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Good reasonable test
I don't agree with you! The test does not give a real choice of options.
For example, what does it mean that I am ready to change completely. This is basically impossible! I'm ready to change a lot about myself, but I can't become a different person!
Next question: Your partner forgot about your anniversary. What will be your reaction?
Personally, I will be upset, pout, and I will speak out. I’m wondering which of the proposed options I should choose, can you tell me?
“Maybe sometimes it’s worth letting your partner make decisions too?” Almost all everyday questions (what to buy for dinner) are answered by my wife, and sometimes she turns to me and is almost offended when I answer: at your discretion. If a more serious expense is required, I usually do not mind, but I will decide when it is possible. My wife not only has no complaints, but even says with satisfaction that she doesn’t know where my money is or how much. He always gives me the change from the store, although it would never even occur to me to demand it. And to go somewhere or buy something significant - here the initiative is only mine. This is not my dominance, but the wisdom of my wife, who arranges life in the most expedient way.
Almost serious. Association test. Probably in every home there is a person who is responsible for the atmosphere of the house as a whole. The role is tempting, but not always easy and pleasant. So, who makes the final decisions in your family? Who do the rest of the household focus on? We bring to your attention a quick test that will help determine the leader in your home. Please look at the illustration
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Choose a framed decor that is more attractive to you than the others offered. Read the meaning of your choice
Decor 1
In your home, the leader is the lady. Everything will be exactly as it seems right to her. And at a time that she deems good. And there is no need to argue.
Decor 2
In your home, the leader is the child. His needs are always taken into account and a lot is done for his moral comfort. And it's almost always reasonable. This is caring.
Decor 3
Feelings rule in your home. Emotions. Sometimes romance. Everything depends on the mood. Almost always - at will. It is believed that it is mutual. Maybe it's even love. Let it last longer.
Decor 4
In your home, the leader is a man. Sometimes responsible. Often everything succeeds. Of course, he shows concern. Sometimes strict. It happens that he doubts and grumbles not on the point, but he knows a lot and the last word is his. The test was created specifically for readers of the Gornitsa.ru website. Modification of text and illustrations is prohibited by the license.
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Who is the head in this house?
Take our online test and find out who is the boss in your house - the wife or the husband? You can constantly demand that your husband wash the dishes based on ironclad logical arguments - and risk causing an allergy to the detergent. and on yourself in addition. Or you can coo affectionately: “Oh, I’m so small and weak, and you are so big and strong. “And, having received a proudly affectionate purr in the spirit: “Yes, I am like that!” What can I do for you, little one?” - to ensure that he washes the dishes voluntarily and with song. And what will be more beneficial for the relationship?
Relationships: Is your spouse a boss or a partner? Take this test to find out. In our relationships, we often begin to see our partner as a despot over us. They project idealized images onto those they perceive as authorities or those who control them. These idealized images can make them feel weak and inadequate. They then often create conflict within the family to restore the imbalance they feel. Some feel obligated to gain approval, others feel the need to assert their independence or rebel. All of these reactions are fuel for conflict and prevent mature, effective relationships with the authority figures in our lives. To overcome these unwanted reactions, it can be helpful to take a closer look at what love means to you.
The former owner of Bryansk “Lines” married a 23-year-old girl at the age of 67
The former owner of the Bryansk hypermarkets "Line" Nikolai Greshilov married 23-year-old MGIMO student Elena. The founder of the Grinn corporation turned 67 years old in March.
Pictures and videos of the celebration were published on Instagram. At the wedding, guests and newlyweds were entertained by Valery Meladze.
As Orelgrad reported, Elena grew up in Orel and worked for Greshilov for some time, dealing with financial issues.
A Lebanese designer made her dress; it costs about one and a half million rubles.
We walked at the Shari Vari restaurant. Before that, the floors in the establishment were re-done and the premises were decorated with flowers.
Meladze’s performance, according to specialized websites, costs 5.3 million rubles.
Videos showing wedding fireworks have been published online. “The whole neighborhood was partying at the wedding,” said the author of the photographs.
One of the townspeople complained that he could not get to his house because iron barriers had been erected on the public road:
“And all these two times I had to go around the whole block. For some people there are no laws?
Photo: Bryansk News
Judging by the photographs, the mask regime was not observed at the wedding, although the Oryol governor extended it until the end of September.
Earlier, during the opening of the complex in Orel, Nikolai Greshilov told Bryansk News that he monitors his physical fitness - he runs early in the morning. He is not overweight and is always energetic.
The former owner of the corporation no longer has anything in common with Bryansk. Nikolai Greshilov finally lost the unfinished shopping center in Bryansk on the territory of the old airport. In court, he could not regain his position as CEO of the corporation.
Kursk billionaire Nikolai Greshilov began building a huge shopping center eight years ago. Back in 2011, Bryansk authorities announced that the corporation would build a shopping and entertainment complex with a water park. In 2012, former governor Nikolai Denin stated:
– Another cultural, entertainment and sports center will appear. This will truly be a family entertainment center.
In April 2020, Greshilov told Bryansk News that he would revive the construction of the MegaGrinn complex on the territory of the old Bryansk airport.
However, after the construction of the metal frame, work stopped. Then Greshilov sold his corporation.
In April of this year, Deputy Head of the Bryansk Administration Andrei Abramov said that a major investment project was not moving forward because changes needed to be made to the urban development plan and other documents.
Deputy General Director of the Grinn Corporation Sergei Maltsev said that the leaders of Bryansk are not making changes to the urban development plan, hearings on which were held in 2017.
Regional authorities called for the removal of obstacles. The work was ready to resume, but troubles began with the new owner of the construction site.
It was planned to complete the retail and entertainment complex with an area of more than 200 thousand square meters in three years. This year, the company promised to allocate 1.8 billion rubles to continue construction work, of which 150 million rubles were for adjusting working documentation. In the meantime, everything stopped again at the construction site.
Greshilov was unable to retain his post as general director. The factory court of the city of Orel refused to satisfy his claim. The shareholders removed him by decision of the general meeting.
Who's the boss of the house
The topic “Personality and Power” is discussed with Alexander Asmolov, Doctor of Psychology, Professor, Head of the Department of Personality Psychology at Moscow State University, “Family” correspondent Anatoly Bukin.
— The desire for leadership is not unique to leaders. And in family relationships, people strive to be first.
— Yes, there are authoritarian wives and authoritarian husbands. Even in intimate relationships one can find a desire for sole power. An authoritarian style of behavior is often found in the teaching profession. I once came across a letter, the author wrote: “I have a wonderful wife, I had a good time with her for many years. But I can't do it anymore! The trouble was that his wife was a teacher. "Is it bad?!" - exclaims the author of the letter. The trouble is not in her profession, but in the fact that she is a teacher everywhere.
Let's try to imagine the life of this person. The wife constantly not only leads, but commands: step here, step there. Even in intimate life, she teaches what, when and how to do. And, say, a kiss on the nose - as opposed to a kiss on the cheek or forehead - is regarded by her as a claim to the desire to get out from under her power. And this is unacceptable, perhaps offensive. Of course, such family life is torture. Moreover, please note, for both spouses.
- For a man, at least. If a man is constantly “put in a corner,” he can do such things!
— Yes, in family relationships, too much pressure from a woman on a man can cause him nervous disorders, lead to adultery, and ultimately lead to the collapse of the family. However, authoritarianism in a man’s behavior can also present a woman with a tough choice.
— In many families, disputes arise about who is in charge, who is the boss in the family. Husband and wife shout in unison: “Me!” And everyone believes that he has every reason to say so.
— The choral song about power in the family is one of the saddest songs. When a family begins to share power, it means that something is dysfunctional in it. So she's in crisis. If spouses begin to figure out who is in charge, this affects all their relationships, including the intimate sphere. Obviously in a negative way.
My colleagues conducted research on diseases of people who suffered due to the division of power in the family. Moreover, diseases related to intimate relationships. Here's just one case. The lady consulted a doctor, clinicians, and a psychiatrist, but they did not find any reason for her frigidity. When a psychologist, a brilliant specialist, Vladimir Viktorovich Stolin, worked with her, he discovered something that a physician would never have guessed. The woman told him: “My husband is thirty-six years old, and he still receives a salary of one hundred and twenty rubles (that was a long time ago). He is a simple engineer and cannot even become a candidate of science. What kind of intimate relationship can he expect with me?” This, it turns out, is the answer to women’s illness.
- This, please, is ordinary consumerism: Of course, among men there are weaklings, “rags.” But there is such a characteristic: a good family man. Or does that no longer count?
— I give this example not by chance. He's just very characteristic. It shows that the social status of a man is almost the leading one in determining relationships in the family. The assessment of who you are in the family depends on who you are in the world.
“However, for the most part, men strive to take a worthy position in society. They are generally prone to leadership, much more than women.
“The more complicated the situation in a family is when two individuals striving for leadership collide. This is a catastrophe. I think such a family hardly has a chance for a long life. Unless one of the spouses finds an application for himself in some other area. And here, relationships in the family will depend on how successful the claims to leadership in labor, social or other areas will be. If a man seeks power outside the family, then he can accept the leadership of a woman in family relationships.
- So it doesn’t matter where you are first, the main thing is to be? Then, it means there is already something in a person that makes him a leader - in the family, at work?
- Absolutely. There are a number of prerequisites in a person’s personality that determine what profession he will choose. But these prerequisites do not strictly determine who exactly a person will become, they determine the choice of possible activities that will become interesting to him. Moreover, the nature of the profession determines the entire behavior of a person as a whole.
I'll take the risk of giving an example. If you are 13 or 14 years old and you selflessly watch the film “Shield and Sword” based on the novel by Vadim Kozhevnikov, if you are delighted with the exploits of the hero of the film, then the romanticism and nobility of the intelligence profession may well lead to what psychologists call identification. That is, putting oneself in the place of the hero. And this circumstance may influence the choice of activity.
— Power is always responsibility. And a person who finds himself in power will somehow necessarily transform himself. He changes under the influence of power.
— A very interesting topic, and in fact little researched. A person develops authority when he finds himself in appropriate conditions, and the role of the environment in this regard is extremely significant. Having found himself in new conditions, a person who seemed timid yesterday suddenly transforms so much that we may simply not recognize him. He finds himself, as they say, in his place, because power has revealed new, previously invisible facets in a person’s personality. The 2004 elections are approaching, and if I were asked who could be an alternative to the current president, I would answer: the one who will repeat his life.
Here I must say that there are two forms of power: the power of authority and the authority of power. They coincide - the ideal case is when a leader does not require the attributes of power, when there is no need to live on the doping of a position or rank. For example, if someone called Dmitry Sergeevich Likhachev, he did not need to introduce himself as “Academician Likhachev.”
This topic has one interesting twist. In Russia, it has historically developed that it is customary to blame the first person for everything that happens. Even when the sewer system burst in the house, they write to the president. And such letters are a purely Russian genre. That is, ideas about the extent and levels of responsibility, including the personal responsibility of citizens, in our country are very specific.
— As a rule, men strive for power. Nevertheless, there are now more and more women in management...
— The topic of feminism is a recent topic. Nowadays we are increasingly talking about gender - male and female - behavioral strategies. In other words, in the same situations people behave differently. But not as individuals, namely, as men or as women. But I have not done such research. I’ll just say: historically it has happened that in Russian culture (and in many others) the principles and forms of house building operate. The main principle: “It is more decent for a woman to be in the house than outside it.” This is me quoting the original source - “Domostroy”.
In my opinion, women’s “movement” into power is one of the forms of their desire to destroy the stereotype of such an attitude. And therefore, it must be that today a woman in power is ten times more authoritarian than a man (including in the family). She compensates for her natural feminine behavior by being super-tough, super-powerful, super-power-hungry. I'm not saying whether this is good or bad:
— For the subordinates it’s hardly good:
- No, now, as a psychologist, I don’t discuss this. I'm just saying: poor women, if they find themselves only when they find themselves in power. But this is a question for psychoanalysis.
