TOP 10 most popular questions about sex
“I can achieve release during oral sex, but I do not achieve orgasm during regular lovemaking. And I would really like this... Are there any special poses that will help me solve the problem once and for all?
All women are different: some need external stimulation more, some internal, some get an orgasm when exposed to the tongue or finger, and some definitely need to be penetrated deeper. Here it is important to experiment, devote enough time to foreplay and remember to constantly get to know your body. If for now you only experience orgasm when stimulating the head of the clitoris, then during vaginal sex it is enough to ensure constant contact with it and control the force of pressure. This can best be achieved in a position where the woman is on top. This way the clitoris touches the man's pubis and is constantly stimulated. But to develop sensations in the vagina, we recommend visiting our training “Development of the Female Orgasm” to increase your sensitivity in 7 days and learn how to get a release in any position.
“My partner and I sometimes have a sex weekend. Once every few months we make love continuously and hardly even stop for a meal break. This is fine? Isn’t it harmful to the body?”
In general, prolonged sex is not a problem for a person and does not pose any danger to him. But there are a number of things that you should pay utmost attention to in order not to harm the genitourinary system. For example, drink water before sexual intercourse, go to the toilet “little by little” after, and wash thoroughly immediately after sex. The fact is that during lovemaking, bacteria are pushed up the urethra. They contribute to its irritation, causing unpleasant itching and can lead to the development of catarrhal urethritis. To avoid such consequences, simply maintain personal hygiene and take a shower at least occasionally during a sex marathon. You should also use water-based lubricants, which will protect against mechanical irritation of the vagina by the male genital organ.
“The young man often feels tired and refuses to make love to me at night. But when morning comes, he always takes “combat readiness” and insists on intimacy. Why is this happening?"
It’s simple – your man’s biological rhythm is of the “lark” type. This means that his body is in good shape in the morning and falls asleep closer to midnight. A guy's testosterone levels rise and fall throughout the day, and are at their peak in the morning hours. Typically, male hormone levels are highest between 7 and 10 am. Although often the morning erection in representatives of the stronger half of humanity is due to biological characteristics - a banal full bladder. It is he who puts increased pressure on the groin area, increasing blood flow to the penis.
“What should I do if I don’t have enough lubrication in my vagina during sex? On some days it is enough for sex, but on others it is not. I'm starting to worry about this."
There's nothing scary about it, but there are a few things you need to know about lubrication. Lubricant is a special substance that forms in the initial part of the vagina and makes sexual intercourse more comfortable for partners. It appears when a woman becomes aroused, and the walls of the vagina begin to swell and consists mainly of proteins, ordinary water and specific acids. Some girls produce insufficient lubrication during sex, which makes sex less enjoyable and even dangerous. Due to the lack of lubrication, friction against the vaginal walls increases, which leads to irritation, pain and increases the risk of contracting an STD.
However, the degree and amount of production of “lubricating” fluid varies from woman to woman. Sometimes it all depends on the strength of a woman’s arousal and she needs a little more foreplay, sometimes this is due to age and the state of the hormonal system. But often the amount of lubrication is affected by taking birth control pills, anti-allergy medications, and even stress. And in order to sufficiently moisturize the walls of the vagina, you have to resort to the help of lubricants.
“Does penis size affect orgasms and the quality of sex?”
At all times, there has been debate about the size of the penis and how much the size of the penis affects the quality of sexual life. To answer this question, we will divide the recommendations into two categories.
If your penis is not big enough:
• in a position where the man is on top, for deeper penetration, throw your legs over his shoulders or wrap them around his waist; • if you are on top during sex, then start moving not using the traditional technique up and down with the usual amplitude, but make circular movements (this way the penis will not slip out of the vagina); • when penetration does not seem deep enough, then stand with your back to the man and bend forward as much as possible in order to better feel his penis; • in order to make the touch of the penis to the vagina more dense, you can lie on your stomach and first connect your legs, and the young man should “settle in” from behind.
If the penis is too big:
• you need to make the vagina more elastic for penetration with the help of prolonged foreplay (the longer you are in an excited state, the better); • at the moment when you are ready to reach the peak, ask him to stop so that you can control the strength, depth and frequency of penetration; • if you are on top, then just squat down or spread your knees wide so that it doesn’t hurt so much, or your partner can support you with his hands and the penis will not penetrate so deeply; • and when your lover is on top, ask him to enter you quickly, but shallowly - this is also very pleasant.
“What happens to the sperm the moment it gets inside my body?”
During orgasm, a man does not produce much sperm. On average, its amount does not exceed 5-6 grams, which is equal to the volume of a standard teaspoon. And the number of sperm in it ranges from 200-250 to 450-500 million. It should be noted that most of the sperm flows out immediately after intercourse. And only a small amount of seminal fluid passes through the cervix.
Since sperm has a gel-like consistency with varying degrees of thickness, it naturally flows through the relaxed walls of the female vagina under the influence of gravity. This usually happens when a woman goes to the shower or toilet. But if she does not get up after sex for at least 45-60 minutes, then the seminal fluid remains inside the vagina and does not go anywhere. This is relevant in cases where a girl wants to get pregnant. But if family planning is not part of your plans, just take a shower or use a thin panty liner that will absorb excess sperm (but do not forget to protect yourself in another way).
“My man can't always reach his peak when having sex with me. Is this a problem solely in me, or is difficult orgasm the beginning of more serious sexual problems?”
It all depends on the young man's natural rhythm. Some representatives of the stronger half of humanity have very fast reactions and do not need additional stimulation, while others are slower and sedentary in all respects. Also, a guy or man may suffer due to chronic fatigue or stressful situations at work. Often the cause of delayed reactions is drinking alcohol, lack of self-confidence, or the use of certain medications. In the case of medication use, erectile dysfunction is one of the many side effects.
Also, the problem may be hidden in an uncomfortable position for the partner. For example, you may be delighted with the cowgirl position or penetration while lying on your side, but a man wants roughness and deeper penetration. Let him choose his own position during lovemaking and don’t protest if you want to do everything as before. Another life hack - tell your lover that you expect an orgasm from him first. Sometimes a man, in an attempt to surprise his partner, endures until the last, until the desire to cum burns out and reaching the peak becomes impossible. Before you panic, you should try all these tricks.
However, if such difficulties in achieving the long-awaited orgasm appear on a regular basis, then you need to consult a specialist. In many situations, problems with potency indicate serious illnesses. A loved one may have diabetes, severe psychological blockage due to stress or overwork, and also disturbances in the functioning of the cardiovascular system. The main thing is to carefully suggest the idea of visiting a urologist or other doctors.
In more rare cases, problems with ejaculation are associated solely with problems in the couple. Perhaps the man senses your insincerity, has found out your secret, or is hiding something serious himself. Try to discuss everything calmly without the presence of strangers. It is possible that a heart-to-heart conversation will help solve the problem.
“How do you get into the famous “69” position? I have problems with this all the time.”
“69” is the most exciting position that allows partners to simultaneously give and receive incredible pleasure through oral sex. The only problem is that not every person can concentrate on two actions at the same time. So the problem may lie not at all in how you took this very position, but in your emotional state and the simultaneous achievement of orgasm. However, even if this is the case, you can always leave “69” as foreplay!
The easiest way to take this position is casually. For example, start kissing your partner affectionately, and then gradually move down to the groin area. When you reach the penis and begin to caress it, then without drawing much attention, turn over so that your crotch is at the level of his eyes. Moreover, you don’t need to roll over to a “standing” position; it’s better to lie on your side and invite the man to do the same.
“After drinking alcohol, it’s easier for me to get into a state of excitement, however, this makes orgasm more difficult or not at all. What should I do?
Alcohol numbs nerve endings, which reduces blood flow to the groin area. Because of this, the frame of consciousness expands for flirting, but closes for sex. Your body is literally in a state of coma and achieving orgasm becomes impossible. It’s better to do without him in such matters in order to enjoy sex.
Ask questions in the comments under this article, we will definitely answer them. We wish everyone bright orgasms and great sex!
Results of a survey of 1000 women about relaxation, dreams and sex
The purpose of the survey is to identify the psycho-physical and emotional state of modern women who actively use social networks.
The number of people who took part in the survey was 1000 female representatives.
Duration : October 2020 – January 2016.
I’ll say right away: the survey results do not claim to be the ultimate truth. All source data is indicated above.
Let's start comparing the results.
90% of responses were received on weekdays from 0.36 to 3.47 am, then from 7.06 to 12 am (highest activity).
Conclusion:
1. there can be no talk of restoring and relaxing the body;
2. before going to bed - Fb, as soon as I woke up - immediately Fb. This pattern of behavior does not allow any unusual idea to enter your head. Consciousness becomes clogged with garbage and does not reboot.
Age of those who wanted to take the test: 25-35 years old - 65% , 35-40 years old - 20%.
70% women already have their own business or are planning to open one.
71% of respondents in most cases prefer to do everything either well or not at all - hence the stress and dissatisfaction.
Next question: “What areas of life would you rate below 5 on a 10-point scale?”
1. First place, what most women lack - with a margin of 1 (!) vote over second place - free time - 40% .
2. Sex - 39.9%.
If there are still men who think that their missus is capricious and gets on their nerves because she doesn’t have enough money, reconsider your opinion! She just doesn't have enough good sex, you don't satisfy her. Talk to her about it and solve your problem.
3. Self-realization - 37.2%.
Many people on our planet really don’t know what brings them real pleasure, through which their soul can be realized in the outside world. You can say, “I know. I just don’t have enough time for this.” A person’s life is guided by only two feelings: the desire for pleasure and the avoidance of pain. If you know exactly what brings you pleasure and want it, nothing, believe me, nothing in this world can stop you. If you don't have enough time for self-realization, you just don't really want it. Almost 40%! Think about it - this is a big number!
4. Money - 34.9 % Only in 4th place. Which reminds us of the good old saying: “Money doesn’t buy happiness.” And that's true. After all, pieces of paper with numbers on their own have never made anyone happy until you find what pleasures to spend them on.
5. Career - 30.2 % Almost 1/3 of respondents are not satisfied with their career. Here I have a question: what exactly is stopping you from advancing in your career? Think about it: building a career is one of the easiest areas of our lives.
It is much more difficult to build a harmonious family, raise a child, or start your own business from scratch. I suggest these people develop a step-by-step plan for building their careers for the next 3, 6 and 12 months.
With love, family and friends, most are fine . These are the last three places on the scale of dissatisfaction.
The next question was: “ How do you relax? » Multiple answers could be marked.
61% - dream;
49% — sports, swimming pool, fitness;
40% - love to walk in the park;
20% - o and entered “alcohol”, “food”, “TV” and “Internet”;
14% - believe that they do not strain;
Bath and meditation scored 24% each
and only 19% - yoga.
Let's talk about relaxation. What does it mean to “relax the body”?
To answer this question, let's start with what does a “tense body” mean? A tense body means tense muscles. A tense muscle is a contracted muscle, a toned muscle.
Any sport strains the muscle even more, i.e. we purposefully tone the muscles. It turns out that we tone the body, which is already in good shape, into even greater tone. Of course, after we finish our aerobic exercise, it seems to us that we have relaxed, because from hypertonicity the body again simply sinks into tone. A relaxed body means relaxed muscles, spine, and ligaments.
Suitable for relaxation: a bathhouse, preferably with brooms, a relaxing (not sports!) massage. Sleep, unfortunately, is not a way to relax. In a dream, all thought processes continue to occur, we continue to talk, already with ourselves, because of this the body cannot relax completely.
Answer the question honestly for yourself: “How often do I wake up in the morning on my own, completely sleepy, feeling refreshed and full of strength?” If you have difficulty remembering such moments, or these moments are too rare in your life, consider whether it is time to reconsider the way you use your body and brain. How many more years can you stand in this mode?
The results of the answers to this question are very similar to the following: “What skills would you like to learn?”
And here, by a large margin, the leading item is: “Find a source of inexhaustible strength and vital energy” - 53% .
This source is within us. It’s just impossible to get to it when the body is constantly tense and does not relax. What happens if the spring is constantly compressed?
In third place with 30% is the skill to turn off your head . You are absolutely right: it is impossible to turn off your head when you don’t know where your personal switch is, when you don’t know how to control your body and your mind, considering these processes to be beyond your control.
As I already indicated at the beginning, 90% of the responses to this survey were received between 0.36 and 3.47 am - at a time when the body should be in its most active stage of recovery and recharging with energy for the new day. A person who is out of tune with his body spends this time on the Internet! And if you don’t understand your body and head, then turning it off is beyond your control.
Solution : start with your schedule (try to go to bed before 12 am and sleep 7-9 hours), give up tea and coffee for a month. Ideally, write down the discoveries that happen to you every day. Then we will continue our conversation.
In second place are the answers to the question “What skill would you like to learn?” It’s worth “Managing time” to get everything done. Said 40% of respondents . At the same time, they answered that they spend their weekends on: cleaning - 40%, entertainment (clubs and bars) - 54%, meeting with friends - 61%.
Hey guys, our problems with self-realization were in 3rd place with a gap of just a couple of votes from sex and free time. I have a question: where do you spend your time!!! You say you want to do one thing, but in fact you do something completely different. Who is to blame for this? Think about it. And finally change your schedule and prioritize on the scale of “What I want and what I actually do.”
39% sleep on their day off. Of course, if you go to bed no earlier than two on weekdays. Stop doing this!
33% want to learn how to be weak with a strong man, and 32% want to relax . Appeal to the 33%: as soon as you learn to relax, the question of weakness in front of a man will disappear on its own. Approach this issue responsibly - and be amazed at the results.
79% want to change something in their lives.
have unfulfilled dreams . I am absolutely sure that dreams exist in order to make them come true. We live in a time when any tool is available to us. So why do our dreams remain gathering dust in dark closets? What is it: laziness, or fear of being happy? Think about it! Why haven't you realized your dream? Maybe it’s high time to do this?!
73% admit that they need moral support from the outside world . I think this percentage is actually higher. After all, it is precisely for this reason that the dreams of 87% of respondents often do not come true.
Based on the test results I can say:
1. We are very good at stressing, but bad at relaxing.
2. What is truly valuable to us is not what society imposes on us, but what our soul wants.
3. We are looking for an eternal source of energy, wasting the power already given to us not on what we truly desire and love and what gives us pleasure.
I can draw many more conclusions, but I think you can draw them yourself. Think about it... and then feel what you really want and what you do. Maybe then you will find the answer to the main question - why your dreams never came true, and what can be done to make them come true?! published
Author: Anastasia Totok
