How the fashion for female plumpness was formed
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Full body fashion is a product of public opinion. It was formed in a very interesting way. It is important to note that the plus-size fashion world has adapted to the demand for the image of a modern, attractive woman. At the same time, there is no demand for girls with unusual facial features. A plump fashion model always has a fairly stereotypical attractiveness: the correct oval face, an hourglass figure, etc.
Thus, male society sees plump women with beautiful facial features, while ignoring extra pounds.
Psychology of fat people
It's not about being overweight.
Psychology of fat people. You obviously don't understand what your real problem is. You think you want to change your weight. Let's take a person who is addicted to smoking. He says to you: “I cough very badly, what can I do to stop coughing?” You delicately hint to him that he needs to quit smoking, he replies that he understands this perfectly well, but he needs good cough medicine. It's the same with people who drink. A heavy drinker may complain that he gets into car accidents all the time and therefore wants to take a driving course. You say that it would be good to quit drinking, but the drinker starts using public transport instead.
This way of thinking in psychology is called “denial of facts”, and in jurisprudence it is called “denial of involvement”, since people do not want to admit their problem. Drug addicts, smokers or drunks eventually recognize their addiction and begin treatment. However, what people who are overweight usually don't realize is that they are focusing on the result—the extra pounds—rather than focusing on the cause—overeating. The fat man looks at himself in the mirror and says: “I need to lose 20 kilograms. How can I do it?" They answer him that he needs to eat less, and he nods his head in agreement: “Yes, yes. I know. We need to go to the weight loss club.”
Attention, excess weight is not a problem, but its consequences. You are consuming more food than your body needs! This is the result of extra pounds!
The more you focus on losing weight, the more difficult it is to control your excess food intake. Scientists have concluded that the more a person is dissatisfied with his appearance, the less likely he is to achieve his desired weight. Why is this so?
Focusing only on losing pounds can lead to the following:
— Eating in fits and starts, alternating fasting and overeating with weight gain. You can lose weight on short-term diets, but this will not solve the underlying problem. If you only think about losing pounds, then once you lose a few pounds, you will lose all motivation to maintain that weight, and then you will start gaining it again. It will resemble walking in a circle;
- Poor quality food. If you're only focused on losing those extra pounds, you'll forget to consider the nutritional value of foods. Instead of eating healthy beans (because beans make you fat), you can eat a piece of cake for dinner (it seems like it’s small, or you didn’t eat anything for lunch, or worked out at a fitness club, etc.);
- Feeling of guilt from any piece eaten;
- Bad consequences for the body. When losing weight, people often lose more muscle mass than pounds. You can lose three sizes, and the scale will reflect that you have lost only one and a half kilograms, and when you concentrate only on weight, you cannot adequately evaluate the results achieved. If you lose too much weight, it will undoubtedly harm your health;
- Bad motive. Even if you have managed to lose weight, there will come a day when you will have some problems or you will get off on the wrong foot, and you will feel like you are like a hippopotamus, since there are no limits to perfection in losing weight. And if you're focused on losing pounds, no matter how much you've already lost, you may forget that you're harming your mental and physical health.
Food intake control
Some people, desperate to lose weight, stop thinking about how to lose weight and remain fat. You need to realize the benefits you will get if you start to control yourself and not overeat. You need to change your thinking, change your priorities and values, and think not about how much you weigh, but about how you eat.
Such control over overeating can save us from psychological dependence on food. But we must remember that anorexia is also a loss of control over food.
It is necessary to understand that health is more important than appearance, and there is no need to strive for slimness at any cost.
What you need to do to avoid overeating when you experience psychological rather than physical hunger:
“I allow myself to eat” (when you accept psychological hunger, when you do not forbid yourself to eat, then you have a feeling of freedom of choice, the effect of the forbidden fruit disappears, and you will no longer overeat)
OR
“I am free to satisfy psychological hunger”, or “I am free to eat”
You need to allow yourself to eat, because when there is an internal prohibition, a feeling of guilt appears, and you eat more than your body needs, and, therefore, you cannot lose weight.
Author: Anna Kovrigina for the website therapy.by
Why is plus-size fashion needed?
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Curvy fashion is one of the main trends, which is designed for both male and female audiences. For women, this fashion has become a way to get rid of social pressure and their own complexes. Men value “fashionable plumpness” for its sexuality and attractiveness.
A reasonable question arises. If fashion is aimed only at the female part of the population, why is it important to consider the opinions of men? The fact is that it is the male view of attractive fullness that increases sales in the “plus-size” segment. Seeing a sexy curvy model advertising a brand, a man will want to know the name of that brand. It is quite natural that after this a man can offer his chosen one products of this particular brand, because the model in the photo seemed attractive to him.
Vivid character traits of obese women
What character traits can be identified in women with a curvaceous figure?
There is a statement that most women in the body are cheerful and cheerful people who do not focus on their kilograms and live life to the fullest. Is it so? Not really.
The craze for girls with a thin physique is becoming a thing of the past. More and more often on the covers of magazines and on television you can see beautiful, plump women, who are already called by many almost the standard of female beauty. And yet, changing ideas about female beauty is not as active and is not advancing in the world at such a rapid pace as many would like. Those decades when women in the body were simply deprived of the status of real beauties are still making themselves felt.
A striking character trait of a woman in the body is a tempered character. Of course, girls can have strong complexes about their weight, be shy, indecisive, but with age they become those lively and energetic laughers who become the soul of any company. The reason for this is a character tempered by years of torment and adversity.
The human consciousness is designed in such a way that in any case it finds an “excuse” for itself; this is inherent in the survival function of the organism. This feature is very finely tuned and affects many functions of the body and consciousness. A curvaceous girl, who in her early youth could suffer from the ridicule of others, lack of attention from the male sex, the difference in her physique from those around her, eventually begins to see an advantage in her forms, and also develops a special style of behavior, so that she becomes much brighter than those who in his youth avoided all these problems due to his normal physique.
However, for the same reason, curvy women can be somewhat “thick-skinned.” With age, immunity to other people's opinions develops. Internally and externally, a woman tries to defend her rights, and what others say eventually ceases to matter to her. In many cases, this is why many girls in the body are not touchy, unforgiving and good-natured, since the opinions of others do not touch their heartstrings. Even an insult can be tolerated easily by such women, and soon they simply forget about it.
Protection. As they age, curvy women learn to defend themselves. Because of this, they are very lively, energetic and can stand up for themselves. Be that as it may, the attitude of others affects. At a young age, it is very painful to endure all this. The person’s consciousness subsequently not only tries to block the offense, but also tries to prevent repetition of the incident, forces the person to behave in such a way that others would not want to say nasty things, or they would be afraid to say nasty things, and if they weren’t afraid and said something, they would immediately regret it. his actions.
About fat people. (I advise everyone to read it!)
In a society where appearance and everything connected with it are idealized (slenderness, body beauty, proportions), human imperfections, and especially excessive fatness, are despised and considered not just a flaw, no, even a flaw and a sign of weakness. Overweight people are often plagued by human prejudice and outright discrimination, including choosing a partner, hiring, career advancement, etc.
Why is this happening? Why don't people like fat people? Why is excessive obesity disgusting, and why is a fat person (especially a woman) equated with an evil, eternally unsatisfied creature, constantly ill and spewing hatred towards everyone around him? The women's website sympaty.net answers these questions.
So why don't we like fat people?
We can all agree that modern culture idealizes slimness (just remember the amount of advertising, diets, advice and books on weight loss) and at the same time despises being overweight. Very often, looking at overweight/fat people, we experience dual feelings and emotions: from pity (we really feel sorry for them, because it’s very difficult to eat size 56 or larger - it’s a matter of genetics or impaired metabolism), to disgust and feelings disgust (well, why, tell me, wear things that not only do not hide all the folds, rolls of fat and cellulite, but also emphasize them?) and misunderstanding (why did they allow themselves to get to this point? Why don’t they lose weight?).
Stereotypes are firmly ingrained in our minds: fat means lazy (if I didn’t lie on the couch and run in the morning, then I guess I would lose weight), ugly, stupid, useless (well, what’s the use of this hulking pile of fat), sick (everyone knows the connection between extra pounds and problems with the heart, respiratory tract, cancer), angry, depressed, envious, weak-willed, etc.
And these stereotypes are so strong that, purely on a psychological level, we connect the concepts of laziness and obesity with one strong thread. What can I say, even specialists in the treatment of obesity, i.e. People who know firsthand about the influence of genetic factors and the environment on the development of obesity suffer from the same prejudiced attitude towards fat people.
As a result, overweight people are persecuted on the street and in public places with outright mockery and laughter, nagging and malicious remarks (“you need to eat less” and “get your fat F and sign up for the gym” are the most gentle of them.).
At school, overweight children are bullied by their classmates, no one is friends with them, they are put on the last desks.
At the institute they are bullied or outright ignored - after all, they do not fit into the “ideal” crowd and spoil everything with their unaesthetic appearance.
At work, employees make fun of them and make angry banter, putting buttons under their butts (what if they don’t notice because of the fat layer and sit on it all day?) and throwing salt, sugar, pepper into their food (sometimes all at once, to punish gluttony).
Anna Mikhalkova
Despite her plumpness, both the audience and the best directors of the country fell in love with the actress, and Anna never experienced a lack of male attention. Recently, the actress has noticeably lost weight, although she did this on the advice of doctors who diagnosed Anna with hypertension. She looks great now, but we really liked her back then too.
What's on the minds of fat people? Five Thought Patterns That Cause Weight Gain
Excess weight is not only a physical problem.
Its cause is often psychological problems, blocks and attitudes implanted in childhood. Without dealing with this baggage, it is very difficult to lose unnecessary pounds. Zoya Bogdanova , psychotherapist and weight correction specialist, author of the book “Eat Read Lose Weight,” will help you figure out how to come to harmony with yourself and your own body.
The psychology of thinking is a subtle, individual thing and is similar to a dish that everyone prepares according to their own recipe - as they know how or want, and at the same time they hope that it will be tasty.
Excess weight here acts as an additional ingredient, and which one specifically depends on the person and the psychological problem that led to the gain of kilograms. What could it be? Let's take a closer look!
1. Fat people need “armor,” but thin people can handle it on their own.
In this case, obesity acts as a kind of protective shell, which is designed to protect against the negative impact of the surrounding world. The need for such a fat shield suggests that deep inside a person is filled with fears, he is too vulnerable and sensitive, and extra pounds are his way of coping with his own vulnerability. The reasons for the occurrence may be a lack of support, cruelty from loved ones, or a ban on expressing negative emotions.
2. Fat people don’t feel boundaries, but thin people have found them.
Overweight people often have a certain thick skin - they can show callousness and insensitivity, not only towards others, but also towards themselves. This attitude leads to the fact that a person cannot control his feeling of hunger and satiety; it is difficult for him to assess his weight and the boundaries of his body in principle.
That is why such people easily invade someone else’s space and strive to take control of it. This can be expressed in overprotection, attempts to limit the freedom of loved ones, to live the life of children, and not their own. In response to the expansion of the sphere of influence, that is, the psychological boundaries, the body also increases in size, expanding the physical boundaries.
3. Fat people feel empty, thin people enjoy it
One of the psychological reasons for completeness may be the desire to fill an internal emptiness. Feeling bored and suffering from the monotony of his life, a person eats to feel a feeling of fullness.
Usually the problem appears when there is a restriction on receiving pleasure. As a result, food becomes the only option to experience joy. The roots of this behavior usually go back to childhood, when adults, in an effort to console or please the child, give him candy.
4. Fat people deny facts, while thin people see reasons.
A characteristic way of thinking of overweight people is to deny the very fact of having a problem. In the case of drug addiction or alcoholism, those seeking recovery eventually come to admit their addiction and begin treatment. But with obesity, people miss an important point: they focus not on the cause of the disease, but on its results - the occurrence of excess weight. To shift the emphasis in the right direction, it is worth attending psychotherapy sessions.
5. Fat people are embarrassed, but skinny people flirt.
Fear of relationships can trigger weight gain. We are talking about a subconscious decision to become fat in order to protect oneself from male attention. The reason for this choice may be violence, quarrels between parents, jealousy of the husband, personal negative experience of family relationships, when after a painful separation a woman does not want to go through such psychological tests again. Having extra pounds is a good explanation for yourself why you have to avoid men.
In addition, weight gain can provoke a feeling of revenge against a spouse who cheated on or left his wife. This gives a reason to shift the blame for what happened onto your body, which has lost its attractiveness in the eyes of your husband.
At the same time, serious efforts may be made to ensure that the figure complies with the canons of beauty, including constant diets and visits to fitness centers, but it will be extremely difficult to control the appetite, because it is influenced by subconscious attitudes and beliefs.
If you want not only to lose weight, but also to achieve sustainable results, do not rush to run to a nutritionist - make an appointment with a psychologist or psychotherapist. It will help you change your thinking in the right direction and figure out what exactly is preventing you from losing excess weight!
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Why does obesity become a target for negative projections and emotions?
1. Unfortunately, both individual people and society as a whole sometimes need a “lightning rod” for accumulated negativity. Instead of dealing with the true causes of internal discontent, it is easier for someone to find an external reason for release. There were witch hunts in medieval Europe, and Jews suffered in Nazi Germany. But for some people, overweight people are now becoming a convenient “lightning rod”.
2. The fight against excess weight is fueled by the large-scale beauty industry - a multimillion-dollar business, and the goal of any business is profit. How to get consumers to buy multiple goods and services? The psychological factor comes into play - it’s very easy to play on someone else’s narcissistic complex. “Am I good enough?” A person wants to look “good” both in the eyes of others and in his own, and to maintain dignity. Even small children intuitively feel this when they challenge their friends: “What about weakly jumping into the nettles?” And they are easily led to this simple manipulation: they want to maintain self-esteem and not lose respect.
Any advertising is manipulation, an attempt to influence someone else’s behavior: “Hurry up, buy a painting!” - as the hero said in the famous film. Manipulations that tap into the narcissistic complex (the sense of one’s own “goodness”) are usually very effective.
Note that many of these manipulations are not even about being “good”; they are aimed at simply not being “bad.” The beauty industry often encourages “being beautiful” rather than “being ugly.”
3. There is an interesting psychological assumption that modern canons of beauty talk about... a hidden attraction to death. In the old days, being plump was considered a sign of beauty and health, especially among women. Indeed, women with a picnic build have fewer problems with childbearing than representatives of the athletic and asthenic types. The word “thin” in Russian still means “bad,” that is, something negative: “A bad world is better than a good quarrel.”
The beginning of the 21st century is a difficult period. Modern man has a fairly high level of anxiety and aggression (even if it does not manifest itself directly, but is suppressed). The consequence of this may be an unconscious focus not on life, but on death.
After World War II, when millions died, people fought for their lives. The vector of society's attraction has moved towards life. And if we remember the actresses who set the canons of beauty in the post-war era, these are women who at the beginning of the 21st century would clearly be considered plump. Marilyn Monroe wore size 48, which is unheard of for Hollywood beauties of our time: now the predominant size range is 42–44 (and at the same time, the height of actresses has increased significantly). Why did such a change occur?
Psychoanalysis says that two opposing tendencies coexist in a person: one leads to death, the other to life. During periods when a person is in danger, the desire to live may, in contrast, increase. Thus, one of my clients told me that in his youth he thought about suicide, but he almost drowned in a stormy sea, fought the waves, swam out, and after that abandoned all thoughts of suicide. During times of war and epidemics, the number of suicides decreases. But life in a prosperous society can provoke a craving for death.
4. Another possible reason why the fashion for thinness (and predominantly female bodies) has developed is the unconscious fight against overpopulation of the planet. After the war, with its multimillion-dollar losses, women with a picnic physique were popular; they had a higher likelihood of successful childbearing. At the beginning of the 21st century, the planet is overpopulated, and a type of female body, reminiscent of a male one, poorly suited for childbearing, is becoming fashionable.
Please note: many recognized beauties from the modeling and acting environment have serious problems with pregnancy, gestation, and childbirth.
Anna Netrebko
It seems that the luxurious Anna Netrebko is quite happy with her body and does not strive to go on strict diets. And he does the right thing, because... in her image she looks very organic and is rightfully considered one of the brightest and most beautiful opera singers in the world.
“My weight has been approximately the same for the last 8 years, and it suits me quite well. I do not accept any diets and eat whatever I like in moderation. And I am absolutely against stupid standards. Every woman has her own body and should remain herself, regardless of age, height and size,” Anna Netrebko wrote on the microblog.
