Does he like you? (test for girls)

How long have you known each other?

How to understand that this is love? The easiest way is to analyze the situation you are in at the moment. For example, try to remember exactly how long you have known or been dating a young man. The thing is that many people are not able to distinguish between infatuation and love, although these concepts are completely different. The first feeling lasts no more than a few months or even weeks, but the second allows you to spend decades together with a young man.

If you met a young man relatively recently, do not rush to swear allegiance and love to him until the grave. No matter how sad it may sound, the period of romance and active courtship will sooner or later end, after which gray everyday life will begin. It is with the advent of such a time that most couples break up, because the feelings of the young people were not as strong as they wanted. However, if you've been dating a guy for a long time, then that says something.

Are you ready to make sacrifices?

Sacrifice is an “indicator” of feelings that allows a girl to answer the question “How can I tell if I love a guy?” Therefore, try to remember your actions over the past few months. Have you ever had to sacrifice something for the sake of a loved one? And we are not talking about a few hours of free time that could be spent watching the sensational series. Have you really given up anything serious for your boyfriend?

However, we should not forget that for some people, sacrifice is something ordinary. There is a certain category of people who like to present themselves as martyrs and specifically choose only those situations that will bring them suffering. As a rule, such actions are performed in order to evoke a feeling of pity in a loved one. If you are such a person, then you can check your feelings differently.

Compare the guy's pros and cons

Nobody is perfect - this is one of the laws of psychology. If you constantly ask yourself the question “How to check if I love a guy,” then you can use one interesting technique. Just take a blank piece of paper and a pencil and write on it in a column the pros and cons of your young man. It's best to do this on a first-come, first-served basis. That is, first remember some positive side of the young man, and then the negative.

Sooner or later, it will simply not be possible to come up with anything else for one of the columns, and the opposite one will be filled with more and more new characteristics of the loved one. If in the end your boyfriend has more pros than cons, you definitely love him. The thing is, people try not to notice the shortcomings of their other halves, and some even pass them off as positive aspects: “Yes, he is jealous, but I like it. Because this is how I see that he needs the truth.”

Evaluate your attitude from the outside

How do I know if I love a guy? Do you ask yourself this question at night? Then try to assess as objectively as possible the situation that is happening in your life at the moment. Don't be afraid to get bogged down in various stereotypes and cliches.

Just start answering standard questions that indicate that a girl is in love with a young man:

1. Do I constantly wait for a guy when he is at work or school?
2. Am I sexually attracted to him or something more?
3. Do I want to hear his voice when he is not with me?
4. How often do I message him on social media?

And so on. Try to look at yourself from the perspective of a friend or acquaintance. What would you think of a person who spends all his free time hugging his phone, waiting for a call from “just a friend”? Be as honest with yourself as possible. Remember that you are not taking an exam and no one will judge you for an incorrect answer. Analyze all your actions and thoughts as objectively as possible, and then draw the appropriate conclusions.

EXPRESS TEST: How to check if I love my husband?

THE ESSENCE OF THE PROBLEM:

I'm not sure I still love my husband. We've been living together for 10 years. How can I check this?

ANSWER:

Approach your sleeping husband at night, holding a pinch of salt in one hand and a glass of cold water in the other hand. Pour a glass of cold water on your husband’s head, and when he wakes up and screams, sprinkle him with salt, saying: “I love you - I don’t love you, I’ll press you to my heart - I’ll tell you to go to hell.” At what word you feel a slap from your husband, that’s what you feel for him!

In general, if you are ready for such tests, fortune tellers and other dregs, if you ask yourself whether you love your husband, of course, you need the help of a psychotherapist. Here it is important to understand what you mean by the concept of “love”. For most married couples, “I love” is an expression of neurosis, when a person cannot be alone with himself and solves this problem at the expense of the other person to whom he says “I love.” It was in this context that “love” was placed in the international classification of diseases, code F 63.9. If in 10 years you have overcome your dependence on another person, if during this time you have matured psychologically, then it is quite possible that this other person (your spouse) may become a burden and cause similar thoughts...

The biological context of “love,” or rather falling in love, is determined by hormones and manifests itself in passionate desire, which the strong half of humanity habitually voices with the word “love.”

“If it doesn’t hit, it means it doesn’t love” - in this archaic flavor, which is still relevant and glorified in gray shades these days, the concept of “love” includes elements of violence, humiliation and pain to achieve a more complete orgasm, because “the best sex - after a quarrel."

Further development of consciousness led to the fact that “love” was often referred to as “relationships” between people. “Relationships” imply a certain distance between self-sufficient individuals. If in 10 years, and sometimes in less time, two personalities merge into one large codependency, then there is no distance - no relationship - no love... Perhaps that is why among the Russian nobility (and not only) the house was divided into male and female halves... “Relationships” “These did not always turn out to be harmonious and often resembled the “ego games” so masterfully described by Russian classics (“Anna Karenina” by L.N. Tolstoy, “Demons” by F.M. Dostoevsky).

In whatever context we consider the concept of “love”, it is important to understand that first of all these are the emotions/feelings that you experience - from panic-fear, desire-passion to awareness of the Universe and divine grace in the case of true Love, which does not have nothing to do with Ego, jealousy, dependence, but on the contrary, it opposes these biological emotions.

You are what you love.

So, how can you check whether you still love your husband? The promised test!

1. Are you afraid to be left without him? 2. Do you desire him as a man? 3. Do you still have a relationship with your husband (including fear or contempt for your husband)? 4. Do you see God in your spouse's eyes? 5. Do you experience a state of awareness of the Universe?

If you answered “yes” to at least one question, then at least in one context of love you still love your husband, don’t doubt it!)

Understand your goals and desires

“I constantly think about him, I want to be with him” - for a person in love, such a statement is far from uncommon, however, it does not allow us to say with a high degree of probability that we are talking about love. To understand your feelings in more detail, you need to ask yourself the question “What do I want from life?” or “What is most important to me at the moment?” If you are ready to forget about everything in the world for the sake of one person, he means a lot to you.

Also, such questions often allow you to determine how strong your feelings are. If a girl really loves a young man, then she will be ready to forget about nightclubs, evening gatherings with friends and even family dinners. In the first place for her is the guy with whom she wants to build a serious relationship. The girl begins to think about what he will look like as a husband, father, or what her parents will think of him.

Discussion of the test “How to understand if I love him”

A very interesting test, and especially the result. In tests, the results are usually given in one line, but here it is so succinctly described, and also all sorts of advice. Thank you! Very informative.