Advice from a psychologist: how to make you think about yourself
According to the study, it turned out that boys and girls indulge in memories of their loved ones with different frequency. A guy, unlike a girl, very often remembers his soul mate. And it’s all because of the usual difference between female psychology and male psychology.
A woman is inclined to multitask, while a man is more capable of performing only one task. Consequently, his immersion in this task is much stronger, and at this moment he does not notice anything else. To remind yourself, psychology contains a method of “anchor”.
I present to you effective ways to influence men:
Visualization
With the help of an insignificant gift or souvenir, you can be remembered by a person for a long time, because looking at this item, memories of you will emerge. And the more often the gift is used, the more often they will remember you.
Auditory information
Create your own word to use in your intimate relationships. Use it during sex, before and after it. In the future, pronouncing this word on a subconscious level will evoke a pleasant memory of you in the guy.
Olfactory
During the beginning of a relationship, use the same perfume. If your partner likes the smell, he will remember it and after smelling such an aroma, he will associate it with you.
Kinesthetic
How to make a man think about you? One of the interesting ways can be called managing emotions. With strong positive emotions, touch his arm or neck with your hands and hold them for a short period of time.
After a certain period of time, or rather, developing a habit in a guy, that your touching certain places occurs precisely at the moment of a good mood, will relieve his fatigue and charge him with positive emotions. As a result, he will desire your touch from time to time in difficult moments, at the moment of which he will feel much better.
“I thought for a long time and decided for myself that I would act like a real man”
I was a first-year student at the time, and after studying at the university I wanted to stay in graduate school. I told my parents. They assured me that they would accept any of my choices and support me in any case. I thought for a long time and decided for myself that I would act like a real man. He proposed to Kira, they didn’t have a big wedding, they just celebrated it with their family. I was scared and at the same time happy that I was already an adult, that I had my own little family.
Then came the most important moment in my life - the birth of my daughter. At that time, I took an academic leave from the university, and then transferred to the correspondence department. He first got a job as a loader, and later began working as a packager in a warehouse. There wasn't always enough money, but my parents helped us.
Over time, everything stabilized: I graduated from university and moved to another rented apartment. My wife was raising our daughter; she could not find a job due to lack of education, and therefore took care of household chores. I threw myself more and more into work because I wanted to provide my family with everything they needed; I was often not at home. At first, Kira complained that I devoted very little time to her and the baby. But I assured that I was doing everything for their own good. Then the complaints suddenly stopped, at first I was happy, I thought that I had probably found something I liked or simply calmed down. But the truth turned out to be much harsher and more painful. It turned out that my dear wife cheated on me with my fellow student who lived across the street from us. We visited them a couple of times, but the relationship was purely friendly, nothing more. His wife told me this news in a trembling voice over the phone. She accidentally caught them in the apartment, returning early from work.
At home I caused a scandal, took my things and began to live with my parents. I was shaking all over with unspeakable anger and rage. I couldn’t understand what I did to deserve this, because I did absolutely everything for my girls. After some time, Kira herself called me and asked for forgiveness, calling me back. I didn’t want to go back, but then my mother intervened. She told me that it is necessary to save the family, because the child must grow up with both parents. I thought about these words for a long time and decided that I did not want to be a “Sunday dad.” I brought my things to the apartment, everything seemed to be getting better, although I could not fully understand and forgive such a betrayal. Life took its course, Kira continued to take care of her affairs and her daughter, and I began to work even harder at work, not only in order to earn more money, but also in order to come home later.
A few months later, when everything had calmed down, I accidentally saw a message on my wife’s phone from a man I didn’t know. Kira was putting the child to bed at this time. Some guy wrote to her that he loved her very much and was looking forward to meeting her. And she sends him emoticons in response and replies that she misses him too. There was a huge scandal, I did not tolerate a second such betrayal. He was the first to file for divorce. Out of grief and despair, I also began to go out, drink, and did not disdain promiscuous relationships - this continued for a whole year. But then it hit me like an electric shock. I realized that I couldn’t live like that. I came to my senses, stopped drinking alcohol, changed jobs, and got a more prestigious and profitable position. And just in the new office I met Varvara, also a divorced woman. And so two loneliness met. And although I still don’t fully trust the female sex, I’m sure that this will soon pass, and Varya will help me with this.”
Edward, Guy
Life tips for women in attracting attention to themselves
To make him think about you constantly, so that he gets bored and doesn’t know where to go without you. You need to follow the following tips, tested by many women who told themselves I want him to think about me.
- For a man to think about a woman, it is necessary to engage in self-development, and not wait for his calls and ask for dates. A girl should have her own hobbies that won’t let her lose her head over a guy.
- Men pay attention to those ladies who respect the concept of their own space. When meeting, a man, like a woman, needs to feel free and relaxed. Being in this feeling, a man is more comfortable communicating with you, just as you are with him. As a result, there is a high probability of transition to courtship on his part.
- Do not rush headlong after your lover, especially in constantly beautiful clothes. It’s better to switch to pleasant correspondence, through it pushing him to take active action. The main thing is that communication occurs at a time convenient for him, and not at the time of meetings. A simple wish for a good working day will give an understanding that you are inclined to communicate with him.
- Paying attention in the form of a gift. Thanks to this thing, when he sees it, a man will remember you.
- Having a common hobby. It doesn’t matter what it is, the main thing is that it brings you closer. Joint trips to nature, watching movie series, billiards, and so on... In the future, when he decides to do what he loves, he will definitely remember you, especially if he needs company.
- Friendship with his close friends. By creating friendly relations with his team, your chances of success in the relationship will increase significantly. After all, his friends will start reminding your boyfriend about you.
- A very important point, do not under any circumstances compare your man with anyone else. Love him for who he is. It’s better to immediately understand for yourself whether you can put up with his shortcomings or not.
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These recommendations may even answer the question of how to make a married man think about you. In fact, there are much more tips, and they are all individual; some will suit you, others will suit others. If you have your own tips, share them in the comments.
