Kisses are a wonderful start to the day and a worthy end to the evening, they are good on a hot afternoon and a frosty winter night, with them the life of a baby begins and old people go into eternity, they happen without love, but there is no love without them. Some kisses provoke quarrels, others serve for reconciliation. So everyday and unusual, passionate and cold. Just as in nature there are no two identical snowflakes, so there are no two absolutely identical kisses. Well, now about everything in more detail.
The story of a kiss
There are a great many versions about the origin of the kiss. It is absolutely impossible to choose just one. The kiss goes back so deep that no evidence of its origin has survived. But there are several plausible reasons for its appearance that are worth mentioning:
- The reason for kissing is considered to be the mother's duty to feed her child. In the ancient world, when a child stopped suckling, the mother passed the already chewed food from mouth to mouth.
- Many researchers are accustomed to correlating human behavior with the actions of animals. And there is something to compare with. Many animals living in different elements imitate a kiss, although they do it for different purposes.
- In ancient times, people associated breathing with the spirits living inside a person. Therefore, they attributed healing powers to kisses, and kisses on the lips as a spiritual connection.
Types of kisses2
The variety of kisses is so huge that for each situation you can choose your own type of kiss, which will be correctly accepted and interpreted. There are so many of them that many girls don’t know how to kiss a guy correctly. Kisses can be romantic, passionate, respectful, fleeting, friendly, social and even social.
For example, a kiss when meeting a mother will be completely different from a kiss when saying goodbye to a child, and kissing at a moment of intimacy has nothing in common with a greeting touch of lips to a friend’s cheek. All of them differ in the strength of feeling invested in this ritual, the location of the place for the kiss, the pressure and technique of execution.
The most interesting thing is that no one teaches the “science of kissing” anywhere. But all people, at some subconscious level, are able to decipher its meaning and draw conclusions for themselves: loves, barely tolerates, passionately desires, cares, respects, and so on.
Kissing is one of the types of non-verbal communication. Knowing how to kiss a girl or guy correctly is just as important as being able to teach yourself and maintain a conversation.
When can you kiss passionately?
Kissing often occurs before romantic moments or sexual intercourse. It is important not only to understand how to actually kiss deeply, but also when it is best to resort to such actions. In the absence of emotions at the moment of interaction between lovers, the result may be regarded as something vulgar or inappropriate. It is recommended to resort to such caresses after frank, emotional conversations, watching a movie or reading a book with erotic overtones.
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Spontaneity is not necessary. You can deliberately create a romantic atmosphere and slowly excite the girl, leading her to the desired actions.
Kissing with tongue4
For young and inexperienced people, this type of kissing may not be entirely pleasant, but it will be very useful when they have a partner whom they want to swallow without a trace.
When kissing, one of the partners inserts his tongue into the other’s mouth; this should be done without haste, after a series of simpler kisses. The mouth that has accepted someone else's tongue must carefully suck it, wrap it around it and caress it with its tongue. Next, partners can switch roles, in which case their tongues will travel from one mouth to the other.
To know how to kiss with your tongue correctly, you need to follow the 3 “don’t” rule: don’t stick your tongue out to be torn apart by your partner, don’t bite and don’t rape someone else’s mouth with your tongue.
The background behind kisses
Apparently, passionate kissing has existed as long as humanity itself. People have always kissed, and this is natural.
Thus, you can intuitively understand whether your partner is physically suitable and whether you want intimacy with him. This can be compared to the way dogs sniff each other when they meet.
We, beings who are smarter and more cunning, use spirits and know how to carefully hide our thoughts and even feelings.
But touch, a certain exchange of fluids that occurs when people kiss, betrays us completely.
And psychologists, together with doctors, have found that if you kiss passionately with your tongue, the body produces joy hormones - endorphins.
Cosmetologists and dermatologists unanimously say that such caresses rejuvenate. The fact is that in the process, facial muscles are involved and actively worked out, and those that are sedentary in everyday life.
In total, a passionate kiss with the tongue makes about 20 different small muscle fibers work. As a result, their tone increases, and the skin becomes stronger and more elastic, and therefore youthful.
On top of everything else, a kiss is very pleasant, so you want to master all the subtleties and technical aspects of such a seemingly simple matter in order to kiss the person you like breathtakingly well.
Welcome kisses5
Kisses of greeting used to serve as a demonstration of belonging to high society. Today, this is how they demonstrate joy or politeness when meeting people they know well. In such situations, it is important to very accurately determine the limits of what is permitted. You can’t swoop in with kisses on strangers, smack celebrities in your own way, or ruin ladies’ makeup.
The skill of a public kiss lies in the ability to portray it as naturally as possible by touching the air with your lips, just a couple of centimeters from the cheek. It is best if the kiss falls on the area of the cheek located between the tip of the ear and the corner of the lips. In this case, a closer position of the kiss to the lips will indicate a desire for a close relationship.
Such different air kisses6
With the help of air kisses you can express your emotions from a distance. Thus, a person can convey to his counterpart what he did not have time to do during the meeting, or maybe he was simply embarrassed.
A light and quick smack of fingers and a sharp message to the addressee, coupled with a friendly smile - this is how good friends, colleagues, and relatives behave easily and naturally when parting.
However, you can add passion to it if you kiss the middle of your fingers, and then lift your lip a little and send it to your recipient, while you can accelerate it by lightly blowing on the palm from which it supposedly flew off.
In Eastern countries, air kisses are made especially sensual by putting your fingers together and kissing their tips. This way you can indicate your delight or admiration, give the highest assessment to any event or situation.
Kisses among different nationalities and its meaning7
The ritual of kissing exists among almost all nations, however, it takes place in completely different ways; each nation has its own meaning for this action.
French Kiss. The world famous tongue kiss. Its peculiarity is light touches on the partner’s lips or tongue. One of the most intimate and sensual kisses. To learn it, you need to feel your partner and plunge into the depths of his mouth without hesitation.
Australian. You can't call it a kiss in the literal sense of the word. It looks like a long and gentle touch of foreheads. This is how the inhabitants of the continent imitate the kiwi birds. Having a close connection with nature, they strive to express their worship to it in every gesture.
Roman. In the sophistication of kisses, the Romans are not inferior even to the French. For them, kissing is a complex of rituals, each of which has its own meaning. Their kisses can express passion, recognition of high position, etc.
Russian. Traditional and unemotional, popularly called merchant. It involves kissing both cheeks three times. Previously, trade transactions were completed with them, and representatives of both sexes could kiss. Nowadays, they kiss like this at social events and parties, modestly and not provocatively.
Chinese. During a kiss, partners retract their nostrils and try to catch their partner's breath. If they smack their lips or roll their eyes at the same time, this means that they have practically achieved nirvana. In this state, it is better not to touch them, however, this will not work, they never kiss in public.
Indian. So humble at the beginning and so passionate at the end. It was probably said about him that “a spark will ignite a flame.” But could it be any different for the nation that wrote and illustrated the Kama Sutra?
Indian. Pleasant, but rather unusual. Indians always try to see a deep philosophical meaning in everything. The kiss was no exception for them; in it they tried to combine the most incompatible things: earth and sky, drought and water, man and woman, and embody this in the pressure of their lips on their partner’s cheek. If someone can understand the essence of this kiss, then it will not be difficult to understand why there is a “good day to die” and a bad day.
Eskimo. This ethnic group uses kisses in the form of touching the tips of their noses. They say that for them love is breathing deeply. Although this question could have a simpler background - kissing in harsh weather conditions threatened the partners to merge in a kiss and freeze to death to each other. Another reason could be lack of oral hygiene.
No matter how funny or strange representatives of different nations kiss, we should not forget that for all nations, kissing is not just a technical performance of a ritual, but an expression of feelings and emotions. You shouldn't laugh, you need to learn how to kiss properly.
Kissing technique
The technique of passionate kissing is relatively simple. We perform almost all movements and caresses intuitively, as if such knowledge was inherent in us from birth. For those who still doubt themselves, there is the following guidance.
Look into your partner's eyes, then slowly move your face closer to his or her face. This behavior will hint to the object of your desires what you are about to do. Before kissing passionately, first gently kiss the person on the lips, lightly pressing your lips to his or her mouth.
Caress your partner a little, for example, run your tongue first along the upper lip, then along the lower lip, and draw your tongue into the kiss.
Ideally, when answering you, your partner will also use it. Only after this can you move on to suction; the passionate kissing technique involves capturing the partner’s lips or tongue and lightly sucking them in with your mouth.
Try this technique during caresses; if the object of your desires likes it, then you can continue in the same spirit; after several sessions of light sucking, it is advisable to switch back to stroking and even biting.
To make a kiss more effective, different caresses should alternate - this intensifies the sensations from each of them, you need to end the kiss as easily and gently as you started it - this will leave your partner with the most pleasant impressions. It is not advisable to interrupt the kiss abruptly.
When talking about how to properly kiss passionately, it is worth especially highlighting accuracy. The lips and oral cavity have very thin, delicate skin, and the blood vessels are located close to its surface.
If you act too passionately, you can accidentally hurt someone. Another unpleasant consequence of an inept or too strong kiss will be a hematoma on or near the lip.
And, if this is unlikely with a guy, then with a girl you need to be extremely careful, because women's skin is many times more delicate than men's.
Common mistakes when kissing8
It's okay if mistakes are made in the process of learning to kiss. They provide an opportunity to compare, analyze and draw conclusions. The following recommendations will help you avoid some particularly serious mistakes:
- The tongue should never run ahead of its owner, unless he is a dog. Immediately sticking your tongue into your partner’s mouth at the beginning of a kiss is a cruel violation of his personal space.
- At the moment of a kiss, you should not remember the manuals you have read or solve everyday issues in your mind. You need to trust your feelings; if you get distracted at such a moment, you can ruin everything in the bud.
- The amount of saliva must be observed. Its excess or deficiency can cause discomfort.
- If one of the partners does not know the preferences of the other, then you should not attack him with greedy kisses or use your entire arsenal of tricks.
- Passion and temperament are good, but such pressure can frighten a partner. Don't overwhelm him with an avalanche of your feelings.
- If there is a kiss that you have been waiting for so long, and you are on the verge of fainting, then you need to make every effort not to lose consciousness.
- Girls usually kiss guys the way they would like to be kissed. This is something to take note of.
- Not only the mouth is worthy of kisses, the human body is a map by which you can find erogenous zones and lips will help with this.
- Don’t think that a passionate kiss hints at something more and tear off your partner’s clothes. He may still need it when, frightened by your intentions, he runs away without looking back.
- Lack of hygiene, bad breath and the sight of yellow, rotten teeth are all you need to forget about kissing forever.
How to kiss correctly
This is the kind of kiss that occurs at an emotional peak and does not begin with tenderness. During it, partners fly into each other. Sometimes such an emotional outburst needs to be approached; smooth movements, ordinary kisses and frank conversations can be used here.
After touching your lips, you can gradually increase the pace and increase the pressure. The distance between partners will decrease; during caresses, you can move on to a passionate French kiss. It is recommended to resort to lip sucking, slowly open your mouth wider, and when everything reaches a peak intensity, move on to a hickey.
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Determine distance and pose
There are no ideal poses or distances. All people are individual, each has their own preferences. Lovers are advised to reduce the distance as much as possible. You can resort to quick and sudden movements that will bring the excitement of both to the maximum, then you should proceed to more decisive actions.
Start right
The appropriate atmosphere will help lovers get into a romantic mood. You should not try to give your partner a hickey in the toilet or other inappropriate place. A kiss will not bring any effect and may negatively position your partner. Sometimes it’s worth starting with simpler caresses, gentle touches and intimate conversations. This will help prepare your partner.
Not everyone embraces kisses because of their principles, beliefs, or simply excessive disgust. If there is a suspicion that a partner falls into this category of people, then it is better to find out in advance. You don’t need to ask directly, you should tell a funny story from your life (you can make it up) and see the reaction.
Don't forget to be careful
It is important not to forget about common mistakes that are best avoided. For example, you should not allow teeth to clash or unstable balance. It is better to kiss on the bed or where one of the partners can lean against something. This will reduce the risk of “blunders”, because it is difficult to maintain balance during such an activity.
You can press your partner tightly, hug, but you should not use your nails, because it is unpleasant and painful. You should not sharply pull your partner's hair. This needs to be done smoothly, carefully, but passionately and sexually.
Change points of influence
To understand how to properly learn to kiss passionately, you need to experiment and use different techniques. There is no need to be afraid of failures; with practice, a person will understand what his partner likes best and learn to give him real pleasure.
Listen to your partner
As already mentioned, people are different, everyone has their own preferences. You need to listen to your loved one, fulfill not only your own, but also his wishes. For example, many may, in principle, not like this type of kissing. This can also be said in a non-verbal way: if a girl pushes a guy away when he tries to kiss her in this way, then something is definitely not going according to plan.
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How to initiate a kiss9
Love, as they say, is evil, and if one person likes another, this does not mean that he is ready to merge with him in a hot kiss. But you can prepare him, direct him, and even set his lips. But this needs to be done unobtrusively.
- First you need to create an intimate atmosphere. When talking, you should often lower your eyes to the lips of your interlocutor. You need to position yourself closer to him and relax your lips, under no circumstances closing them or straining them. To make your lips look more appetizing, you can use gloss (for girls), your breath should be fresh, and there should be no unnecessary objects in your mouth (chewing gum, candy or seeds).
- The conversation should be light, on a pleasant topic. During it, you can inadvertently kiss the guy on the cheek, and the girl’s hand. This should not be done abruptly or convulsively.
- Men, like girls, love compliments. Take advantage of this. But they should not be banal; it is better to emphasize the masculinity of a guy or the femininity of a girl.
- If the object of desire still does not understand the hints, you can ask permission to kiss, but it is better to do this in a romantic way.
If your partner still has doubts, you can take the initiative. You just need to get close to him and kiss him on the lips.
What is a passionate kiss
A passionate kiss is intimate; it differs from other types of touching with lips in its technique and actively encourages further action. This method of caress has a number of features:
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- tightly compressed lips;
- creating a feeling of vacuum;
- you need to open your mouth wide;
- complete lack of peace, tight hugs;
- fast and confident movements.
There is no ideal duration for a hickey. A kiss can be very short, but then it will not be able to evoke the expected emotions, or, conversely, it can be too long and simply become boring. It is best to try to find a middle ground that will satisfy both.
Interesting fact: many people believe that it is impossible to interact with a partner without using language. Actually this is not true. When kissing passionately, the use of the tongue is not recommended, because all movements occur at a fast and dynamic pace. Such actions can lead to awkward situations or even injuries, which is unacceptable when caressing.
A passionate kiss is an incentive for sex. When a partner resorts to such an intimate form of caresses, most likely he is counting on a pleasant continuation of the evening. If this information turns out to be unfamiliar, you can use it in the future to hint to a guy or girl about sex. It happens that both partners do not know that most often this is how sexual intercourse begins, but they become so excited in the process that they can no longer control themselves.
World Kissing Day10
The so-called World Kissing Day has been celebrated for more than the first century. It is especially popular in America and European countries. More than 60 countries celebrate this holiday on July 6 as international kissing day. The interesting thing is that it was invented in Britain, and we even know who its initiator was. And he turned out to be a dentist who promotes oral hygiene and a healthy lifestyle.
In his opinion, kissers take better care of the condition of their mouth and teeth, which allows them to reduce oral diseases several times. It is unknown what effect he was counting on, but this loving holiday spread across the globe.
But is it worth waiting for the holiday to kiss your loved ones?
