ᐉ When a man forces a woman to work more. I don’t want to work but my husband forces me

Recently, more and more attention has been focused on how a woman can win the man she likes. And gradually this makes you forget that it is still the man who must conquer. Of course, you shouldn't sit and wait for him to start doing this. The world has changed too much to rely on what was accepted once upon a time. But you shouldn’t completely forget that men definitely want the woman who won their heart. Therefore, in order to notice interest on the part of a man in time and not lose him in the pursuit of something unrealistic or not as important as love, it is better to find out how men conquer women. And this knowledge will definitely help you, without stepping over your principles, to become happy.

How a man attracts a woman's attention

Despite belonging to the stronger half of humanity, men are no less concerned about their appearance than women. For centuries, they have always tried to look immaculate and neat. And if earlier this was the lot of only a select few, today a real man carefully approaches what he is wearing, no matter how hard he tries to hide it, especially when it comes to the lady of his heart. You shouldn't believe it when some women say that a man should be more beautiful than a monkey. Few people will be able to win a woman if he meets her in worn-out shoes, elongated sweatpants and improperly buttoned clothes. Love at first sight is a miracle and a surprise, and it does not require winning anyone, but it also happens very rarely and it is unlikely that people fall in love with each other unkemptly dressed. But when a man is captivated by the beauty of a woman, but has not yet managed to get to know her, it is very important for him to make a first impression, and it should be such that he does not have to convince his chosen one for a very long time that he will be an excellent husband and father. His task is to conquer her at first sight, and then gradually become the man with whom she wants to start a family and have children. And here it is very important to emphasize all the advantages of your appearance and especially your figure. But just by how a man looks, one cannot accurately determine whether he is trying for the woman he likes or whether he always prefers to look excellent. But if he looks unpresentable, then the desire to win a woman is clearly not part of his immediate plans, or he is already married.

But an accurate sign that a man is interested in you is his desire to demonstrate his own high status, which he will definitely mention when communicating. A well-mannered man will simply unobtrusively let you know that he is a leader in his social circle. Of course, some men may try to distinguish themselves with overly cheeky behavior, a loud voice and outright disregard for the rules of social behavior, but here only you can decide whether a man who shows his status in this way is worthy of your attention.

No less loved by the fair sex are men who have a sense of humor, which nature has generously endowed them with. If a man next to you constantly jokes, carefully reacting to your reaction, rest assured, he is picking up the key to your heart. Many of them feel that laughter makes a woman reach out to them and feel comfortable and at ease. Having laughed at a good joke, a woman will look differently at a man, at his weaknesses and minor shortcomings.

But under no circumstances will a man who knows how to win a woman demonstrate to her his inaccessibility and interest in another woman. Smart men know very well that such a desire to arouse a feeling of jealousy in the beauty he likes will turn against him. Women do not forgive such behavior. Therefore, in the matter of conquest, a man will try to be elegant, sociable and easy to relate to small female weaknesses. And he will definitely become very attentive to various dates from the day you met, in order to once again present you with a small surprise.

A man always tries to look great, especially in the first days of dating and the period of courtship. It is no secret to them that a woman immediately notices all the flaws in her appearance and, first of all, increased stubble, unwashed shoes, a wrinkled shirt or overgrown hair. Therefore, remembering that women also love with their eyes, they try to take care of themselves.

To increase the chances of winning the woman he likes by 100%, a man will try to conquer everyone who surrounds her. This circle will definitely include her parents, with whom they may become relatives in the future. But besides this, he will also take into account the fact that the mother’s opinion is very significant for most girls. The man will not forget about his girlfriends, who must simply be conquered by him, because then any girl will have a sense of ownership, and she will not want to risk her happiness if her friends have managed to appreciate the man who is courting her. Only here the man will try not to cross the line between sympathy and flirting, otherwise all efforts will simply come to nothing. He must remain a real gentleman, bringing flowers to all the girls who are with his beloved. And if he invites you and his girlfriends to some event, rest assured he has very serious plans for you.

The man will also pay attention to his pets, starting to feed them unnoticed. Because nothing evokes affection more than the moment when a strong man pets a cat or dog, showing his concern. If a man can get love from the pets of the woman he likes, he will instantly get halfway to her heart.

A man will not forget to please his chosen one with his ability to cook. Firstly, this way he will be able to arouse her admiration, and secondly, he will unobtrusively demonstrate that he is ready to run a household together, which many women do not delight in.
A representative of the stronger half of humanity will try to surprise his chosen one by sending her flowers at work with a small note. In addition, he will always call his beloved by name, knowing how pleasant it is for any person to hear his name.
From a man in love, a woman has the right to expect an invitation to the theater, cinema or an evening watching films together. And here a lover will definitely choose a film about love.
Some of the men may even give away their credit card so that the chosen one can purchase a few nice little things for herself. Such a broad gesture will make her look at him differently, but at the same time he can also check whether he can satisfy this woman's financial needs or whether it is better to retreat before it is too late.
Men monitor both their speech and behavior, avoiding rudeness and offensive statements.

In quite difficult cases, they may agree to go to the store together. Having made such a sacrifice, they hope that the heart of their chosen one will thaw, and she will find a place in it for love for him.
A man in love will definitely kneel down, talk about his love, and will always be there, sympathizing with any trouble and trying to help. He will give his beloved poems, remind him of himself via SMS, and will be ready to listen to any complaints, even those that no other man would even want to discuss.
A man in love will definitely try to conquer with his care, at least once making a hot bath with foam or rose petals for his chosen one.

She will always be ready to talk, forgetting about monologues and the fact that most women’s conversations may concern complaints about an ungrateful friend, an envious boss or colleague. He will try to listen carefully and give some advice on what to do in a given situation.

We are all very different, but each of us wants to love and be loved. Today, many men carefully study articles on how to win the woman they like, thereby trying to increase their chances in the fight for her heart. Therefore, if you notice even some of the above signs in the behavior of the man who is nearby, think, maybe you shouldn’t miss your chance, wasting time on winning over someone who failed to appreciate you. If you are still single, especially try to open up and build a relationship with the man who is trying so hard to win you.

After my article about the “hunter-prey” myth, it became clear to me from the reactions of girls that most simply do not know the truth about how men fall in love.

Interestingly, comments from women who are already married are strikingly different from messages from girls who just can’t find a husband.

Married ladies agree with me that if you leave all the work to a man, you are unlikely to get married.
Unmarried people shout loudly that under no circumstances should you do anything yourself, otherwise the representatives of the stronger sex will be “uninterested” and they will not “appreciate” her.

My dears, a man’s feeling that his girlfriend is the best in the world and he never wants to lose her does not at all come from the torment that he had to endure in order to “win” her. This feeling comes from lightness and joy when he is next to her. Hard work is associated with the concept of “a weight off my shoulders,” and not at all with the joyful realization of “I’m terribly lucky.” A man falls in love because he enjoys being with you, not hard.

In addition, by bullying a fan during the courtship stage, you give him the moral right to mock you when he “conquers” you. Any action gives rise to reaction.

Advice from psychologists for men on how to win a woman

A man always tries to look great, especially in the first days of dating and the period of courtship. It is no secret to them that a woman immediately notices all the flaws in her appearance and, first of all, increased stubble, unwashed shoes, a wrinkled shirt or overgrown hair. Therefore, remembering that women also love with their eyes, they try to take care of themselves.

In quite difficult cases, they may agree to go to the store together. Having made such a sacrifice, they hope that the heart of their chosen one will thaw, and she will find a place in it for love for him.
A man in love will definitely kneel down, talk about his love, and will always be there, sympathizing with any trouble and trying to help. He will give his beloved poems, remind him of himself via SMS, and will be ready to listen to any complaints, even those that no other man would even want to discuss.
A man in love will definitely try to conquer with his care, at least once making a hot bath with foam or rose petals for his chosen one.

She will always be ready to talk, forgetting about monologues and the fact that most women’s conversations may concern complaints about an ungrateful friend, an envious boss or colleague. He will try to listen carefully and give some advice on what to do in a given situation.

How do men fall in love?

Men and women fall in love in different ways and at different speeds. By following the “hunter” pattern, you, on the contrary, reduce your chances of attracting a partner for a long time. Only by ceasing to be a “prey” do you have a chance at a serious relationship. To do this, you need to understand how men fall in love.

Stage 1: I like you

For men, it all starts with physical attractiveness. If a woman can still fall in love with a guy she is not physically attracted to because she “respects” him, it is completely impossible for a man.

Recently, an experiment was conducted in America: a nice guy and a girl put excellent photos on a dating site, but on a date they went on a date wearing special makeup and a suit that made it seem like they were seriously overweight.

All the guys who came on a date with a suddenly “fat” (compared to her photo on the site) girl almost immediately asked a question about her weight and left.
The girls, who discovered a plumper guy, allowed him to kiss them on the cheek and hug them when they met and said goodbye, and spent the entire date with him, that is, they treated him much more gently.

After a divorce, many Western women who have gained weight begin to exercise and lose weight, after which they quickly find a new partner. For ladies, this is elementary: if you are slim and don’t “punch men’s brains,” you can easily find a partner.

So remember: men are initially attracted to your physical body

. If you think that a guy approached you because he likes your character, you are cruelly deceiving yourself.

What exactly a man likes about your appearance may vary. There are those who adore large or, conversely, small breasts, thin ankles, long fingers or long straight (or curly) hair. Some people like steep hips, while others like narrow hips. Every man has his own “type” that he likes. Many will not even be able to say what exactly attracts them, but this feature still exists.

A man sees his “type” in a woman and begins to feel that “he likes her.” But so far this guy hasn't fallen in love at all.

Stage 2: Exploration

Most men are constantly attracted to several women, they “like” several girls. So they do some “scouting” to see who will reciprocate his initial advances. That is, at any time, they are trying to conduct reconnaissance regarding several women. Only seeing reciprocal interest does the guy begin to concentrate his efforts on one girl.

These advances are very minimal, it's not even flirting or courtship. A man just needs to understand that if he starts courting you, something might happen. At this stage, even if he likes the girl, he still doesn’t care whether she rejects him or accepts his advances. If she rejects him, he will have no problem courting someone else. Naturally, there are exceptions (worried people who go crazy), but most normal men feel this way.

Stage 3. Stalking

This is what you girls love so much, right? The man is “running” after you.

If a woman gives a guy even the weakest positive signal in response to his advances (someone needs a stronger signal), he will begin to pursue. Sometimes a man may even imagine a positive answer.

A guy who thinks that a girl likes him begins to act, trying to attract her attention. At this stage, the man is trying to make you notice him and understand that he likes you. Some women already fall in love by this point, seeing the attention of a man. If you give him a positive response (for example, agreeing to a date or replying to a message), the transition to the next stage will occur.

Stage 4: Making an impression

At this stage, many women are already beginning to fall in love, but the man has not even thought about his feelings. For now, he just wants to impress you, trying to show that he is a worthwhile partner. A man plans dates, gives you gifts, and generally tries to make you happy. If you haven’t “given up” yet, you will usually do so at this stage.

Stage 5: Winning Your Love

After all his investment, a man wants you to love him now. Getting your love is an achievement for him. Instead of falling in love with you, he only cares about whether he succeeded in making you fall in love with him. A man may even demonstrate his ability to commit to a serious relationship so you can see that he has the potential to be a great long-term partner. You're probably seriously in love already, but he's not yet.

Stage 6: Decision

If a man gets to this stage, which doesn't always happen, it means you've already made your feelings towards him clear and he knows you love him and want a serious relationship. What you don't know is that for your "hunter", this was all just a pregame to get proof for himself that he is the man you are looking for.

In addition, there are small problems:

Until now, your admirer has not been himself. Therefore, the guy you fell in love with is not at all who he really is.
He never questioned whether you were right for him in the long run. Everything that had happened up to this point had happened purely on the basis of his physical attraction.

It is at this point in the relationship that the man who “conquered” you begins to wonder whether he needs this relationship at all. He begins to look at your human qualities and what, in general, you are able to offer in this department.

Your lover begins to ask himself:

Do I love her?
Do I want to be with her?
Will I be happy with her?
Is this the kind of woman I really want?

What's interesting is that if you believe in the myth of the hunter, then most likely you haven't been yourself all this time either! You also pretended diligently. Therefore, it is quite possible that you behaved in such a way that your partner would not answer yes to all of these questions.

It is at this stage that a young man may decide to end the relationship “for no reason at all” or for a reason that seems fictitious to you (quite possibly, it is). Men who easily follow their impulse to “conquer” are easily ready to abandon a woman at this stage, unless she is his ideal in everything. Why not? He knows that he is capable of conquering a woman.

Stage 7: Love

If a man, after analyzing your relationship and his feelings, makes a positive decision, he is ready to fall in love with you and surrender to his feelings. The next 2-3 months will be wonderful and wonderful. You will notice that your partner cares about you and truly loves you. That's it, your man has fallen in love.

We often hear how some young ladies complain that their men are insensitive blockheads who do not pamper them with attention and care. Some people are given flowers and gifts for no reason, and these “unlucky ones” seem to be no worse, but as a result they are completely uninteresting to their partners. Do you know what the reason is? It's all about accessibility. Women whom men see no reason to pursue tend to make the same mistakes.

Why does a man ask a woman to work?

If your man asks you to work, this is a good sign. This means that the man loves you and trusts you.

The reasons why men ask women to work are by no means limited to material considerations, and material considerations are not even the most important. It happens that a quite wealthy man makes such a request to a woman. Or he makes such a request in the case when a woman’s earnings will barely cover the payment of hired housekeepers: housekeepers and nannies.

Why does such a request indicate trust? Because a man takes risks :

1. A woman, when she goes to work, begins to communicate with a much larger number of men. And no matter what her appearance, she will receive more offers to get to know each other better and simply male attention. Essentially, a man takes risks, but if he is willing to take such a risk, it means he trusts you and loves you more than himself.

One of my friends got a job at the request of her husband and started an affair with the owner of the company - the marriage broke up. Sometimes it happens.

2. A man is ready to receive less attention from a woman, because part of her attention will be occupied with work.

3. He is willing to take the risk that you will start earning more or become more successful. He is even ready to accept that after such success you will begin to treat him differently. After all, he wants to believe that you are his woman and will always be his woman, no matter what success you achieve. This means that he trusts you and loves you.

So here are the male reasons that outweigh all potential risks if a man loves you:

1. A man wants to see next to him a full-fledged partner who has something to respect, an independent person, and not just a woman who is always asking him for money.

2. He will be more confident that you are with him, not because you have nothing to live for, but because you want to be with him.

3. He is worried about you. He wants you to have some other source of income besides his earnings. And if something happens to him, you will not remain unprotected.

4. This is a preventive measure against the phrase that all (or almost all) men say (mentally or out loud), no matter how noble they are: “Who are you? What are you? You are only valuable because you are near me.”

5. He wants to be proud of you. Knowing that you have achieved something or can do something special. In fact, he will be proud of himself to have such a woman next to him. And not just a housewife living on his support. It's similar to how men are proud of how beautiful their woman is and how other men want her.

6. He wants you to be interesting to him. So that your conversations are not limited only to housework, children, discussion of the lives of neighbors, relatives and mutual acquaintances, a sports club or some courses that a woman attends.

7. He wants your relationship to grow stronger. To preserve a couple and develop relationships, the general vector of development is very important. If a man develops and a woman does not, then the couple breaks up. It doesn’t matter what starting positions they had at the beginning of the relationship, the desire for development should be of equal strength.

8. The very idea that other men see you and, perhaps, want you, will fuel his interest in you as a woman, and not just as a wife who provides for his life and takes care of his children. After all, interest fades over time. Any desire requires renewal and stimulation so that the pleasure does not become dull.

9. He wants to see a joyful woman next to him, not a bored housewife.

10. Often if a woman works, she takes more care of her appearance. Which is also nice for her man.

11. He wants to see a woman from the same social circle next to him. The fact that you became his wife does not make you a person in the same social circle as him. He may be willing to pay for your education or internships for this. Perhaps it will even “create” you, as in Bernard Shaw’s play “Pygmalion.”

12. A man has a lot of tasks and worries in his head, and at least one will be less. A non-working wife will not “hang” on him, who has nothing to buy bread without his money and has nothing to pay for the apartment. And he will be grateful to you for it.

Working does not mean sitting somewhere from 9 to 6. It is better if you find a job that will bring you joy, in which you will achieve some success. Moreover, now you can find work via the Internet, part-time, or work as a freelancer. You can organize your own business and set your own work schedule. Children can be entrusted to nannies or taken with you.

If a man himself turns to you with a request to go to work, then he will be ready to help you with the housework, taking care of children, and even in your work. After all, you are fulfilling his request, his desire.

A man is ready to understand that it is better not to work while the child is small. This is an objective reason for him. But he also understands that this is temporary. This is not at all like a woman’s statement: “I won’t work because I am a woman. I will inspire you because I am a woman. And you will support me.”

Sometimes women try to convince men: “When I’m around, I inspire you, I think about your successes - you earn a lot more. That’s why I don’t need to work.” This phrase is usually perceived by men as another twist of female logic or, to put it more simply, as stupidity.

Therefore, it is better to work, of course, especially if a man asks for it.

But if a man, in response to your desire to go to work, responds with sharp dissatisfaction or simply doesn’t care, then you should think about whether you are dear to him, does he trust you, and in general, why does he need you?

If a man asks you to work, agree and accept this desire as a manifestation of his love, and not as a desire to transfer material worries about the family to you.

A woman inspires a man - I agree. But an independent woman will inspire him much more.

Ekaterina Shipulina

They adapt to the desires of a man

Everything in the world of these women revolves around a man. Ask them about their plans for the evening and you won’t get a clear answer if they haven’t had time to coordinate these plans with the desires of their man. It doesn’t matter what their mood is - they are always ready to fulfill their partner’s every whim, be it a date in the middle of the night or a fishing trip for the weekend. Available women never even voice their desires out loud. Over time, men get used to such resignation and are not even interested in a woman’s opinion on this or that issue.

They are intrusive

In their desire to spend more time with their loved ones, such women often cross the line and seem intrusive.
They are ready to spend the whole weekend and any free minute with their chosen one, filling all his space with themselves. Needless to say, this behavior only causes a backlash in men and certainly no desire to achieve an accessible attachment. You shouldn’t pretend to be an unapproachable princess in order to attract the attention of men, but you also shouldn’t make the mistakes of accessible women. It is important to maintain balance and adequacy in everything. Love yourself and your man will love you. Everything depends on you.

Sex on the beach is not just a pleasant pastime, but also a certain extreme. Especially for men, on a wonderful beach this is a new atmosphere and environment when passion awakens, but at the same time the fear of being noticed by people. For young couples, sex on the beach may not be pleasant at all, because before deciding to take such a step you need to prepare.

Summer is starting very soon, and this means the beginning of the beach season. The choice of summer holidays is very diverse, but the beach type of holiday will be the most popular. There are many places where you can have a good rest, be it a distant resort or beaches located near the city. For couples, going to the beach means not only enjoying the warm sun, beautiful scenery and warm water, but also a certain romance. In such a pleasant romantic environment there is also room for such activities as sex. Sex

on the beach it is not just a pleasant pastime, but also a certain extreme.
Especially for sex
on a wonderful beach, this is a new atmosphere and setting when passion awakens, but at the same time the fear of being noticed by people.
For young couples, sex
on the beach may not be pleasant at all, because before deciding to take such a step you need to prepare. All circumstances of sex need to be carefully planned and foreseen. In this matter, everything can be important, not only your inner mood and comfort, but also external factors. The first thing you should consider is the place where you are relaxing.

If you decide to try beach sex

there is a calving abroad on the beach, then you should know about the rules of the hotel and the laws of the country.
Such an adventure can result in a large fine and even time in prison; this is possible in the countries: Spain, UAE, Romania, Egypt. The next thing to remember is the climatic conditions of the place, because there are many factors that can distract you from the task. For example, some insects may discourage you from having sex, in addition to the fact that mosquitoes may bite you, some insects will try to crawl on you. In this case, you will need a special insect repellent. For comfort, you may need several blankets and maybe even a mattress; it is not hygienic to do this directly on the sand. But in addition to hygiene, the blanket will serve as protection from the cold and prying eyes. You need to take into account the time when you can have sex, it will probably be very indecent to have sex on the beach in front of people during the day, but 2-3 o’clock in the morning is just right. Sex
on the beach is extreme, but also an attractive idea for couples.
For everything to go well, the main thing is that you and your significant other like this idea, get a massage, have a drink. sex
before this to understand how this will actually happen.
Sex
on the beach is a great way to diversify your sex life; in bed you will have something to remember.

Incredible facts

Everything is not as difficult as you think.

Many women make guesses, trying to understand why a man doesn’t call or write.

Despite the obstacles that a woman thinks may prevent a man from taking the initiative, the real reason is that he doesn’t like you enough. This must be understood immediately and forever.

He's not shy. You don't scare him. And he has no problems with self-esteem.

If a man is interested, no distance will stand in his way.

But if he's not interested in you, you could live in the apartment next door and it would be too far for him.

How to understand that a man likes you

A man has a strong desire to take initiative in relationships. This is part of demonstrating his masculinity. He wants to get what he wants.

The man loves the chase. Believe me, when he sees what he wants, he starts chasing it.

If the man you like is not pursuing you, he is not interested in you.

Men can come up with thousands of excuses why they don't want to pursue a woman. They can say anything, often beat around the bush so as not to hurt her feelings, and not directly say that he is not interested.

He may say that he is busy, that he is overwhelmed at work, that he has a lot of other things to do, he may even simply disappear from your life.

He can be very handsome, and his smile will drive you crazy. He may open the door for you and even ask you out on a few dates.

But what about those strange messages that you don't know how to interpret? What about those times when you were trying to figure out what you did wrong and why he disappeared for a while?

My husband wants me to work

Married for 11 years, 2 sons - 9 and 4 years old. First I studied, then the children, then I worked for 1 year. Didn't like it) Left. My husband was neither for nor against.

I haven't worked at all for 2 years. My husband's salary is 60-65. We live in a small town and for us this is very good. When I worked, my salary was 7 thousand rubles!!! After that, I didn’t find a higher-paying job, but I can’t say that I really looked hard, I looked through advertisements from time to time, and a year ago I submitted my resume to several organizations. And this is only because my husband began to say during quarrels that I don’t work, I don’t help the family, my colleagues travel across the seas, they have expensive cars, and we don’t have enough money.

In general, to be honest, I don’t want to work. My ideal life is children, husband, cats, cottage, cooking, cleaning. Family is my everything. I don't want to spend my life working. I want to always be with them. We constantly go somewhere, walk, visit, and spend a lot of time at the dacha. I don't want to replace all this with work.

My husband's schedule is day/night/two days off. Therefore, he has a lot of free time. The job that I (an economist) am considering involves a 5/2 schedule. For me this is hellish hell!

3 days ago we were at the dacha. We are building a new bathhouse. He builds, I help. He sawed the log, I held it. The log fell. and then it began: I’m a butt-handler, I’m of no use. He started yelling that I was sitting on his neck and not doing anything, that he was working at work and building a bathhouse, that he was tired.

I gathered the children, told my husband that he didn’t have to come home anymore, that I could cope without him, he took the card from me and we went home by taxi. Since then we have not communicated, he never came home. He only calls the children, promising to pick them up on the weekend. The eldest son cries at night, asking for his dad to come back. I miss you like crazy, but I don’t want to humiliate myself and call you home.

I have no money, he has a salary today. I assume that he will rent an apartment (for us it costs 8-10 rubles) and will not return.

I’m probably some kind of crazy person, but I don’t understand why I have to struggle for 7 thousand 5 days a week, come home without arms and legs and also take care of the house, teach homework, and he has a lot of free time and a salary of almost 10 times more.

I will work to feed myself and the children, but then I don’t need him. We do not understand each other, we cannot agree on this issue. For some reason I am incredibly offended by his demands that I work. He is becoming a non-man in my eyes. I think: you are a man, if you want money, earn it! I am very upset that I always want to be with my family, cook, take care of the children, but my husband says: I don’t need this, go work.

Today I called everyone, walked around, distributed my resume, sent it to several emails. addresses. No sense yet. For myself, I decided to look again tomorrow, wait for answers, and if I still don’t find anything decent, I’ll get a job as a cleaner. Children need to be fed. Whether he will give money or not, I don’t know.

Please, express your opinion on the situation. Which one of us is right? Should a man force a woman to work?

And another very important question: In the application for child support, I write that the children are dependent on me. But this is not true. In short, will they pay child support to a non-working mother?