosen one. However, if you sit on your partner’s lap with your hands modestly folded, you are unlikely to experience pleasure from the kiss, and your lover will also feel uncomfortable. Move your hands over your chosen one's body, constantly changing their position. For example, during a kiss you can hug a man or woman by the neck, touch the scalp, touch the back, shoulders, chest. Girls love to be grabbed by the waist.

Activate your lips

Don't limit yourself to kissing on the lips. Vary the traditional kiss by caressing other parts of the body. Remove yourself from your lover's lips and move slowly, activating other erogenous zones. If you rush too much, your sexual partner will not understand your intentions and will not have time to enjoy the caresses before your lips immediately return to his nose.

Gently kiss the corner of your mouth and down your jawline. You can move to your lover's temple or litter his forehead with kisses. You cannot ignore your chosen one’s neck: touch this erogenous zone with your lips, linger in the area of ​​the earlobe.

Biting

If you gently bite your lover on the neck, earlobe or lower lip, you can enjoy watching a wave of pleasure wash over him or her. Don’t be afraid to show your attention in this way, even if you haven’t known your lover for very long - such an attempt is definitely justified.

Do not forcefully bite various parts of your lover’s body. Lightly bite your lower lip, earlobe, neck, evaluate the reaction of the girl or young man. If he (she) does not like such caresses, you will notice it.

It is important to correctly calculate the force when biting a partner. Don't overdo it! To begin with, you can practice on your own hand.

Games with a partner

When it comes to “bed” games, there are no restrictions on the fantasies of lovers.

1. One of the traditional options is a strip card game. The rules are still the same: if you lose, take off one item of clothing. Very relevant entertainment on the eve of deep petting. If complete undressing is not part of your plans, replace the “punishment” for losing with a desire of a sexual nature
2. The game “Chest” requires preliminary preparation. Each partner writes down their questions or wishes on small pieces of paper, folds them and places them in a common container. During the game, lovers pull packages and answer questions (fulfill sexual desires).
3. Sexual play in the bathroom is very exciting and relaxing at the same time. An ordinary shower together brings a couple a lot of pleasant experiences. You can also add soap foam here.
4. Game of "tying and tying". Oral sex is doubly pleasant if you blindfold your lover or, say, tie him to the bed. As an attribute, you can use either special intimate goods (handcuffs, blindfolds, etc.), or ordinary silk ribbons, or even your own underwear.
5. Role-playing games are appropriate not only for traditional sex. Many men get very excited at the thought of the sexual caresses of a maid, nurse, or secretary. Women like the images of hostages or mistresses who intend to use their lover for their own lustful purposes.

Benefits of petting

Firstly, petting guarantees the preservation of the virginity of the fairer sex and will never cause an unplanned pregnancy.

Secondly, you can have contactless sex under almost any circumstances, without worrying that your parents (neighbors) can hear you behind the wall. It is enough to find a small secluded place where you can retire and please each other. Teenage couples especially like this advantage of contactless sex. After all, according to statistics, by the age of 16, about half of the girls had already managed to enjoy an orgasm and, for the most part, this was facilitated by non-contact sex.

Thirdly, by preferring contactless sex, you will not only avoid the premature birth of a child, but also save money - in this case you will not need condoms.

If you manage to discover where the most sensitive area on your lover’s body is located, then by skillfully influencing it, you can easily provide your companion or companion with the highest hormonal surge.

And lastly, such sexual “pampering” can play the role of an excellent prelude to traditional sex, while the sensations from the latter are multiplied several times. In addition, the sexual act itself is significantly prolonged, which will please both partners.

Disadvantages of petting

Petting is considered an unusual manifestation of sexual activity, and therefore is treated with some caution. In the process of mutual affection, there is no full-fledged sexual intercourse (the one that is usually talked about), so petting is considered a kind of fake, unreal intimacy. There is an opinion that such “games with the body” are more suitable for young children; older people are even “ashamed” to do such things.

Another significant disadvantage of petting is that not every representative of the stronger half of society is able to restrain himself during mutual sexual affection with a partner. In the end it all ends with traditional sex.

Can petting be considered cheating? Everyone has their own opinion on this matter. This is another disadvantage of this form of caresses. For some, non-contact sex is an obvious betrayal. After all, your partner openly shows tenderness to another. At the same time, 1/3 of the respondents do not see anything wrong with petting and do not consider it an instrument of betrayal. Hence the conflict of opinions and confrontation between the parties.

So, petting is a very interesting and unusual form of sexual activity that originated in the distant past. Today, non-contact sex is well known not only to teenagers, but also to older lovers. We can say with confidence that petting can be used by any couple; for some partners this form of sex is extremely necessary. Lovers have at their disposal a miraculous remedy that will help bring bright colors to a dull sex life, refresh their senses, and rekindle the fire of passion.

What types of petting are there?

1. Necking. While doing necking, partners caress each other exclusively above the waist. That is, kissing the neck, ears, lips, hands - all this is the first type of petting.
2. Petting. Partners caress each other through clothes. Of course, at such a moment there is a couple in a warm down jacket, and in pleasant things so that caresses really bring pleasure.
3. Deep petting. In this case, the couple is completely naked, the most “pleasant” parts of the body are caressed, the genitals are no exception. But penetration as such does not occur. Many partners practice deep petting before regular sexual intercourse.

What is Necking?

As we have already said, necking is petting, or rather one of its types, which involves only caressing partners above the waist. But getting an orgasm through such caresses is extremely difficult. Therefore, the couple finds erogenous zones located no lower than the navel. And with the help of hands, lips, breasts and hair they give pleasure to the partner, which later turns into a great orgasm. It sounds strange, of course, but even touching eyelashes gives pleasure to some people. The most important thing is that they are long and thick so that the partner can feel them on himself. There is even tantric sex. People who engage in this type of sex simply blow on their partner and do not touch his body at all. As it turned out, even in this way a person can get an orgasm, but, of course, not everyone is a fan of such a sexual life, because you want to feel and feel your partner.

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The most important thing is that a person has well-developed erogenous zones not below the navel. And he had a sexual attraction to the one with whom he was going to pack. Your partner must find these erogenous zones. These could be ears, nipples, mammary glands, and so on. Some people actually enjoy caressing the navel, and for many it can bring them to orgasm. That is, if you cannot study your partner, you will not be able to please him. So, with an unknown partner, you are unlikely to have good fucking, because you will not know him at all in terms of this type of sex, and accordingly, pleasure will be extremely difficult to deliver, although if he knows well what petting is...

What is superficial petting?

Superficial petting is also a very good activity for those who want to experiment. This type of petting does not involve the couple being naked. Partners are in clothes, but in most cases people wear special clothes so as not to lose sensitivity from the caresses of their partner, because you are unlikely to be able to feel anything if you are touched through a sweater, so it is hardly possible to get pleasure from ordinary everyday things . While engaged in superficial petting, the couple completely focuses on sexual arousal and caresses.

Special clothing implies a special material that provides partners with exciting sensations. Such material can be silk or chiffon. Intimate lingerie should also be special. In most cases, it has a special cut that cannot but excite the partner. The couple may not have upper and lower clothing, the most important thing is that they wear underwear - this is the most important “trick” of superficial petting.

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A girl can wear a light dress as an outfit for such an activity. But it is more difficult for the male sex to find a good outfit, so many men resort to women’s clothing, since it is this that allows them to feel all the caresses of their partner. Clothing for men, unfortunately, is too “rough” for petting. Partners often wet these clothes, or moisten them a little, so that the sensations are more acute. While engaging in superficial petting, partners can imitate sexual intercourse. Touch each other's genitals, but strictly without taking off your underwear.

What is deep petting?

While engaged in deep petting, the couple is completely naked. You can caress any part of the body, even the genitals. People who prefer this type of petting always take care of intimate haircuts, because absolutely every part of the partner’s body should excite and not repel. Partners often use more than just their hands to caress the genitals. For example, men are satisfied by caressing their penis with women's breasts. But deep petting brings the greatest pleasure for the reason that the couple rubs their genitals. That is why this type of petting is considered the closest to traditional sex. It will be able to diversify the intimate life of absolutely any couple. In the East, rubbing the genitals of partners is very popular. They call such an intimate activity “Virghata”.

“Virghata” is petting, or rather its variety, which in Russia is better known as deep petting.

The advantage of petting is not only that it can diversify the intimate life of partners, but also that it eliminates the possibility of unexpected pregnancy or contracting sexually transmitted diseases. The most important thing is to learn how to engage in petting, to learn how to give pleasure to your partner without penetration. And then you will understand how great such pleasure is.

Well, now you know what petting is and what types it is divided into. In general, this is a fairly common prelude, but many people just don’t know that it has its own name and even subgroups.