Culture and history tell us that marriages between older men and young girls were common in the past. And even today, many guys prefer their partner to be younger.
But this is not a rule at all, but only one of three possible scenarios for the age relationship between partners. The most popular is still a union between peers and people less than five years apart. By the way, according to statistics, it is in their group that there are the fewest divorces.
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The third, also absolutely normal category of couples is where she is older than him. And it is precisely this kind of union that we will talk about today. What are the main nuances of such relationships, and what are the pros and cons? Let's discuss.
Wife is Older than Husband: 5 Potential Benefits
Before we begin, we want to clarify that the advantages and disadvantages of unions with a large age difference listed below are average and approximate. Each couple is unique and has its own experience of building relationships and the specifics of interaction.
Sexual compatibility
American biologist and sexologist Alfred Kinsey's classic work on sexuality concluded that male sex hormones peak at age 18, and female hormones peak after age 30. Of course, sexuality is influenced by other factors, such as experience with sex or libido levels, but a man increases his chances of intimate compatibility by marrying a partner who is older than him.
Maturity in relationships
Over the years, a person usually becomes more mature and gains experience. This means that he (or she) has a clearer idea of what he wants from a relationship and will be more serious about choosing a partner.
Maturity in raising children
Raising children is a much more complex and stressful process than many people think. It requires the maturity and composure to consistently set limits but not too much, remain calm, and work through problems together with your child. A woman over 30 will probably find it easier to do this than a woman in her twenties.
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Most likely, she has already achieved some success in her career
As mentioned above, mature people had more time to move forward in their careers. So, when a wife is older than her husband, on average, it not only increases the chances that she will contribute more money to the household income, but she may also be able to offer career advice and even help her spouse find a better job.
In addition, having an experienced and successful woman as a partner allows for confidential career counseling, which is less likely in an alliance with a peer.
Health compatibility
Statistics show that women live five years longer and men die earlier in nine out of ten leading causes of death. Research summarized in a BBC review notes that the difference in life expectancy is due not only to lifestyle, but also to biology - genes and hormones.
From this we can conclude that a man who chooses a woman five years older is marrying his “physiological peer.”
Hugh Jackman and his women
In one interview, Hugh stated that he had more than 750 women in his bed. Whether this is true or a joke is unknown, but judging by the way women react to Hugh’s appearance, it becomes clear that he is not deprived of attention from the fair sex.
Hugh Jackman's personal life is not shrouded in secrets and legends, and he himself does not add fuel to the fire - he has long been in a relationship with actress Deborra Lee Furness, who is 13 years older than him. And, judging by how touching this couple treats each other, this union is eternal.
Hugh Jackman and his wife have been together since 1996. They are raising two beautiful children and are considered the strongest couple in Hollywood. As Hugh himself says, he truly has an exemplary family, which occupies the main place in a man’s life.
Young husband and older wife: 3 potential problems
Despite the fact that a man may be more comfortable in bed and more interesting with an older woman, such unions also have three common nuances that a couple may encounter.
Condemnation of society
If you and your beloved are happy with each other and want to get married, you should not be stopped by the opinions of others.
However, alas, it is very likely that you will (more than once) hear negative statements from close and unfamiliar people regarding your union, especially if in it the wife is 20 years or more older than her husband. You should be prepared for this and not allow other people’s prejudices to affect your relationship.
Inability to have children
The modern level of medicine helps a woman give birth to a healthy child at both 30 and 40 years old, but when the wife is 15 years or more older than her husband, you should discuss the issue of procreation in advance.
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Do you both want children? Will it be safe for your loved one to go through pregnancy? Are alternative options such as surrogacy or adoption right for you?
Specifics of sexual life after menopause
Menopause or menopause is a period of physiological changes in the body during which a woman loses the ability to have children. As a rule, it occurs at age 50, although there are exceptions and it can happen later or earlier.
In some cases, the onset of menopause can temporarily negatively affect sex life due to decreased libido levels. In addition, the woman begins to experience vaginal dryness, but this problem is easily solved with the help of a lubricant, and with it, the quality of your sexual intercourse should not be reduced.
conclusions
The most important thing in choosing a wife, of course, is your compatibility: sexual, interpersonal, in values, as well as kindness and attentiveness to each other. And love between you, of course. As you may have noticed, age is not included in this list.
You may be more likely to find a wife you'll be happy with in the long run if you don't limit your interactions to girls your own age or younger. Look at the person and how good you feel with him, and not at the numbers in her passport.
Celebrity couples in which the husband is younger than the wife: 8 examples
Emmanuel Macron and Brigitte Macron
Difference: 24 years
Photo by @emmanuelmacron
Emmanuel Macron is a French politician who became President of France on May 14, 2020. He has been married to Brigitte Tronier since 2007, and she is 24 years older than him. They first met when Macron was 15 years old and Brigitte was his teacher.
In 2006, Brigitte divorced Andre Louis Ozier, with whom she had been married since 1974, and in 2007 married Macron.
Jason Momoa and Lisa Bonet
Difference: 12 years
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Jason Momoa, an actor, model and producer, met actress Lisa Bonet in 2005. She is 12 years older than him. In 2007, their daughter Lola Aiolani was born. She was followed in 2008 by their son Nakoa-Wolf Manakoapo Namakaha.
The couple formalized their relationship in 2020, although many believed that they had been married since 2007. This was the second marriage for Lisa Bonet, as she was previously married to Lenny Kravitz from 1987 to 1994.
Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling
Difference: 6 years
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Strictly speaking, this couple of famous Hollywood actors is not legally married. However, they are in a long-term relationship and have two children together. Mendes is six years older than Gosling.
Ryan and Eva began dating in 2011 after meeting while filming The Place Beyond the Pines. Since then they have lived together, and they had two daughters: Esmeralda in 2014, and Amada Lee in 2016.
Bart Freundlich and Julianne Moore
Difference: 9 years
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Director, screenwriter and producer Bart Freundlich chose a wife who is nine years older than him. He met actress Julianne Moore in 1996 on the set of the film Shadows of the Past. They had a son, Caleb, in 1997, and a daughter, Lice Helen, in 2002. The couple got married on August 23, 2003.
Aaron and Sam Taylor-Johnson
Difference: 24 years
Photo by @samtaylorjohnson
Aaron Johnson and Sam Taylor-Wood have one of the biggest age gaps in Hollywood. The couple met on the set of the film “Becoming John Lennon” in 2009. At that time he was only 18 years old and she was 42 years old.
By November of that year, the couple announced their engagement, marrying at Babington House in Somerset, England on June 21, 2012. After the wedding, both spouses changed their last names to Taylor-Johnson. They now have two children together: Wilda Rey was born in 2010, and Romi Hiro was born in 2012.
Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness
Difference: 13 years
Photo by @thehughjackman
Despite their age difference, Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness remain one of the most loyal couples in Hollywood circles. The age difference between them is 13 years. Jackman and Furness first met in 1995 while working on the television show Correlli.
They married a year later in Melbourne, Australia. Furness had several miscarriages, so the couple decided to adopt a child. Now the couple has two adopted children: son Oscar Maximilian was born in 2000, and daughter Ava Eliot was born in 2005.
Tom Kaulitz and Heidi Klum
Difference: 17 years
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The famous German couple - a model and a guitarist - began dating in 2018, having met on the set of the program “Germany’s Next Top Model.” Heidi is 17 years older than Tom. The lovers got married in 2020 on the Italian island of Capri.
Maxim Galkin and Alla Pugacheva
Difference: 27 years
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The Russian showman and diva got married in 2011, but, as Alla Borisovna admitted, they began dating secretly back in 2001. In 2013, the couple gave birth to twins Elizabeth and Harry, who were born thanks to a surrogate mother. After six years of marriage, in 2017 the couple got married in the Archangel Michael Church, located in the Moscow region.
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Hugh Jackman: filmography and biography
Hugh Jackman was born in sunny Australia. There he began his acting career. But the young man did not immediately realize that he was attracted to cinema and theater.
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After school, he studied journalism for four years. Only at the age of 23, Hugh felt a craving for the acting profession and decided to take a year-long training course. Then he immediately enters the Academy of Performing Arts.
Jackman first appeared in films only at the age of 30. But by that time he knew very well what he wanted from life, so two years later he moved to Hollywood, having previously played in such hits as “X-Men” and “Kate and Leo.”
Jackman held tightly to the story about mutant people, because it was a lucky ticket to a completely different life. At a time when many actors left the project, Jackman continued to collaborate with the Marvel film company. Soon, the producers realized that they had found a real star and began making separate films dedicated exclusively to the fate of the mutant Wolverine.
In addition to this project, Jackman played in such iconic films as “The Prestige”, “Van Helsing”, “The Fountain”, “Real Steel”, “Les Miserables” and “Pan: Journey to Neverland”.
