Elena Proklova divorced Trisha for a reason
Elena Proklova with her husband Andrei Trishin. In the center is their daughter Polina
The divorce of the popular actress and TV presenter Elena Proklova from her husband, businessman Andrei Trishin, became the subject of heated discussion on the Internet. We lived together for 30 years. There is a 21-year-old daughter, Polina. From the outside, Proklova’s family life seemed idyllic. Together they raise carp in a pond, and together they hunt for game. Nothing brings people closer together than common interests. And suddenly a divorce, like a bolt from the blue...
Proklova divorced in the spring, but for the time being she was silent about it. And only recently I decided to make a public explanation. The actress gives interviews to glossy magazines and television channels. Judging by her mood and appearance, she is quite happy in her new status as a single woman.
– Who said that divorce is a misfortune?! – Proklova asked TV presenter Boris Korchevnikov in the “Live Broadcast” program. – Divorce is a litmus test. Either people get divorced permanently, or this is an opportunity for them to realize that they are losing something important to themselves. By the way, both options are acceptable to me.
From the outside, the family life of a popular actress and TV presenter seemed idyllic
Photo: Larisa KUDRYAVTSEVA/EG
– What was the last straw in your relationship?
– My husband’s stupid phrase, they say, I stopped taking care of myself and am behaving like a homeless person. Is it me who gets up at 6 am and has stopped taking care of myself and my home? When my household wakes up, I have already washed everything, cooked dinner, picked berries and greet them with a cup of coffee. To say such words to me means to deliberately hurt me. I can't be hurt...
Elena Proklova admitted that all these years she hated hunting. Her country house is decorated with trophies and stuffed animals of a killed lion, hyena, zebra and even an African elephant.
– On the hunt, I admired not the killing of animals. I admired my husband, who was happy at that moment. As in the Bible: let the wife cleave to her husband... He showed his masculine character, this is how he realized himself. Hunting and catching game is a real man's business. It was probably difficult for him with me; I am a self-sufficient woman.
People often ask me how you live among stuffed dead animals? And I don’t live among stuffed animals, this is Andrei’s territory. I live in my house, in my garden.
Boris Korchevnikov asked Proklova what property, besides a stuffed elephant, they would have to share with their ex-husband?
The couple lived together for 30 years
Photo: YouTube
– We have a marriage contract that was drawn up a long time ago, when the husband had a mad infatuation with another woman. He didn’t leave the family then, but for me this incident was a wake-up call. Then I said: “Okay, we continue to live, but I must be sure that our child will be provided for in the event of a divorce.” This contract has no meaning even in today's situation. We still live in the same house, although according to the contract, I have a large house and he has two small ones. Recently Andrey wanted to buy some kind of all-terrain tractor. And he didn't have enough money. I added half the amount to him, I don’t feel sorry.
Ideally, family life is an opportunity to give happiness to your loved one. When I got married, I wanted a beloved, dear, and most importantly, happy man next to me.
Every day when I wake up, I say: “Lord, I thank you that I have today, that I am going to live it, giving happiness to others and remaining happy myself.”
Elena Proklova: “We thought about divorce from the first day we decided to live together”
But when, instead of happiness, you see that your loved one is suffering, that his eyes are dull, and you hear unpleasant remarks addressed to you from him, you need to stop burdening each other. We tried to build our life together for a long time. But, alas, each of us has been living our own lives for a long time. And to hear that I ruined his life is like a knife in my heart. Although, by and large, words are unimportant, you never know who has said anything to anyone in 30 years. But if everything is gone, why cut off each other’s opportunity to become happy.
– When did you think about divorce?
– From the first day Andrey and I decided to live together. There is nothing strange about this. I am a leader by nature, and he is also a leader. I am a self-sufficient person, and so is he. At the same time, we are very different...Andrei Vladimirovich does not eat what I eat (Proklova preaches a healthy lifestyle, she has told many times what delicious salads she prepares from nettles and other weeds - Ed.). I'm constantly on a diet. Andrey does not read the books that I read. And vice versa. He watches his films, I watch mine. He goes to bed at two in the morning, I go to bed at 9 in the evening. I wake up with the birds, he can sleep until eleven. I love the sea very much, he hates it. Instead of going to listen to the sound of the surf, he will stay at the hotel and read hunting magazines. And according to the sentence, I go hunting with him to Africa. He cannot live without hunting. In such a situation, the husband and wife inevitably begin to live their own lives. And it’s not clear why prolong our life together? Why keep each other on a leash? There is nothing worse than meeting old age with a stranger. That's what my wise mother said. Loneliness together is the worst loneliness.
With the family's best friend Alexander ABDULOV
– What about family dinners?
– No dinners united us. Everyone ate their own cuisine. I eat grass, drink herbal teas and diet all the time. Andrey has a different diet. We didn't have any dinners together. My husband was angry that I was always tending to my garden. But this is my hobby.. I always dressed only with my own money and also bought clothes for him. Everyone had their own bedroom. But there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes I come back so tired that I don’t want to see or hear anyone. All she can do is lie down on the sofa and meditate.
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Once upon a time, the young beauty Elena Proklova dreamed that in the future she would be able to live on Mars, where she would meet her only love in her life - the captain of a spaceship, give birth to children from him, and become an exemplary wife...
None of the plans came true, but Proklova does not at all regret her failed life on Mars. “It was good for me and on Earth,” she says. She also no longer dreams of being a ship captain; there have been many wonderful “captains” in her life, each of whom left their own indelible mark.
“I allowed myself a lot, but I never regretted anything,” admits Proklova.
First husband, Vitaly Melik-Karamov, is a documentary director.
Vitaly Melik-Karamov. Photo: RIA Novosti/Valery Levitin
Vitaly was a friend of Proklova's brother. According to the actress herself, all her brother’s friends were crazy about her. From this list of suitors, she, a 17-year-old theater student, chose her husband. I thought it was time to end my turbulent young life and arrange a quiet family haven for myself. A year later, daughter Arina , and four years later Elena divorced. A safe haven did not come out of her marriage. She realized that her heart belonged to the acting profession, and her husband insisted that Lena quit her job, sit at home and take care of everyday life.
Second husband, Alexander Savelov-Deryabin, academician.
Alexander Savelov-Deryabin. Frame youtube.com
About her second husband, Proklova said after the divorce: “Two bears do not live in the same den.” Indeed, this marriage was not easy. According to Alexander , Elena was jealous of him, and he constantly suspected her of cheating, because on the streets, men just seeing Proklova were already shouting: “I want Larisa Ivanovna!”
Then a misfortune happened - due to stress, Elena lost her twins. For a short time the husband and wife became closer. But Alexander lost his temper, started drinking, and Lena threw herself into work. One of the jobs, filming the film “Be My Husband!”, radically changed everything in their lives.
Andrei Mironov, actor.
The film “Be My Husband” was filmed in Sochi. Sun, sea, radiant partner Elena Proklova. Andrei Mironov fell in love. He was generally a very enthusiastic person. He started courting me, and it seemed like a romance began. But then his legal wife Larisa Golubkina and immediately suspected something. She was so friendly and kind that Mironov became embarrassed and hid for a while, which made Proklova laugh a lot.
Alexander Adamovich, artist.
The passions of Elena Proklova with Andrei Mironov flared up and then died out. But then another guest came to the set - Alexander Adamovich . The fact is that his son Philip played the child of the main character. Adamovich decided to visit the boy. They say it was love at first sight. Proklova immediately gave Mironov a turn away from the gate. Andrei, however, tried to change something, but she was adamant. She already loved someone else. “What’s wrong? I was free, I had the right to choose,” says Elena.
Adamovich left the family for the sake of Proklova, leaving two children. But two years later, when the actress’s love for him began to cool, he asked to return to his wife.
Oleg Yankovsky, actor.
Until recently, no one knew about this novel. Elena Proklova's confessions in one of the television programs became a revelation. It turns out that love broke out in Leningrad, on the set of the film “Sentimental Romance.” She swam towards him, he came up and said: “You are so beautiful! You are my destiny! Elena was flattered by this, but she made an arrogant face, said, “I don’t think so,” and moved on.
Yankovsky is not used to refusals. He agreed with the administrators that he would travel from filming to Moscow in the same compartment with Proklova. This overnight move was the beginning of a long and complex relationship. Flowers, gifts, trips, unplanned pregnancy... She even remembered the day on which she had to give up this child - September 2, her birthday. Elena says that Oleg stood under her window and begged her not to do this. But Elena decided that she would not destroy his family. Since then, they have tried not to interfere with each other. We met only many years later at a farewell to Alexander Abdulov.
Third husband, businessman Andrei Trishin.
Andrey Trishin. Shot from Channel One
This was the actress's longest relationship. And, by the way, Andrei was also her brother’s friend. They got married very quickly and their daughter Polina . The family built a large house, but only then, at the age of 40, did Proklova realize that life in the family’s safe haven was just beginning. She devoted herself to her husband and children and planted a luxurious garden. For 7 years she refused all offers from theater and cinema. But one day, in the heat of a quarrel, my husband shouted: “You are no longer an actress! They forgot you a long time ago!” Proklova thought. A few days later she already agreed with director Dmitry Astrakhan about filming in the film “Yellow Dwarf”.
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Proklova filed for divorce from Andrei Trishin after 30 years of marriage. They said that the husband had found a young mistress. Elena herself claims that she knew about her husband’s infidelities and this was not the main reason. They are just tired of each other, too many complaints have accumulated. Once the couple were quarreling, and Andrei, no longer knowing what argument to make, simply shouted: “How long can you collect bottles like a homeless person? It’s impossible to live with you!” The actress actually collects bottles of bizarre shapes, which she then paints herself. Elena calmly looked at her husband and said: “Let's get a divorce.” The next day she filed for divorce. True, the former spouses remained living in the same house. Periodically, Andrei tells Elena that he still loves her. But she is not yet ready for a new relationship, even with her ex-husband.
Elena Proklova after reconciliation with her husband: “Betrayal is not a reason for divorce”
In their marriage, the couple had a daughter, Polina. Photo: Larisa KUDRYAVTSEVA
The news of Elena Proklova’s divorce came as a surprise not only to fans of the actress, but also to her close friends. Elena and her third husband, businessman Andrei Trishin, were married for 30 years and raised a daughter, Polina. The actress herself called the reason for the divorce the indifference of her husband, who stopped paying attention to her. Today we learned that Proklova, four months after the official divorce, reconciled with her husband.
“After the divorce, our relationship became better,” Elena Proklova admitted to Komsomolskaya Pravda. — There are difficulties. But we realized that we value family and stopped demanding anything from each other. This is better than living in dissatisfaction: neither he nor I simply wanted to go through the formalities. And when we had freedom, we began to appreciate more what we have between us.
— Has your spouse become more attentive to you than when you were officially married?
- Certainly! He was against the divorce, but did nothing to make me decide to cancel it. But after the divorce, I realized that I had lost something.
-Are you still loving people?
- Yes. From my side anyway. I think with him too.
Capable of forgiveness ad infinitum
— They say that Natalya Krachkovskaya saved your family?
“Natalia treated my problem humanely and was very supportive. Now Andrey, it seems to me, understands me. We are both still young people, and we have a lot of interests, strengths and inspirations. The main thing is that we continue to value and respect each other. I am a person who is able to understand and forgive ad infinitum. But you have to endure to a certain limit.
- They say your husband cheated on you, have you forgiven him?
- And this can also be forgiven. A person has the right to make a mistake, but if he realized it and drew conclusions for himself, then betrayal is not a reason to ruin each other’s lives.
Different kitchens and bedrooms
— Who cooks in your family now? Are you for your husband or is he for you?
— Andrey and I live in the same house, which we built together. But we exist in different power systems. He is a meat eater and loves everything store-bought, ready-made, and from restaurants. I'm practically a raw foodist. This is incompatible. That’s why we each have our own kitchen in the house and everyone eats in their own way. Sometimes it matches.
— Do you have separate bedrooms?
“We’ve always had separate bedrooms because I go to bed early and get up at seven in the morning.” And he goes to bed and gets up late. We don’t interfere with each other in this mode.
— What is in your work now?
— I mostly play in the theater. I was on vacation in Sochi, this is exactly the vacation I dreamed of: to have it in our country, definitely at the sea.
Andrei Trishin failed to instill in his star wife a love of hunting. Photo: PhotoXpress.ru
— Your husband didn’t go with you?
- He was busy. And he doesn't like the sea. I went on vacation with our daughter.
— Will you go hunting with your husband?
(Elena’s husband is a passionate hunter, but she admitted that she doesn’t love her. - Ed.)
?
- I haven’t decided yet. Wait and see.
BY THE WAY
Three tips to help overcome a crisis in marriage
We asked Elena to give advice to women who, like her, are experiencing difficulties in family life.
1. Maintain self-esteem
“First of all, you need to maintain your sense of dignity and remain who you really are,” says Elena Proklova. — You can adapt to another person only to a certain extent, as long as it does not violate your fundamental life principles. The worst thing is to destroy yourself, your personality.
2. Enjoy every day
“The goal in life is one - to be happy, to see beauty, to enjoy every day,” the actress is sure. - If the feeling of joy has left your life, then you need to do something about it. And then divorce is not such a bad decision.
3. Know how to let go
“You don’t have to save your marriage at any cost,” says Elena. - Not just anyone! We must achieve happiness at any cost. And if people live together and ruin each other’s lives, it is stupid to keep a person by force in the family. If you sob into your pillow and complain to your girlfriends how bad you feel if he walks away from you, why prolong such a life? Just for the sake of having a stamp in your passport? I think this price is too expensive.
DIRECT SPEECH
Natalya Krachkovskaya:
I explained to Elena how terrible loneliness is
“I was categorically against Lena’s divorce and told her about it,” Natalya Krachkovskaya told KP. — Difficulties happen in every family. I told her that she had to endure everything, step through it all. If there is a real human relationship, divorce is nonsense! My friend divorced two years after the wedding. But she and her ex-husband remained friends all their lives, and in old age they still ended up together. It happens.
At this age we need to take care of each other. So as not to be left alone later. I told Lena about my loneliness. There is nothing worse than loneliness, especially in adulthood. There may be a sea of friends, there may be children. And all the same, when there is no person next to you with whom you can just sit silently next to and your soul will be calm, this is a disaster.
I've known Lena for a long time. You can't throw women like that away! The husband needs to take care of her. Living with such a woman all your life is happiness. Everyone has their own kicks, Lenka too. But it seems to me that Lena and Andrey will be together.
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Elena Proklova was born on September 2, 1953 in Moscow. In her youth she played Gerda in the fairy tale “The Snow Queen”.
In 1973 she graduated from the Moscow Art Theater School (course of V.P. Markov), worked as an actress at the Moscow Art Theater (until 1991).
She starred in the films “Shine, Shine, My Star” together with the young Oleg Tabakov, and in the film “Be My Husband” her partner was Andrei Mironov.
In “Mimino” she played Larisa Ivanovna.
From May 2006 to August 2010, together with Gennady Malakhov, she hosted the program “Malakhov+” on Channel One.
She was married three times. The first husband is Vitaly Melik-Karamov, a documentary director. The marriage lasted from 1971 to 1975, and a daughter, Arina, was born (she is now 45 years old). Second husband - Alexander Deryabin, doctor. In 1994, in marriage with her third husband, Andrei Trishin, a daughter, Polina, was born.
