First sex statistics4
According to statistics, girls have their first sex between the ages of 17 and 20. Young people begin their sexual life several years earlier, that is, at 15-16 years old. But despite these statistics, guys are afraid of the first time 2 times stronger and more than girls. It's logical. Even during the first sex, young people have more responsibility for the result. And the result of the first night directly depends on the behavior of the male half of the couple.
Regardless of the outcome of the first sex, about 60% of girls begin to feel dissatisfied with themselves and their bodies. Perhaps this serves as a further reason for the couple's separation. After all, almost 23% of couples break up after the first night.
When did you enjoy the first sex?
There are often situations when a girl enjoys first sex. More and more people are approaching this moment consciously, choosing a loved one with whom they will be comfortable. Orgasms rarely happen the first time, but the overall impression is one of joy.
Alena, 27 years old The first time everything happened was in my first year. We dated for six months, he looked after me very nicely. I knew this would happen, so I prepared. I was wearing very beautiful underwear. He invited me home and lit candles. I really liked that he was preparing for this moment. There was no blood, there was no pain either. We then dated for another year.
Irina, 31 years old I protected my virginity. I thought it was possible only with my husband. I waited for him until I was 21. And everything was fine. I thought for many years that it was good. And then she got divorced, and only many years later did she find out that he was a bad lover. If I had found out earlier, if I had compared it with someone, I would not have married him. But I remember the first night with a light heart. It wasn’t painful, it wasn’t scary, I was confident in him.
Marina, 25 years old First there was oral sex. He licked me many times. And he really wanted it, but I didn’t agree. But one day I thought it was worth a try. He inserted his finger, I liked it. So she said “yes”. It felt good, he moved slowly, slowly. And then he kept asking: “Didn’t it hurt you? Are you all right?". Every time I remember and smile.
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Negative opinions about deflowering
Not all girls liked the moment of deprivation of virginity. This is due to various circumstances: from insufficient experience of the partner, from fear or from an inappropriate environment, sometimes from pain. There are fewer such cases than neutral or positive ones.
Svetlana, 35 years old I didn’t want to, he forced me. No, he didn’t rape me, he just didn’t let me leave. We were at a party, kissing. He dragged me into the bedroom and pinned me on the bed. And I didn’t want to, but he didn’t listen. We had been dating for 2 months already, and he insisted. In general, I couldn’t leave. And I was scared and hurt. He was drunk and in a hurry. I didn't really feel anything. When I came home, there was blood all over my panties. Then we tried it a couple more times, it was somehow awkward. And then I suggested breaking up. I still regret that everything turned out this way.
Valentina, 34 years old I fell in love with a guy, and he left me. I was so hurt, so sad that I decided that I didn’t need love. And she slept with the first person she met. He was older, he said that he had many women. I believed it. And when we were left alone, and it was in a student dormitory, I agreed. More precisely, I didn’t tell him that I was a virgin. We were drunk, he tried to enter me, but he couldn’t. He turned me around, bent me over until it worked. It didn't hurt me and I wasn't interested. I thought it was revenge on the one who abandoned me. He left at night, and in the morning I woke up in a pool of blood. I still feel some kind of emptiness from this...
Ksenia, 21 years old I was 14 years old and he was 16 years old. It seemed to us that we were very adults. I was his first, and he was mine. I had watched porn before, and it seemed like everything was so simple. And in life he finished even before he entered. I was already upset then. But then they tried a second time. Then I thought - is there so much noise because of these movements? Why does everyone want this so much? He finished almost instantly, I didn’t feel anything at all, only shame and some kind of disgust. I remember how I closed my eyes so as not to see him naked. In general, it was just disgusting.
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How to prepare for losing your virginity?
There is no special ritual to prepare for first sex. This is a natural process and not hazardous to health. But since this action affects the perception of men, relationships and further sexual actions, there are recommendations from psychologists for the first sexual experience.
- 1. The right choice of a man. This should not be a random person. It is important to choose a sexual partner you trust. It is advisable that the person already has some sexual experience. And it’s better to warn him that this is the girl’s first time.
- 2. Convenient place. The right environment helps you relax. You should not decide to make your first experience in a place where you may be disturbed. It is better to find a comfortable room with a bed and a bathroom.
- 3. Right time. Avoid rushing when having sex for the first time. Strong arousal is important for the girl to like everything. It's ideal to spend a few hours or even the whole night doing this. Of course, sex itself does not last long, but the foreplay should be significant.
- 4. Lack of fear. There is no need to be afraid, this is a physiologically simple process, it is not dangerous. At the same time, you should forget about shame, it is inappropriate at such a moment. Almost all adults have sex, it is pleasant and interesting, there is nothing wrong with it.
- 5. Protection. Even with the first sexual intercourse, pregnancy can occur. Therefore, it is imperative to protect yourself. The simplest and most effective method is to use a condom. It protects against both pregnancy and infections.
The ideal solution for first sex is an experiment with your loved one. Such an experience gives pleasant experiences and is remembered for a lifetime.
Basic first time mistakes2
No matter how it sounds, there are mistakes when having sex for the first time, and there are many of them.
1. When having sex for the first time, a couple is haunted by awkwardness. It is expressed in clumsiness, embarrassment, excitement, etc. It ruins the sex experience. To avoid this, you should completely trust your partner, relax and have fun.
2. When having sex for the first time, you don’t need to try to experiment and go out of your way to impress your partner. This could end badly. Such emancipation will not be appropriate. If experiments are unavoidable, invite your partner to study and read the Kama Sutra together. Scrolling through the pages will already set you up for a wave of excitement. Moreover, you will show your partner that you are just like him and that this is the first time.
3. During sex, you should tell your partner what he likes and what he doesn’t like. This is the first time, and no one knows how to bring maximum pleasure to each other. There is no need to be shy and remain silent if it is unpleasant. If the girl is uncomfortable and she leaves it a secret, further sexual intercourse will only cause her suffering.
4. Don't forget about foreplay before and during sex. When having sex for the first time, foreplay is the key moment and starting point. If you neglect it, you won't be able to relax. A quick transition to sex can frighten a girl, and an inexperienced guy can cause at least physical pain. Therefore, during foreplay, you need to treat each other with tenderness and trepidation, then the transition to sex will be a natural, honest feeling between the partners.
5. You should remember about safety. Never forget about condoms. After all, the first experience with sex can end faster than expected and the likelihood of having children in a young, inexperienced couple becomes higher and higher. At this stage of the relationship, young people do not need this.
6. No need to lie and fake. When having sex for the first time, you need to act as natural and relaxed as possible. Pretending to be a queen or a macho is wrong and stupid. If you overplay, the process will be as uncomfortable as possible.
Consensual sex: cons12
The disadvantage of the law on consensual sex may be facts of slander. It is likely that, for example, an abandoned girl, deciding to take revenge on her boyfriend, can come up with an incredible story about her rape, without her consent. Of course, there are risks of fraud in all laws. Therefore, it is likely that the law, when adopted, will consider such situations. And to avoid them, you will need to prove rape during various examinations.
Memory loss due to deflowering
There are girls who lose their virginity by drinking alcohol. As a result, they do not always remember how it happened, and sometimes they forget with whom. Such an experience cannot be called positive; most often it causes regret about what was done.
Nadezhda, 37 years old When I was a student, I went to a party. And there my first time happened. I was with a guy, and it was he who became my first man. But I was drunk and I don’t remember anything at all. And this is very disappointing, it turns out that I missed such an important moment out of stupidity.
Anastasia, 28 years old At 15 years old, it seemed to me that I was very mature. And we tried to drink and smoke, thinking that this was what emphasized age. And one day, when I came home, I found blood on my panties. I don't remember at all what was there. We were in some apartment, there were a lot of people and drinks. I remember kissing someone. In general, everything is in a fog, there are memory lapses. And only the stains on her underwear reminded me of her virginity. I don't even know the name of who this happened to.
Elizaveta, 23 years old You know, this is very strange, but I don’t remember how it all happened. No, I didn’t drink much, I was just very worried. And apparently the second glass of champagne had that effect. I planned for this to happen, I was already 19 years old, I had been dating a guy for a year. But it was that night that I got so drunk! You know, even he thinks I remember. But it was as if my memory had been erased.
Neutral reviews about first sex from women
The first sex rarely gives orgasm or strong arousal. Embarrassment and fear make the process not very interesting for a woman. At the same time, they cannot characterize it as negative, but it is difficult to call it positive either.
Elena, 34 years old I didn’t understand anything during my first sex. Everything was somehow crumpled and uncomfortable. We were brought up at a time when there was no Internet, so everything was done somehow instinctively. We didn't even know the theory. And I was curious what “adult” was. At that time I had never even heard of contraception or infections. But the process itself raised many questions. Then I thought for a long time - is that all? Why wasn't it nice? Why do people want this so much?
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Eva, 21 years old I was 16 years old, he was 17. I had just entered college and decided to celebrate with my first sex. It was interesting, but not scary. I did this with my friend. We even tried to date later, but it didn’t work out. Everything went smoothly. There was a little blood, but I went into the shower and washed it all off. There was no pain, no pleasure. There was bewilderment and regret, but somehow everything disappeared. I didn’t think about this night for many years until you asked.
Victoria, 28 years old Not impressed. There were some vague dreams about how this would happen. It seemed like there would be some kind of magic. But the birds did not sing above us, there were no fireworks. He came in a few seconds and that was it. I was even angry with myself, for a long time I thought that I had done something wrong. Then it turned out that any sex is prosaic. Of course, the pleasure came with time. But I didn't remember the first time.
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What is considered rape?5
Sexual violence is any forced act of a sexual nature against another person. And now we are not only talking about cases of attack and rape by maniacs. Coercion to perform marital duties is also considered violence. If a woman does not want to, experiences pain and discomfort, and her partner ignores this, such actions can also be considered rape. Many women experience sex without receiving any pleasure from it, thereby not thinking that they have every right to refuse it. According to statistics, a third of the world's women do not think about their ability to consent to sex or refuse, thereby, practically, through their own fault, becoming victims of violence.
Mini-fanfiction “My First Time”
Mini-fanfiction “My First Time”
