Psychological dependence on a man is a serious disorder that causes a loss of self-confidence and makes you forget about your own desires and feelings. "Two halves of one whole." This phrase evokes a response even in the hardest hearts: how wonderful it is to meet “your” person and create a strong union with him.
For some women, “dissolving” in their chosen one can lead to sad consequences. They abandon their own interests, cannot make decisions on their own, and constantly need approval. Why do some people, when entering into a relationship, not lose their own “I”, while others literally begin to live as a man? Is it possible to get rid of psychological addiction?
Causes of psychological dependence
Before starting treatment, the doctor makes a diagnosis and determines the nature of the disease. In psychology, everything works according to the same principles. Before you stop depending on a man, you need to determine the root cause of moral attachment. The origins of this painful condition always live in the woman herself, in her psyche. Moral dependence usually goes hand in hand with material dependence. Women can be divided into several types, each of which meekly submits to their chosen one for certain reasons:
Women of fantasy
Since childhood, they have been living in their own world of dreams, where the well-known fairy tale about a beautiful princess who is waiting for her equally beautiful prince is repeated over and over again. These women are “sick” with ideals. As soon as they find a suitable man, a whole host of qualities are immediately added to his image that a real person may not (and most likely does not) possess. In order not to upset her ideal, a woman begins to indulge him in everything, put up with his whims, and obey any orders. Preserving a dream is the main goal of a woman who is not mentally prepared to face harsh reality.
Insecure women
This is the most common type. As you know, most complexes are formed in childhood. When she was still a girl, she was oppressed by her own parents/humiliated by her peers/bullied by her classmates. The girl has grown up, but the role of the black sheep has not disappeared. She has become insecure, with a huge inferiority complex, which forces a woman to please everyone, but first of all her man.
Morally healthy women who cannot withstand the pressure of a man's leadership qualities
He was always used to being the first and the best in everything. At first, this is exactly what his chosen one liked about the man, but over time, watching him climb higher and higher up the career/social ladder, she herself begins to be overcome by complexes. The woman begins to feel that she is “not worthy” of her chosen one, she has nothing to offer him. She develops self-doubt. To compensate for her own insignificance, a woman begins to submit to a man in everything.
Keepers of the Hearth
It is not surprising that a woman becomes a housewife, gives up her own ambitions, raises children and begins to live with her husband. Having made such a choice, it is very difficult not to lose your own independence. The longer the boat of family happiness floats, the less opportunities a woman has to jump out of it and swim to the previously abandoned shore. The worries drag on, and the housewife becomes completely dependent on her husband.
Many women, having fallen into addiction, harbor illusions with which they reassure themselves: a man gives much more than he takes, and at any moment the situation can be changed, show character and they will listen to you. This is wrong. A person gets used to power. If he is dealing with a weak-willed woman, then her opinion ceases to mean anything to him at all. There is practically no way back to the beginning of the relationship, when mutual respect still existed.
How to create affection in a man?
Could he be dependent on you? Relationships can often be difficult. Women tend to be emotional, while men play the strong cards. The hand of cards that is given is actually based on the needs of both parties. However, there are some tempting ways to make him completely dependent on you. Although every person is different, there are some universal steps that can help you. You probably have a question: what should you do first?
The simplest thing is to stand out. Most women believe that being like their previous friends is the best option. This couldn't be closer to the truth. The point is, having the same personality traits as his ex will only push him away. The reason guys keep dating different women is because they haven't found the "one" and the "special one." If he stopped being with her, what makes you think he won't stop wanting to be with you? Always remember, you must be different from other girls.
Make him feel better.
The second way to capture his heart and make him dependent on you: a guaranteed method that has been used by women for centuries.
And yet the best thing you can tie a man to is love.
It's simple: you want him to feel better while he's with you. A man tends to love a woman more who makes him feel more important. There are many ways to do this secretly. Compliment his clothes, hairstyle, character trait, action. Comments like these can really make him happier around you. Laugh at his jokes, even the unfunny ones. Show how much you value his thoughts and opinions. All this can make him feel like a million bucks!
Finally, one of the best ways to make him dependent on you is to take part in his hobbies. Ask any man, there is nothing sexier than a woman watching him play basketball. This shows that you are truly interested in the things he likes. Engaging in conversation about his interests will make him open up to you more. And don't forget to give him the opportunity to teach you his hobby, which will create a great feeling that can't be ignored.
The point is, being open to his wants, needs and interests is something previous women obviously haven't done before. Men should feel that they are worthy of admiration. At the same time, they want to feel happy. If you can make him feel comfortable every time you are with him, he will want to spend all his time with you. Why not when you make him feel so good?
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How to get rid of psychological addiction
There are six universal methods that will help dull the pain of moral dependence, weakening the latter. The methods are indecently simple and accessible to every woman:
Find yourself a hobby
A new activity will distract you from obsessive thoughts about a person. A hobby opens up the opportunity to realize untapped potential and even become a specialist in a new field.
Take a break from work
Work is the best cure for painful attachment. The more you take on yourself, the less time you will have to think about a man. A pleasant bonus to this way of distraction is success in a team and possible career advancement.
Chat with friends and girlfriends
Rest is also a good way to forget all the bad things and stop living as a different person. The main condition is that you need to relax in pleasant company. Gather your friends for a noisy party, go on an overnight hike, visit a neighboring city, have a tea party with board games at home.
Realize a man as a separate person from yourself
This is perhaps the most difficult thing. You need to separate yourself from your chosen one, calmly imagine life after the end of the relationship, when he will no longer be around. One of the signs of addiction is fear of a lonely future. You need to get rid of this phobia and look forward with optimism. If this man does not exist in the future, then another, much better one will appear.
Play some sports
Another great option to distract yourself and get yourself in order. Along with a beautiful body and a lot of compliments on her figure, a woman will regain self-confidence and become more independent.
Go on a trip alone
New countries - new experiences. Travel is exciting. If a woman is far from a man, their moral connection will significantly weaken. During your vacation, you can turn the heads of a couple of foreigners, which will add self-confidence. For greater success, methods can be combined so that there is simply no time left to think about your unhappy fate. A busy weekly schedule will leave no chance of survival for a painful addiction.
What is love?
To understand at what stage your feelings for your partner are, be sure to be alone. If a person is happy alone with himself, then his feelings for another may well be called love.
True conscious love should inspire respect and maintain the personal boundaries of your partner. First of all, this feeling should evoke the joy of realizing that you yourself love. Pain in this case is already a reason to think about pathological changes in your feelings.
True feelings require frankness and trust in each other. There is no need to try to look better and hide your emotions; there is always the opportunity to share and “take refuge” in the care and understanding of a loved one. No fear of being rejected and judged for doing wrong.
Another component of love is physical attraction. Despite all the difficulties and misunderstandings, people are still able to enjoy each other intimately. They do not look for a replacement on the side if something does not suit them, but solve problems together and find compromises.
Loyalty to a partner plays the final role in creating strong and harmonious relationships. Despite the large number of temptations, truly loving people remain faithful to each other in any situation. If mistakes happen in this regard, sometimes they are capable of forgiveness and understanding.
Why does addiction occur?
Some people are more prone to emotional dependence than others. What is this connected with?
The tendency to emotional dependence develops in a person very early - at the age of 1-1.5 years. It is during this period that the child develops basic ideas about how his further interaction with the world and the people around him should proceed. The world, represented by parents, satisfies the needs of a growing person not only for nutrition and bodily comfort, but also for communication, love, emotional support, etc. If a child lacks something during this period of life, he remains “hunger” for the rest of his life. Sometimes, even in a very prosperous and loving family, a child is faced with the fact that not all of his needs are met immediately and exactly as he would like.
Such a person will constantly look for a partner who can compensate him for what he did not receive from his mother and father in childhood: unconditional love and acceptance, guessing needs without voicing them, fulfilling any desires and whims, etc. Of course, this is impossible. And impossibility gives rise to anger and despair, which can turn true love into a real nightmare.
Signs of emotional addiction
1. Psychological comfort is possible only if you have a love relationship with another person, who reciprocates and is nearby most of the time.
2. You share the belief that love is “not real” if there is no complete “dissolution” in each other.
3. Life is made directly dependent on the presence or absence of relationships with certain people.
4. Relationships take on an unhealthy connotation: they are accompanied by strong jealousy, uncontrollable manifestations of aggression, frequent conflicts, and a constant threat of breakup.
6. Breaking up a relationship, as well as the very thought of it, causes severe mental pain, fear, and drives depression, despair, and apathy.
7. You are not in control of the relationship: e.g. feels completely unable to initiate a breakup, completely dependent on the will of the partner.
Relationships complicated by emotional dependence are always very conflictual and painful, often with a predominance of destructive emotions: fear, resentment, jealousy, etc. It is not without reason that it is said that if someone is capable of becoming a source of happiness, then it is in his will to deprive him of this happiness. Often in such relationships there can be sacrifice and psychological masochism. After all, what is resentment? This is a reaction to a feeling of loss, you give (tenderness, attention, your time), but this does not meet with reciprocal sacrifices or at least a feeling of gratitude on the part of the partner.
