You're too tired of the pressure
All your friends got married a long time ago, and you are alone? In such cases, people around her begin to put pressure on the woman. Relatives and friends ask the same question: when to get married?
A person becomes mentally tired of such pressure and wants to quickly find a partner so that everyone can finally fall behind. However, experts do not recommend getting married in such cases.
If you don’t have such a desire yourself, then you shouldn’t do it in order to please someone. Are you tired of such questions? Just switch to something interesting. You can find a new hobby, it helps to take your mind off things.
After such trainings people come to me...
Girls and women between the ages of 22 and 35 come to me for therapy. Most often you have to work with emotional dependence, difficulties in building relationships with a partner, psychological or sexual trauma in childhood, immaturity, and the inability to understand your needs. They come asking for help to grow up, become happy, and build boundaries in relationships with parents.
“Ekaterina, if someone had told me a year ago, when I married him, that our life would be bad, that I would suffer, I would not have married him. But I had a dream, I really wanted to get married.”
You need to get married the right way. You need to marry a worthy, beloved man, and not because you want or need to.
“Well, my mother told me that it’s time to get married. Relatives said that you need to get married, all your girlfriends are already married, they all already have two, three, ten children, and you are still alone. And I took these courses. I met a man, but there was no happiness. But the man turned out to be not the one with whom I would like to spend my life. And not the kind of guy you would want to have children with.”
And all because initially a woman has a problem, for example, with boundaries. She is used to building relationships according to the codependent type, does not have her own supports and thinks that a man, marriage or children will fill the inner emptiness and make her happy. The truth is that only she herself can make herself happy.
There is only physical connection between you and your partner
If you can’t have a heartfelt conversation with your significant other about something, then this is not the person for you. It should be good with a partner in every sense of the word.
If there is only physical intimacy between you, then this man is not suitable for you. People who love each other should be interested in their other half and provide support if necessary.
You need to be able to not only hear, but also listen to your soulmate. But if you have absolutely nothing to talk about, then this partner is definitely not right for you. It’s definitely not worth connecting your life with him, because being in a relationship with such a partner will be very difficult.
How to get married quickly? How to get married in a month?
How to successfully marry your chosen one? Advice from a psychologist on how to meet and get married quickly. Quick marriage.
“If you hurry, you’ll make the little people laugh.” Where there is haste, there is humor. Even if the rush concerns something serious.
Let's talk about you. You really want to get married. Fast. Not everyone understands why. What's your hurry? Are you afraid that all the registry offices will close? No, don’t even dream about it: if they close, we’ll open it! Or we'll build a new one.
How to get married quickly? How to get married in a month?
You don't fall asleep because you don't have time to sleep. You keep tormenting your thoughts with questions about how to get married in just a month. Thirty (thirty-one) days (day) is both a long and a small period. Your first step is to urgently but carefully consider whether marriage is for you. Moreover, so soon.
Quick marriage. Submitting an application is an easy matter: I took the applicant as my husband by the arm, my passport in my hands. And that’s it! Half the battle is done. The second half of the action is outside the registry office door. Marriage is not a toy. Divorce is not the best solution. Think about it: maybe it would be worth just living together, and then running to “get ringed.”
In cohabitation (the so-called civil marriage), nothing illegal or “anti-moral” has been observed for a long time. Times are different now. And if grandparents look at such family life somehow “slantly,” this is evidenced by their inveterate morals. And you don’t have to try to explain to them how sometimes this is necessary in the modern world: they won’t understand, defending their opinions.
How to quickly get married in a month? - Hm…. It's strange that you want to get married in a month. Usually, a few days are enough to legitimize the relationship. And as they say, I’m still joking. No other way. You can submit applications. Coincidence: exactly a month, you may have to wait for the day of painting.
If you want a “quick” marriage, just bring your boyfriend to the registry office and sign your “autographs”. There is no need for witnesses, no guests, no celebration, no ceremony. We signed and that's it. True, you need to listen to your auntie. But these are necessary and invincible little things. Not my favorite music, of course, but it (“the queen of the registry office”) cannot be turned into musicality. Well, be patient, somehow.
What you read a little above is the fastest option for marriage. It doesn't get any faster! Probably, without guests it’s empty and “something doesn’t feel right.” Then, forget about the very quick “getting married.” Let marriage wait for you. Don’t let fate rush you into entering a “second family life.” Well, if something doesn’t work out, it’s on her that you’ll be “rolling the barrels.”
Marriage is not an easy step. And, before you do it (especially a second time), please think about it. Without thoughts and deliberations - nothing. No matter how it sounds, it’s better to “cook” alone than with someone with whom you will be disappointed a couple of days after “stamping”. Disappointment is always unpleasant.
Advice from a psychologist - how to get married quickly and not make major mistakes.
Listen to your heart. If it says that you need this marriage, act. But - no mistakes! The mistakes that you managed to make in your previous “family life” are unacceptable. And never make such mistakes:
- Don’t “fly in” just to keep a man near you. This is mean and ugly. He will leave if he wants. And even a thousand children will not hold him back.
- Do not touch too often on topics that “touch” the wedding. A man may think that you are chasing his beautiful surname or a rich fortune.
- Don’t pester him with “female” talk if you notice that he is not at all interested in it or doesn’t like it. He will think that you are very “limited” and boring.
- Don't be too corny. Know how to surprise him. Surprise so that he wants to see your “surprises” every hour. It will make you more interesting.
People get married very quickly only in the movies. Or in book lines. You won’t get into either television or books, very simply. And you don’t need to do this just for the sake of marriage. A real marriage is millions of times more pleasant. If, of course, this marriage unites loving hearts. I wish you could have a marriage like this.
Do you want to get married quickly, in a month? “Perhaps you are rushing to get married because age is pushing you.” Believe me: you can get married at any age: fifty, sixty, and even a hundred years old. Don’t worry so much: you won’t have to wait until you’re a hundred years old. Your happiness will kidnap you, embrace you and never let you go. You yourself will be very happy about this “not letting go”, won’t you?
Marriage is a “profitable business.” And, it’s good if it happens once in a lifetime, and not twice, not three or ten, as it happens. By the way, there are women who dream of being married at least once. And soon or not is not important for them. Everyone has their own dreams, desires, concepts. And we, now, will not condemn anyone. Let's get back to you. What are you thinking about so deeply? Maybe you should think about what, in your understanding, a “quick” (quick) marriage means. Do you need it, after all, or do you just want to arrange a “wedding pomp” to show off in front of your loved ones? Everyone already knows: you will look perfect in a bride's dress. You can even be compared to the image of an angel. This, in fact, is what those around you will do, admiring you without taking their eyes off you.
How to get married quickly? “Everything has its time, my dear.” And, no matter how much you rush him, it will come only when he needs it. If every person were able to be “in cahoots with time,” all people would be happy. But, on the other hand, life would cease to be interesting, because everyone would know what awaits them today, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, in a month, in a year….
You won't be left alone. Off topic here, your pessimism. Don't scare off your soul mate who will meet you in the future. On the contrary, attract male attention to yourself. You can do this too, you just most likely forgot how to do it. And take it, and remember, strain all your memory, delve into it. She will notice that you are disturbing her, and she will suddenly give you the information that interests you. But don’t bore your memory, otherwise it will trigger forgetfulness. And there is nothing to do with it. It's scary with her.
Get married. Nobody forbids you. But don’t rush: you’re not late for the train. Marriage will not leave you if you don’t incite panic into it. In general, a panic state is a very bad condition from which you need to rid yourself.
To continued :
How to get married quickly? - If a guy, a man doesn’t want to get married, what should I do?
Love spell. — How to get married, presumably in a month?
Quick marriage. - How to achieve a man’s love?
Take it, it's yours. - How to bewitch your loved one?
You doubt that you deserve more
The understanding that you are not worthy of more in this life comes to women who are not confident in themselves. They prefer to step off their pedestal so as not to seem so demanding.
Next to them, such ladies see an equally insecure partner. Experts advise enjoying life and living it so that you don’t have to regret anything in old age.
You need to choose a partner with whom you will be comfortable in every sense of the word. With this man, a woman should feel like a queen, and not think about who is suitable for her and who is not.
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Don't miss the chance
Now let's return to our happy couples who found their soul mates among their friends, at cultural events, on a dating site, in dating clubs. The way that helped them meet is not important. The important thing is that fate gave each of them a chance to become happy. It is very important not to miss this chance. It is important to use it to the fullest, with every effort.
Chat, get acquainted, write down your phone number if a man you like asks for it. Don't be afraid to change your life for the better. Often fears, doubts and habits slow down your efforts and prevent you from actually taking action to find your soul mate. This is fine. It is important to be able to overcome these doubts and clearly understand what you want to achieve. If you do not change and act, you will remain in your usual comfort zone - that is, you will live as you have lived until now.
For positive changes, you need to step outside your comfort zone , try something new - for example, post a profile on a dating site or ask a friend to introduce you to someone suitable. Even if you are afraid, still make efforts to achieve your goal, that is, in search of a soul mate and subsequent marriage. If you are afraid to change your life, then you will remain where you are now. If you are not satisfied with this, it’s time to take action.
Remember that getting married is not an end in itself. The main thing is to find truly “your” person who looks at life the same way as you. With whom you enjoy communicating, with whom you feel good, whom you can imagine as the father of your children. That's when you can really have a good relationship and a lasting marriage. And don’t settle for less, don’t settle for a relationship in which you have to endure, over-adjust or change your character - it’s unlikely that anything good will come of it. A man should suit you from the very beginning, and not after you re-educate him or he changes.
A woman should value herself
Very often, women let a man get close to them, but this only pushes them away. Why do they do this?
Every girl needs to understand that she is a “flower” that smells fragrant and gives love. For example, what happens is that a person receives this “flower” very quickly, then the question arises: will he appreciate it for a long time? On the other hand, if a man waits for the moment, thinks, dreams, therefore, contact with a woman constantly deepens, and the relationship becomes stronger. The girl becomes desired for life.
It follows from this that a woman, even emotionally, should not let a man approach her quickly, but behave with restraint. He must understand how important she is in his destiny.
