How to get married with a child? Bride with child. How to get married a second time already having a child?
Have a child, how to get married?
Is it possible, is it realistic for a woman with a child to get married? You are a woman who dreams of happiness. Perhaps you already have one happiness - your baby - a child. And you dream about your other half.
Grandmothers who “ventilate” on a bench, at the entrance, gossip about you, ooh and ahh, that you won’t get married, that you’ve spoiled your kinder, that no one will look at someone like you. They just want to talk. And why are you listening to their “nonsense”?! Let them say what they want. What do you care about that?
How to get married a second time already having a child? Bride with child. How to get married with a child?
A lot happens, a lot happens. I know one girl who got pregnant at the age of sixteen. The child's father was sent to prison (for theft). Anya (the girl’s “little” mother) raises him (the child) almost herself. Her mother and grandmother help her a little. Anya works and finds time for club entertainment. And with pleasure, he gets to know the boys - he lights up. She never says that the miracle that was photographed with her is her daughter Polinka. She tells all her fans and suitors that this girl is her sister or niece. Of course, you can’t do this, because sooner or later everything will be revealed anyway. But Anya is afraid that the guys, having learned about the existence of their daughter, will abandon both her and the baby. Normal people won’t refuse.
Have a baby. Of course, no one can replace your own father. Even if the baby’s “new dad” is super ideal and loves his mommy very much. When the child grows up, he will feel that he is not a father, but a stranger. If the child also has a stepbrother or sister, the situation will worsen. Don't be scared: there are different men. Of course, there are also heartless men, but not all of them are like that.
How to get married with a child? — A child should not be a hindrance or an obstacle in the relationship between a woman and a man. Children are the flowers of life, for whom you want to live. There is no need to say bad things about them.
In general, you will get married. A woman with a child is not a stigma. If someone does not share this opinion, that’s their problem! You will be faced with a choice between your own child and a man - choose, of course, your blood.
Answers to the question : “how to get married if you have a child from someone else?”:
- When you meet someone, don’t hide the fact that you have a son or daughter. Relationships cannot begin with deception. Deception is a bad and ignoble thing.
- Take care of yourself, despite the fact that something is not quite right with your condition and mood.
- Believe in yourself and that you are beautiful and can still attract the attention of many men.
- Do not Cry. Crying is optional. There is no practical benefit from water and streams from the eyes.
- Do not complain. Don’t tell a man that you are poor and unhappy, that it is very difficult for you to raise a child alone.
- Don’t be very intrusive in his eyes: when you tell him the whole truth, wait, don’t call him yourself, give him time to think.
- Never try to call your daughter or your son by his father’s name. A man might think that you can't get over your ex.
- Do not compare him with your ex in front of him: your “real” one will perceive such a comparison extremely negatively and with anger.
- If you invite a man to visit, prepare for his “welcome” to the apartment as it should: put away the things of the “past” man so that they do not interfere with your romance and do not allow bad thoughts to creep in.
- Don't be afraid to ask him about his attitude towards children. Loves children - great. In general, it’s strange that there are those who may not like babies.
How to get married with a child? - If there is love, he and your child will love. He will love you as if he were your own child. He'll get used to it. And to the thought, and to the fact that everything turned out this way. And he will not give up on you just because you are not alone in life.
Friends who say that no one needs you with a child are not real friends. They are envious, misunderstanding people who have not been very lucky in life. Especially in relationships with men.
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Earlier we talked about why a successful woman does not need children. In modern society, the birth of a child automatically means problems for a single mother, although it does not put an end to her career and professional development. If everything can be rosy and wonderful with your husband, then without him it can be difficult to cope with troubles and reveal yourself.
The main problems of women with children
When a child is born, and nothing works out with the marriage, a woman turns into that same superman who needs to do everything at once. Naturally, only a few people succeed in this, and many girls in this situation are helped by relatives.
The child takes away free time and attention, but only up to a certain age. When he becomes more or less adult, some troubles disappear, while others appear. Independent children can take care of themselves, but men, for many reasons, still don’t want a wife with other people’s children.
Why is it difficult to get married with a child?
A man wants to be the first and only . A man may not need other people's children because they do not belong to him. Try to put yourself in the shoes of a man - do you need problems with other children? In most cases, people answer this question in the negative. It is very important for a man to be the only one in everything. Many people feel uncomfortable around other people's children. The problem can be solved by the fact that the child is still an infant and does not understand who his real father is. But here another barrier comes into force - it seems to the man that his partner wants to marry him only for this. so that he could help raise her child.
The feeling that you are needed only for help. This is a very unpleasant feeling that appears in those men who doubt their woman’s love for someone else’s child. It seems that the woman is deliberately luring her into her network, and of course, this is not always the case, but no one wants to play roulette. Show the man that you are not just looking for a father for your child, but are looking for love.
Problems in the child-stepfather relationship . If the child has grown up, another problem arises. He treats his mother very jealously. He doesn't need a stranger in the house at all. This will be a lot of stress for the man, for the mother and for the child, no matter how good and diplomatic everyone is. Conflicts constantly flare up between stepfather and child, even after several years of marriage. Only time will help you get used to a person. Previously, we talked about how to reconcile a stepfather and a child. These tips will help maintain stability in the family.
To increase her chances of success in finding a man, a single mother needs to give the man maximum freedom and not try to impose her own conditions, for example, a speedy rapprochement with the child. Show your man that you are not expecting him to propose to you. Show him that you are comfortable being alone. Don’t put pressure on him: seeing your desire to bring a new marriage closer, he will immediately run away, before you even have time to blink an eye.
Remember that there is no friendship between a man and a woman, so if there is no fire between you, then the chances of getting married are reduced. Look for someone with whom you will not be friends, but make love and adore each other. This is the only way to make a man close his eyes to the presence of a child.
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15.09.2018 03:25
Did you dream that I was getting married or how not to be left alone?
There are many situations when families break up and a divorced woman or girl is left alone. She may be twenty years old, she may be very young, she may be left alone after a long marriage, after a long cohabitation with a man. And then the moment comes when she is left with a child, two, three. Sometimes even after a painful divorce. I had many different students with two children, three and even four. What to do then, how to live on?
It is necessary to understand why people disagree. It’s simple - because people get together when they are in love, when they do not yet understand relationships, the psychology of relationships between a man and a woman. And they build them as best they can. They build relationships the way their parents taught them.
How did your parents teach you? They taught as best they could - by example. And few people think about the fact that parents received this knowledge from our grandparents. But the time was different, the problems, concerns, and life itself were different.
This model of building relationships is passed down from generation to generation, without understanding what exactly your couple needs. But now is the time when you can figure out how to build great relationships, how to raise children so that they grow up to be beautiful, smart, strong, successful, worthy people.
And maybe right now you are in a situation like this girl, or you definitely have girlfriends who have a similar situation. There are more and more such people and cases every day in the CIS. Because now there is no widespread culture of properly building happy long-term relationships.
Do they get married with a child? Common dating mistakes
So, how do you get married? Let's start not with what is right, but with what the majority does. And why this majority fails to build a happy marriage, what mistakes they make, what mistakes they step on time after time.
Because they are dancing on the rake. And then they wonder why they get what they get.
If you are familiar with such situations, leave comments on this article. You can write or ask a question. I will respond by text or make a video on this topic.
“I want to fly to you”
The second of April was his first letter and phone call, communication on Skype, and exactly five days later he asks Tanya a question: “ how and when can he fly to her?”
She answered without giving any specific understanding of her desire, not “
come, I’m waiting, I’ll be glad to see you,”
no - she wrote that there are 5-6 flights a day from Moscow to her city. Tanya understood that if a man had a desire, he would find an opportunity, find out flights, and arrange a transfer. He turned out to be not the kind of person who speaks and does not do, but the kind of person who first does and only then speaks.
I remember that my course with Tanya ended in early April, and during the May holidays her future husband had already flown to visit her. At the end of June she was already given a ring, and in August she took the test for a fiancee visa. A year later I was already in England at her wedding. It was very difficult for Tanya, the only support was her daughters, her friend and me:
“The English wedding took place in a very nervous state for me, many suspected me of being a Russian fraudster who was up to something and captured their man along with her three children. Not only did I feel this, but I was psychologically and emotionally pressured by this negative energy from those around me, and besides, I didn’t know English.”
At the wedding celebration, I was struck to the core by one moment: when my group filled out a form during class, no one was able to do it the first time, because they had to seriously look inside themselves and write down their entire nature. Tanya was no exception, and when she got to the point where she described her strengths and achievements, she came up with such a huge list that I just took off my hat. And then the wedding, the husband stands up, takes the microphone and says: “Dear guests, I want to introduce my wife to you.”
and she tells everything exactly what she wrote about herself, and that’s how he saw her.
I got married a second time with a child - everything is real
And if you give an example of one of the students from Moscow, who took the most popular training three times, then she has two children. She came to me because she had big problems with her husband. She tried her best, she changed a lot as a woman, she understood everything, corrected herself, but her husband did not want to change.
She decided to break up with him. It took seven months from completing the training to getting married again. Let me remind you that she was left with two children. I asked: “Are you sure you married a normal man?” She says: “Yes,” talks about him, his profession. To be honest, I was surprised and tried to understand how it happened.
As a result, I saw what car he arrived in. And he was a successful, adequate, smart, strong man. But he wasn't looking for children. He was looking for a woman. And he chose her, said: “You are the one I have been looking for for many years.” He chose her and now they live together. He provides for his family, they have a great, happy relationship. Understand?
How did we meet
When on the Internet Tanya was looking for an answer to where, with whom she could be happy and how to find her soul mate, she met me quite by accident. I am sure that when you are looking for something, you will definitely be attracted to what you need at the moment. Her problems were that she could not communicate with men from dating sites, because she was afraid that they might say what they wanted about themselves, and not what they are, and seem to be anyone (and there were such people there too). But in the end, she realized that she had to let go of the situation in order to open up and find something truly worthwhile.
