Older woman/younger man: how long will the relationship last?
A man loves me, he says he can’t live without me... I understand that I also have feelings for him, but he is 18 years younger than me! Why do I need this test? Please, help.
This is how women write to me, an astropsychologist, who are afraid of relationships with men much younger than themselves.
Do you know what a woman is afraid of?
She is afraid that she will grow old before the man, and that the still young man will definitely leave her for a young woman of the same age.
How can I help?
I can look at a man's birth chart and a woman's birth chart together.
What will it give?
This will help you understand what the relationship between a man and a woman is based on, where the woman is much older than the man. Will this relationship last?
Because each of us has our own images of the “ideal” man and woman, which sit deep in our subconscious and guide our choices.
Because there are unfinished relationships from our past lives that need to be ended now.
Because there are qualities of the soul that we need to develop in this life, and personal relationships are the place where these qualities are developed best.
All these “becauses” are proof that there are no strict rules in life!
A man must be the same age or older than a woman - this is an order established by society. Only the soul incarnates in the earthly body of a man or woman not in order to live by the rules, the soul incarnates in order to gain experience through which it will develop its best qualities.
Want examples?
Nowadays people like to savor the failed personal lives of celebrities, but I don't want to talk about celebrities, I want to talk about real people like me and you.
These are comments under a video where they discussed a relationship in which the man is much younger than the woman.
There is a 23 year difference between me and my husband. We have been together for 13 years, 8 of which we have been married. As we age, beauty fades, but inner beauty remains the same. When I say that I am getting old, my husband always answers without hesitation: “I am getting old with you.” It helps me feel comfortable and free; getting older without the stress of trying to look and act younger than I really am. It's important to tell him about the changes I'm experiencing so he can better understand how I feel. There is no place on this earth where I would feel better than in his arms and in his love. I am truly happy to be married to such a man.
I am 30 years old. My woman is 46. We have been together for 5 years. She is beautiful in every way. I find her damn sexy, smart, caring. She has all the qualities that I want to see in a woman, and that I do not see in women of my generation. Of course we had problems. We separated, but not for long, because we realized how much we loved each other. I recommend all my friends to try an older woman!
I am 9 years older than my husband, we have 3 children, the 4th is on the way. Our relationship is wonderful.
She is 21 years older than me. We have been together for 13 years, but we still have the feeling that we just met.
I am a man over 40 years old (41 to be exact) and I have been in a relationship with a 55 year old woman for 8 months. Our love for each other is absolutely amazing and much more passionate than I've ever had before with women younger than me. At first I was skeptical about dating a woman 14 years older than me. I was afraid of how society and my parents would react, but I still decided to try, and today I understand that it was really the right decision and I don’t regret it at all.
This is just a small part of the comments from those who are happy in relationships where the woman is older than the man. There are hundreds of comments like this!
Why are they happy?
I repeat! Because there are more significant things in a relationship than age, and the astrological compatibility of a man and a woman allows you to see whether there is a future for a relationship where the woman is significantly older than the man.
Tell me, did you have a relationship with a man much younger than you? How did you feel in this relationship? Were you happy?
The fear of “he’s younger than me” prevents you from meeting the best man in your life
There are a number of questions that cause me internal psoriasis and eczema. I'm covered inside with pimples and scaly scabs that can't be scratched off with a perfect manicure. Sorry about the manicure. And you want to hit the asker hard on the withers with a hook so that he or she expands or broadens his or her horizons a little wider than the keyhole.
Questions may vary. Like: how can I lose weight, but at the same time not take my ass off my chair and eat chips, I really love grinding trans fats with my jaws. Or: why doesn’t he love me, because I love him so much, and I’m the best in the world, because... Or: I need to raise my salary because I want to buy a new car, it’s a shame to drive a Lada eight when I want a VAZ Patriot. Well, or as far as I can – to KIA.
But what makes my lungs really start to hiss and evaporate is this: you know everything about people, how should I behave with a guy if he is 3 years, 3 months and 3 seconds younger than me. And our zodiac signs are in different axes from grandma’s knitted rug. He loves the Mirage group, and I am such a well-mannered neophyte and appreciate the work of the ABBA ensemble. No, we both don’t like Depeche Mode, because we are for Russian rock, I’m free.
The vacuum cleaner for fools begins to suck so much that Arkady Averchenko does not turn over in his grave, but sits down, breaking through the lid with his strong skull and, to the best of his ability, applauds with his bony palms. I knew he would like to say, but he couldn’t - his tongue had decayed, his speech apparatus was helpless.
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Biological age is the same optional and biased substance as manicure, like nails. Whether it exists or not, these are all rudimentary fragments, nails are needed to turn the pages of a book (although paper books are also a rudiment), we have long stopped scratching enemies to save lives, only loved ones, when there is no air to say “I’m cumming.”
Age does not matter. What matters is the strength in the partner. Strength of spirit, mind, willpower, physical strength. This is what attracts me.
It is generally accepted that the older partner suppresses the younger one. Teaches. Supervises. Is a mentor, mentor, top. One friend admitted that she brought her future husband under her belt when she was 19 and he was 16. She says she wanted to take a fresh boy and raise him to be her own, and she succeeded.
I was 19 and my future husband was 27. Very soon the growth curves coincided. Even faster - they didn’t coincide, I grew faster, he grew slower, everyone has their own pace. It was revealed very quickly. And very slowly we divorced, 11 years after we met. It was hard.
All this time I was thinking about how cool it is to be next to a partner who is better than you - spiritually, mentally, morally, physically, and physiologically, in the end. A woman does not want to be close to an equal. A woman wants to be next to someone who is better, taller, cooler. Then there comes a feeling of peace, security, happiness.
Then I got terribly lucky. I met a man who was much older than me in terms of intelligence, literally by decades. In terms of will – for hundreds of years. Every time we made joint decisions, it seemed to me that he was giving the correct opinion like a calculator or Excel, and like a fool I was counting in a column: five there, two in my head. Why double-check on paper when a more perfect mind has already foreseen and decided everything in seconds, huh?
We went through a lot of trials together: poverty, family mismatch, hellish mismatch of social status and position. Then the children started. And he has never let me down, can it be? Maybe.
Well, he is 10 years younger than me. After everything I have experienced, I simply do not have the right to talk about the age difference between partners as some even more or less significant circumstance.
Girls, the main thing is the person. You're lucky to meet a decent, real guy - grab him with your guts. You’ll figure out your age at the registry office, and don’t care about the whole world.
Should you date a guy who is younger than you?
Being in a relationship with someone who is younger than you has its advantages and disadvantages. It should be recognized that unions in which the woman is older often cause controversy. And we’re not talking about a colossal 10-year age difference. Even 2-3 years are of great importance for many. There are many posts on Internet forums by women experienced in this matter. Most of them believe that such a man and woman are not compatible in a relationship. Young guy is okay for a while, but in the long run it's a failure. Many of these couples admit that they have been living together really well with each other for some time, and the problems started when things got serious.
1 Based on statements from Internet users, we have prepared a list of the advantages of an alliance with a younger guy. Here they are: 1. We care more about each other This is the case, especially for couples in which the age difference is quite large. None of the ladies want to be accepted as the guy's mother, or (at best) older sister, so they try to cheat time to look younger than they really are. There's no doubt that if a woman has a healthy approach to taking care of herself and doesn't overdo it with plastic surgery, it's a big plus. Because these are the type of ladies who not only care about their image and try not only to look beautiful, but they are very confident in themselves. 2. We are experiencing a second youth Young people are often characterized by masculinity. They can organize a spontaneous weekend trip or prepare a romantic surprise. Many of the older guys are past their prime and don't have the energy to make such gestures. 3. It is believed that you can get incredible satisfaction from sex. The older women are, the better they are in matters of sex. Men seem to have a different trend. So the best connection is with a young passionate 20 year old man that we can nurture with confidence. 4. We feel more attractive The fact that someone younger is interested in us immediately speeds up the beating of our hearts. This is an obvious sign that the past tense is on our side. Unfortunately, this is also the main reason why young lovers are able to build better and more passionate relationships. Another piece of advice: if you have an age difference, then try to build your relationship at a distance.
// 01/24/02 MY BOYFRIEND IS EIGHT YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME Category “Age difference”. . Melada: Hello, Olga.
I want to share my problem with you. I'll start with myself. Maybe all the problems are in me. I am 28 years old. I've never been married. But I never had problems with guys. I had plenty of them. I loved someone, someone loved me. But I never got married. It's probably all my fault. I've always been independent. A year ago I met a guy 8 years younger than me. But then I didn’t know about it. I found out about his age when everything went too far. He told me that he loves me and will love me all my life. I didn't believe him. For six months he proved his love to me until I gave up. And then I found out that he is a wonderful person, and that I will never have anyone like him again. I've never seen anything like this before. Only now I realized that before everyone used me on different planes - in bed, in the material, and so on. Thanks to my boyfriend, I have changed a lot in these two years. But not at once. Thanks to his Love, strength, endurance and patience, I look better now than when I was 20 years old. I lost a lot of weight, changed my clothing style and appearance. My character has changed - I got a manicure for the first time (I’m ashamed to say) at 28 years old. I learned to cook, although before that I only knew how to cook potatoes.I am now actively involved in sports and have started to take care of myself. On a subconscious level, I do everything to please him. Although before I didn’t care - accept me for who I am. I was already standing on the edge, I had sunk to such an extent that one more step and I don’t know where I would have ended up. I had a lot of mental problems. In general, I lost myself and began to live by inertia.
About my boyfriend. At first everything was fine, but I didn’t appreciate it. She took everything for granted. And now I began to understand that this is not enough for him - he wants me to love him just as much. But I probably don’t know how to love or am very selfish. More than anything in life, I don’t want to lose him, otherwise everything will start all over again. He must hold me in his arms. Tell me, Olga, what should I do? I write and have tears in my eyes.
Now girls have appeared in my life - acquaintances of my boyfriend, whom I did not know before. Two of them are his friends' girlfriends and the third is their girlfriend. The same age - that is - 20 years old. I learned a lot of interesting things about myself and my boyfriend from them. Some things (30%) they told me were true, but the rest were not. They told me that he cheated on me many times, that he told them about me and so on.
It hurt me a lot, but I survived it. Later they came to me and said that it was a carefully developed plan by them to quarrel between me and my boyfriend, and that now they repent, and they said that it was all a lie. But I already had such a fight with him that now everything hangs by a thread. I think that this is all out of envy, and that they still won’t calm down. I worry that there are many of them, and I am alone. It's very difficult mentally. And how can I put them in their place? I don’t want to tell my boyfriend about this yet, because he was initially against our acquaintance with them, but they constantly pursue me.
And further. My boyfriend tells me that I have moral problems. Because I am very kind, naive and trusting. I would never have been able to think of what these girls did.
And further. Thanks to my boyfriend, I quit smoking. (What did it cost him!) And now - after these conversations - this is so much dirt - I lost it again. Olga, tell me, how can I not lose this Love?
Yes, there was such a moment in my life - I was in the hospital and turned to a psychologist there. She told me that I have serious problems, and I need to work with me, since all the roots are in my family. I understand this myself, but with my salary I cannot go to a psychologist. And my friends say that I invent problems for myself. But I feel that something is wrong.
No, I’m a normal girl - I have a higher education, a good job, normal appearance, but it often happens that I do what I don’t want to do, and I’ve made a lot of mistakes in life.
Thank you in advance for your answer. Sincerely, Melada
Olga-WWWoman: Hello, Melada! Well, what can I say - if he loves you, this quarrel provoked by envious women will not affect your relationship. The external irritant in the form of their presence in your life must be immediately removed and you must never meet with them again. Never. Cross it out. Now with doubts. Perhaps he was with this free girl, a friend of his friends (seeing him off, talking) and she tried to attract him to her in this way.I’ll tell you for sure: if he had cheated on you with her, she wouldn’t have come. It was her wounded pride and his indifference, the fact that she couldn’t do anything, that pushed her to this act - out of spite, to quarrel between you in any way and then, when he was alone, to try to get closer again. All this is so primitive... But someone let it slip to your guy and he forced them to come and tell the truth... otherwise they would have come, yeah... you won’t wait. This speaks in favor of the fact that he loves and values you.
I'll tell you what. Don't be afraid to lose it. If you are afraid, you will lose. Behave yourself independently, play out in your brain a possible life without him. Without this, you will not be able to maintain balance in your relationship. You must imagine what will happen if you break up. And here you must clearly NOT be AFRAID of breaking up. Men feel it and value it even more.
Write if I missed anything... let's continue...
Heads up... such a great guy, such a leap in improvement... just super. Keep it up!
Melada: Hello, Olga. Thank you very much for your answer. I also wanted to ask you. The fact that I am 8 years older than my boyfriend, especially since he is so young - 20 years old, can this lead to some troubles? I want to say that I don’t feel the age difference in my relationship with him. On the contrary, he educates me, although he constantly consults with me. You understand, as my mother says - you are already 30 years old, you already have to give birth, “all the deadlines have passed, find yourself a normal man.” My boyfriend has nowhere to rush. The only thing is that I myself don’t want to look for anyone, especially since I hate older guys.
And further. I probably don’t know how to love, because now my boyfriend has changed a lot - he started taking money from me, drinks beer every day, plays on computers. I have to help him somehow. I feel that my Love should help him, but so far nothing has worked out for me. Tell me what should I do? Thank you in advance.
Olga-WWWoman: Hello, Melada! If you feel good together, no age difference is a hindrance; such couples are stronger than any couples of the same age. Why? He finds in you love, like a man - bright, blossoming love, and care, life experience, wisdom, understanding and great significance - him, young, pure - for you. I don’t know whether your relationship will end in marriage, if so, then you need to behave this way right away so that he later knows that you are no less valuable than him, despite your older age. You must let him know that you love, but if everything is not as you imagined, then you will never be left alone, so you need to have fans, purely as a counterbalance, because, moreover, he has not married yet and there will be no complaints Maybe…
It would be great if he persuaded and sought to get married. If this is not the case, then keep your eyes open: is he spending time with you as with a temporary woman whom he never intended to marry.
I understand that you value him very much, you will be with him even without marriage. Tell yourself: I must fall out of love to the end and come what may. And he can do what he wants - he is single and free. And if you start making claims and “building” him, he will flinch, I don’t recommend it... just gently, with attitude, smartly and carefully... Good luck! >>> continuation of correspondence with Melada Discuss in the forum
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