Late births are considered to be children born to parents over 35-40 years of age. The decision at what age to have children is, of course, a personal matter for each of us. After all, every person in life has their own circumstances that affect family life. Some people have their first child at 17 years old, and others at 50. And here it is impossible to determine which mother is better. A child can be happy even after spending the first years of his life constantly moving around rented apartments with his student parents, and in the country house of wealthy, but no longer very young parents. And his decent upbringing is, first of all, a matter of a responsible attitude between dad and mom. The problem of late children has been discussed for a long time, by doctors, psychologists and parents. Doctors are in favor of having a baby as early as possible. It is considered normal for a woman to have her first child before the age of 25. Psychologists say that it is necessary to have children only when people have realized themselves and decided on their life priorities. Parents have their own personal experience, and I draw conclusions based on it. Let's look at the pros and cons of late pregnancy.
Late motherhood
Typically, mothers who do not have children at an earlier age either build a career and personal wealth, or are unable to have a child due to health problems. For both, the long-awaited baby becomes a great happiness. A mother who has already achieved a stable position in society, has decided on housing, which is very important now, can devote more time to raising a child. After all, young parents who are studying at college or just starting to work often spend more time on themselves. And no matter how much they love their baby, their time is simply limited by the realities of modern life. Couples who have a child after 40 can afford to share the responsibilities of providing for the family and raising the child, paying more attention to the child's development. Mothers who can constantly be close to the baby are involved in its development more diligently and consistently. They enjoy doing massages and gymnastics for a long time. They monitor the child’s diet and prepare a variety of foods every day. They can spend hours reading to the baby or playing useful games. Leading a measured life, they rejoice at every step of the child, which young parents simply do not have enough time and energy for.
Another plus is that in couples who have lived together for many years, relationships are calmer and more stable. And each parent individually has already matured as an individual. It cannot be said that young mothers raise their children worse; many modern girls are very educated in matters of psychology and health. But mature parents can organize their child’s life more calmly and measuredly. This is important for children. If parents already have older children, then by giving birth to a late baby, they can use their experience in raising older brothers and sisters, avoiding all the mistakes that inexperienced parents make. Some late mothers, of course, overindulge their long-awaited babies, especially having material and physical capabilities, subsequently raising them to be disobedient and uncontrollable egoists. But, in fairness, it should be noted that it is mothers over thirty who give birth to the majority of child prodigies.
Now let's talk about the disadvantages of late motherhood. Late births cause great concern, because no matter how much parents expect and want a baby, there are very real threats to the health of mother and child. And here the statistics, unfortunately, are disappointing. In women over the age of 40, the risk of having a child with genetic disorders, including Down syndrome, increases 10 times. The risk of miscarriage is more than 30%. During pregnancy, a woman may experience an exacerbation of chronic diseases, the appearance of diabetes mellitus, etc. And it is physically more difficult for parents to feed and raise a baby at an older age. When the so-called late child grows up, parents cannot spend hours playing or snowboarding. Their children sadly watch how other teenagers have fun in the company of their parents. And they themselves constantly have to deal with ridicule from classmates about the age of their parents. Late children often have difficulty getting along with peers; they prefer to communicate with older friends. Parents themselves very often put pressure on their children with their authority, forcing them to study more in order to meet unreasonably high demands. Therefore, such children grow up less active, choosing quieter hobbies. But perhaps this is not so bad, because the main thing is that the child has a favorite activity that brings pleasure and positive emotions.
But what definitely doesn’t bring positive emotions to late-life children is watching their mom and dad grow old. Many people, being late children of their parents, sadly talk about how hard it is for them when their parents are sick, and how scary it is for them to think about the fact that they could lose them.
Of course, it is difficult to say unequivocally at what age it is better to have a child. The main thing is probably to want this very much and try to be good, loving and caring parents for your baby. Young people need to be more calm and patient, and older parents need to try to remain active and modern. It is very important to listen, understand and support the child in any situation, and then age will not matter.
Every year the percentage of “late” children is increasing. According to statistics, over the past 5 years, the number of first-time women over 35 years old, who in the Soviet Union were incorrectly called “old-timers,” has doubled.
After 35-40 years, many show business stars became mothers for the first time: Jodie Foster, Monica Bellucci, Halle Berry, Salma Hayek, Eva Mendes, Naomi Watts and others. These star mothers set an example for millions of ordinary women, which does not make doctors happy. Nowadays, ladies increasingly prefer to build a career first and postpone the birth of their first baby indefinitely.
Doctors about late birth
Now let’s give the floor to the doctors. We all know about the risks of late pregnancies An increased risk of all kinds of diseases, problems with hormones, decreased chances of getting pregnant - all this can happen. True, if you pay close attention to your own body, you can protect yourself from such difficulties. Experts assure: “During pregnancy, eat right, watch your exercise, and pay special attention to your bones. If everything is fine with this, you can give birth to a healthy child at 40 or 45 years old without harming yourself!”
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Oddly enough, doctors have also identified the health benefits of late childbirth . First, women who give birth later have a better chance of living a long life. Secondly, those same “old-timers” show an amazing improvement in verbal memory! Experts believe that all this happens due to the beneficial effects of estrogen and progesterone on the brain of a woman in labor.
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