How to accept your feelings
What is the difference between an ordinary article and a fairy tale? A fairy tale in this case is an opportunity for practical work on oneself. Fairytale therapy is a variant of an effective and applicable answer to the question “How?” And this is a huge difference between the stories offered and “ordinary” articles, in which answers are given to the question “What needs to be done?”
An experienced reader has long known that... and he is ready for action, he longs for change, but he does not know how... In this series of articles dedicated to the “People in the Closet” series of books, the seeker is offered tools for practical work on himself. We no longer talk about why we need to change, in what cases it is necessary and what needs to be done. We provide the opportunity for change. When there are very strong feelings inside: hysterics and storms, it is very difficult to consider them as your own. But, as psychologists say, feelings cannot be hidden, they must be accepted. And to do this you need to stop being afraid of yourself. And you need to accept yourself along with your feelings, because you are the owner of these feelings. Therefore, anyone who wants to truly go through the path of change will sooner or later have to take this very difficult, but very important step...
Chapter from the first part of the book series “Men from the Closet” entitled: “Meeting”
She always appeared suddenly. A huge destructive force instantly grew even from a light breeze. And she swept away everything in her path. Nothing could resist her. And Fedka powerlessly watched as bridges collapsed and loved ones cried. The cause of suffering is himself. Or rather, the terrible force that lived inside and controlled the robot. He couldn't do anything about her. In the death grip, the force paralyzed his movements. Neither mind, nor will, nor human essence helped. It was impossible to hide or move even a little away. She absorbed it completely, without a trace. She did not leave the slightest hope of salvation. And all we could do was wait for this hellish song to end and believe that this time everything would work out.
The strength increased over time. Absolutely everything burned in an uncontrollable terrible flame. Love, caution, kindness were broken. The weight of deep darkness covered me. And in this abyss, enormous pain rushed about in hopelessness, in its own powerlessness, looking for at least some hope of salvation. And that's when it became truly creepy. It felt like agony. Not a quick death, but a long death agony. It was as if Fedka was slowly but surely disappearing. And he knew about the inevitability of the approaching end. And that’s why he seemed to be going crazy. No amount of intelligence can understand why a person feels so bad when everything around him is good. They love him, accept him, want to see him, value him. And he is in the dark. He fell in head first and couldn't get out. He doesn’t know, and he already doubts his abilities and full understanding. He tried to escape - the force overtook him. It doesn’t matter where: visiting or alone. There was not a single corner on this earth where he could hide and wait out. When he was silent, she tore apart. And the more he endured, the stronger the inevitable flame flared up.
Fedka came up with ways to get rid of it while the beast was sleeping. Because under targeted fire it was impossible to think at all. Not only the limbs refused to obey, but also the brain. Like a weak-willed doll, the man dangled on the strings that were pulled by this capricious, unpredictable, hellish witch. And he could only watch how his fate was breaking down, how the lives of his loved ones were crumbling. And he himself no longer wanted to live with this inner uncontrollable evil. During periods of invasion, he tried to ask others for help. The family tried their best. They regretted it, talked about love, tried to understand. But the more they approached, the more they provoked the inner beast. There was always something to grab onto. When there was a lull, Fedka visited specialists. He told in detail what happened to him. Showed notes and observations. And he asked for advice and assistance in the fight against the enemy. But the experts just shrugged their shoulders. They were not familiar with his beast. It was as if there had never been such animals in them.
And then it became clear that no one would help. That this is his personal story. He must deal with his feelings one on one. And Fedka began to search. What I didn’t do to get rid of the misfortune! He comprehended the centuries-old wisdom of his ancestors. And awakened forgotten resources. I read scientific works. And I tried and checked. And if it didn’t help, then I looked again. He explored underwater rocks and cracked icebergs. It was as if he was even gaining power. But I couldn’t find a way out. As if mocking him, with each of his discoveries the unknown force changed its appearance. He was trying to get rid of a furious lion, and a boar appeared. Fedka grabbed the gun and was glad that he had killed him. And the tiger was coming. He took the tiger apart and sighed with relief. And it was quiet, good. Everything was relaxing. Joy came. And it seemed that the torment was over. But there was an explosion, and the worst overtook with even greater speed. The closer the hero got, the stronger the influence of the force was felt. It was as if the most formidable beast had been given freedom!
It’s strange to fight an invisible, but such a dangerous, immense enemy. But the most amazing thing is that the enemy seems impossible to defeat. Once, during a period of calm, Fedka turned to the great sages. He knew that the beaten animals would not come back. But there was no peace. And it was as if there was even anticipation. New evil.
– What else should I do? What does it take to defeat a monster? – he asked about something in which there were no words, but only feelings.
“Sit and wait,” said the first sage. – Know silence and you will know the truth.
“Train your will,” said another. – Your will must be stronger than any feelings.
“Stop struggling,” said the third. – Agree with what you have and learn to live with it.
“But just know,” warned the fourth, “as long as you are afraid, the monster will hide, but will overtake you.”
And Fedka understood what he needed. Stop running. It's time to stop fighting the monster. It's time to meet. He began to prepare. And no matter what, he can bear it. He wants to live as he should and forget it. And let go like a bad dream. And never come back again. And Fedka waited. He sat fully armed and prepared for the worst. But nothing happened. And he was tired of waiting so long. And he went looking. There is silence all around. Not a single blade of grass moves. It was as if everything had frozen, frozen, died. As if she was scared and hid. Endless empty expanse. Fedka was seriously angry:
-Where are you, damn feeling? Wasn't it me you wanted to get? So here I am! He came himself! Eat everything, without a trace!
I've been preparing for so long. I learned so much. Learned a lot. And life, it seems, has just begun. But this beast hid and won’t come out. And sits there to ruin everything?
Fedka stood and desperately screamed:
- Yes, come at last! I'm ready to see you! Is it necessary to sneakily catch a defenseless person in order to finish him off so he doesn’t flounder?! But to be honest, to your face, you’re a coward, right!? Where are you, you damned animal? I want to get rid of it! What else do you need from me? He's tired of calling. He sank down onto the grass. And silence rang. And the bright pink sunset lit up. And the time has come to say goodbye to the sun so that a new day can be born.
A man appeared on the horizon. He had his back turned and looked at the setting sun. Fedka ran. I was in such a hurry, I was afraid of losing the image that had arisen. There was something elusive, unconscious, incomprehensible, but very important about him. Fedka peered intensely at this distant, but close to his heart, silhouette and could not remember. And my thoughts were racing in my head, and my heart was jumping out of my chest. “How long have I waited! Don't go! Familiar features became increasingly clearer. The closer the figure became, the better Fedka could see what was familiar and at the same time completely alien. But this did not repel, but on the contrary, attracted even more.
Fedka was out of breath. I tried my best to make it in time. I reached it. He stood next to me. And I waited and felt a boundless sea of gratitude, love and warmth and a willingness to give it all away!
“Just accept it,” he prayed in his soul, “just forgive me!” I really need you! I can't live without you! I don't want to be like before.
And my heart was pounding and jumping madly. The heart was waiting. And the man turned around. He was neither good nor evil. And a little puzzled. Defenseless. Careful. He looked with tired eyes. And everything in him was dear to the heart and to the depths of his soul. A timid smile touched his lips slightly. And Fedka felt his own, real happiness.
After reading, the seeker needs to answer the questions: who did the hero meet here? Who was he afraid of? Who was he looking for? What important step did he take? The reader also sees an example of how one can take this important step in independent work on oneself. But here, as mentioned earlier, we are talking only about the first step. And there are many more to come. Therefore, there is definitely a continuation...
And the whole path of breaking away from addictions (from society, from a loved one) is described in the series of books “People from the Closet. In these articles, the reader is invited to take a short journey into the world of his own experiences. And how you can get rid of all experiences was described earlier in articles about Zen Buddhism.
Continued → How to feel your place in life
Author: Natalya Moskaleva
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I don’t know how to show trust and openness, to show feelings
Good afternoon. I have a very serious problem - trust and openness. The problem is very old, the primary source of everything else - I don’t know how to express and show my feelings, when they appear, the person becomes very dear to me, the hedgehog turns on and I start stabbing very painfully, or I just leave/run away. And I don’t notice that I’m hurting my loved ones. Today it opened, if tomorrow it didn’t communicate with this person, it closed again. This applies to both personal relationships and friendships. Moreover, during communication I will fuss, change the conversation, and shut down in every possible way in this way. That is, I’m ready to work, but it’s all so ingrained in me, a cocoon or something, that when they just try to knock on the door, I overreact. And the most important thing is that I don’t see how I show my dissatisfaction with attempts to force me to open up with my words, appearance, and actions. This is a very serious problem. That’s why I write honestly and openly. And very painful. There may be inappropriate reactions on my part. I can't handle it on my own. As an example: when I just moved to another city and I had to live in rented housing with people I didn’t know, my reaction to their attempts to just get to know me, simple questions, when I needed to open up, they closed me off even more, I was repulsed by rudeness and on a physiological level I actually vomited from trying to open up... In general, I successfully pushed everyone away. I’m ready to give my last, help financially and give advice to a friend, I’m often a vest where you can cry.. But as soon as they want me to be open, show my feelings, I’m cold as a rock, I’ll take revenge for it.. As I understand it, outwardly I dress a white and fluffy mask, albeit with the expression “Don’t come near me,” but inside I’m destroying both myself, my life, and acting destructively towards people who want to help me. It seems to me that I have started a program of self-destruction. And I actively put it into action. It's like there's a time bomb inside me. But what was the root cause of all this, I don’t know. I can only guess that the relationship with my mother, the cold, emotionless childhood, the lack of expression of any feelings. This shaped me. Now I feel like I’m just living life and for 35 years I’ve been living someone else’s life, the life of that child who, from the point of view of self-defense, found a way to survive - hide in a cocoon, withdraw into yourself... I don’t know how to get out. Is it real??? Thank you in advance.
I don’t know how to show my love and trust
Feelings. Sensual thinking. How to learn to be aware of your feelings?
Posted by Ellen Frischbutter on Nov 14, 2011 in Trainings and Seminars. Basic course
Feelings? What does it mean to be sensual? What is sensory thinking, sensory experience? How to become aware of your feelings and the fact that they can penetrate into you from other people. Every person is bombarded with energies every day, listening to the news, communicating with other people,
being bombarded by people who are constantly being energetically fed. These could even be people you know and love, people who are part of your circle of friends, your family.
Developing sensory experience, I realized that the mental is not so important. Education nowadays is very focused on mental activity. Creativity has almost been squeezed out of our schools and universities. But creativity develops imagination, enriches our feelings and generally gives us a lot of pleasant emotions. By creating, a person expresses himself and reveals his inner potential. Human nature needs creativity. When we don't create, the energies slow down, this leads to boredom and dissatisfaction, we become sad and lose interest in life, we stop thinking on our own, acting on our own.
This leads to laziness and apathy, making you easy to manipulate.
What is the way you will learn during the training?
This is sensory experience, these are potentials, this is intuition, this is imagination, this is absorption!
Develop the ability to absorb energetically, instead of passing it all through the mind. You can take a book and absorb its energies. Our era is too mental, but times are changing, the time has come to open our sensory experience, not to learn, but to open it, we already have it inside.
The mind is a wonderful thing, but it is very limited.
There are various tips on how to get out of your mental network, how to become creative, but this is going in circles, because all attempts to overcome the mind with the help of the mind do not work. The external influence must come from somewhere else - and that is the Divine Mind. This is the higher Self. This is I Am.
How to learn to change this, learn to live with feelings, sensory experience? To distinguish our feelings from those of others, which literally flow into us and become or feel like our own?
We do all this in this training.
I would like to share some of the feedback I received from participants in a six-month course that included a topic about feelings—according to a group survey, this topic was the most favorite and the most practically easy to apply and brings quick results.
What you will get at the training:
reveal your intuition
learn to better understand yourself and others
improve relationships with loved ones
get rid of feeding and energy vampirism
sensory experience is a stepping stone to understanding the information that comes in a dream.
Over time, developing the sensory experience that you will receive during the training, you will be able to understand books without reading it, you will easily feel people.
Especially if your work involves communication (psychologists, hairdressers, cosmetologists, massage therapists, managers, salespeople, doctors), have you noticed how your work tires you, people tire you, you return home squeezed like a lemon? This is the inflow and outflow of energies.
This tuning is available in audio format
Feedback from training participants
Sensory experience, continued
I recommend that you participate in this webinar personally, because only practice will help you better understand the world of your feelings.
Duration 2 hours. After the lesson you will receive an audio recording of our training.
Cost 20 euros.
For those who have already participated in my programs there is a 50% discount.
How to get bonuses and discounts for participating in a training or webinar
Registration for online training
Other training topics (basic course) can be found here
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