Some men are faced with a situation where, when putting on a condom, the erection suddenly disappears, often against the background of strong sexual arousal. The problem is indicated as "situational erectile dysfunction", that is, tied to a specific event. In this case – condom-associated. The main reasons why a penis falls off while wearing a condom are incorrect selection of the size and type of product, as well as a psychological barrier.
The effect of condoms on erection
A condom, or condom, is the most popular means of contraception. The modern market is oversaturated with a variety of models from European, American and Asian manufacturers. Not all men are ready to understand their “technical” features, so they purchase products “by eye” - according to the letter designations on the front side of the package. This data is subjective. The main parameters (width, length and thickness) are indicated on the back in small print. Size designations often vary depending on the manufacturer, which makes things even more confusing.
Condom thickness
The thickness of the condom varies from 0.01 to 0.08 cm. The lower limit is super thin, but they have a significant drawback - they are difficult to put on (especially for men without experience) and there is a high chance of damage. Condoms with thick walls are recommended for increased sensitivity of the head. They are the ones that can cause a decrease in erection. Dulling of sensations is also possible due to the features of the relief - various “ribs” and “pimples” .
The problem of weakening erection in a condom often occurs in men who have gone without it for one reason or another for a long time. In the absence of habitual sensations, the nervous system “turns off” the transmission of impulses, and arousal is no longer maintained. For such men there are several options:
- Choose ultra-thin condoms: Tian Xiang, Kimono Micro Thin, Durex Invisible, Okamoto 03 Real Fit, Contex Lights.
- Gradually “accustom” the member to new sensations during independent practice.
- Use other methods of contraception (vaginal pills, gels).
Manufacturers claim that the increased thickness of the condom walls is a measure solely to increase their strength; the sensations change slightly. But in practice, some men still encounter the problem of loss of erection when using such products.
Condom size
For most men, the guideline when choosing a condom is its length. But this parameter is not decisive, since it is variable - the product simply does not need to be unfolded completely. An important criterion affecting convenience is the width of the condom (standard – 52-56 mm). When the vessels of the penis are compressed, the blood leaves its cavernous bodies, and the sensitivity of the receptors of the head decreases.
To select the correct condom width, a man needs to find out the circumference of his own penis . To do this, the organ is brought into an erect state and measured at the thickest point with a centimeter tape (you can also use a regular thread, which is then measured with a ruler). Divide the resulting value by 2. This value will be a guideline when choosing the width of the condom. For accuracy, some measure the thinnest and thickest parts of the penis, then calculate the arithmetic average, which is divided by 2.
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Correspondence between condom width and letter designations:
- S – 40-46 mm;
- M – 50 mm;
- L – more than 50 mm.
Read how much the penis grows during an erection.
The names on the packaging often mislead the buyer. For example, Vizit Overture Large, Okamoto Jumbo or Sico XXL, positioned as large-sized ones, are 54 mm, which is smaller than the classic Durex (56 mm). Contex XXL is already closer to the truth - 57 mm. The German My size has a wide range of sizes – from 47 to 69 mm.
Many manufacturers on their websites provide electronic services for automatic selection of product sizes based on the entered penis parameters (girth, length).
https://www.condomo.ru/podobrat-prezervativy (an example of one site for selecting a condom).
Lubrication
Another characteristic of a condom that directly affects the quality of sexual sensations is the presence of lubricant in it and its properties. This fact is indicated on the packaging by the mark Lubricated.
Lubricants can be neutral, solely to improve gliding. But some condoms contain a lubricant with a prolonged effect, which includes an anesthetic (lidocaine, benzocaine) . These products are intended for men suffering from premature ejaculation or simply wanting to prolong sexual intercourse (read more about ways to prolong sexual intercourse). Approximately 40 seconds after putting on such a condom, the sensitivity of the head becomes dull, which in some cases causes the erection to disappear.
Examples of condoms with prolongators:
- Durex Dual Extase.
- Visit Hi-Tech.
- Contex Long Love.
Condoms are made of natural flesh-colored latex.
In addition to the standard lubricant, Dual Extase contains benzocaine (5%). It is he who prolongs a man’s pleasure and prevents premature orgasm. The average price per package (3 pcs) is 189 rubles, (12 pcs) 650 rubles. Some manufacturers add such a high percentage of anesthetic that the penis literally goes numb even in men who have not previously had any problems with erection.
Rules for using a condom
Condoms are 98% effective when used correctly. This means the following:
- You can only use condoms that have not expired
- To avoid damage, do not open the package with sharp objects or fingernails.
- The condom must be used during the entire period of sexual intercourse
- One condom is used once
- Condoms must be worn correctly. To do this, you need to pull back the foreskin of the penis and place the condom on the head. The penis must be erect. Using your fingertips, you need to squeeze the air out of the condom reservoir and distribute it over the entire length of the penis
- You cannot put on two condoms at once - in most cases, this leads to their rupture
- During sex, you must use a special lubricant. Sometimes women, in addition to a condom, use local contraceptives - pills or suppositories - to ensure their safety. However, the composition of some of these contraceptives may destroy the latex from which the condom is made.
Whether to use a rubber product or not is a question that concerns not only you. You should definitely talk to your partner about how important this method of contraception is for both of you. Unless you discuss these risks, you should always use a condom. To avoid the possibility of infection, you should not have sex with someone who is not interested in safe sex. For many people, sex without a condom is a source of great pleasure. But at the same time, such intimacy can be very risky. Therefore, if you are not ready to face its consequences, using rubber products may be your only choice - especially with casual sexual partners.
Psychological reasons for weakening erection
Poor erection with a condom may be a consequence of psychological stress . The size and type of product do not matter. Such situations are typical mainly for young men who have little experience in sexual relations . Not everyone can quickly and skillfully pull on a condom under the gaze of their partner. Often a girl openly shows impatience, which confuses the man even more. As a result, the penis falls while putting on the condom and does not stand up again.
Some do not accept condoms in principle, citing loss of sensitivity and not even wanting to try versions of products with thin walls. In this situation, the man is either disingenuous, or at the subconscious level there are impressions from an unsuccessful experience. In the latter case, there is a syndrome of anxious anticipation of sexual failure.
If you want, you can solve the problem by training on your own, when no one is watching, evaluating or rushing . Thus, it is possible to try several types of condoms, find out the features of putting them on and check the sensations.
For men for whom a condom causes loss of erection, sex therapists recommend not to get too carried away with foreplay. In some cases, during foreplay, touching becomes automatic, and the subconscious is already feverishly painting a picture of pulling on the contraceptive and subsequent embarrassment. Speeding up the process can help you “skip over” an inconvenient moment. You can even tear the condom packaging in advance.
erectile disfunction
In some men, an erection in a condom disappears due to weak potency. If the penis is unsteady due to insufficient blood supply or venous leakage (blood leaves the corpora cavernosa prematurely), then dressing it in a condom may be the “last straw”. When stimulating the exposed head, the erection is still maintained, but the penis is not standing in the condom.
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First of all, it is necessary to solve the problem of weak erection at the physiological level - undergo an examination and begin treatment of the detected pathologies. If there are no serious diseases, then various stimulant drugs are used (read more about them here).
You can try to literally “catch” an erection using special devices from intimate stores - an erection ring or a noose (a lasso). The product is placed on the erect penis at the base and prevents the outflow of blood through the veins. Important note: the devices should be made of soft materials so as not to damage the condom (it is better not to experiment with ultra-thin ones). But this option for maintaining an erection is not suitable for all men. For some, the penis falls even because the condom is not completely rolled out - the remaining roller presses on the base.
Options for solving the problem
stimulating lubricants as stimulants . In the first case, the help consists of a local irritating effect on the penis, as a result of which the blood vessels dilate and blood flow increases. The erection will be more confident. And if a psychological barrier has become an obstacle to sex with a condom, then the stimulant will divert attention to new sensations. The subconscious will switch to a different behavioral pattern (more about various ointments and gels for stimulating an erection).
Fat (oil)-based topical preparations should not be used in conjunction with latex condoms - there is a high risk of damage to the material. It is also undesirable to use silicone lubricants. The best option is water-based gels. For example:
- "Eroticgel" by Sico;
- "Warming" by Waname;
- "Sensual arousal" from Swiss Navy.
Water-based stimulating lubricants
Budget option: a few minutes before sex, gently rub a little heparin or nitroglycerin ointment to increase blood flow. The product is washed off before foreplay.
How to get a man excited without pills and additional devices.
In combination with lubricants, stimulant dietary supplements . These products may well contribute to maintaining and increasing the erection of the penis in a condom, if not due to their properties, then through the placebo effect. Examples of drugs:
- Drops with aphrodisiacs “Hot Spain Fly”, “Cobeco”;
- Fulibao capsules;
- Chocolate "ChocoLovers".
Many urologists, in response to male complaints of the format “when you put on a condom, the penis falls,” recommend a course of dietary supplements with extracts of eurycoma, tribulus, and sainfoin .
An effective means for maintaining an erection in the condom are PDE-5 inhibitors (Viagra, Cialis), which cause persistent vasodilation. If the cause of the problem lies in psychology, then it is often possible to solve it with a one-time dose of the drug. The subconscious barrier will be overcome, and in the future the condom will not be a hindrance. The use of inhibitors without a doctor's prescription is dangerous due to adverse reactions.
Sex without a condom
Today is a time of experiments, and they have come not only to everyday life, but also to sexual life. Young people are so eager to become adults, to learn as much as possible about sex, and often forget to be careful. The consequences of such reckless actions: pregnancy, illness, abortion. The ideal state of affairs is to prove to young people that it is worth having sex only in marriage, when you are confidently standing on your own two feet and can take care of yourself, your partner, and also your child.
Teenagers are very influenced by others and want to show that they are no worse than their peers. And therefore they believe that the sooner they start having sex, the better. In such a pursuit of the title “to be like everyone else,” they forget about the condom. And instead of a strong relationship that is built on friendship, love and trust, there will be sex at such an early age that it can cancel all this out.
But if you forget about teenage sex and look at adult couples, even they may have problems with protection during sex. Many men, and sometimes women, claim that sex without a condom is much better and more sensitive. But again, no one canceled illness and the possibility of getting pregnant.
How to refuse a condom and make sex safe?
Today there are many methods and methods of protected sex. They need to be selected taking into account the age and condition of the body. The main requirements for contraceptives are protection against pregnancy and minimal harm to the body.
And the leader among such criteria is the condom. But not everyone is delighted with this method and searches for new methods, and sometimes they completely forget about them and rely on chance and luck.
Barrier methods such as caps, diaphragms, suppositories and gels are also popular. But they need to be administered before sexual intercourse and before taking, consult a gynecologist about the correct use.
Hormonal birth control pills are also a popular method of contraception. But their intake should be carefully monitored: you need to drink them every day at the same time. If you take the pill at the wrong time, it can upset the balance in the body and also lead to an unwanted pregnancy. When taking pills, you should not forget about the harm they cause to the liver and kidneys.
Birth control pills are contraindicated for girls and women who suffer from varicose veins, kidney and liver diseases, and poor blood clotting.
Another effective method is interrupted sexual intercourse. Opinions on this method are very divided, because some are confident in its unreliability, while others consider it to be an effective and best method of contraception. Doctors recommend this method for married couples who are not in a big hurry to get pregnant, but even if this happens, they would not mind having a child.
Many people also use the calendar method of birth control. To do this, you need to calculate the cycle and, following it, have sex. During and after menstruation, you do not need to use other methods of contraception, and during your cycle it is better to abstain from sex or use a condom or any other method.
Also, when women are allergic to latex, then an intrauterine device can be used. But you should know that it can also have negative consequences.
Sometimes, of course, there are situations that after a romantic and passionate date you had unprotected sex without a condom, and pregnancy is not yet in your plans, then you need to consult a gynecologist. The doctor will help in this situation by prescribing pills that will help avoid pregnancy.
You should also remember that sex should only be with a partner you trust.
