How do I feel about him? Advice from psychologists, consultations

The main signs of a man's satisfaction

Understanding whether a young man liked sex is not so difficult. Male representatives are characterized by straightforwardness, so they express most of their thoughts out loud. In addition to words, it is also necessary to take into account a person’s non-verbal behavior, because emotions and gestures reveal much more than words.

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Verbal

Any man, if he liked sex, rushes to tell his girlfriend about it. Of course, many compliments may turn out to be flattery, but when a partner is dissatisfied, he will most likely remain discreetly silent. At the same time, silence may be a sign that the guy is embarrassed and does not understand whether the girl liked being around him.

People can be different, for example, one partner will immediately say that everything was enchanting, while the other will simply smile, even if the sex delighted him. You should not ask a man what he feels and thinks: excessive interest causes embarrassment.

Instead of evaluative conversations after sex, it is best to simply be there and give your partner affection. Thanks to this, you can get much more information than through questioning.

Nonverbal

Many psychologists talk about how to understand whether a guy liked his first sex. They claim that this is easy to do based on non-verbal cues. As you know, you can say anything, but nonverbal signs can tell you much more about your partner and his emotions. For example, if you feel too much tension in a man’s body, facial expressions and gestures, this may indicate that he is lying. Twitching corners of the lips, crossed arms over the chest, scratching the nose - these signs also demonstrate that a person is trying to hide something.

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However, you shouldn’t immediately scan every detail of a man’s face and body with your eyes, and a guy’s nose may itch from allergies or a runny nose. Positive nonverbal signs are:

open look;
relaxed smile;
calm and relaxed hands.

If a guy doesn’t want to get dressed and run away after sex, which already indicates a bad experience, then most likely the girl will have time to look at the man. For example, many men want to hug their beloved, hold her close if everything went well. After unsuccessful sex, a guy may be cold, he will try to pull away.

You can take the initiative and press yourself close to your partner to see his reaction.

How do I feel about him?

Hello! I’m 22 years old. I have a full-fledged family: mom, dad. Loving, caring parents. I’m alone in the family, but I’m not spoiled with attention, protection, understanding. I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for 5 years. We started dating at school in 11th grade (we are classmates). Then we went to study at different universities, disagreements and jealousies began. We separated many times on his initiative (he said that he was tired of the relationship). The last time we separated on mine (I was tired of his disregard). All these times he returned on his own. That is, he was taking the first steps towards reconciliation. The last time we separated was a year ago. Everything was perfect for a little more than six months. Now I understand that we need development. 5 years is not so short for a relationship. We both don’t want to get married and we don’t want children either. But, I think we could live together. He works. But he constantly has excuses not to start living together: either we don’t have enough money, then he just doesn’t want to, then he says that he often stays at work until late and I will sit at home by myself, why do I need this (he says this). We only see each other on weekends. Sometimes 1 day a week, sometimes two. Although we live half an hour away from each other. Due to his fatigue after the work week, he only has enough time to communicate with me for a couple of hours, which we mostly spend at home, because he doesn’t want to go anywhere .I’m tired of the monotony, of the fact that he’s not interested in anything except work. Sometimes there’s nothing to even talk about, he’s too lazy to even go for a walk. I want something to happen in my life, so that my life would be interesting. And not sit at home on weekends, and at the same time he doesn’t let me go everywhere. I recently met a guy. We liked each other. He knows about the existence of my boyfriend. And he’s waiting for me to break up with him. I feel very comfortable and calm with him. He has a completely different attitude towards me, more reverent. He is 2 years older than me. He was in a serious relationship and lived with a girl. Now he also says that he is looking for a girl for a long time. He is cheerful, restless. With him I feel like a part of his life, and not an addition to it, like with a real guy. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what I feel for my real boyfriend. Is it love or is it a habit that’s holding me back. It’s hard to understand. I’m very tired. I don’t know what I’m feeling. There’s often a desire to run away somewhere so as not to make any decisions. I know that if I want to break up with him, he won’t just let me go. He is psychologically much stronger than me. He is very strong. I am afraid of this moral pressure. He loves me, I know that. But this is the kind of person he is. He behaves this way, lives this way, and he doesn’t care whether I’m comfortable in such conditions. The main thing is that he feels comfortable. We live mainly in his interests. Mutual friends are his friends. And in the near future I don’t count on living together, since he has plans of a material nature that are not related at all to the beginning of a life together. I know that if I tell him everything and offer to separate, he will become more active... but this most likely will not last for long. What to do, help. How to understand what I feel for him.

How do I feel about him and what should I do?

Key Signals of Male Satisfaction

The easiest way to understand a representative of the opposite sex is by his actions that will follow after the first sex. Usually men know exactly whether they want to continue communication or, conversely, want to stop it. That is why it is best to wait a little - in a few days the guy will show by his actions what his intentions are.

He's in no hurry

A satisfied man who enjoys sex does not want to go anywhere. Moreover, he will try to linger, stay overnight and spend as much time with the girl as possible. But if a partner wants to pack up and leave, there may also be reasons for this. For example, if sex happened at the workplace, it is quite logical to quickly leave the “scene of the crime” so as not to be caught. If a young man has a wife, and he only has a love affair with you, then his haste may also have a logical explanation. It is important to assess the situation as a whole.

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When a guy wasn’t going anywhere, was preparing for this evening, was having a romantic date, then his desire to leave quickly may indicate dissatisfaction. You can approach the person, hug him, and offer to continue the romantic evening.

He says everything is fine

If a young man is quite open himself, he most likely will not hide his emotions after sex. He can simply say that everything was fine, give the girl compliments about her beautiful body, face, skills and abilities. Some men can tell you what specifically they liked about sex. At this moment, the girl must listen carefully and remember, because in this way you can find out what her partner loves and wants.

Rarely do men tell a girl that she was bad in bed. A negative result can be considered restrained silence or a situation where the guy immediately turns away to fall asleep, however, such actions often have a logical explanation.

The man asks if you are satisfied

A guy who is satisfied thinks not only about himself, but also about his girlfriend. He will ask if she liked it, what she feels, what she likes about sex. Don’t be shy—it’s better to speak honestly and openly about your wishes. Thanks to this, the young man will understand how to give the girl maximum pleasure.

He talks about the next meetings

If you're thinking about how to tell if your man enjoyed sex, it's important to pay attention to whether he talks about future meetings after lovemaking. When a guy had a good time, he will plan to make love again. If suddenly a young man has various urgent matters, then the girl should think about what she could have done wrong.

He didn't stop there

If a partner strives after the first sexual intercourse to immediately begin the second, it means that he liked everything. Every man during his first sex strives to make the most favorable impression. However, you should not immediately be upset if the young man does not attack you again and again, because he could simply be tired after a hard day. Also, a girl can take the initiative and hint to the guy that she is not against continuing. Based on the response and non-verbal characteristics, you can see what the partner thinks about this idea.

He reminds me of himself

If a young man is satisfied with everything during the first sexual intercourse, he will not allow himself to disappear for a long time. On the contrary, he will call, offer to meet, and consolidate the result. It’s worth listening carefully to what the guy says during calls. For example, if his words include compliments addressed to a girl, then he most likely liked everything. If he speaks dryly and restrainedly, it means he may be busy or does not plan to continue communication.

It is also important to understand that a man may have a heavy workload, so you should not immediately perceive the postponement of the meeting negatively. If the partner disappeared and does not appear again, this means that his intentions were not serious, and the goal may have been only one-time sex without continuing the relationship.

Many girls want to call a man themselves, since young men are often modest. There are two ways to do this first. For example, you can call and say that a young man forgot something at a girl’s house. It’s also a good idea to ask a guy for help - men love to be superheroes, so they will gladly and gladly fulfill a woman’s request. A girl can call for no reason and offer to meet. If the partner refuses, then the sex most likely did not impress him. When he reschedules a meeting, it’s worth observing whether he himself will call after that, whether he will offer to go somewhere.

He gives gifts

Satisfied partners are most often very generous not only with words, but also with gifts. If a man pleases a girl with flowers and invites her to a restaurant, this means that he feels comfortable in bed with her and he likes sex. However, you shouldn’t expect global changes right away. Guys are not ready to give rings and phones after the first night. However, the absence of gifts should not be taken as a negative verdict. Many guys have difficulty giving gifts, so they may not give anything, even if everything went perfectly.

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There are many options for how to understand that your boyfriend liked sex. Even if one point coincides with you, you should not worry right away - you need to assess the situation as a whole. When you know that a person is hidden and reserved, you should not expect fiery speeches from him - this is not in his character. It is much more important to watch what he will do next - whether he will offer to meet and spend time together. However, even if the guy did not appreciate your efforts in bed, do not be discouraged - he was not your man. It is much better to understand this right away so as not to waste your time and energy on it.

To make a loved one like sex, women use different tricks: some attract men with their freedom and experience, others lure them with romance, and there are those who prefer a quiet and cozy atmosphere. Each couple chooses their own strategy, but we can say with confidence: for a man to truly enjoy sex, you need to talk about this topic.

JUMP

I want to share a story that happened last Friday! To say that I was pissed off is an understatement!

I’m returning from work on a minibus, it’s evening, it’s full of people, but not crowded. I found a place, sat down and immediately almost passed out because... tired as a dog. The end of the work week, everything is done. Suddenly waking up, I saw that a grandmother was getting on the bus, and not just any grandmother, but with an order bar. That is, the grandmother is at least 80, that’s for sure. I’m writing about this only to emphasize that in addition to the fact that the man is elderly, he also missed the Great Patriotic War. In general, it is problematic to confuse and discern in her that she is a young woman. What am I really talking about? Seeing my grandmother, I naturally give way. I’m not writing because I’m so good. These are already reflex actions that are not discussed. But then THIS appears!!! Like many in this group I will say, I never thought that I would meet a jam and a foal in reality! In general, having looked up from the chair, which caused me some torment, since I already wrote above, I was extremely tired, I wanted to sleep and eat, but could not stand on my feet for half an hour, I invite my grandmother to sit down. Since the grandmother is old, she moves slowly. While the grandmother was moving to the proposed place, a woman with her offspring, about 7-8 years old, followed the grandmother into the bus and, like a bulldozer, pushing everyone apart with her elbows, including the aforementioned grandmother, she moved towards the free seat. By the way, the woman appeared in the salon before I got up, so she couldn’t not see or hear how I told my grandmother to sit down. I’m describing this for a long time, but everything happened quickly. So, having achieved the goal, THIS sits a well-fed and pink 7-year-old boy in the given place. He did not in any way appeal to a sick person, nor to a disabled person or a pregnant girl. I was, to put it mildly, sick of it, but I tried to call on my sanity and explained this woman’s act by the fact that she didn’t see the granny and didn’t figure out what was what. I tactfully tried to explain the situation. Next dialogue:

I-I

THAT is a stupid sheep

STO - son of a stupid sheep

B-grandmother

Me: Woman, I gave up this place to this grandmother.

TO: She looked at me with indifference and turned away. (in general, zero reaction)

Me: Woman, can you hear me?

TO: I hear you. So, what is next?

Me: Please tell your child to get up.

TO: Is there nothing else I can do?

I'm nothing.

TO: Why the hell should my child stand?

Me: (slowly moving from a state of “restraint” to a state of “right now I’ll kill the creature”) From such that I gave up my place not to your child but to my grandmother and from such that he is a healthy strong kid and can stand and from such horseradish that a boy needs to be be a man and give up your seat to the elderly.

TO: (Switching on to a pig squeal) He will sit there and that’s it, and you get the fuck out of the bus!

Me: (addressing the boy) Please give way to grandma.

STO: nooooo!!!!!!!!

He says no, drawing out the word and not looking up from the phone where he was pointing with his clumsy finger.

TO: (moving towards me like a paver) walked away from my child. Can't you see that he's tired?

I do not see.

TO: When you have a child yourself, then you will raise him, but now fuck off.

Me: Already born 7 months ago.

TO: I feel sorry for him. Maybe at least the slut who gave birth to him will be smarter than you. What am I saying that is incomprehensible? She (pointing to the grandmother) has already lived her life, but we still have to live. Maybe she will do something useful in her life?

B: No need, son, I’ll stand, it’s not difficult for me.

My ball turned red.....

How can this creature say such words to a person who went through the war and gnawed the Great Victory with his teeth??? To the man who walked under death for all of us!!! I'm not even talking about my wife who was called a slut... Typically, none of the passengers decided to engage in this conversation; they simply pretended that it did not concern them or that they did not notice anything. PEOPLE!!!! What's going on with you???? And then I took a full lungful of air and, using all my vocabulary and swear words, explained who she was, where she was from and why she was born!!! The denouement came from where I was not expecting it! To be honest, I myself didn’t know what to do, well, don’t fight with the woman... so the outcome turned out to be simple and effective. The driver slows down and, opening the doors, goes into the salon and approaches this woman! He asks: are you going to give up your seat??

TO: Fuck you, another asshole has been found and where do you even come from?

The driver silently snatches her purse and throws it so far out into the street that he could even get into the Olympic shot throw team))) the woman with a pig squeal “there’s a phone and money in there” rushes for her purse! The baby lizard rushes after her with amazing agility! The driver quickly gets behind the wheel and we set off further, slamming the doors in front of THIS face!

Result:

A seat was freed up for grandma, for which she was tearfully grateful.
Shame on the passengers who made no attempt to intervene.
The driver, who turned out to be of Armenian or Georgian nationality, aroused admiration and, again, shame for us Russians, because... Not everyone needs the concepts of respect, honor and good manners.
The female brute and her offspring got what they deserved, although it is very unlikely that they learned anything and realized that they were wrong.

Sorry for the long text and spelling! To the admin and all the best!!! Anon is not an anon at the discretion of the admin, if, based on your experience, I am bothered by mothers, then strooooo anon!!!

Author: YazeADMIN09.19.2018

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