Ways to Achieve Orgasm – Not long ago, talking openly about sex in our society was considered taboo at best, and vulgar or stupid at worst.
Socialist education strictly limited such conversations, distracting young people to other topics useful to society, work, clubs, etc., therefore, the sexual education of a Soviet person by the age of 20 in most cases was limited only to knowledge of anatomy.
Ways to achieve orgasm, various intimate exercises, etc. Not only were they not discussed, but the overwhelming majority of the population did not think about such “little things,” and if they did, they carried the thought deep within themselves.
But times are changing. The strict socialist system was replaced by a softer one - a democratic one, with the advent of which post-Soviet people began to discover previously unknown aspects of life.
The benefits of male and female orgasm
Unlike the female orgasm, the male orgasm is one of the simplest phenomena of the human body. Orgasm during sex in a man is biologically related to ejaculation and in most cases depends on full sexual intercourse, although it can also occur without the participation of physical contact with a woman.
But fertilization of female eggs is not necessarily accompanied by female orgasm, so this phenomenon has not yet been fully studied. The most suitable function for it is receiving pleasure, but in real life the female orgasm is a rather complex, multi-stage phenomenon, depending on various factors.
Most scientists are inclined to think that a woman’s normal sex life (periodic satisfaction) has a positive effect on her physical and mental state.
Regular orgasm during sex changes the emotional background - a woman becomes more harmonious, cheerful, cheerful, sexy, less irritable, and in terms of physical condition, her body becomes stronger, immunity increases, blood flow is stimulated, she gets sick less, etc.
Orgasm from breast stimulation: mechanism of action
Experts believe that sexual release when exposed to this part of the female body is a pleasure for selected ladies, since the majority still prefer to experience orgasm in traditional ways.
Below are scientific facts that prove the existence of this type of orgasm:
- In a state of erotic excitement, the mammary glands increase in size by up to 25 percent. At the same time, not only the appearance of the bust improves, but also the sensitivity of the nipples, and slight redness of the skin is often observed. All this makes stimulation especially pleasant and effective.
- When exposed to nipples, direct transmission of nerve impulses to the brain occurs. In this organ, exactly those areas that work during clitoral and vaginal orgasm are activated. That is why all these types of sexual release have the same principle of action. The features of the brain were recorded during MRI, so this fact is beyond doubt.
- Impact on the breasts is guaranteed to speed up the onset of vaginal orgasm. For example, if a woman is close to release during sexual intercourse, her partner only needs to start caressing her mistress’s nipples to bring the matter to its logical conclusion.
Orgasm from caressing the breasts is a proven fact in women who are characterized by increased sensitivity in this area. However, such sensitivity can be developed to conduct pleasant experiments in bed.
Ways to achieve orgasm - knowing your body
In general, there are two main types of female orgasm: vaginal and clitoral.
To get maximum pleasure from the caresses of a partner, a woman is initially recommended to study her body in order to feel much more comfortable.
To do this, you can turn on music, because... music for sex
is a good background for relaxation and intense sensations.
Once a favorable atmosphere has been set, allow yourself to lightly caress your chest and stomach, gradually moving closer to the intimate parts of the body.
By focusing on your own sensations, you will understand which touches are the sharpest and most pleasant for your body. You can increase the pace and intensity of caresses, but try not to relax the muscles of the abdomen and thighs.
Free leg exercise
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Many trainers and doctors recommend this exercise to improve their sex life. During training, this exercise strengthens the pelvic muscles and teaches you to concentrate on the right muscles. The ability to control all your muscles and the body as a whole appears. The flexibility of the inner and outer thigh muscles makes it possible to do the impossible in bed. How to do it: Sit flat on a hard surface, smoothly raise your legs up. Your job is to direct your shoulders toward your knees. Grasp your calves with your hands and try to keep your balance so as not to fall. You should end up in a V-shaped pose. Pull your chin towards your chest. And be careful, the body should get used to it and soon the discomfort will disappear.
Effective ways to achieve orgasm: self-caresses
To achieve orgasm on your own, you need to focus as much as possible on stimulating the clitoris.
In this case, you should start massaging the pubic area, lightly touching the inner surface of the skin on the thighs, and then smoothly move to the clitoris.
Do not forget that the skin in this area is the most sensitive, so all movements must be done as carefully and carefully as possible.
The appearance of arousal is accompanied by a weak release of moisture, which helps to move on to more intense caresses.
Remember what intensity of caresses, lightness of touch or certain points in intimate places is preferable for your body. Focus on feeling what gives you the most arousal.
Another effective way of clitoral stimulation is a warm stream of water aimed at the clitoris or a special vibrator from a sex shop.
Rear push-ups
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Strong hands have never bothered anyone in this world. But they are especially useful during lovemaking. In this exercise we train the triceps, back muscles, and the front deltoid muscles. Method of execution: You need to rest your hands on the edge of a chair. Feet are on the floor (a more complicated option is to cross your legs on another chair). Elbows point back. Try not to spread your arms too far, so that you train the triceps and not the deltoids. Start the push-up process when your pelvis is outside the chair. Take a breath and lower your pelvis down, smoothly bending your elbows. You should try to straighten your arms as much as possible while lifting your pelvis up. Try to do 10 to 20 squats in one session.
Effective ways to achieve orgasm: oral sex
An intense clitoral orgasm can also be achieved with the help of your man, and he will need the technique of proper cunnilingus to achieve maximum effect. If he is ready to give you pleasure with the help of oral sex, then feel free to start the experiment.
For comfort, it is better for a woman to lie on her back and spread her legs wide, bending them at the knees (you can also use a pillow).
It is preferable for a man to begin caresses slowly, gradually exciting his partner by touching his fingers to the inner thighs and outer lips.
After releasing the lubricant, it is advisable to caress the clitoris longer, combining light touches of the tongue and fingers. More detailed stimulation of vaginal and clitoral orgasm is described in the technique of proper cunnilingus.
In order for a man to feel you, it is better not to hold back your emotions, moans or words. With their help, your partner will begin to feel more confident.
Try to tell the man the right pace by moving your hips in time with his caresses.
Effective ways to achieve orgasm: provocation
The provocation of vaginal orgasm is a certain G point (G), which exists on the body of every woman. In most cases, it is located at a distance of 3-5 cm from the entrance to the vagina.
In order to find and stimulate it, you need to insert your index finger to this distance and bend it slightly. In this way, you can find a kind of bump or a slightly rough surface, on which you need to press a little and feel it with circular movements of your finger.
A good option for stimulating vaginal orgasm is constant training of the vaginal muscles, which is achieved naturally (by periodic sex with your partner) or artificially (special exercises).
These muscles are no different from the external, visible muscles of the body, and if they are not trained, sooner or later they begin to weaken, after which their functions are impaired.
Simply put, if a woman has sex spontaneously or infrequently, or does not perform certain exercises, then her sensitivity constantly decreases, and orgasm becomes less bright and intense. As a rule, this is more common in women after menopause.
Effective ways to achieve orgasm: intimate fitness or wumbling.
Intimate fitness is considered the simplest and most convenient set of exercises to stimulate vaginal orgasm.
It consists of the following:
- For maximum relaxation during exercise, it is recommended to choose a calm and most suitable melody.
- Music for having sex or stimulating orgasm is considered one of the important elements.
- Stimulate the vaginal muscles 2-3 times a day.
- To do this, strain and relax the inner walls of the vagina 10 times in a row during one exercise, as if holding back urination (preferably for a few seconds).
- Check the degree of vaginal function.
To do this, you need to insert your index finger and squeeze it with your internal muscles. This way you can assess the degree of pressure and, accordingly, the functionality of the organ.
Each time you need to perform the action harder, trying to push your finger out. Stimulation is carried out by compression for 2-3 seconds and relaxation 10 times in 1 session.
A good option for stimulation are special balls that can be purchased in a sex shop.
Squats
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This exercise is ideal for strengthening the muscles of the legs and buttocks. During training, blood flows from the lower back, which leads to the awakening of sexual desire. This exercise will also have a positive effect on your well-being and sensations when you are in the “horsewoman” position. How to do it: Straighten your arms parallel to your feet, watch your heels, they should not leave the floor. Shift your body weight to your heels. First, bend your body forward at the lumbar region. Then move your buttocks back as if you were sitting on a chair, then bend your legs at the knees. Make sure that your ankle and knees become one vertical line, this will relieve you of pain in your leg muscles. Your shin should be vertical throughout the entire exercise. For advanced users, you can also use weights to make this “mission” harder. The movements are performed 10-30 times. Directions of movement: up and down.
Exotic technique of achieving orgasm: elements of Tantric sex
Having sex is an exchange of feminine and masculine energies, energies of passion, love and pleasure. For the acuity of sensations (stimulation of vaginal orgasm), it is recommended to increase this flow: during the act, it is necessary to be partially distracted by physical exercise - strain the internal muscles or abdominal muscles.
The technique for achieving orgasm is quite simple. In Tantric Yoga there is such a thing as “vibrations” of energy. To provoke them, feel the work of your abdominal muscles during sex, similar to pumping up your abs.
Bench press in the half-bridge position
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There are women who are embarrassed to “loose themselves” in sex. This also happens if the girl is not in very good physical condition. This exercise works well on the muscles of the arms and chest. You can complicate this exercise in the “half bridge” pose. Endurance also improves during this physical activity. This pose also trains the muscles that stimulate increased sensations during orgasm. How to do it: Lie on the floor, bend your knees, take a “half bridge” pose. Watch your feet; your elbows should point out to the sides. Start with light weight. After 10-20 reps, give your spine a rest and lie down on the floor. It is advisable to perform up to 5 approaches per workout.
How to learn to have an orgasm with the help of lubricants?
During sex, many women have insufficient moisture at the entrance, which is why there is low sensitivity of the vagina or there is no orgasm at all.
In this case, you should not be very upset or complex, since you can learn to have an orgasm with the help of special drugs, and over time switch to a more natural achievement of pleasure.
Even if you do not have such a problem, then adding vaginal emollient creams with testosterone hormones, estrogen or special lubricants will definitely not harm you.
The properties of lubricants include elements that artificially excite (stimulate) the sensitivity of the female genital organs.
They increase blood flow and circulation, the transmission of sensations through receptors, which increases the thrill, and also act as antiseptic and moisturizers at the same time.
Step-by-step instruction
To avoid any problems during sex, read the sample instructions. You don't have to stick to it from the first point to the last. But if you follow most of them in the correct sequence, you will understand how to bring a girl or wife to orgasm with your hands, penis and mouth.
Get ready
The only thing better than spontaneous sex is well-planned and thoughtful sex. Think over the approximate development of events. Imagine how your girlfriend will behave.
Maybe she will come home from work and you will arrange a romantic evening for her. If you don't live together, then you can invite her to your home to watch a movie. Prepare everything you need for a passionate night.
It is not necessary to recreate a picture from a romantic movie and place candles everywhere, scatter rose petals and light incense sticks. But be sure to make sure that the bed linen is clean, that contraceptives are on hand, and that you smell pleasant.
Find out where the clitoris is
As you already understand, this part of the partner’s genitals is very important so that she can experience pleasure. According to surveys, 25% of adult men have no idea where the clitoris may be.
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If you are one of these guys, fill in your missing knowledge. To do this, you can watch educational videos on female masturbation. But such tutorials should not be confused with pornographic products.
Arrange for sex
This point is important, so it is not recommended to skip it. Imagine - you are prepared and tuned in to intimacy, but your girlfriend is categorically against it. There may be a lot of reasons for refusal: fatigue, other plans, etc. In addition, a woman also needs time to prepare (depilation, choosing beautiful lingerie). She needs preparation no less than you.
A girl should feel confident and relaxed. But if during sex she thinks about the fact that she didn’t have time to get herself in order, she’s unlikely to be able to relax. Respect the girl and her need for preparation during sex. If saying “Let’s have sex today” is unusual for you, then just give her a hint.
Get rid of stress
Just imagine - about 90% of sexually mature people on the entire planet do not get real pleasure from sex precisely because of accumulated stress. Fatigue and anxious thoughts are not the best sex partners. Get rid of them and try to relax the girl.
Before you begin the process of intimacy, take a break and do something pleasant. Exercise, a warm bath, a slow walk in the fresh air, and spiritual conversations help a lot. It wouldn't hurt to have a glass of wine. But only one glass at a time, since more alcohol can ruin the whole evening.
Create Context
You need to know what will inspire your partner to have sex, relax her and make her immerse her body and thoughts in this process. Create an environment around her that will push her to do this. If you doubt your knowledge of your friend’s desires, use the formula:
- Reduce your loved one's stress level and make her admire you.
- Create a romantic atmosphere and excite her.
Show your beloved that the evening and night are dedicated to her and her desires. This will put her at ease and certainly relax her.
Get to the point
Here you are sitting opposite each other, communicating, everything goes in the right direction. But you should not immediately start sexual intercourse. Give yourself plenty of time to warm up.
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You need to force the woman to voluntarily immerse herself in the atmosphere of sex. Why is this moment so important? Often a girl, having received enough attention during a romantic evening, believes that she must “pay off” with her lover. No, we are not talking about banal vulgarity in the style of “I should give myself to him for a good time.” Everything is much more complicated here. You don’t need to go into these details, just remember that this is possible.
How to immerse a girl in the desired intimate atmosphere? To do this, pay close attention to the following two rules.
Find out what she likes
Sexologists say that ignorance of the desires and preferences of a sexual partner leads to sex becoming boring and uninteresting. There is nothing wrong with frank conversations. It will be worse if over time your intimacy loses all meaning.
Of course, asking a direct question out of nowhere can confuse a woman, so make sure that an intimate conversation is appropriate. Having created a comfortable atmosphere, win the girl over, smoothly move the conversation in the right direction. Give her a compliment. Talk about how sexy and beautiful she is. Then simply ask the question: “What do you like most about sex?” or “What would you like to try in bed?” After that, she herself will tell you how you can bring her to orgasm.
Allow 20 minutes to warm up
As sexologists note, a woman needs at least 20 minutes to be completely ready for penetrative sex. If you're thinking, "I can't bring my girlfriend to ecstasy," think about how much time you spend on foreplay. Less than 20 minutes? Then think about it and correct this mistake. During these important 20 minutes of warming up, you should do the following:
- Kiss on the lips. Kissing has been scientifically proven to reduce stress hormones in the body.
- Caress your lover's neck. Walk your lips from ear to collarbone.
- Don't undress her right away. Start caressing through clothes.
- Undress her slowly.
- Spend enough time caressing your breasts and nipples.
- While undressed, caress her entire body. Don't stay in one place for too long. Women like it when a man “walks” his hands and lips all over his body.
Get busy with her clit
When both of you are already sufficiently aroused, move on to genital caresses. You don’t need to bring a girl to orgasm with your mouth or finger right away. Time it. It takes her between 15 and 45 minutes to climax, so if you stimulate her clitoris for about 10 to 15 minutes, the chance of her orgasm increases to 92%.
Be gentle and careful during this process. Start with slow movements. Don't push him too hard. Increase the pressure gradually.
Experience an orgasm
You can bring your partner to ecstasy and then proceed with penetrative sex, or time it so that you reach the end approximately at the same time. Although the second is much more difficult. As noted above, achieving simultaneous orgasm is almost impossible, so do not focus on this point.
Feel your beloved, but don’t forget about yourself.
Enjoy a pleasant aftertaste
After you reach orgasm, enjoy each other a little more. It's easy to do.
Talk after sex
You don't have to discuss serious topics or everyday problems. There is no need to do this at all, otherwise there is a risk of ruining the pleasant aftertaste.
Ask a woman how much she enjoyed the sex. This is to make your next time even better. Give her some compliments. After this she will feel liberated.
Stay close
After physical intimacy, a woman needs to receive emotional pleasure. To do this, you just need to stay close.
You shouldn’t immediately get dressed after sex, call a taxi and run away. Don't turn your back to the wall. Hug a woman, talk to her and kiss her.
Let your friend lie on your chest while you stroke her hair. This will relax her and help her fall asleep.
How to get an orgasm during sex?
And the most important thing is just focus on your feelings, try to relax as much as possible and not be distracted by external irritating factors such as noises behind the wall, car horns, the sound of raindrops, etc.
You should not make love if you are worried about some experiences, problems or worries, since getting an orgasm during sex with heavy thoughts is 99% almost impossible.
Having surrendered to the arms of love, just stop thinking about something and focus on pleasant sensations.
Delaying pleasure until the last minute
The anticipation of sex is an exciting moment for both guys and girls. When partners know that a “night of love” awaits them today, their excitement grows as they approach the long-awaited event. You can make the anticipation even more exciting by giving your partner various sexual signals throughout the day. It can be:
- SMS of an erotic nature;
- calls with hints about what awaits the man upon arrival from work;
- voicing your own sexual fantasies;
- photographs of intimate content (for example, in a translucent top).
