The best way to get to know a person is to ask him questions. By listening to the answers, you can find out how serious a person is and what sense of humor he has. Even the simplest question can be answered in an original and interesting way. What cool questions can you ask guys? Read about it below.
Transience of life
Life is fleeting - everyone knows this fact. Another thing is surprising: experts state the fact that in the face of expected death (in the case of an incurable disease or inevitable death), everyone, without exception, has the feeling that life lasted for approximately the same period of time, moreover, it is much shorter than the one actually lived.
It doesn’t matter what age a person is: 5 years old or 105. Everyone has the same feeling of something important that has not begun, that was about to happen just the other day.
Another fact: out of 10 peers and friends present in the immediate circle of thirty-year-olds, at least one will not live to see their 40th birthday. Therefore, you need to pay attention to your loved ones now, without postponing for later what may not be available tomorrow.
If your pet could talk, what would you ask him?
What cool questions should you ask a guy to get to know him better? Ask a young man about his pet. If the guy has an animal, ask if the man talks to him. No? Then what would he talk about, for example, with a cat if he could answer? Options may vary. A guy might ask how a cat feels who has lived in an apartment all his life and had no idea that another world was opening outside the window. Or perhaps the pet fell out of the balcony and then the whole neighborhood looked for it. The impressions of a cat who saw the world for the first time not from a window will be interesting. A guy who can easily support such a topic will definitely be able to entertain you. A young man who is not deprived of imagination and love for animals will become a good life partner.
Interesting facts about the brain, its work and abilities
- Messages from the human brain are transmitted along nerve connections at speeds of up to 322 km/h.
- There are so many nerve cells in the human brain that it would take almost 3,000 years to count them.
- If you smoothed out all the wrinkles and grooves of an adult brain, it would be the size of a pillowcase.
- Dieting can cause the brain to eat itself.
- A woman's brain shrinks during pregnancy. This allows him to better interpret the infants' needs and emotions and increase maternal affection.
- The average person has 70,000 thoughts every day. Now think about how to organize them for maximum productivity.
- You've probably heard that having a male brain will bring you more success. Whereas the female brain copes better with family tasks. But according to research by Israeli scientist Daphne Joel, there is no such thing as a “male or female brain.” The human brain has an unpredictable mixture of masculine and feminine traits.
- Want a younger brain? Then stay at school and take the stairs instead of the elevator. A study led by scientist Jason Steffener at Concordia shows that education and physical activity can significantly slow brain aging.
- The human brain has enough memory to store three million hours of television viewing.
- A woman's brain grows slightly during her menstrual cycle. A woman's hippocampus, the center of memories, mood and emotions, grows in sync with estrogen levels during the menstrual cycle.
- According to research, cognitive decline in our brain begins at age 24.
- 35 years after leaving school, most people can still identify 90% of their classmates.
- Lack of sleep can shrink the brain. The study, published online in the journal Neurology, found that people with sleep problems experienced a faster decline in brain volume than those who slept well.
- Multitasking divides the brain. Research shows that the brain can successfully solve two things at once, but when a third task is added it makes three times as many errors.
- Even short-term exercise can activate parts of the brain involved in decision-making and focus, according to research.
- After death, the brain continues to send electrical signals for approximately 37 hours.
- The human brain is the most powerful computer with processing speeds of 3000+ GHz.
What would you do if you were locked out of a supermarket at night?
Cool questions for guys can be very diverse. It’s very interesting to fantasize about awkward but funny situations. Ask your date what he would do if he were closed at his local supermarket. The guy can say that he would ride on carts, eat everything he has long wanted to try, or play bowling with canned food. Stories like this should not be taken seriously. The question is designed to find out how a man will behave in an unusual situation and whether he can find a way out of it. A guy who answers with humor and offers funny ways to solve a problem is an interesting person. The girl can be sure that she will definitely not get bored with this gentleman. A person who will be boring and talk about calling the police or calling one of his friends to help him get out of the store is not a good match for you. If even in a fictional situation a guy doesn’t know how to entertain himself, then in reality it will be boring with such a person.
What makes a person interesting?
Exclusive interview with the leaders of the rock group “Auktsion” to the AIF.MD website.
The group "Auktsion" can rightfully be considered a phenomenon of modern music. According to St. Petersburg writer Vladimir Slavitsky, with whom the AIF.MD correspondent spoke after the concert, this is the best musical phenomenon that can be observed in Russia. And it's hard to argue with him.
“Auktsion” needs no introduction. Even those who are not close to rock, I’m sure, have come across their crazy music. Although the group's style is difficult to attribute to any direction. This is an eclectic mix of ska, reggae, new jazz, ethnic music of North Africa and the Middle East, as well as beat and pop music of the 60s. And it represents a completely unique phenomenon in contemporary art. However, it is not only the musical chaos, which some may find unbearable, that is loved by fans of “Auktsion”. But also their excellent vocals, thoughtful lyrics, philosophical and often sarcastic. Often drawing inspiration from elite poetry and prose. One example is the Russian poet Velimir Khlebnikov.
All these factors, it would seem, cannot lead to success, since they constitute pure art - the creativity and freedom of the performers themselves. However, no matter what city “Auktsion” comes to, he always gathers his few crazy fans, giving them all his strength. Moreover, the audience, according to their own observations, is intellectual, calm, and informal. And the artists sing and play every time like it’s the last. It’s paradoxical, but every year there are more and more amateurs. Despite the fact that the group is already over 25 years old. In recent years they have had a close-knit, stable group of eight musicians: Lenya Fedorov (vocals, guitar), Pavel Bondarik (bass), Kolya Rubanov (countless saxophones), Misha Kolovsky (tuba), Dima Ozersky (keyboards), Pasha Litvinov (percussion) , Boris Shaveinikov (drums), Oleg Garkusha (everything else that might come to your mind).
During all this time, they were asked no matter what questions. And all of them are definitely trivial for artists, routine. Our correspondent decided to depart from the canons, inviting those who are interested in the specifics of the group’s work to scour the Internet (there is plenty of information there) and talk with them about the very fact of art...
Oleg Garkusha: I get a thrill from both life and creativity
- Life and art. You can put a sign of identity, is this clear to you?
- Life is life. Creativity is creativity. Household problems are inevitable. And moments of creation do happen. Unexpectedly. Inspiration pours out mainly into poems. And if it is set to the music of Leni Fedorov, the verse becomes a song. And sometimes we improvise during a concert, right on stage. Only there can I be myself - completely holistic and harmonious. But in any case, I get a thrill from both life and creativity.
– Poetry is sometimes called that – moments of integrity, communion. One thing is certain: during the concert there is a certain merging with the artists, a single spirit, or something. Do you think such an experience can transform a person?
– In my opinion, this is everyone’s business. General euphoria. But what does each person experience? Everything is too individual, and how our listeners’ lives turn out later depends on them. Does art change a person in general? I think yes. How else?
– What do you consider the most important thing in order to be with a person, to create together?
- Sincerity and simplicity. I am a simple and open person. I'm glad when people treat me the same way. And in the group we have a good, creative atmosphere.
– Do you write songs collectively?
- When together. And when Dima Ozersky or Lenya Fedorov brings the text, we rehearse until Lenya comes and says: “We’re going to Moscow. Let's sign up." And we go.
– The audience just goes crazy when you start reading your poems on stage. What's the secret? And could you read one of your favorite poems to AIF.MD readers?
– I don’t know what’s the matter. I suspect that in the absence of falsehood. A poem, please. Blank verse from the latest album “Girls Sing”:
"Kindness"
What makes a person interesting - his mind, his strength, his feelings, his will? All wrong. Kindness, kindness. You can fight for this, prove your point year after year. You can die for her. Does kindness exist in each of us? I think no. Kindness (internal) is very far from us. It comes to light only when it is absolutely necessary. So what's the deal? Let’s open our hearts to everyone, everyone we meet, and everything will be fine. People, everyone, will become kinder, closer... But there will be at least one in a hundred people with a bad and ugly heart and a rotten soul, and he will take his toll. He will stretch out his unclean hands to us, to everyone, hurt us and leave, laughing maliciously... This is the so-called gratitude for everything good and beautiful... So let us give kindness to whoever wants it, who wants it, who needs it like water, like bread.
Monologue by Leni Fedorov about the limits of art
Leonid Fedorov, very exhausted and tired after the performance, was not easy to approach. Moreover, he does not willingly give interviews to journalists. I asked him to comment on the conclusion of the French critic and essayist Maurice Blanchot: “Art succeeds where knowledge fails: because it is not authentic enough to be a solution and too unreal to be an obstacle. Art is “as if,” the highest oblivion. Everything happens as if the truth were present next to us, but its presence is not quite a presence, and therefore it does not prevent us from moving forward.”
– I think we can agree with this. But for me, art is still something genuine, higher. What keeps me going. I don’t know what could be beyond it. I myself don’t quite understand what happens to me in moments of inspiration, when I write or play music. Perhaps my condition can express the principle: writing is a form of prayer. I can definitely say, without surprising anyone, that it transforms.
It's the same on stage. We don't always get to feel the creative flow. But when we achieve complete freedom on stage, we understand that this is our goal. This is the meaning of everything we do.
In life, I try not to stop the process. I am always in search of ideas, images, melodies. Very soon there will be a presentation of the new album “Wolfgang”, which I recorded together with Vladimir Volkov. There can be no stopping - either degradation or development. We are moving forward in our creativity. Is this the highest oblivion? Even if this is the case, so be it.
Art preferences of Vladimir Volkov
Since the article is devoted exclusively to art and its perception, I decided to find out the preferences in the field of literature, music and visual arts of Vladimir Volkov, a double bass player, composer and producer. A bright and extremely erudite personality. Currently, he is one of the leaders of St. Petersburg new improvised music, a master of acoustic bass, and a participant in a variety of projects - from ethno-jazz to avant-rock. He leads his own “Volkovtrio” and participates in numerous projects of the “Auktsion” group. Last year he performed at the Chisinau ethno-jazz festival.
– I have always read a lot and continue to do so, despite the catastrophic lack of time. I love F. Dostoevsky and A. Camus, L. Shestov, V. Solovyov, A. Rebezov. From poetry - poets of the Silver Age - O. Mandelstam and M. Tsvetaev. I could talk about music endlessly. I have so many favorite performers that I think listing them is pointless. One thing I can say is that I love absolutely all classics. As for fine art and sculpture, I give preference to the Italian masters of Trecento and Quattrocento: Giotto, Donatello, Brunelleschi, Pisano, Masaccio, Botticelli and many others. In impressionism - E. Monet and P. Renoir, post-impressionism - Van Gogh. Contemporary art is too controversial. I don't want to talk about him.
Will the Auction group ever come to Chisinau after a long break - the question, as it turned out, is not for them. And to our showmen, producers, art managers and all those who do this. In my opinion, this would be a win-win concert that would greatly please the capital’s bohemia.
Ekaterina KOZHUKHAR
Chisinau - St. Petersburg – Chisinau
photo from the band's official website
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Have your point of view
Your point of view may not be very popular, different from others and may not have support in your company, but remember that you think so and you have every right to do so. You don’t have to adapt to someone else and you can express your point of view on things, but without offending other people or violating their boundaries, and without imposing your picture of the world on them. You have such an attitude towards the politics of a given state, the songs of this singer and bodybuilding, but your opponent’s opinion may be absolutely polar. You shouldn’t think “no, I won’t say anything, otherwise I’ll suddenly seem stupid.” My dears, don’t show yourself if you really think differently or think differently - you are you and that’s the main thing. But at the same time, you should not take a position that is not close to you, just for the sake of standing out in the crowd - believe me, this will not bring anything good to you in the first place. Remember point 2 of the differences between an interesting person and an uninteresting one and draw the right conclusion.
As you can see, not everything is as complicated as it seems. But the most important thing in becoming an interesting personality is internal transformation. An interesting personality is about self-confidence, charisma, objective self-esteem, the absence of complexes (in the best sense of the word) and internal pressures. And only then we can talk about a broad outlook and the ability to communicate. Therefore, dive deep into yourself and don’t be afraid - everything there is from the customer’s material.
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These tips will help those who want to develop creativity, learn to take risks and trust their talents and abilities. They will also be useful in your career and in everyday life.
Explore
Explore new ideas, places and opinions. Listening only to yourself is the lot of unbearably boring people.
- Disconnect .
Without a map, you can find places that are not marked there. By turning off your phone, you can talk to someone you meet along the way. Skip the next batch of updates on social networks and look within yourself. Gadgets tie you to a familiar world. Turn them off and plunge into the unknown. - Take a vacation every day.
Even if not for long. Walk around the city at sunrise. Drop a letter into an unfamiliar mailbox. Read a magazine someone left at a bus stop. Take a walk in the rain. Order hot chocolate in an unfamiliar cafe. Use any free minute. - Keep asking “why?”
Parents hate it when their children torment them with questions. Why? Because. Why? Because. Why? Because. And again and again. But try it yourself. And you will be surprised how behind a simple “why?” the most interesting “because...” will follow.
Share your finds
Be generous. Not everyone can go with you. Let them have the same adventures as you.
- Be proactive.
Don't put it off until tomorrow. Speak and act immediately, now. Go where you need to be. Don't wait for an invitation - invite yourself. Don't sit by the phone - call. Spread the word. Click on the buttons. Buy tickets and enjoy the show. - State the obvious (to you).
What you know is often a sealed secret for others. What is as old as the world to you may seem like a fresh idea to someone else. For you the task is simple, for others it is an insurmountable obstacle. Your mind is full of treasures that no one else can see. Bring them out into the light. When you share ideas, they don't disappear. On the contrary, they only multiply. - Be the connector, not the end point.
Don't just talk. Don't just listen. Meet people. Help strangers. Share what you know. This is how an idea grows like a snowball and eventually turns into an event. Be the core around which the whole community is created.
Do something. Anything
Dance. Write. Build. Communicate. Play. Help. Create. It doesn't matter what exactly you do, as long as you do something. Yes, just in case: this does not apply to “sit and whine.”
- Make a choice.
Any. Can't decide exactly how to manage the current day? With your life? Career? To be honest, it doesn't matter. Even carefully laid plans fall apart. And rushing around in indecision from one option to another is a surefire way to never accomplish anything in your entire life. Flip a coin. Spin the bottle. Trust your intuition. And go ahead! - Throw away the trash.
Not every business is worth doing. Not every unpleasant job has to be done. Avoid what torments you. If there's something you can't avoid (doing laundry or filing a tax return), enjoy doing it—and once you've done it, put it out of your mind. Make room for what really matters. And really interesting. - Stake out your territory.
Whatever you do, love what you do. Accept it. Get better at it. Own it. This is the only way to combine a sense of freedom with a sense of security.
Embrace your weirdness
There are no “normal” people in the world. Each has its own characteristics and unique views. Don't hide them from others - this is what makes you an interesting person.
- Be yourself in public.
When you leave the house, be yourself. Be yourself at work. Wear your individuality proudly. Don't censor your skills. Don't hide your unique traits. To stand out, you need to have personality. Only the one who does not hide it from others remains himself. - Stop apologizing.
There's nothing wrong with being unique. There is nothing wrong with being different from others. You don't have to apologize for being an interesting person. - Capitalize on your features.
What makes you interesting adds value to you. Only you can express what you know, do what you do, and know what you know. And you don’t need a huge niche - just a piece of land to stick your flag.
Live meaningfully
If you don't care, no one will care about you.
- Spend your money on the right things.
Who do you pay? Who pays you? What people and companies are you associated with? Do you agree with their policies, practices and behavior? Are they satisfied with you? If not, you can always change things up by starting to spend your money on something else. - Strive for the maximum.
Ask yourself: is this the best it can be? If not, what is it? And get busy achieving the best. - Get things in order.
Give the most important things the highest priority. Everything else will organize itself.
Keep it simple
Ego gets in the way of ideas. If your arrogance is more noticeable than your experience, people will avoid you.
- Imagine how much you don't know.
Everything you will ever know will be just a microscopic grain of sand compared to the vast, vast information of the universe. Let this sobering fact reassure you. - Not everyone needs what you have.
Your greatest achievement, no matter how impressive it may seem to you, is a terrible nightmare for someone else. Your most valuable possession is just tasteless trash to someone else. Brag carefully! - Think about how lucky you are.
Do you deserve what you have? Perhaps, partly. What about what you don't have? Probably not. Recognize the role that coincidences, accidents, systemic processes (and luck, of course) play in our world.
Try it
Try it. Try new ideas. Do something unusual. You won't grow until you leave your comfort zone.
- Acknowledge your desires.
To deny a dream means to kill it in the bud. You shouldn't feel guilty about striving for something. There's nothing wrong with wanting something. Save the guilt for when you don't give yourself a chance to at least try. - Go beyond your boundaries.
Just because you haven't been somewhere doesn't mean you won't like it. Just because something isn't your responsibility doesn't mean you can't do it. It's up to you to decide which league to play in. - Take on difficult things.
Know that obstacles will deter most of your competitors. In addition, as a rule, solving the most difficult problems brings the greatest satisfaction in the end.
Get off someone else's rut
You shouldn’t do what everyone else is already doing - this train has left without you. Come up with something of your own, then admirers will be drawn to you .
- Squeeze into the niche.
The narrower the niche, the less room there is for imitators. If you want to be interesting, do something special, not ordinary. - Don't go after everything that is universal.
If something is found everywhere, it is not necessarily worthy of praise or participation. - Get noticed.
To be successful, you don't have to become world famous or filthy rich. You just have to do what you do best.
Get your act together
It takes courage to have your own opinion and take the untrodden path. If you don't have enough courage, all you have to do is hang around the cooler and discuss those who have it in abundance.
- Start a riot.
If you suddenly realize that you are working on something pointless or fruitless, stop immediately. You shouldn't fight for something you don't see value in. You will be surprised how many people will support your protest. - Avoid authorities.
Authorities, as a rule, fetter, restrain and limit freedom. Get rid of them whenever possible. - Don't be afraid of friction.
You don't want to impose. You don't like to make waves. You don't dare ask for what you need. But you will have to get over yourself.
Ignore the swearing
It's safe to be boring. When you become interesting, you will often hear angry “behave yourselves.” Those who scold you also “could”, “would like”, “would have done”. But they didn't. And that's why they are infuriated by your willingness to adventure.
- Don't put yourself down.
Is that nasty little voice in your head criticizing and putting you down? Silence him with actions that will prove him wrong. Warning: This may take years. - Learn from everyone.
You can learn how not to live your life from the scumbags you encounter. You can learn how to live from people you respect and love. Consider this all a scientific study of human behavior. - Don't confuse ridicule and criticism.
Only that which can be used for self-improvement is constructive.
Unfortunately, you don't meet many interesting people in life. Yes, they exist, but, to be honest, I would like more! In general, there is no universal definition of who an interesting person is and it is different for everyone. We can only say one thing: these are people with whom you want to communicate as often as possible and to whom you want to gravitate. It just happens in my life that many people who meet me say that they are happy to communicate with me, that they are interested in me. And I wondered how I became like this. How do you become an interesting person? And after analyzing my experience and available information, I identified 3 steps that will help you become an interesting person for others!
STEP 1. ABILITY TO POSITION YOURSELF
Look extraordinary!
You are greeted by your clothes, but seen off by your mind. This is true, but does not mean that you do not need to pay attention to your appearance. Quite the opposite, because this can be the key to success in communicating with other people. To become an interesting person, make every effort to be, on the one hand, attractive, and on the other, an extraordinary person, at any time and in any place. There are many ways to do this.
The easiest and fastest of all to attract attention and interest is clothing. Therefore, I recommend creating several styles that will make you stand out from the crowd. For myself personally, I decided that I would make 3 main styles: for sports, for relationships and for career. Those. such a kind of spherical image. And the more difficult and time-consuming way is to work on your body. Either this is physical training to make it look impressive, or, say, various tattoos, piercings, scarring, etc. The main thing here is without fanaticism!
Be confident!
In order for others to understand that they are dealing with an interesting person, you yourself must be sure that you truly deserve attention to your person. Remember some heroes from our favorite films like Superman or Hulk. Each of them has its own distinctive feature and that is why it is always so interesting to watch them. Many boring people think only about their shortcomings, and this becomes an obstacle to becoming an interesting person to others.
You need to find your strengths and distinctive abilities that will set you apart from the crowd. The more strengths you have as a person, the more confident you will feel. Strength of spirit is something that has been valued at all times. These are the qualities of a strong and interesting personality. Every person should believe in their strength and ability to achieve success in all areas of life.
Show your individuality!
A person can become interesting when he is “different from everyone else.” And this has nothing to do with any strangeness or inadequacy. This only alienates the people around you. Know that interest is always aroused by something new, different from the usual, but within the framework of what is understandable. Many people often cannot formulate why they like this or that person, so they answer - he is not like everyone else. A person may not do anything unusual, but if someone perceives his words, looks, actions as something unusual, new, then he arouses interest.
