- Decide everything yourself
- No quibbles or criticism
- Don't accumulate resentment
- Give thanks for the little things
- Don't stop charming
- Diversify your intimate life
- Respect each other's interests
- Let's have freedom
- Sunday family lunch
- Collect shared memories
“They don’t wash dirty linen in public” - that’s what our very distant ancestors said. We also often repeat this phrase when discussing, for example, problems in a team. But when it comes to our most important “hut,” we often do the opposite. Parents, girlfriends and even neighbors - we dedicate whomever to the details of family squabbles... Is it necessary?
Train yourself to solve all family problems exclusively in the family circle, without allowing outsiders into it. Do not give reasons yourself and stop all attempts to teach you life from anyone.
Constant nagging at first irritates, and then simply goes over your head. In any case, this is the most ineffective way to influence what you don't like.
Learn to discuss problems in a calm and constructive manner. If, for example, your husband earns little, try to think with him about changing your job or type of activity. Perhaps he himself thinks about it, but is afraid to make an important decision. With this you will achieve more than with claims and accusations.
Make it a rule not to ignore what you consider truly important in your relationship when it does not suit you at all. Instead of being offended and annoyed, calm down and talk to your significant other. There is no problem that could not be solved if desired.
Many people, starting to live together under one roof, stop “noticing” the help of their significant other, taking it for granted.
Of course, the husband should help bring weights from the store or nail a shelf in the bathroom, and the spouse should clean the house and cook food, but it’s more pleasant to do this when you notice each other’s actions and thank them for them.
Even if you have been married for more than the first (or maybe not the tenth) year, do not stop charming each other again and again. Fatigue, routine, everyday problems are not a reason to walk around in a washed robe and with an unwashed hair.
You don't have to master any tricks at all. It's enough just to change the situation. Are you used to the walls of your bedroom? Ask the parents to take the children over for the weekend and rent a hotel room for those two days.
Yes, and intimacy is not only the fulfillment of “marital duties.” Kisses for no reason, touching, hugging (even in front of the TV) - all this only helps to strengthen your intimacy.
Respect for your partner is the first condition for a happy future together.
Respecting your husband (spouse) means respecting not only him (her) himself, but also his (her) friends, parents, work, hobbies and even political views. You may not agree with them, but it is his (her) choice, and this choice deserves respect.
One of the most common mistakes women make in relationships, which leads to their breakup, is trying to control everything. Firstly, it is very humiliating for both parties. Secondly, hugging too closely can simply crush love.
Don’t be like the mother of a first-grader who leads her beloved son to school by the hand. A man should have his own personal space, and once he has been there, he will be more willing to return to you.
The modern pace of life, unfortunately, leaves us very little time to communicate with loved ones. You work from Monday to Friday, your husband also goes to work on Saturday, and on the only general day off, Sunday, your children have dance or tennis classes. Sound familiar? Communication comes down to the morning “Hello!” and to the evening duty officer, “Well, how is it at work?” or “What's new at school?” A quick dinner because you need to review your report again and the kids need to study for tomorrow's test...
Break this vicious circle. Invite your family over for a family dinner on one of your days off. Choose a time so that no one has anything really important to do during that time. Cook something delicious. Discuss everything that happened during the week, just don't start an interrogation. In such a cozy environment, everyone will be happy to share their news, problems or successes.
And make this dinner your family tradition.
A truly strong family is united not only by jointly solving everyday issues, but also by many common pleasant memories. A trip to your friends' dacha, a trip to the forest to pick mushrooms, a vacation at the seaside, a trip to the theater, participation in some kind of public initiative as volunteers - it can be anything as long as it brings joy to all members of your family.
Don’t wait for someone to come and throw a party for you – create it yourself. Right now, find out what films are showing at your nearest cinema, and on the weekend, go with the whole family to the skating rink or to the city park. And don't forget to bring your camera!
Divorce is an objective reality. Every year the percentage of divorces in relation to the number of marriages is growing - these are the sad statistics of registry offices throughout the country. The question of how to save a family from divorce is becoming increasingly relevant in modern conditions.
Causes of divorce as a consequence of conflicts
The most popular reason for divorce, which is indicated when submitting an application to the registry office, is that they do not agree on character. But this is a very vague formulation that does not allow sociologists to identify the real reasons leading to family breakdown.
Psychologists note that there are three main reasons for divorce:
- treason;
- conflicts with relatives;
- fatigue from everyday life.
If you see that your family is heading towards divorce, then you need to try to identify the reasons that led to such consequences and try to eliminate them.
Preserving a family is an important task that must be accomplished at all costs. Naturally, you shouldn’t do this as an end in itself, and if you see that it is impossible to save the marriage (and sometimes this happens), then you don’t need to torture yourself or your other half.
How to strengthen family relationships in the current situation
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