Myths about homosexuality: a gay man sees a girl as a person, not a sexual object
Myths about homosexuality: when we hear the word “myth,” we involuntarily imagine extraordinary (mythical) creatures. We remember Ancient Greece, amazing journeys, heroes and their exploits...
Myths are something that we cannot double-check: if there were any witnesses, they died long ago. But there are others - myths about people who live among us.
These people are not stars, they do not deliberately spread tall tales about themselves; on the contrary, they try in every possible way to convey truthful information about their lives, and do everything to be heard. These are people from social groups that are often called minorities.
It would seem that in the modern world of communications one can get to the truth quickly, and a myth can easily be turned into truth. In fact, the myths about the lives of homosexuals are so persistent that it seems as if they live not side by side with the majority, but in a separate parallel universe .
So.
Not all gays are equally “concerned”
Nobody claims that heterosexuals are exclusively monogamous. The difference here is that gays usually find it easier to find quick sex: two adult men will not waste time on flower rituals. In any case, these are generalizations due to ignorance of the issue.
All people are different and it is stupid to judge the qualities of millions of people with whom you have never crossed paths by the behavior of your acquaintances. Everyone has their own need for sex: some need it every day, while others are satisfied with orgasm once a month. Some remain faithful to one partner, while others are satisfied with open relationships. The main thing is not to declare your personal norm a rule for everyone.
Sexual orientation is a given, not a consequence of propaganda
When I hear “don’t stick it out,” I boil. I have never been annoyed by heterosexual colleagues' stories about their family life. I am not embarrassed by photographs of other people's heterosexual husbands and wives in their offices. I don't faint when I see a guy and a girl kissing on the street. What's wrong with homophobes? Why do they immediately imagine themselves as one of the partners when they see homosexual couples?
By the way, free advice to homophobes: if you don’t want everyone around to guess that you watch gay porn at night, stop demonstrating your passion for same-sex relationships. And don’t drag children into your secret games; children don’t care at all why two men or two women are walking down the street holding hands.
By the way, homophobes are convinced that their children will certainly never grow up to be homosexuals. It’s a pity for the children, if they do grow up, they will hide the truth from their parents all their lives. I know five people who left Russia for the United States, received asylum, but were never able to open up to their loved ones. It seems that no one has yet been able to convincingly prove why some people are heterosexual and others are homosexual.
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Myths about homosexuality: gay radar, hatred of women and other nonsense
By the way, some believe that sexual orientation is a person’s choice. I will say this, if I could choose, then at the age of 20 I would choose a heterosexual life - there would be fewer problems. It is difficult to imagine anyone choosing homosexuality of their own free will in countries where consensual relationships between two adult men are punishable by death.
I don’t understand why you would choose a minority orientation and then spend your entire life fearing threats from heterosexuals. It seems to me that only bisexuals have a choice. A peculiar choice. And one more thing: when I was a teenager, not only was there no Internet, we didn’t even hear the word “gay.” How homosexuals could grow up in a society thoroughly propagated by “heterosexual values” is a mystery.
I would like to separately note that no one seduced me or handed me any “subversive” literature, it simply did not exist. Maybe Schwarzenegger's naked torso in the film "Conan the Barbarian" or Van Damme's splits in "No Retreat, No Surrender" is to blame? For a second I thought about Volochkova’s mission...
Homosexuality is not a disease, but a variant of the norm
For example, Milonov believes that homosexuals need to be treated, namely, “healed spiritually.” The persistent myth that homosexuality is a disease arose thanks to Christianity.
By the way, it is believers who more often than others consider themselves doctors. Meanwhile, the World Health Organization (WHO) removed homosexuality from the list of diseases almost thirty years ago . However, some Russian psychiatrists have their own opinion on this issue and still do not hesitate to use the word “sin” in scientific works.
One way or another, a gay cannot be converted into a heterosexual; medicine does not know of proven cases of “healing”. Moreover, an attempt to correct a person’s sexual nature often leads to the patient’s suicide. That is why so-called conversion therapy is prohibited in some US states.
Homosexuality is not contrary to nature
How to convince your opponent that you are right if your own arguments are not enough? Some take not only God, but also nature as their allies. Just imagine how a specific individual approaches Nature and asks... And she says to him: “A hundred pounds, I didn’t create gays.” After such arguments, you want to catch the arguer, tie him to a chair and force him to watch a short video in which one lion has sex with another lion. And it would be nice if the lioness wasn’t nearby, but she is, but somehow something didn’t work out. The video will soon have 2.5 million views. I can imagine how ashamed the lions are, the atheists went against nature. Interested in the video? Search my Facebook page.
“You just didn’t have a normal man/woman”
This myth is in the same piggy bank about the choice of orientation! Its varieties: – unhappy heterosexual love, as a result – the desire to be consoled in the arms of a representative of the same sex; - no one gave it - I had to give it up.
The fisherman does not see the fisherman from afar
There is an opinion that homosexuals easily recognize each other. There is even the term “gaydar” - the ability of a gay person to accurately determine the homosexuality of other people by external signs and internal sensations.
In fact, Heydar (not to be confused with Aliyev) is unstable. Indeed, the sexual orientation of some people is easy to establish, but even in these cases, a percentage should be left for possible error. Recognition is based mainly on stereotypical ideas about what gays and lesbians look like. But not every catchy Boris Moiseev is gay and not every typical Schwarzenegger is heterosexual.
By the way, the distribution of sexual roles (active partner or passive) based on external signs is even more nonsense. I had one bodyguard in Moscow - a real destroyer of stereotypes.
Gay men used to wear leather jackets and leather pants. Now this uniform is chosen by the Night Wolves. Gays used to wear an earring in their left ear. Now a straight guy can have tunnels the size of his anus in both ears. By the way, who said that there are no gays among the Night Wolves?
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Gays don't like women . Of course, because gays love men.
Gays DO NOT dislike women
There are those who don't like it, yes. Likewise, among heterosexual men there are many moral monsters. An ordinary homosexual pays attention to gender exclusively when looking for a sexual partner. Moreover, as you know, girls' best friends are not diamonds, but gays. Why? A gay man sees a girl as a person, not a sexual object .
The gay mafia and its members do not exist
Belief in the gay mafia is part of the myth of a worldwide conspiracy. Some people are convinced that the global gay lobby not only exists, but also actively promotes its ideas.
I don’t know what about the world, but local clans probably exist. Representatives of a discriminated minority are forced to support each other, creating a safe and comfortable environment for themselves. If a gay boss, all other things being equal, hires a lesbian girl to work in his company, will it be a mafia conspiracy?
One way or another, if a worldwide gay mafia exists, then I would like to join its ranks. - Dear Mr. Mafia, take me to your organization, I am a true gay! I’m ready to prove it - I’ll come to an interview with my boyfriend.
Gays breed
Some people think that if a man is married, then he is heterosexual. Some people are convinced that if a man has a child, then he is not gay. Some people simply do not realize the lengths to which some homosexuals go to disguise their sexual nature. The older a gay man is, the more likely he is to have been married.
In Russia, Boris Yeltsin abolished criminal prosecution for same-sex relationships. The article was abolished, but the fear remained - the attitude towards gays in society did not improve. In the US Supreme Court in 2003. In a seemingly progressive country, attitudes towards homosexuals are still a subject of political bargaining. While presidents decide whether it is more profitable for them to make enemies or allies out of LGBT people, minorities are balancing between love and fear.
According to the results of a large-scale study conducted in 2007, in the United States, 35% of lesbians and 16% of gays had at least one child.
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Gays are not obsessed with anal sex
It is enough to open the Wikipedia page of the same name to be convinced (there are links to studies): 25% of homosexual couples do not practice anal sex and, on the contrary, about 40% of heterosexual women have similar sexual experience. In principle, who cares what adults do in their bedrooms... No one else talks about anal sex as often as homophobes. Obsession with this topic seems to indicate desires that insecure citizens cannot realize.
The surprising thing is that myths about homosexuals are created by homophobes, and as a result, distorted ideas and lives of gays settle in the heads of completely peaceful and educated heterosexuals. In a society where representatives of the LGBT community are not allowed to speak, there is only room for fables spread by fools at the behest of those in power. Speaking of stupidity, I don’t agree that it has no boundaries. All homophobic statements revolve around a dozen prejudices. Homophobes do not generate new accusations, they repeat crap that some illiterate and unfortunate eccentric with the letter “m” came up with before them.
And yes, if you are not a homophobe, but sincerely want to understand the topic, start small: stop writing “homosexuality,” it’s incorrect. Correctly write and say “homosexuality”. And also: they don’t admit their sexual orientation, it’s not a crime, they talk about it.
And lastly: my relationship with a man is as traditional as yours with your loved one. Otherwise they will write all sorts of things...
Relationships without jealousy
Gay men are distinguished by their honesty and sincerity towards women. For them, a girl will never be a rival or an object of desire. He won’t gossip behind his back, like “best girlfriends” can do, and he won’t want to take your boyfriend away. Gays are also good fashion advisers. He can honestly tell you whether an outfit suits you or not, and advise you when choosing a set of underwear. But he won’t ask to borrow his favorite dress or jewelry.
Even the most ordinary “gray mouse” will not have a complex next to the most handsome guy - a gay. They are not competitors, but simply good friends. A gay man can reveal the secrets of the stronger sex and give the necessary advice on how to behave in a relationship.
A gay friend is unlikely to be inflamed with feelings for a girl, which means that this will be a strong friendship for many years. But we should not forget that there are cases when gays change their orientation and then anything can happen. But if you have feelings for a friend, you will have to put in a lot of work to prove your superiority over men.
