Love and karma
The most complex, passionate and unforgettable love stories come from karmic connections. This is true, however, it does not happen very often in reality. Every third lover asks me: “Why exactly did he/she knock me out of my life like that, is this probably some kind of karma?” My usual answer is no, karma has nothing to do with it, there are much less complex motives.
And if the connection between you is truly karmic, it hides its source behind coincidences and accidents so that it does not occur to a person for a long time, even if he knows what exactly is called “karma”.
For my clients, I explain the concept of a karmic connection this way: once upon a time, your soul did not solve the problem in this relationship, perhaps even did not solve it several times. And today you were offered the same problem again. And in order to force you to solve it, you were given to experience all these passions: love, and happiness, and grief, and joy, and despair, and hope, and pain, and resentment, and self-sacrifice, and greed, and anger... What else is there left of human emotions? Remember any and add it to this list. In a truly karmic love relationship, a person will experience every single one of them.
No wonder they say “I drank my whole soul.” This is the same thing. That poison that is sweeter than honey. Otherwise, how can a person be forced to unravel the tangle of his passions in order to grow his soul? Only by offering him the most ancient of all lures - the happiness of mutual love passion.
A karmic love affair must be handled with care. As I already wrote in the last post, you cannot refuse such love and betray it. The most sensible thing is to go with the flow, trying to maintain balance and save your loved ones... And leave the rest in the hands of fate.
Now I will tell you about another interesting couple, very young people, whose destinies were intertwined by karma (the past of their souls) so much so that they no longer understood where the end and where the beginning of their story was...
They met just casually, at some student party. But both got there by accident, they were invited by different people, but these people later could not remember this invitation, and from both sides. The young man was the first to ask the girl’s name, and she replied, “Evgenia, maybe Zhenya,” and he smiled: “And you can call me Zhenya, too.” Then it went on and on: the coincidences of their biographies, the places they visited and the people they knew. It was so amazing to listen to that if I didn’t already understand what I was dealing with, I would have decided that it was a joke. Sympathy appeared instantly and very quickly grew into love, mutual, strong and very happy at first. The young people lived in a big city away from their families, and troubles began only at the end of the year, when the guys came to the young man’s parents.
No, the parents were not at all against their relationship, and no one had talked about the wedding yet; both were students and had no intention of rushing things. But in the parents’ house the same troubles began that haunted the couple further…. The beginning of the problems was quite innocent: the grandmother’s kitten climbed a tree, the young man tried to take it off, fell and broke his leg. Since it was at the end of the holidays, the girl had to leave alone. As soon as he recovered and returned to Moscow, Zhenya herself was forced to go to her suddenly ill mother. Yes, she remained in her city, since her mother required care. This alone was a tragedy - leaving a full-time university, switching to part-time, and looking for work in a small town. However, the girl was supported by her lover and persuaded that they would survive everything together. But since then they have been together for no more than a few days in a row! One or the other event interfered with their meetings. Delayed flights, troubles and illnesses hit this couple like a cannon. But they still held on to each other. Any tin soldier would envy the resilience of these children. And, most importantly, they remained optimistic. How? That riddle still haunts me sometimes.
A girl wrote to me when she found out she was pregnant. Only at that moment did Evgenia become seriously frightened, already realizing that something strange was happening to their destinies.
By then she had lost her mother. But this did not make their union with their beloved easier. I will not describe the details of their misadventures, and I no longer remember everything... But I remember that Evgenia’s mother recognized her first love in the young man, which she never told her daughter anything about. I found out and cried for a long time, several days. What it was is also a mystery.
In general, karmic connection and mystery are almost synonymous...
In ordinary love stories, many people also imagine a lot of mystery, I know that. But the secret there, as a rule, is one - selfishness and blinders on the eyes, and even the desire to get a partner at any cost. In general, the more secrets in your love story, the less realistic your understanding of the world and yourself in this world. Mystery is always a reason to be wary and think about your adequacy of the situation...
But that story was imbued with karmic mystery from beginning to end. At the same time, both the guy and the girl were sincere and energetically pure, without any damage or curses. They just fell out in strange layouts, mirror images of each other, and with some other features... characterizing a karmic connection.
Of course, Evgenia’s pregnancy turned out to be more than untimely. After several misadventures at work and changes in jobs for both of them, Evgeniy had a bright chance, just luck. He was invited to a good position, but in another country. And to announce that he is taking his pregnant wife with him would mean losing this chance too... By that time, the girl suddenly lost her job, and even with a scandalous unfair dismissal. And so she sat in front of me with a request to somehow stop this whole nightmare, to remove the “separation curse” from them, which someone had already unsuccessfully lifted for her….
This is how I became acquainted with this rare story of pure karmic connection. How their souls and destinies were mixed up in their past, and who owed whom to whom... I’m not digging up. This is a world where travel is expensive. There have been and still are brave souls, but that’s not me. Even if you take a risk and unearth the history of the soul, you will not bring anything practically applicable from there.
Yes, it is interesting, even incredibly interesting and very emotionally intense - to find out the past of your soul and the past of the soul of your loved one. And if you both were also in an unresolved conflict in the past, then even more so, having pulled it out now, you will feel a storm of emotions. Even a slight touch of the soul’s past causes a surge of emotions, from anger to euphoria…. And there’s nothing to say about touching the past with living karmic love.
However, this emotional storm does not solve practical things, does not unravel the tangle of events, and sometimes even tightens the knot more. This is the mistake, in my opinion, of many, many esoteric practices of “immersion in the past of the soul.” When suddenly in this “immersion” a person actually touches (usually by accident) the past of his soul, he experiences the whole range of emotions. And it seems to him that this is it – the Solution. But no, a day or two passes, and nothing is decided... This leads to disappointment and even bigger problems.
If you are determined to understand the past of the soul, then at least do not expect a solution to current problems from this. This is pure knowledge for the sake of knowledge, nothing more.
All practical issues, including the growth and development of your soul, are in your hands now, while you are alive. And only in the practice of overcoming circumstances and one’s own weaknesses does this solution lie. Even the help of Runes is just the discovery of the possibilities of your own Will to action.
I explained all this to the girl and advised her to trust fate and her chosen one, give birth to a child and wait for her husband. And come what may.
As I wrote in the last post about a karmic love affair, the main thing here is not to betray love itself and each other, despite any obstacles, go with the flow of fate, helping yourself to the best of your ability. I think these two couldn’t do something like that in the past. And now I had to return to the same problem at a more complex level. If they stumble now, there will be a new round, more dramatic...
I don't know the end of the story, but in my experience it should be a good one. If some kind of trouble had happened, Evgenia would probably have turned to me... But no, apparently everything got better for them with the birth of their child. That's what I expected during that consultation.
These children walked their path with honor, solved their puzzle, showing perseverance and courage in the face of problems. Many adults and strong people, who have much more support and opportunities, would do well not to lose their heads in at least half of similar situations...
If you are caught in a tangle of passions and coincidences, if you are haunted by cyclicality, try to figure out the reasons, contact an energy specialist.
Even if you do not work on your destiny with the help of magic, knowing the reasons and your capabilities in the situation will already allow you to see the “light at the end of the tunnel.”
Good luck to all my readers!
Inga Rayskaya
Karma of love. Questions about personal relationshipsMichael Roach, 2020
Preface
I grew up in Arizona as an ordinary American teenager: school, dating girls, then entering Princeton University, where I managed to achieve good results. For academic success, I received a medal from the hands of the President himself in the White House. It seemed to me that life was wonderful and great achievements awaited me.
But one day everything changed. That night I was in the student chapel at a meeting of volunteers who wanted to do something to help solve the problem of hunger in the world. The phone rang, the priest answered the phone, and then came up to me and, touching my hand, asked me to go with him to the office. There he said that my mother had just died. At that moment my ideal world collapsed.
After some time, two more phone calls came: the first that my younger brother had died, and the second that my father had died. Overwhelmed by this grief, I realized that there was no longer any point in staying in college and living the life I wanted. I dropped out of school and went to India to look for answers.
There I was lucky enough to meet several Tibetan monks, and after a while I became a monk myself. I lived in Tibetan monasteries for over 25 years, becoming the first Westerner in 600 years to receive the degree of Geshe, or Master of Buddhism, at the great monastery of Sera Mei.
To obtain this degree, I had to pass many tests. One such test was a three-week public exam that hundreds of monks took in the Tibetan language. Following this, Ken Rinpoche, my head lama at the monastery, ordered another test for me. I had to go to New York, start a diamond business and make a million dollars, thereby proving that I truly understood the principles of karma that were taught to me in the monastery. I had to give the money I earned to Tibetan refugees to help them with food and other things.
Going back into the world, especially the world of New York and the potentially dirty diamond business, was the last thing I wanted. So I avoided this task for many months. But in the end, the lama’s word prevailed, and I had to fulfill it. I helped found and lead it to $200 million in sales. It was recently purchased by Warren Buffett, one of the richest people in the world. With the money I made from the company, I was able to help refugees and many other people.
Our company became one of the fastest growing in the history of New York, and this naturally attracted attention. Doubleday publishing house came to me and asked me to write a book about how we achieved success using the principles of karma - the principles of helping other people.
So I wrote a book called Diamond Wisdom, named after a famous sutra that explains karma and its opposite, the Buddhist idea of emptiness. This book has become a bestseller around the world, has been translated into more than 25 languages, and is used by millions of people. Its Chinese edition became especially popular, which helped many people achieve financial independence.
People began to contact me with requests to come to them and give a lecture about the book. A few years after publication, my colleagues from the Diamond Cutter Institute and I organized business seminars and retreats for thousands of people from different countries. During these programs, we often break into small groups and have discussions that we call “Everyday Wisdom,” where each participant can talk about their own company or career.
Once during such a program, a woman from the group asked if I could answer a question not about business, but about her relationship with her husband. Can the principles of the Diamond Cutter—the principles of karmic seeds—be applied to family life as well?
I replied that, of course, it is possible. Karmic seeds in our consciousness are responsible for everything that happens to us. Suddenly, as if through a broken dam, countless questions from the participants poured in about the most intimate problems in their family relationships. And at that moment I realized that taking care of only spiritual needs and helping solve problems with money, food and a roof over my head is clearly not enough. Our personal relationships are the source of perhaps the greatest happiness in life. But they can also be the source of the most intense pain. If we want to be happy, if we want there to be happiness in the world, then something needs to be done about this relationship issue!
Surprisingly, the ancient tradition of Buddhist monks has accumulated a lot of wisdom about partnerships. First, there are tens of thousands of peerless books from an open tradition that answer questions about the origins of everything in our lives, including our partners. These are teachings about karmic seeds.
But there is also a secret tradition that is thousands of years old called the Diamond Way, and it opens up completely new and exciting ways of relating to your partner, opening up incredible horizons for you. These teachings say that even the Buddha himself achieved enlightenment only with the help of Tilottama, a woman who descended to reunite with him at the command of the highest beings of the Universe. The description of how they achieve spiritual perfection in each other's arms at the rising sun of a new day is one of the most magnificent fragments of world literature.
As for my own knowledge to write about the Karma of Love, I think I was the happiest among my monastic friends because I was in a relationship before taking monastic orders (most Tibetans enter the monastery at 7-12 years of age). I already knew a lot about women, I knew both about the joys of relationships and the pain that arises in them. My parents went through a very difficult divorce, through this terrible combination when people who love each other cannot be together.
But, in my opinion, the most important thing is that I went through a relationship that I can call divine and in which I was able to feel a flash of what was between Lord Buddha and Lady Tilottama, Dante and Beatrice, Jesus and Mary Magdalene in the Garden.
Over the years, I have strengthened this experience and gained an even deeper understanding of it through thousands of hours of study spent at the feet of twelve of Tibet's greatest masters. I was given secret initiation into partner work practices and spent many years translating and studying thousands of pages of ancient texts about these practices.
I made a sincere attempt to follow these practices, sometimes attracting unwanted attention from the press and the displeasure of the monastery authorities, some of whom felt that such knowledge should not be available to the general public. But I believe in a perfect world, I believe that together we can create it, and I believe that it begins and ends in ideal relationships - with an understanding of the Karma of Love.
So, I want to share with you what I have learned to help you in your relationship. Over the years, thousands of people from all over the world have asked me questions about their relationships. I have tried to select the 100 most frequently asked questions and answer them here based on the ancient wisdom of Tibet, with the kind blessing of my dear friend and teacher. I hope they help you and that perfect person in your life.
Geshe Michael Roach
Thanksgiving Day, 2012
22.02.2014
Karmic encounters in human destiny: love and marriage
Indian religion and philosophy define karma as an act done in the past and having consequences in the present. According to Hinduism, we “drag” not only fatal events, but also people from our past incarnations into a new life. A meeting with a karmically destined other half usually has a particularly strong influence on a person.
Love at first sight
Helena Blavatsky defined man as a sheaf of thinking immortal light (monad), which is clothed in a certain physical shell. And it’s not for nothing that each person has a unique sparkle in their eyes. The more incarnations the soul has gone through, the brighter this light.
Love at first sight occurs when people have already (perhaps many incarnations ago) looked into each other's eyes and remembered their radiance. Such recognition occurs instantly, as soon as the two halves see each other. Perhaps, before this meeting, they asked themselves many times why their personal life was not working out, and why each new partner brings disappointment. But at the moment of meeting kindred souls, everything falls into place, like pieces of a puzzle. People can't help but think about each other.
Fatal love
Often karmic love is tragic precisely because it ended that way in a past life due to the fault of people or circumstances. In this case, only “working off karma” will help. And then, in a new incarnation, the souls will finally find each other.
If one of the couple was reborn earlier and found another loved one in this world, then most likely in the next incarnation these people will be close relatives or good friends. But in this case, it is not love that arises, but rather affection for someone.
In some situations, passion confused with love can distract a person from his real other half. The difference between these feelings is easy to notice. If it is love, the eye is primarily attracted, and when passion predominates, bodily forms are of interest. To avoid confusion and unnecessary karmic debts in the future, it is worth looking a person in the eyes when meeting.
Karmic connection and compatibility of spouses
Different esoteric schools define the compatibility of people in their own way. One of the options considered in Hinduism is the assumption that the human soul has 777 incarnations, and that there are 7 types of people living on earth. When a person meets someone of the same ray as him, then sympathy arises, otherwise - unfounded hostility. According to statistics, in 95% of cases the rays do not coincide and partners constantly find reasons for quarrels and arguments with each other. The vibrations of their astral, etheric, and mental bodies differ in frequency and act asynchronously. Over time, this leads to the destruction of the physical body, because nervous tension for one minute is equal to 17 minutes of life. Sometimes only a divorce can break a karmic knot, but both spouses must realize their differences and forgive each other for accumulated grievances.
Thus, the best option for creating a married couple will be people whose number of incarnations is approximately the same. In this case, both husband and wife are at the same stage of spiritual development and, as a result, it is easier for them to help each other work off the remaining karmic debts.
Is a love affair predetermined by karma?
Some astrologers and esotericists highlight indicators of karmic relationships, including: a large age difference (10-15 years), unexpectedness (casual acquaintance, difference in interests and characters, friendship and spontaneous marriage), the speed of starting a relationship, moving to another city or country (life away from relatives after marriage), problematic relationships (unhealthy partner), lack of children in the family, fatality (unhappy love, struggle, love triangle, etc.).
If love arose between people as a result of karmic attraction, then the relationship can be aimed at both healing and destruction.
So, when there is a heartfelt connection between partners, they forgive, support, understand and accept each other as they are. But the situation may be the opposite. When two people in past lives were connected by emotional problems, in a new incarnation they can meet to let each other go.
The energy of love brings joy and peace, and if one of the partners is suffering, experiencing a lot of negative emotions, it is worth dotting the i's and then letting go of love. It is important not to forget that every person is a free and self-sufficient person, capable of developing spiritually independently of anyone.
Only by taking the path from misunderstanding to realizing the purpose of man in our life can we reach the goal - to know ourselves and our role in the Universe. And if harmony prevails in a person’s soul, then his romantic relationships will be filled with positive creative energy.
Anna Ryazanova
