You will live the moment here and now
Here we can draw an analogy with a concert. It’s one thing when you have the opportunity to film a performance of your favorite band so you can watch it later. But it’s much cooler to sing along with the performers with the crowd, dance to your favorite tracks and enjoy the moment. It’s the same in relationships. According to Manley, you and your partner could spend the time spent on social networks much more productively: discussing plans, talking about interests, doing what you love - such time will significantly strengthen the emotional connection.
8 films about love on the Internet
Everything you need to know about virtual dating:
Letter for you
You've Got Mail, 1998
- Letter for you
Joe and Kathleen are sworn enemies in real life—competitors in the book business. She has a modest, cozy children's literature store, he has a huge hypermarket. But on the Internet they have an affair, they are real soul mates.
Labyrinths of love
2015
- Labyrinths of love
Several stories about how love comes unexpectedly. Among other plots, there is this: two absentee lovers were going on their first date, while both he and she lied like crazy about their lives. They compose on the fly. They were very eager to go on their date and at the same time prevented each other from getting there.
How I made friends on a social network
Catfish, 2010
- How I made friends on a social network
Nev became friends with a whole family on Facebook: a prodigy girl, her parents and her older sister Megan, who writes wonderful songs. They talked a lot, and gradually the hero fell in love with Megan. At one point, Nev realized that the girl was passing off other people’s songs as her own, and the building in which her younger sister’s gallery was supposedly located had been empty for four years. Then he took two friends with him and went to find out the truth.
Birthday girl
Birthday Girl, 2001
- Birthday girl
A British man, desperate for loneliness, used a dating site to order a bride from Russia. The girl turned out to be very strange: she didn’t understand a word of English, she smoked like a locomotive, and she didn’t behave particularly dignified. But she was such a beauty that the hero instantly fell in love with her. However, Nadya has a rich past, and one day this past came to visit in the form of two men with a gangster appearance.
Romance by correspondence
Christmas in Boston, 2005
ABC Family
Gina and Seth have known each other for 13 years, but only through letters. They never met, never spoke on the phone, and instead of their photos they sent photos of their best friends. And now the time has come to meet and reveal the deception.
Love for dogs is a must
Must Love Dogs, 2005
- Love for dogs is a must
A light romantic comedy that raises the most serious question - is it really possible to find true love online. The sister of divorced and unhappy Sarah started a page for her on a dating site with the postscript “Love of dogs is a must.” And for the free, independent woman, a series of qualifying dates began.
Perfect Stranger
Perfect Stranger, 2007
- Perfect Stranger
An ambitious journalist took up the investigation of the mysterious death of a friend, in which she suspected the owner of a large advertising agency. To get closer to him, she got a job as a secretary at his agency and also anonymously flirted with him on the Internet.
Loneliness on the Internet
[email protected] w sieci, 2006
Close-Up Productions Ltd.
Ewa Zhilat is in Poland, Jakub is in Germany.
They met by chance through the Internet, talked a lot, and really liked each other. Once in the life of any Internet lovers, the day comes when they want to meet in real life. But can their relationship survive this meeting? July 1, 2020
Feel the sincerity of the relationship
By living the moment, instead of coming up with another abstruse status for a post, you will understand that in this case you really feel affection for each other. At the same time, by going on a picnic specifically for the sake of good photos, you seem to shift your energy not to enjoying the company, but to documenting the “fun” on social networks.
- says Manley.
No one forbids taking photos for the sake of good images, but remember to spend time away from your phones. It is unlikely that you will regret that you did not post a picture of breakfast for two on Instagram, but you will very much regret the kind words that were not said on time.
Causes of relationship failure
Victims name 5 main reasons why social networks damaged their relationships.
Reason 1. Incorrect status
It happens that your partner is a very “forgetful” person. Instead of the status “married” or “in a couple”, he leaves the option “single” and “in search”, does not publish photos of you together or does not clear his page of photos of exes and their equally disturbing hearts and comments. Well, is it really necessary to disagree with such a forgetful person over such a trifle? Some people think so. For example, in the same States, a case was described of a South Dakota resident divorcing his wife because there was not a single photo of them together on her social media page. But she added gym friends with enviable frequency. The husband felt so devalued by this behavior that he filed for divorce. At the same time, the couple raised four children.
Most likely, the break is too radical a measure . But the presence of such “little things” is still a signal that the couple has problems and it is better not to hush them up. Russian psychologist Masha Moshkovskaya writes that if your chosen one or chosen one does not publish joint photos on social networks and does not openly announce that they are in a relationship with you, then you should still be wary. Yes, some people carefully protect their personal lives even on the Internet, but when the relationship is transparent and understandable, as a rule, the person somehow reflects this on his personal page.
Before you get ready to run for a rolling pin and start a showdown with your other half, take into account the fact whether your partner even maintains a page on social networks or looks at it once a year.
Reason 2. Flirting
Social networks spoil us with the accessibility of communication and flirting. If earlier, in order to chat, it was necessary to make an effort: to leave the house or at least call, now with one click we have a choice of many interlocutors, while easily “trying on” different appearance, social status, education, geographical location and etc. Moreover, online we often demonstrate only our positive qualities, and all the shortcomings remain “behind the scenes”, unlike live communication. It’s no wonder that jokes on the verge of a foul, which previously could be heard somewhere whispered in one’s ear and on the sidelines, have moved to the network space. Playful comments and a lot of likes for photos of beautiful women are unlikely to please your chosen one. Thus, a resident of Alaska filed for divorce when she read her husband’s comments on photos of her former classmates.
Reason 3. Correspondence
Social networks have created more work for jealous people. Previously what? All I had to do was check my pockets, see if there were any traces of lipstick on my shirt, if the house smelled of someone else's perfume. Now the scale is different. If a spouse manages to read correspondence from the messenger, the consequences of the scandal can be catastrophic. Can correspondence on “hot topics” in private messages be considered cheating? Everyone has their own answer to this question. But the suffering that people experience when they learn about their significant other’s addiction is very real. Even though the statistics are American, there are living people behind every number. In Florida last year, more than a hundred marriages failed because of this. We do not have serious research on this topic yet. It's a pity. It looks like the problem is becoming international.
Reason 4. Well-wishers
There are a great many of them on social networks. And even if your partner behaves calmly and does not monitor the number of your friends or comments, there will always be those who can notify you about this. Even if the information is not confirmed, tension will arise in your relationship. And this is a good means of manipulation, which can be beneficial to those who are not satisfied with your union.
Reason 5. Trap in the “possible friends” section
Social networks are interested in more and more participants and clicks. As a result, information about a person becomes as accessible as possible (photos, groups, friends, hobbies, comments). And even if you want to create a page under someone else’s name, you may still be linked to your old email account or your contacts. And the “possible friends” section will make sure that as many people as possible, from whom you would like to hide, see you. For example, your partner.
You will begin to experience less stress and pressure from outside
Focusing on social networks, we involuntarily think about how well we reflect our rich inner world and whether we keep up with trends. In fact, hiding behind ideal images and ideas about relationships, we try to live up to them one hundred percent and thereby jeopardize our mental health.
Many users of social networks no longer use them to save memories - they want to keep up with others. By not obsessing over what your relationship looks like, you reduce the level of pressure that is created by artificially keeping up face.
says relationship expert Jonathan Bennett. Read on topic:What to do if remote work affects relationships
Everyone won't know about your relationship.
Many people care about keeping their personal lives private—like Richard Madden—and that's okay. You will add a few points to your karma and show that your partner is a priority for you if, before posting on a social network, you check with your partner whether he wants to advertise what is happening to him now. By the way, this measure will also help against possible negative comments about your couple.
