A psychologist explained how to help a child make friends at school

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So it turns out that any person puzzled by the question of how to make friends or just good acquaintances for sincere human communication must first begin to determine the state of his emotional background and the level of generated vibrations.

If, in the process of communicating with a stranger, I begin to experience involuntary joy and some kind of almost inexplicable fulfillment, it means that everything is in order with my emotions and vibrations, and this makes it possible to continue acquaintance with the prospect of his transition to a more trusting relationship.

And if so, this means that making new acquaintances is not at all scary, but on the contrary, it is even interesting and, moreover, it is simply necessary, if you want, to truly be useful to people near and far.

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Tips for making friends

In order to make friends, you need to spend more time among people. You can try to resume communication with old acquaintances and look for like-minded people. The main thing is maintaining contact. After all, a relationship can be called friendship when people constantly maintain an emotional connection.

As soon as they cease to be interesting to each other, the friendship, like other informal relationships, ends. Creating friendships takes a lot of time, effort, patience, and of course, kindness. You must take into account the needs and feelings of the person you like.

And since any human need is very closely related to his emotional state, the task of developing the ability to determine the emotional background of the people around him comes to the fore.

Near and far circle

Each of us, to one degree or another, possesses this gift: after all, we feel the mood of people close to us at some certain point in time, especially when we are not indifferent to them.

Since this works with people from our inner (or warm) circle, then we can learn this when communicating with people from the outer (or cold) circle. To do this, at a minimum, it is necessary to begin the process of meeting and communicating with these people.

I think it’s no secret to anyone that in most cases we choose our social circle ourselves, using the “like it or not like it” principle. Moreover, to solve different problems, these can be completely different people: for business - one, but for the soul - completely different.

Most often, this process occurs outwardly spontaneously and spontaneously, since we do not focus our attention on it. In fact, any of our surroundings is the result of our internal choice, which is dictated by our emotional state.

There is one interesting psychological riddle in this regard: what will happen to a homeless person who, let’s say, was forcibly taken to a city unfamiliar to him blindfolded and, before being released, given, for example, a thousand rubles?

In this case, the question of how to make friends is resolved almost automatically for such a person: in a few hours, and maybe even minutes, he will find people similar to himself and will definitely enjoy their company.

And this will happen because the emotional background of people in this category is supported by low-frequency vibrations of their environment and, through mutual energy exchange, leads to their attraction on the material level.

It should be noted that this circumstance is true for both negative and positive emotions. Therefore, the search for friends or just life buddies, in principle, comes down to the interaction of energies that prevail in a particular person.

Communities of living beings

This principle of the attraction of like and the struggle of opposites operates in any community of living beings: in order to be useful, this creature needs, at least somehow, to be similar to its representatives and live according to their laws and rules.

If this does not happen, then an unusual representative of a family, clan, tribe is declared a “black sheep” and becomes an outcast, and then inevitably leaves this community, based on his own choice or at the request of his relatives.

Plus, these sets of laws and rules, like their carriers, also have an independent vibrational field with well-defined parameters, which does not allow strangers to approach them and expels those who are undesirable from their midst.

Therefore, in order to know how to make friends and become useful to a specific person or a whole group of people, you need to start emitting those waves and vibrations that will coincide in their indicators with the radiation of this specific person or the group as a whole.

For example, if I suddenly want to become a member of the Sicilian mafia, I must not only perform actions that correspond to it, but also learn to think and relate to the world in the same way as she does, otherwise there is absolutely nothing to count on.

To be honest, this prospect personally does not tempt or inspire me at all, since I much prefer the feeling and experience of high-frequency vibrations, bright feelings and positive emotions.

I think that I will be understood very well by anyone who has at least once, for example, experienced an indescribable feeling of happiness and joy during intimacy with a loved one, which simply cannot be confused with something else.

Needs of soul and body

When we talk about the benefits for the people around us, and most often these are good acquaintances or close friends, we must take into account what specific needs my efforts will be aimed at: will they be the needs of the body or the soul.

Our material world is capable of abundantly solving any problem of the spoiled flesh, which cannot be said about the spiritual needs of people. I think there is no need to list everything that surrounds us every day and actually poisons our lives.

But people’s request for sincere relationships, friendship and mutual understanding very often does not find the proper response and is greater than ever. It is in this area, in my opinion, that people can be most useful to each other.

When I came across the problems of a person I liked and managed to help him resolve them, our relationship inevitably became more trusting and sincere.

The most interesting thing is that the principle “you give me - I give you” originally applied to energy exchange between people, and only later was emasculated and extended to mercantile-material relations.

In any case, when I begin to understand that the solution to almost all of my material problems is the need to increase my own energy potential by improving the quality of my own vibrational field, I begin to take appropriate actions.

Six rules of Gleb Zheglov

I learned about some of them back when the feature film “The Meeting Place Cannot Be Changed” was released on television screens in the then Soviet Union, during which not only the city streets became empty, but also crime decreased.

In one of the episodes, Gleb Zheglov once told Volodya Sharapov about the existence of six rules. True, I later found out that, in fact, these rules were first formulated by Dale Carnegie in his book “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” but this did not change their essence.

Although only three of the six rules were revealed in the film, this was quite enough to start acting in the right direction and personally test their effectiveness and efficiency.

“When you talk to people, smile, because people really like it.” I have tested it personally and many times – it works flawlessly. At first, people I didn’t know shied away from me when I greeted them and smiled as wide as my mouth could.

Then, when we met, they began to be the first to say hello and smile back. When new meetings occurred, opinions were exchanged about the weather or the results of a recent football match. Now these are meetings of old friends who are able to solve each other's needs and problems.

And this became possible thanks to such rules as “When you talk to a person, show sincere interest in him” and “During the conversation, try to talk about him.” When this succeeds, then, in fact, here I completely agree with Zheglov’s opinion, a person is able to open his whole soul to you.

Any person, and I am no exception, is interested in himself and everything connected with him. Therefore, someone who is sincerely interested in my life acquires special significance in my eyes, and my trust in him increases exponentially.

When relationships between people move into the stage of trust, then the issue of closer, even friendly communication and mutual assistance to each other is resolved in the most natural way.

Although, due to various objective and subjective reasons, people have almost completely lost the ability to fully and trustfully communicate with each other, nevertheless, regardless of our affiliation with any country and its political structure, the demand of ordinary people for universal human values and mutual communication is very great.

And thanks to the spiritual nature of man, which is capable of controlling and regulating his carnal needs, a situation has arisen where, through helping complete strangers by meeting their needs and solving their problems, one can successfully resolve issues of one’s material well-being.

As evidence, one very simple but quite effective method can be used, which may well claim to be a universal tool for making acquaintances and finding friends.

The only creature on Earth that is capable of smiling is man. Most often, laughter and smiles accompany people when they experience joyful feelings. Joy is a concentrated expression of the happiness experienced by a person at a given moment in time.

Therefore, if I smiled at a random passer-by today, I actually shared with him some part of my energy of joy that is inside me. When this person, in turn, gives his smile to the next person he meets, a chain is formed.

A person transmits his impulse even further, and a new vibrational flow of high-frequency energy of joy and happiness is formed, which begins to nourish and increase the energy potential of each participant in this peculiar chain.

Moreover, already this increased energy begins to attract new abilities and opportunities, new events and circumstances from the surrounding space for the benefit of each of the participants in this amazing relay race.

Small and weak mental images from subtle energies, through transformations imperceptible to the uninitiated, are gradually transformed and move to the material level, where they ultimately provide all participants in this marathon with all the necessary material and financial resources for a happy and prosperous life.

In approximately this way, our emotional state and desire to be useful to a specific person or society are transformed into objects and events of the material world, designed to bring our material well-being to a higher level.

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